Get To The Point Or Shut Up!!!
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
January 16, 2009 1:42am CST
I have this friend on the second floor of my building. She is a very nice Christian woman in her mid-forties. She has salt and pepper hair and is about 5ft. 6in. She is not in to the latest styles and to me, she dresses quite odd. But that is just her way. It is kind of fun teasing her about it. It's about the only teasing that she lets me get away with.
She is one of those people who never gains weight, no matter what or how much she eats. She tends to talk too loud, especially in public. I have to constantly remind her to keep it down. But there is one thing about her that really annoys me. You are just not going to believe what she does. I mean, you might. You might be like this or know someone who is. Well, here it goes. Are you ready? Now remember, she is a good friend. BUT SHE NEVER GETS TO THE POINT. I have wanted to strangle her at times. She just goes on and on.
She will talk all around the subject. Sometimes I will try to help her, but she insist on stumbling around. I will say, just forget it. But you can't forget it, because now I seems so important. Then when she finally gets it out, it is so lame, sometimes, I go for the throat, LOL. Do you know anyone like this? Are you saying yes, while looking in the mirror? 
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16 responses
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
Hi Rozie dear! haha..I do know someone like that. She is one of my friends and she just keeps on going around and around. I do try to help her with what she wants to say but will still beat around the bush until i will just keep quiet, stare at her and let her arrive to the point. haha..And I admit, I sometimes do that on certain sensitive issues because it can be difficult on how to get to the point across in fear of embarrassing or hurting anyone but I do try to not to beat around it.
Take care and have a nice day!
lovelots..faith210
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
16 Jan 09
Rozie my friend yes I know someone very close to me that does the same thing. I have had to put up with his long winded conversations for years and years and years. He is close to me and he never seems to get to the point. I just want to choke him. When I say just say it and get to the point it only makes him tell the story longer and longer to the point I forgot what he was saying (oops I think I forgot what I was saying) He goes on and on and on.
Have you guessed yet who it is?
It is my hubby. I get to the point that sometimes I do not listen to him.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
16 Jan 09
LOL I don't know anyone like this. I laughed at your heading, too funny.
You should do what my husband does. He just gets up and walks away. I think it's rude but he says a lot of the time, those who talk to him at work go on and on, and he doesn't have time to listen to them if they don't get to the point. He just ups and leaves LOL I think it's funny and rude at the same time. Sometimes he doesn't realise he's doing it - he zone's off and leaves haha.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
16 Jan 09
I would totally love to do that, but you never know when what they have to say is important or not. If she said enough to give me a clue as to where she was going with it, I would be able to just say forget it. Besides that, I really do care about her. But I know what your husband means about not having time for all of that. You are sitting there waiting for them to get to the point and thinking about all the other things you COULD be doing. It is just maddening. 
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@dreamleaper17 (702)
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
hi there, rozie37..
the mirror says: GUILTY as charged. but i must say i know when to listen.
when dealing with people, we Christians are to WALK IN LOVE. keep cool.
"For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." Matthew 7:2
and also, well, three letters can help: E.G.R. (Extra Grace Required). when you do remind her about her loudness, just speak the truth IN LOVE.
perhaps it may do well to stop teasing her. the Enemy enjoys it.
see you around.. 
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
17 Jan 09
It may sound good to stop teasing her, but being her friend is not the easiest thing in the world. I love her dearly, but if I do not joke about it, I will go insane. Of all the people in her life, I am the one that is there for her, no matter what. I am not teasing her to be mean, that is just my way. I tease everyone and they tease me. I can be a deadly serious person, this is my way of lightening up a little and having fun.
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
19 Jan 09
My mother skirts the issue, she will start a conversation about something, then goes on to something else, which leaves me confused because now the people in the conversation has changed. She and my sister both with take over the conversation, even if I call them. I will call, say hello, and that basically is the end of my conversation.
@deborahkat (519)
• Brazil
16 Jan 09
Haha... I have a neighbor like that. Asks something then never lets you answer and her opinion is always too important and what she says is never wrong. Do we deserve that?
