Well, I did two weeks and then it all went pear shaped......
By gemini_rose
@gemini_rose (16264)
January 12, 2009 8:12am CST
For those who have followed my discussions then you will know that I gave up smoking, in fact both my hubby and I gave up together. Well my hubby from the start was a monster, he changed in everything to the point where even the kids were staying out of his way, we both reached two weeks and while I was doing ok when he was not around when he was in the house his moods were rubbing off on me. In the end I told him he had to do something about it or else we were heading for divorce courts because I had had enough. So he did he bought a pack of ciggies, he went outside but it was no good, I was not strong enough to resist. I therefore have to tell you that I have smoked a couple. I do not see it as a failure, just a pear shape blip on my horizon the time is not right, for reasons I cannot go into too much is happening in my personal life for me to make this work so I admit defeat for the time being. Anyway a big thank you to all those who have supported me in this I appreciated it. xxx
So anyone else have any confessions of things they were trying to do not working?
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14 responses
@celticeagle (189927)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Jan 09
Atleast you are being honest. It is said that people may quit several times before being able to stop all together. Give yourself a break and be thankful for what you are able to do. Rome wasn't built in a day. Good luck to you!
@celticeagle (189927)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Jan 09
Cutting down is a good thing. I hope you keep trying.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
12 Jan 09
Sweetheart it is not a Failure and all I will advise is try to only smoke when you really get the Urge
I used to smoke between 20-30 a Day
I now have about 3-5 a Day and I have been trying a lot longer then you and I have something for it to but it is very hard no matter what
The Moods are normal but because of the Medication I am on anyway it did not affect me that bad
People who have never smoked do not understand that it is very hard to just let go but the thing is the Urge can be there for Years and that can get very Stressful so no you have not failed just a set back
I mean I had stopped for 5 Months last Year and ended up starting again
Big Hugs to you Sweetie
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
12 Jan 09
[i]Hi gemini,
It happened to my Dad also several time before he finally did it! He has a short-tempered those times and Mom has to widen her patience.
I know you can do it once you are ready mentally and I guess you need not to quit with your hubby simultaneously to avoid a lot of trouble![/i]
@tessah (6617)
• United States
12 Jan 09
well damn. never a good idea to have two people withdrawing and fitting together. one at a time is more wise.. but live and learn. having a "couple" isnt a failure.. think of them like yer patch or nicotine gum. have a drag or two when yer absolutely going out of yer mind to take the edge off.. then put it out. a couple every now and then really isnt gonna hurtcha.. and yer not even considered a "smoker" in this aspect. keep yer chin up, dont over do it.. remember how you felt in the beginning of this quit session, yu dont wanna go back there again im sure. *hugs tight*
@gemini_rose (16264)
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12 Jan 09
Thanx to you, always there for me xx I am sure I will get there eventually xx
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
12 Jan 09
That's precisely why we won't quit, especially not at the same time. We've tried it before, and we've butted heads and ended up smoking just to be able to get along. The other night I made the choice to cut down a bit on my smoking. I stopped smoking a couple hours before I went to bed, and when I woke up I didn't go straight for the ciggies. After about an hour I noticed I was snapping at everyone over silly things. I went and had a smoke and felt better.
I realize quitting smoking is important, but for the time being, holding my family dynamic together is a bit more important. We have enough stress and issues, we don't need to add anything to it.
The right time to quit will come along, it may be when a doctor tells me to quit or I'll die in a few months... who knows, but it will happen. Until then I'll just do the best I can to be the best person I can be in every way.
@gemini_rose (16264)
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12 Jan 09
Yeah you are right in what you say, the atmosphere in our house has been unbearable, now it is back to normal. Crazy really isnt it?
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
12 Jan 09
If you both decide you truly want to quit, you'll have to do it one at a time. It will take a lot of will power on both your parts. The one who continues to smoke will have to do so away from the other, and not even smell like smoke when they return to the non-smoker. They'll also have to be extremely patient and understanding while the non-smoker goes through their withdrawal period.
Good luck, I hope it works out for you.
@Sissygrl (10909)
• Canada
22 Jan 09
Instead of going cold turkey have you tried any of the other options there are ? I quit 3 years ago in october, and it REALLY does take a lot of willpower and mind over matter. . and distractions! I would have thought to myself when hubby bought the pack.. okay. i've lasted a week.. i'll be back to square one again if i have a smoke.. so i wont give in.. to those disgusting sticks of toxic cancer causing money hungry b1tches! lol.. okay.. so i'm stubburn.. I am not one of those anti smoker peoples now.. i'm jsut sharing how i'd set my mind to quit. GOOD luck though!! I hope you quit!!
@gemini_rose (16264)
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12 Jan 09
He did wear patches, but he just went cold turkey that was where he made his mistake i think, I came off them too so I needed to stay on them.
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@Ithink (10106)
• United States
12 Jan 09
You are still doing good, me, not so good. LOL! I actually quit for almost 3 years and then fell off the wagon. It is so hard when everyone around you smokes! Im gonna try again this spring when I can be outside. Hopefully the stress will be less to! Been having some personal life changes too and it is hard to just let go of the one thing that seems to de-stress me.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
22 Jan 09
Quitting smoking really can do strange things to people. I mean here you are thinking you're doing something really great for yourself but yikes the "withdrawal" symptoms are the pits, I know since I had at one time quit for a grand total of a month. I wasn't snappish or wanting to bit anyone's head off, but I was so drained and tired all the time, like a complete zombie, and then a very stressful episode came into my life and bingo back to smoking again and have been ever since--I'm at least trying to cut down
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
hello gemini_rose,
What's important there was that you tried and was able to stop for two weeks. That's a good start. Maybe it's not the right time yet quitting it. You'll get use to it in time for sure.
Other people tend to smoke because they're stress. They say that smoking help them relieve whatever they're going through. Whatever your reason why your doing it, it's up to you. But then if you can give up in time it's much better. For sure you know what will be the outcome in doing it. Health is wealth.
@chrislotz (8136)
• Canada
12 Jan 09
Well, at least you did two weeks. More than I can say I have done. I can't seem to
get past the first day. I have quit quite a few times in my life but have always gone
back to it because I enjoy my smokes. I don't smoke a whole lot but any is tooo much.
I buy two packs at a time and they last me about 5 days so I am doing not too badly
with cutting back. But to quit totally, I don't want to so I won;t be able to.
Just forget that you had those few smokes and try again. We all have set backs and it
is okay as long as we go on and try again. This is just my opinion but I know it is
what my doctor has said to me when I have fallen off the wagon. Whether it be trying
to quit smoking or trying to loose weight. Keep on trying my friend.
Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend,
Have a good mylotting day, Chris 
@gemini_rose (16264)
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12 Jan 09
Yes I guess two weeks is better than no weeks, I feel I was not really ready. Thank you so much for your support and friendship it does make a difference to things xx
@mag_keizer2007 (1282)
• Canada
13 Jan 09
I do not have a confession at this time...I am working on weightloss and still doing pretty good....but I had a bit of advice for you....My hubby is a smoker and the doctor put him on champix...it is really affective, it diminished the craving and he was never cranky...plus it made him dislike the cigerate...made it taste horrible....THE BEsT PART...he wasn't cranky...he was actually in a great mood. But he stopped taking the pills too soon and went back to his regular habits, so he is going back to his doctor and starting it again because he found it very affective....
Good luck
