What do you call him?

@jesssp (2739)
Canada
January 9, 2009 12:01pm CST
When you are referring to your partner what do you call them? Do you use boyfriend/girlfriend or do you use something like significant other? I am engaged so I refer to my guy as my fiance but I really hate the way it sounds when you say it over and over. It reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where the lady keeps talking about her fee-on-SAY! I sometimes use other half but that sounds cheesy after a while too. What do you call your guy/girl?
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@katsmeow1213 (28926)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Well obviously I call mine hubby, but you know what? Before we got married... I mean we'd already been living together for 2 years and already had kids and everything. We were never officially engaged until like a week before we got married. We knew we were going to get married, but it was so unconventional, you know. He never proposed or anything like that. Anyways, I was in chat rooms and things like that at the time, and I hated using the word boyfriend. Boyfriend sounds to me like just dating, and we were far more than dating... we were essentially married just without the paper work. I think I occasionally called him my fiance, but I didn't like the word much either, so eventually I just called him hubby even though we weren't married yet.
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@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
9 Jan 09
I know exactly what you mean. It starts to feel like everything you say is 'my boyfriend this and my boyfriend that' or 'my fiance did this and then my fiance did that'. Sometimes it feels like you're almost rubbing it in peoples' faces or something like that; like you're constantly reminding the world that you have a boyfriend/fiance!
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• United States
9 Jan 09
I didn't actually feel that way. I felt more like by using the term boyfriend or fiance, that it was degrading to our relationship, and it was not giving our relationship the recognition it deserved. For me it's like boyfriend is a term you use when you haven't been with the guy very long. When I hear someone say the word boyfriend I think "Okay, they been together like 6 months or a year" or something like that, you know. I didn't want to say boyfriend and have people think we were still just in the dating phase of our relationship. Know what I mean?
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@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
9 Jan 09
I agree with that, you have everything else being married entails but you still have to use that silly 'boyfriend' label.
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@SomeCowgirl (32257)
• United States
9 Jan 09
When I am on here I say "my fiance", when I am talking to someone I use his name. If I'm talking to his parent's I'll say "he" but that's the only time I think I've said "he" other then talking to my mom and grandparents, oh and his grandparent's. Ohh but his first name is long but has a shorter form, so I'll say the longer form sometimes to his parents and to my family, but the shorter form to our friends.
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@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
9 Jan 09
Yes me too, I don't really like to use real names on here for whatever reason so he is 'my fiance' to Mylot, it just feels like I say it so much! In real life I actually call him the long form of his name and most everyone else calls him the short form.
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@SomeCowgirl (32257)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I know, typing my fiance on here has really gotten old, but it's better to be secure, so "my fiance" is who he is.
@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
11 Jan 09
Yep, he is who he is!
@Humbug25 (12551)
9 Jan 09
Hi there jessp I call him a jerk, idiot, plank etc but when I am talking to people who don't know me so well I call him my ex!!! Hahahahaha
@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
9 Jan 09
Hahaha - definitely gets the point across!
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@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
10 Jan 09
Since I'm married I just say "husband". When I was younger and dating I would always say "boyfriend".
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• Philippines
10 Jan 09
really? you are calling your partner the entire name or word husband?.. that is something. don't you have any sweet call or some arrangements with regards to it?.. and does she call you wife too..?
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@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I say "husband" when I am introducing him to someone. If we're home and he and I are talking to each other then yes we have pet names for each other like "honey" and "sweetie".
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• Indonesia
9 Jan 09
Well when I was on that relationship stage, I used to call my partner honey. I think you can call him/her what ever you like. The most important thing is that both of you feel comfortable with that name. You may call your partner darling or even just call his/her name. OK?
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@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
9 Jan 09
I mean what do you call him when you are referring to him, when you're talking to other people about him.
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• Indonesia
10 Jan 09
Thank you for the clarification. In that case I used to call my partner just her name. That's works fine in my culture. The most important thing is the way we say it. Say your partner name with respect.
@eden32 (3976)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I refer to him as my partner, as I feel that's an accurate description. We have children together, and we're not teenagers anymore so boy/girlfriend seems silly. We're not married, so husband wouldn't be accurate.
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@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
12 Jan 09
I agree that boyfriend/girlfriend sounds silly in that situation, you've definitely upgraded from it!
@k1tten (2320)
• United States
10 Jan 09
Well, I usually refer to my girlfriend as either my girlfriend or my partner. I prefer my partner when talking to a peopld. But my nickname for her is tenshi. My angel in japanese.
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@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
12 Jan 09
'Tenshi' - I like that, very nice!
