can you be happy around those who are not?

Depends on who the person is. If it's my mom,sister or anyone close I would probably be unhappy as well. When I know that a person is real,wholesome and doesn't exaggerate I would be concerned. People that are notorious for self-pity should not get much attention,that's what feeds them.(your quote:). It's hard to stay happy around sour faces,though. I wouldn't be totally upset but my joy would be paled.

I seem to get affected by other peoples mood quite easily so i do try to keep away from negativity, I do try to cheer people up but if it looks like they are beyond help and will just drag me down too I move away as I think life is too short to stay too long in the throws of negativity.

I don't like to be around those people because somehow they make me uncomfortable probably can spoil my mood or make me a negative person. I avoid them and tend not to listen to what they saying. :)

Because we are just having a really good time of it. When things go well and you have good energy backing you then it is harder to fall into a bad mood.

Hi doula! I used to be a very negative person and when some of my friends would point this out to me I would get very defensive. They would tell me that they didn't want to "catch" my negative energy! I thought they were crazy! But, I now know that you can "catch" negative energy! I am not like that anymore and when I am around someone who is negative I start to feel like the life is being sucked out of me! So my friends were right! It is true! You can "catch" someone elses mood and it isn't always a good thing! So now that I am more postive I have found the need too to stay away from people that will try to bring me down. You can only help someone who wants to be helped and then there are times that you need to do what is best for yourself.

It's hard to stay happy when you have others around you that aren't. But if you don't want to fall into their life of unhappy times don't. Think positively the glass is half full not half empty. Pick out the pearls in a bad situation. If their is more positve talk happening this may rub off and the misery turns to happiness. Also I pray for the persons attitude. It helps if you can get some postive books to read.

I know what you mean. My family in general is very sarcastic. This I can handle, as I am too. But this also leads to negativity. My mother is a nay sayer. She thinks that taking any type of chance is crazy. So WHEN I want to try something new, she just shakes her head and has NO faith. I have learned to ignore this. Otherwise, she convinces me that I can't do things. On the other side of this, she always wonders why I get things or accomplish things.

I'm the sort of person who tends to be easily affected by people surrounding me. If they are happy, i feel happy too. But if they feel miserable, I often feel upset too, though not miserable. So I ususally try to cheer them up. If it didn't work, I tend to avoid being together with them. Because I want to be happy person.

There are unhappy people in this world and I have come to live with that. I am a happy person and I find happiness wherever i go. Yesterday I discovered a few more buds on my son's grapes. I think he is going to have a lot of grapes soon. Cheers!!

It can be hard. My mother was the most negative person I have ever met and I grew up in that poisoned atmosphere but I managed to break free eventually and learn to enjoy my life. While I was under her influence I found it hard to be happy but once I had learned to be positive and to break free of her negativity then I was much better. It is never easy to be happy with someone who wants to suck you into their misery but it is possible. You need to be strong in your own beliefs and be happy in yourself. That said it also helps to leave them in their misery and not to get sucked in to it.

At first, you'll be gloomy as well, but sadness and depression work like a contagious disease. It really eats you up and takes away the positive energy. But after a while, if you're a strong person, you should be able to take the bad stuff and be grateful for the positive things that have happened in your life. It's a case-to-case thing. I think in my opinion, I wouldn't walk out of the situation a happy camper. But somewhere along the way, I will have some positive images in my head. :)

Hy! I can't be happy around those who aren't. If I see that someone is sad, I'm sad too. For example if someone in my family is not well I can't be happy and I think is normal.

no way, you cant be happy around people who arent happy simple as that. i believe happiness is contagaous thing so is sadness. so staying around sadness will make you think of things you otherwise wouldnt think off and all of a sudden make you think and feel sad.

I think whether I can be happy depend on the people I face with. Firstly according to my experience that the person in bad mood can't stand by others who in a high mood because he or she will think:" you can't understand me and even laugh at me." I have his kind of experience. When I was a teacher in a private colloge. One day a girl was sad for parting with her boyfriend. On that time another girl in the dormitory was happy and laughed because she found a good job. The girl in bad mood was so irritated that she made a dash of woter in another girl's face. Though the girl's behavior is excessive I think manu people in bad mood can't stand by others'in high mood. Therefore when I stay with this kind of people, though I am happy I can't show my happiness. Secondly, another kind of people is gentle. When he or she is unhappy she need a happy person to help him or her out. I am this kind of person. Another person's happiness will let me laugh, and forget my unhappiness. I believe many people have the same experiences with me. Therefore, I will be happy with this kind of people even when he or her in bad mood.

It always affects me to be around a person who is in a bad mood. I wish I were able to ignore it, but I am not. I am like a mirror, and when I meet someone I reflect their feelings. When people are happy, I get happy and when people are sad or angry, those negative feelings affect me and I become sad, scared or angry. I am incredibly sensitive to the mood of other people, and I tend to notice the slightest difference.