Just because I'm a woman doesn't mean I'm stupid!

@reinydawn (11649)
United States
December 2, 2008 8:13am CST
I almost started a new interest - I'm not an idiot - but this guy obviously thought I was. We're finally getting our new heating unit installed today and when the guy shows up I asked him to take the old thermostat off the wall without destroying it because we want to return it to Home Depot. He proceeded to tell me that I needed to make sure that the breakers were turned off before I did that and he would turn it off. Apparently, since I'm wearing a skirt I don't understand that electrical charges come through those wires I was trying to disconnect (which for some reason would not disconnect last night). We turned the breakers (yes, plural, we know there are 2 of them for the HVAC unit) off last night before we even attempted to take the thermostat down. So, just because I'm wearing a skirt doesn't mean that I'm an idiot - in that arena anyways!!
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18 responses
@savak03 (6693)
• United States
2 Dec 08
I can identify with that. I've got a hundred stories where a man has underestimated me just because I'm a woman. The one that gets to me the most is when a man sees me with the hood of my truck up he automatically assumes that I need help. The funniest one though was when I saw a man broke down on the side of the road looking at his car like he was completely lost. Since I could see that he had small children with him I could not pass by without offering help. He was absolutely astounded that a woman came to his aid.
@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
3 Dec 08
You got one on me then because cars I can't do. I leave that part to the "men" - hahahah. Just about anything electrical though, I'm all over it. Computers, I'm your "man". Of course I am woman enough to admit when it's over my head!
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Yeah that's another thing we ladies do well. Men just can't seem to admit when they're wrong or don't have the knowledge to do something.
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
3 Dec 08
My husband is so not mechanically inclined, but he refuses to admit it. Unless I stop him he can end up costing us a lot more than if we'd have gotten a professional.
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@Rosekitty (19398)
• San Marcos, Texas
2 Dec 08
Yea you tell him..lol..I know Men aren't used to talking to Women that have a brain so they tend to feel they need to talk like we are 2 so come back with a real smart answer next time to show them you know what you are talking about..lol..
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@busyB4 (875)
• United States
3 Dec 08
It's that macho thing that they want to have the authority I think! Too, he could be telling you that for safety factors as he probably doesn't know a female who does things!!! ha! My daughters were taught to take care of themselves in a lot of ways. We went to go see one of my daughters at college and she was under the hood changing spark plugs in this guys car and he is standing back watching her. Some guys are just so BEHIND times in thinking we don't know how to do anything that is not in the kitchen or baby nursery!!!!
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
3 Dec 08
OK, I do know that there are people (women included) that honestly have no clue about some of this stuff. Now if the guys boss (my husband's friend) had been with him he'd have known that I knew exactly what I was doing because I'm the one that did all the talking, showing, asking questions, getting scenarios when he came out to tell us the problem. But, this guy probably figured I was just not into the whole house upkeep thing - like maybe most people he deals with. But to assume that I wouldn't do something so basic as to shut the breaker off when I told him that I was the one that installed it... I don't know about some people.
@bobbyjoe143 (1287)
2 Dec 08
some days i hate it when men think i am stupid, other days i revel in it. men seem to assume that we know nothing about the "manly" things in life like plumming, electics and cars... but the bet we can do is dumbfound them with our knowlege. my boyfriend often assumes i have no clue about things, which more than anything amuses me, espcially when i see the look on his face after doing somethig that's "for the boys"
@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
2 Dec 08
Yes, I've seen that look in a mans eyes before too. It is quite funny when they see you doing something that girls aren't supposed to know how to do. What's funny is that my husband doesn't know any more than I do about some things and he'll try to do it anyways. I don't mess with it if I don't know what I'm doing - like cars, that's totally foreign to me and I don't mind keeping it that way.
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@myklj999 (32735)
• Olney, Illinois
2 Dec 08
That's just that "macho" gene that many guys have that makes their brain fail to realise that women today do actually know how to do more than laundry and dishes.
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
2 Dec 08
Laundry and dishes??? You mean I have to learn how to do those??? Just kidding! Although I wish I didn't know how to do those great chores :)
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@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
2 Dec 08
It is sad that some men still can't get it through their head that women can do things and have knowledge of things that only men USED to do.