@vinyl123 (21)
• United States
10 Jan 09
It depends. If I'm talking to someone my age or a little older I'll call him my boyfriend, but if I'm talking to someone much older I'll call him my significant other, since that term seems to be more acceptable.
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@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
12 Jan 09
Ah, good point. 'Boyfriend' is definitely a younger person term.
@Lexus656 (672)
• United States
10 Jan 09
Hmmm I guess I call my boyfriend babyboy, It just goes along with him calling me babygirl. I also have alot of little pet names that I call him but baby-boy comes out of my mouth more then anything else
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@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
12 Jan 09
We have the silliest nicknames for each other and I'm forever giving him crap for calling me by them in public. They're fine when we're alone but some of them are just not for other peoples' ears!
• United States
9 Jan 09
I call him my boyfriend. Even though we are living together and have a child, we are not engaged and we are not married so that is what he is. If someone even calls him my husband, I will correct them. Until there is a ring on my finger, I am allowed to check the "single" box. It could always be worse, I could call him "my baby daddy". LOL!
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@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
9 Jan 09
That is absolutely true. And LOL @ 'baby daddy'!
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@Charente (113)
9 Jan 09
Before we were married I used to refer to my husband as my fiance. Occasionally, I would refer to him as my 'husband' when situations warranted it; we were together for 32 years before we got married and so sometimes it just made life easier when I was dealing with officialdom to refer to him as 'husband'. One thing I never, ever referred to him as was 'partner' and I strongly objected to other people referring to him as such. I think it asexualises someone to refer to them in a non-gender fashion, also I think it makes a relationship sound more like a business arrangement.
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@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
9 Jan 09
Yes, 'partner' is definitely NOT the most romantic term!
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@cyberfluf (5004)
• Netherlands
9 Jan 09
I usually talk about my boyfriend, but as we are engaged I also call him my fiance from time to time. I hate the way that sounds though, a bit old fashioned and cheesy (when you use it a lot that is). I sometimes also refer to him as 'my partner' or I just refer to him using his first name (if people know him).
@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
12 Jan 09
I agree that fiance is a tad cheesy. Every time I type it I picture the word with the accent over the e and can't help but think it sounds a little snooty or something.
@palonghorn (5483)
• United States
9 Jan 09
normally i just refer to him by his name, to family and friends. every once in a while i call him be his first and last initial, but not often. if it's on her, normally my s/o, we are not married but have been together almost 4 years. not sure about others here, but, boyfriend always had a ring of teen years to it, after all we are both in our forties lol.
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@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
11 Jan 09
Yes, I agree! Besides the more romantic and obvious reasons I was so glad to be engaged so we could at least upgrade to fiance from boyfriend/girlfriend.
@ds6413 (2074)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Hi, when I refer to my b/f I call him "My boyfriend". We are not engaged but hope to get married but I had bad experiences with being engaged twice(2 broken engagements) so I refuse to be engaged.Until he becomes my husband he will remain my boyfriend.
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@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
11 Jan 09
Well that is certainly understandable.
@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
9 Jan 09
I usually call him baby I am so used to it I hardly ever call him by his first name and when I have to it sound so strange. I use his name when talking to others about him, but almost never when Im talking to him.
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@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
11 Jan 09
When I'm talking to him and other people are around then I use his name but if it's just the two of us then I hardly ever call him by his name, it's always one of the many goofy nick names!
@zeeterman (1066)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Companion is a good one to use. Or Schnoogums ;) My gal pal liked to call me her Significant Vulgarian. If the name fits....
@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
9 Jan 09
LOL, cute!
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• Philippines
10 Jan 09
i am still not in the relationship. and i think it will take time. but i do have some close to me that we do have a somewhat "call".. i called him and her PARTS.. but i less often do it.. i wait that it is the other partner who will call first. not me.. hehe.. i don't know. i find it odd to be the one to call first. it was not easy though..
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• United States
10 Jan 09
I've gotten into the habit of calling my girlfriend my partner. It's just comes out without even thinking about it usually. Sometimes I do just call her my girlfriend but partner is just how it comes out.
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@dawnald (84076)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Jan 09
Richard. Seriously... Well occasionally I refer to him as 'my husband' or 'dad' (to the kids). But usually it's pretty much just his name.
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@EvrWonder (3577)
• Canada
15 Jan 09
Since I am the type that offers as little information as possible about my personal life, I always refer to or call my guy friend my partner. It just is simple, doesn't label, leaves some to the imagination and leaves things open and not sounding definite. You are right that "other half" does sound somewhat corny indeed. Referring to your husband as fiance over and over would get old fast. Try using partner, or mate. I prefer partner. It works well in most all situations too. Very versatile with still getting the point across. Hope this helps. Wishing you well.