Do you like change?

@lilcee (2703)
United States
December 10, 2008 10:24am CST
I sometimes have a problem with changes. For instance. For the last 3 years or so, my husband has been going to bed around 1 pm (he works nights) and we ate around 8:30 before he went to work - usually at 9:30. He's a truck driver so his hours varied. Well, recently he got his runs cut back. Now he goes to bed at 4 pm and gets up at 11 pm to go to work at midnight. Now we have our big meal at noon instead of 8:30. I'm having trouble getting used to the change. I used to be online from around 1 til late in the afternoon. Now I don't get online til around 4. (sometimes I'm online in the morning like today) I'm used to fixing dinner at 7 and now when 7 comes around, I don't know what to do with myself. lol. I eat dinner with him at noon and then later around 5 or 6 I have a light meal or snack. My days are all mixed up now. I have a problem with changes sometimes. What about you, do you like changes or do you have a problem too?
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24 responses
@goldeneagle (6774)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I don't mind change. Change can be a good thing. You just have to be able to go with the flow sometimes...
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
10 Dec 08
Yeah, some change is ok. I just have to get used to it. Thank you for your response.
@makingpots (11920)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Going with the flow is the key to surviving change. Can't resist it, have to just flow with it.
@vanonas (950)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I usually have problems adjusting with big changes. I think that would bother me too if my husbands schedule wasn't set and routine. :( But I can usually deal with changes like a new job or school or something.
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
12 Dec 08
It's taking a little getting used to but I'm getting there. Thanks for the response.
• Philippines
11 Dec 08
It depends on what kind of changes. Actually we are bound to changes. Sometimes changes may be positive for us and some may not. But for me i see to it that whatever changes i made it is for the betterment of myself. Something i can be proud too. Usually i change with my own physical attributes like clothes, i prefer wearing something that is fit for myself. As for my attitude i am not going to change anything because i believe with the attitude i have i am satisfied with the way i interact with other people around me.
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Good points. Thank you for your response.
• India
11 Dec 08
Change is imminent. A person who doesn't change will surely be left behind, but one doesn't have to change because someone wants them to change or so that others may like him/her. Life is a dynamic factor and it keeps on changing day by day. So we must change with it to be comfortable. It's just that we might not be so happy about the change, but in the long run we will realize its effects, which obviously will be good. I have been exposed to some serious changes around me and I have to say that even if I was not comfortable, I got through about it and very much fine now. bourne
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Yeah, sometimes you have to get used to some kind of change. Thanks for your response.
@Chevee (5914)
• United States
11 Dec 08
I know what you mean. I have had many changes this year. Now thankfully I can get my schedule together. It will take time you will get used to it if he doesn't have to change his work hours again. I will also have a lot of time on my hand and I don't know what I am going to do with myself.
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
I just hope they don't cut another run. Then he will be put on a team truck and have to be gone most of the week. This change I can get used to, I would hate it if he has to be on the team truck. Thank you for your response.
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Hello lilcee! A saying said that "the only constant here in this world is change" so whether we like it or not we have to adjust to it. Sometimes, I don't like changes too. It's hard to adjust sometimes but when I married, everything's change and I have to adjust to it.
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
I'm starting to get used to it. I hope he doesn't have to change again for awhile. Thanks for your response.
@MizzLadyB08 (1174)
• United States
11 Dec 08
It all depends on what is going to change. Change can be a good thing and change can be a bad thing.
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Yes, you are so right. Thanks for your response
@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
11 Dec 08
[i]Hi lilcee, I am very flexible and can adopt right away with the changes, I know it's hard at first but when we have nothing to do, we learn to just go with the flow! LOL! I would say, you're a very good wife since you're there for your hubby whatever the schedule is, eating with him even if it's too early or what, keep it up[/i]!
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Thank you. When the kids were home we ate at 6 and I would warm up my hubby's dinner when he got up. Now he gets to eat it with me and when I cook it.
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
11 Dec 08
change is good sometimes but i like things to stay the same too so i guess iam in between.
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Yeah I know what you mean. Thanks for the response.
@kaka135 (14118)
• Malaysia
11 Dec 08
I'm actually fine with changes, I can adapt to changes quite easily. Perhaps I'm used to stay outside when I was young, I always have to change the environment I belong to, meet new friends, etc. Perhaps this helps me to adapt to changes easier. Also, I always think that if changes are making things better, then it's good for myself, I'm improving. ^_^
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
It's good you can do that. Thanks for your response.
