What would you do if your girlfriend is pregnant?

Malaysia
January 15, 2009 12:40pm CST
If you are a poor guy without career and money. What would you do if your girlfriend is pregnant because of you. Lets discuss.
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16 responses
@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
I have always been careful about getting my past girlfriends pregnant. But if in case, accidentally i got her pregnant then i guess i have no choice but to be with her until she conceives our child. Not because i'm forced to do it but because i feel it's my responsibility to make sure both of them are ok. I may not have the means financially so the best i can do is to at least be with her in her most critical days as a soon-to-be mother. I've really never thought of escaping then leaving her out in the cold. I don't want to be creating another mistake from a mistake. Marriage may not be the option yet but it's a possibility. Now it's up to the girl if she'll accept for what i am and not for what i have.
@kaguvkov (1041)
• Philippines
17 Jan 09
Nice views you have. I think the one you said will be the better options for the guys like us. I will also not leave the girl if ever that will happen in my part.
@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
23 May 09
Simple!!!!!!! Step-up to your responsibility. It doesn't mean that your world must stop just because your girlfriend is pregnant. I don't see any reason why should I ran away and leave things unattended. You don't have to marry your girlfriend, just because of what happened. The most important thing that a man should do is, always at her side especially in times of need, and........HELP HER IN ANY WAY POSSIBLE for financial support. Without career and money is not an issue.
@LouieWpHs04 (4556)
• United States
14 Feb 09
Well first of all, I wouldn't get myself in that situation in the first place! Buut if I was somehow idiotic enough & not a single pringle at the moment and got my "girlfriend" that I don't have at the moment pregnant, I would probably try my best to raise it with her, if I feel we aren't getting by well enough I might debate with her to get someone to adopt him/her.
@yxinxin (467)
• China
19 Jan 09
I advise you to get married. If the pregnant has just begun, you can go to the hospital to stop the pregnant. If it is too late, then get married and share the joys and sufferings. If the couple have one mind there must be road ahead.
@lizmeek (31)
• United States
17 Jan 09
I have actually been in this position. I worked up until my delivery. The dad left me because he thought the baby wasn't his. I was taking care of two children and one in daycare and living on my own. It was very hard. Thanks for the governments help I was able to make it. I was only making $9.50/hr so it's hard but it can be done.
@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
17 Jan 09
I was in that situation, only the guy was a petty criminal working temporarily (I learned later) as a mechanic -and as soon as he learned I was pregnant he went back to his thieving ways. I broke up with him and gave the baby up for adoption. But in the case when a poor guy gets a girl pregnant, he should try to do the right thing, either marry her or discuss adoption, but abortion would be out of the question. If you are the father, you should take responsibility and if it means you have to work to take care of the baby you helped create.
@oadgmd (102)
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
Id probably take responsibility for it. I dont know but i still think that a mans got to do what a mans got to do. In this case take responsibility and try to make ends meet for the child. The relationship with the girl may not floursih but i wouldnt want my child to grow up fatherless.
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
That's the saddest thing ovation. But not the end of the world, who knows the baby can make my man be inspired to look for a job.? Not sure though,many guys out there became inspired when they see their babies. LOL!! But if we really don't have means to spend while she is preggy, the best way is to seek help from parents. What else is new here in Philippines?! Our parents is the best solution for our finances LOL!!!(knock on wood this would not happen to me! LOL)
@Gesusdid (1681)
• United States
15 Jan 09
if were both adult enough to do it in the first place then where adult enough to get jobs.
@jambi462 (4593)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I would ask my girlfriend what her opinion was on the pregnancy first because she's the one that's going to be going through a lot of the stress and trouble of just having a baby inside of her. As a man I feel that I should take care of my woman and if she was pregnant I would definitely be there for her. I'll admit that I have no where near the money for that or the job but I could darn well try to support her and my new baby if need be. It's just one of those situations that you wouldn't really know how it would turn out until it actually happened.
@sahmof2 (274)
• United States
15 Jan 09
If I was pregnant with a guy with no money and no career I would tell him to get a job and I would get a job because we should have thought of the consequences of our actions before we did things that could end in up with a child.
@klaudine (3651)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 09
If my girlfriend is pregnant... LOL. If she is pregnant then I know that she is cheating with a guy. LOL. I mean, I am a lesbian and my girlfriend would not get pregnant because of me, but let's get back to your discussion. If I was a poor guy and I made my girl pregnant I would first slap my own face and hit my head to the wall. And then, I would give all the decision up to my girlfriend. If she wanted to abort the baby, I would pay for the abortion. If she wanted to get married, yeah, that's exactly what I want. If she wanted to leave me, that's my consequences, so whatever she want, I would grant.
• India
15 Jan 09
If I would have been poor guy without any career and If I have girlfriend,I would have taken every care of her so that she doesnot get pregnant atleast till we marry and we have enough material comforts for both of us. If by chance she will get pregnant I will have taken more care of her and I would have tried my best to make money by hardworking for our future.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
Of course me and my girlfriend would discuss about it. And it would never end up to abortion. We will raise the child whatever it takes. Have a nice day!
@springs (926)
• India
15 Jan 09
If i am career focused guy ,i will never make sure that she wil not be a pregnant.It will be like i flirted her and made her pregnant ,that means i going to escape.Or If i am good guy i will defnitely marry her and maintain good relationship with that girl.And Money,it takes some time to settle after that it will not be a problem for anyone.
@goldeneagle (6773)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I would probably tell her to put it up for adoption...