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
2 Dec 08
I run into that all the time and it gets quite frustrating. The few times I've broken down and called about computer problems they talk to me like I'm an idiot. I fell like putting my husband on the line (who has absolutely no clue) so he can ask me the answer to the questions the tech support people ask him. It's somewhat exasperating sometimes.
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• United States
3 Dec 08
HAving lived on a boat for years I experienced this in the boating community. We call in "little miss" syndrome. For example one of my friends had her own boat. She brought in into a marina due to a coming storm. As she was preparing the boat for the storm, there were other boaters (mostly male) strolling up and down the docks. She had men randomly stop and tell her what to do, even had some tell her that her boyfriend or husband should be handling that. She calmly explained that it was HER boat and she knew what she was doing. Finally, she left the men on the dock to ponder amongst themselves as she continued working while ignoring all their comments. I had this happen some too, I would talk about sailing my boat they would ask if my husband would be going with me. When I said no, I was met with shock. "What if something goes wrong?" "Well, I'll deal with it," I told them. ... It's amazing...
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Hey, I think your response helped me figure this out. I think that since men don't know how to do "women" things they can't understand that women can do "men" things!!! I remember when my youngest son was a baby and I was at work. For some reason, I didn't make up enough formula for him that night. My husband calls me when it's time to feed our son and tells me we're out of formula. Mind you, I work at a restaraunt and feeding time for the baby is feeding time for the rest of the world too. So I tell him to make some more. Guess what his answer is?? "How?" I just yell into the phone "Like I was BORN with this knowledge!" and hung up. He figured out that the directions were on the can. UGH!
@Opal26 (17689)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Hey reiny! Well, that is a typical response from a male when speaking to a female about things that a female should NOT dare know anything about! That so pisses me off! They just assume that a female would never know anything about circuit breakers or anything that is electrical! I had that same conversation with men who come to fix electrical things for me before! The just don't realize that a woman just might know something about breakers and electrical circuits too! When I tell them the look at me like I'm crazy and what the hell do I know this for! So don't feel bad because the guy is a moron, just be glad that you aren't!
@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Well, there are some things I'm a moron about, and I'll definitely admit to it! But this is not one of those times :)
• United States
14 Dec 08
You know when you put panty hose on you lose brain cells heehee. I know us women do not know a thing about changing or doing anything around the house we are stupid little things. I will tell you I for one have never had anyone tell me that the breakers have to turned off to change the thermostat. Not even PG&E turned the barkers off when they put in a fancy thermostat a few summers ago.
@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Any time I do something that involves electricity or something electric, I turn the breaker off. I have no desire to feel electricity going through my body and I don't want to chance it.
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• United States
22 Dec 08
Good job you are doing the right thing. My dad use to be a high voltage electrician. He wired the flight lines at some of the Navy military bases here in CA and WA before he retired.
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• Philippines
3 Dec 08
hi there, maybe he didn't mean what he said at all. i don't think he finds you stupid though sometimes because they are trained for this it may be a standard operating procedure for them to remind the owner to take precautionary measures to avoid emergency. though there maybe a few who still thinks that man are better off than woman but we are on the 21th century and a lot of women excel over their male counterparts. don't feel bad about it. just my two cents. have a great day and happy mylotting!!!
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
3 Dec 08
I'm sure he was just trying to keep me from getting hurt, but it was kinda the way he kept saying it, even after I'd told him that I knew that. Ya just gotta wonder some times...
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• Philippines
3 Dec 08
that is a different story then. have a great day!!!
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@applefreak (3131)
• Singapore
7 Dec 08
lol this is really funny. i'm not laughing at the situation or you. it's just the thought that men view all women as idiots that amuses me. trust me, i've been in this kind of situation for countless times. every time i call a technical helpline i'll get this kind of response. they'll ask me stupid things like 'did you plug in the equipment' or 'did you switch on the electiricty'. just because they heard my voice they assume i know nothing about operating an electrical appliance. some times it riles me to no end but other times it amuses me.
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
8 Dec 08
Yup, sometimes you just have to stand back and laugh :)
@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
6 Dec 08
Maybe he was just being cautious and would have said the same thing in this instance even if it was a man. Could be wrong, but just a thought.
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
7 Dec 08
I'm sure he was being cautios, but he didn't need to talk to me like I was a 4-year old. Some times I just get a bit fed up with it...