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
11 Dec 08
hello lilcee, All of us is dealing with changes. Sometimes, it's hard to adjust but we'll be use to it soon. It's just okey to have changes for me, if it's for the better. It need a lot of sacrifices sometimes to work out. Our mind must be open so it's just easier dealing with it.
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
I'm starting to get used to it. Thanks for your response.
• Philippines
11 Dec 08
I do have problems with changes. I dont like abrupt change though. I need to slowly accept it and totally embraced the change or else it would weigh me down. But somehow i like changes too in other hand. Its just I need to know what is the effect bad or good of the change thing.
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Some changes are good. I'm getting used to this one. Thanks for your response.
@aringwi (136)
• China
11 Dec 08
no change is no progress,i feel like changing in my life and my job.i have been working in my company for 8 years without any achievement and progress.i must quit it to look for a better one for me with a better salary and buight future.
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Some changes are good. Thanks for your response.
@makingpots (11920)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Haha. Don't know what to do with yourself at 7 now? I like change. I've even been accused of craving it. I once worked as an elementary school teacher and I was very aware that the job fit my psyche very well. Each September I was able to have a fresh start and a new direction. I fear I would begin to stagnate with a schedule too rigid.
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Yeah, when 7 gets here I feel like I should be starting dinner lol. I'm getting used to it tho. Thanks for your response.
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
11 Dec 08
Same with you, I also hate changes because it makes me stress and my head is aching so much.. I sometimes freak out especially if I forgot the changes had made.. After I graduated college, everything in my life had change. The way I deal with my life and the way I deal with other people. When I'm still living in our country, I used to deal others just the way I want too but now that I went to other city I always deal with others the way they want for me to be able to have friends and for me to belong in the group and I hate it sometimes because its seems I'm not on my self.. It seems that I'm someone else but I don't have a choice because dealing them like my friends in our places is different.. They might not like it! So, changes is very difficult to handle especially if you are already in that situation for many years.. I think everyone hate changes but changes is always part of our life since there's no permanent in this world..
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Yeah, some changes are hard. Thanks for your response.
• Indonesia
11 Dec 08
Hi Lilcee =) ehm..based on ur story, it seems like u always waiting for ur husband to eat, ur such a nice wife =) but is it wrong if u eat before him, n when its time for him to eat u just serve and accompany him ? lol thats just a question tho, i still like u for waiting ur husband to eat so u can eat together =) if me, i do need a time to adapt with changes around me, watever it is..but im also a quick learner so it wont take a long time for me. sometimes, i do struggle with the changes, like im trying to refuse it n just wanna do it my way. but then again, i realize that the only thing that is never change is the change itself..so, that way i can accept and adapt with the change soon..
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
When my kids were home we ate around 6 and I would warm up hubby's food in the microwave. He never got to have a fresh meal until the weekend. Now it's just us two and I don't work so I don't mind fixing it when he can eat and eat with him. I'm starting to get used to the new schedule. Thanks for your response.
@mikeysmom (2091)
• United States
10 Dec 08
in general i do not do well with change but i do acclimate myself rather easily. i like to have a routine but i also like to break the monotony too so sometimes change is good and i enjoy it. i guess what i am saying is i do not do well with major, life changing things.
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Yes, same with me. Thanks for the reply.
• United Kingdom
10 Dec 08
I'm not that keen on change myself although I accept that change is a part of life! I guess I have to become adaptable as well as flexible so that I become comfortable with change. It does sound as though you are going through major change in your household! I have some sense of security and I guess I feel a little threatened when change is around the corner as I don't know what to expect! Andrew
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
10 Dec 08
Yeah, not only change in schedule but change in income. We're getting used to it tho. Thanks for your response.
@Humbug25 (12551)
10 Dec 08
Hi ya lilcee Normally I would say that a change is as good as a rest but this is a little bit to much of a change. I do like change and adjust well. It's nice to change your furniture around or change the colour scheme in your house, it's nice to change your job for something more challenging but to have to change your meal times around has got to be really tricky. I guess in time you will get used to just as you had to when it changed the first time around!!
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
10 Dec 08
Yeah, I forget sometimes that I have to cook at noon instead of 7 or 8. Then at 7 I think I should be cooking something lol. I'm sure I'll get used to it. Thanks for your response.
• India
10 Dec 08
I like changing,because of that we can learn new things everyday i suppose.Even though it is stressful,we can face it for 2-3 days,after that we slowly get adjusted to it.After that,we like the changed life only hehehe.It all depends upon as how we thinks friend.Even though we face problem i would be happy after some time. Hehehe... Have a nice day
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I don't mind some change but I've gotten used to cooking at a certain time and got on kind of a schedule and now I have to change everything around. It's confusing at times lol Thanks for your response.