@GardenGerty (157650)
• United States
16 Jan 09
LOL, Rozie, it is my husband, all over the place. He can make a story out of anything. My sister is bad that way as well, and her points are all in the past, or never did happen. She just loves to tell a good story. I went to see her last night. I am still behind and distracted this morning.
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
17 Jan 09
I know a couple of people who are just like that! They beat around the bush when they talk and sometimes they do not make sense at all. I guess they just want to hear themselves talk and it doesn't really matter if you do answer their questions or not they will just rant on and on until they feel that they have overstayed their welcome which would be like 10 hours after they got through the door without even being invited. Ughhh!
@kezabelle (2974)
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17 Jan 09
OK so she stutters aswell charming friend you are!!! Give the woman a break my partners brother has a stutter and even when he isnt stuttering it can take him a long time to get to the point but you know what makes it harder for him? People with no patience or respect for the fact that he is struggling.
If this woman is your friend you know i hope to god she doesnt come on here and read the awful way you just spoke about her that could be pretty damning to her confidence!
If someone is a good friend we love them for their good AND bad points and you certainly shouldnt go badmouthing them all over a public forum just because she struggles to get to the point cos you know what its not her problem its yours!!!
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
i have lots of people like this before as my friend. but i have already stopped seeing them. got tired already. i make sure if i will make friends again not these kind of people .they are quite annoying and will just ruin my day. i have no patience any more to these kind of people. before i can still bear with them. but i have just realized they are taking too much of my precious time.
@Lexus656 (672)
• United States
16 Jan 09
I definitely know people like this to be honest my boyfriend is this way and sometimes I just get so aggrivated with it I tell him to just get to the point. I mena we can be in a rush and he's taking his time to tell a story or make a point about sometihng so I know your pain.
@srijshm (1165)
• India
17 Jan 09
Ha, ha. I have known many people like that including myself. Our type of characters are called "sanguines" by florence.G the author of "personality plus".
We just love telling stories. Some of the other traits of a snguine are:
Flashy clothes, attention seeker, always a child, dis-organized, glorify stories,
bad listeners, love to be with people. On the plus side we are fun to be with, have lots of cretive idea( we are bad at implementing them though) & make friends fast.
In her book, the first remedy florence has suggested is "talk 50%less". The only solution i see to your problem--- GIFT YOUR NEIGHBOUR THE BOOK "PERSONALITY PLUS". If she reads it, you are saved, if she does not , GOd save you.
Had i not read the book my answer would have streched for another 3000 words. Someone gifted me the book . Are you noticing the benefits already !!
@GreyBusiness (26)
• United States
17 Jan 09
Most of my coversations are straight to the point about any issue. My closest friends usually talk about good things. All the worlds problems come from others. Its like a big family. Problems are niped in the bud before it gets over blown and becomes childish. Thank god for those blessings.You Know!!
@lifeafterdeath09 (2043)
• United States
3 Mar 10
that is true. mabey if you have some time to chat with her about it then she might stop.
@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
16 Jan 09
OMG!!!!! You are too funny...Not sure that I know anyone that does this...but I can see how it could be annoying...LOL
@hellcord (673)
• Romania
16 Jan 09
yes rarely I can be like that because I'm a Gemini and a Vata and I like to move and talk and be active, but much more often I see people doing it because they lack the ballz to really go at the heart of sensitive subjects.
When that happens I like to jut cut to the chase with some 'bucket of water' questions:
Colleague: You know I was at home and then blah blah blah and blah and blah
Me: Ok, go on..
Colleague: And then blah, and blah blah
Me: So you're pregnant, right ?
Colleague: Whaaat ? No!!! 
Me: So you raped and ate one of your neighbors' kids, eh ?
Colleague: Whaaaaaaat ? No!!! 
Me: Then what are you talking about woman ? 
After this sort of slapping them back to reality, they have no problem getting to the point :D
Me: So you raped and ate one of your neighbors' kids, eh ?
Colleague: Whaaaaaaat ? No!!!
Me: Then what are you talking about woman ?
After this sort of slapping them back to reality, they have no problem getting to the point :D