@celticeagle (123385)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Dec 08
What a mean man. I think you otta wear a suit. Pants optional. Some people just don't think. Men and women! I think it couldn't have been alot worse. Maybe he was just talking out loud. Some things have to be established whether dealing with a man or a woman. I wonder if he would have said the same thing if it had been your husband. Just out of habit?
@katcool (24)
• United States
3 Dec 08
I know what you mean. One time I decided to get acrylic nails for an event that was coming up. I went into work with them, which was a big mistake. I was using a shredder that got jammed pretty good, so I asked a guy there if he had a knife or multitool that i could use to dig the jammed shredding out from the shredding head. He was like, "here, let me do that for you." Like I couldn't do it myself. I thought it was funny since I obviously knew what I was doing. That guy was there to install stuff and to provide you a service, if he is going to be an butt hole, I would rip him a new one!
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Oh I just love the "I'll do that for you" when you ask a simple question. They gotta be the manly man :)
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
3 Dec 08
He just wanted to make sure he didn't get fried lol... who knows perhaps he had a bad experience and does that as a new routine now =P. Im sure you are NOT an idiot if he implied that then he is the idiot lol but as i said im sure it was just to ensure he didn't get fried =P
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
3 Dec 08
I can understand that it's a safety precaution and all. He just kept saying it like I didn't understand what he was talking about. He mentioned it more than once and it really didn't have much to do with what I had originally asked him to do.
@Stephanie5 (2947)
• United States
3 Dec 08
I once went to work at a moving company. I was just a fill in for the day. My boyfriend worked there and they just needed someone for the day so I decided to go. I was outside putting together a matress box when he looks at me and tells me not to tape up both ends. I just looked at him, not believing that those words just came out of his mouth! I said "You mean, don't tape the box up completely when it's EMPTY?" He said "yes". I was like Oh my God are you serious????? He was serious. Can you believe that? I'm not BRAINDEAD! Geesh, lol.
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
3 Dec 08
OH!! That's priceless! I guess they musta had some one (probabaly a guy) tape the whole thing up before!!!
@violeta_va (4834)
• Australia
3 Dec 08
Are you sure because most men think we are here to look beautiful and we have air in our heads. I know what you mean but often "profesionals" will try to make everyone feel like they are idiots because there is no chance you would know that only he knows that. I was told by this sales guy that if I get broadband i could use my internet and call people on the phone at the same time and wasnt that wonderful. I told him that I didnt fall from space an hour ago I know what broadband was. And said I must look like an idiot for you to say that or the fault was with him.
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Well, I definitely don't fall into the beautiful category!!! heheheh When they think they have to spoon-feed the info to you it really irritates me.
@Raven7317 (693)
• United States
3 Dec 08
I can relate to this! I am a SAHM. I'm an ex-professional. I'm college educated. I'm NOT stupid, I can say I know enough to be self-suffient, but not enough to feel that I couldn't use some guidence in some areas... Anyway, I am in charge of the house, the kids, the cars, the vet, the landscaping, the EVERYDAY things that come with running everything that HE can't run. BECAUSE HE'S WORKING! When I come across a man that assumes that I am nothing but a WOMAN, and I don't know anything, I say, "Would like to speak to my husband? You know, before he writes the check to pay for your services?" This usually puts them in their place. Lets them know that I am here to make sure they do what is asked... no more, no less... no matter if I understand it or not. I guess the long and the short of it is, "This is what we want, can you do it, what will it cost, when will it be done? and my wife/partner "will be there to pay you."
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Excellent attitude! Those assumptions are in the past, but for some reason men just can't let go of them...
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
Some men are so insecure that they cannot stand having women around who are smarter than they are. In their bid for supremacy over the female specie, they try to make the female specie feel stupid. Those poor guys probably feel so threatened by us womenfolk that they resort to such dirty tactics. How To deal with them? Give a dose of their own medicine and see how they react if you make them feel stupid. Better yet, just simply stand there in front of them and say "duh?" most of the time and let them find out how irritating that can be. They will be running away from your tearing their hair in frustration before you know it. Serve them right!
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
3 Dec 08
I just kinda stared at him like I wasn't an idiot, then just said "try not to destroy it when you take it off" and went to finish getting ready for work. When we got home, it was on the kitchen table, not looking destroyed. But, I haven't taken it apart yet to make sure though...