Are you taken for ride quite often....?

Hi dpk! No, I am not one to be taken for being a pushover! I make sure that no one is going to ever get over on me! Maybe years ago I might have missed a person's tricks, but that hasn't happened in a very long time! I am very careful who I help if anyone at all! I don't trust as openly as I once did and I advise anyone to always be very wary of those that they do trust and make sure that if they are telling you a story of woe to be sure that it checks out! There are too many people that will try to get over on someone who they believe is gullible and trusting if they think they can get something from them so beware!

I have no count of the number of times I have been taken for a ride. But no, this has not taught me a lesson. I still help others when I feel they are in need. If they cheat me or do anything wrong there is someone above who will punish them for that. Because in distrusting everyone I may end up not helping the very needy.

yup,it happened to me many times and even after so many experiences,i never learn.once there was a long line to take ticket.an old lady was standing behind me,with lots of baggage,i took pity on her and asked her to come forward.later on i felt so foolish,as she boarded the same train as me,with her grand daughters(all in their 20s).(they could have easily stood in the line)

I am , I feel , a bit complicated.I am not a total innocent, but I fundamentally believe in openness and 'Trust begets trustworthiness' principles,conversation without reservation ,'must look at others point of view' attitude,etc..,This has landed me in inordinate trouble;Trouble does not necessarily mean losing money;Losing in any interpersonal transaction is also being a victim of 'I win , you lose'[if you see what I mean]nature of people around you..This has changed me a bit and after forty five years of my life I feel I need to shut my loud mouth and be careful in what I speak to others[this is all within the circle of relatives where expectations normally ride high and people easily exploit your gullible straightforward nature]

There was a time deepak when I was too innocent or rather I should call it my stupidity, and it was very easy for people to take advantage and I did not even realised that I was just being used........but now I am happy that finally the dust on my brain has cleared and I have started to think....now someone can use me only if I want..., I mean nobody will now dare to take advantage of me.......

I have been before..but I try to be more careful now. I let a friend of mine come live with me years ago when I had hardly anything myself. She was having trouble with her husband and nowhere to go. I didn't charge her to stay nor charge for her food. I even paid her to babysit my children while I worked. One day I come home and she had stolen almost everything I had. Childhood jewlery and all. I was devastated. I guess her and her husband decided to get back together and needed my things for some extra money.The funny thing about it is if she had of asked for anything,I would have given it to her.lol. I never saw or spoke to her again. I think that she's probably paid for that by now. I know she lost a friend that would have done anything for her. These things have a way of working themselves out though. I truely believe that "What comes around,Goes around"

Yes there have been times, but that never deterred me to help someone. For the simple reason that there are a lot of people out there wanting some help. It may not be material all the time and may just require us to be there during difficult times. I follow this view simply because there have been a few to help and stand by me during my times of need.

Many times I think this happens to the Best people. You think someone is being genuine in asking for help, and so you offer to help them, and then in turn find out that they are squandering all their earnings, etc. and continuing to ask others for handouts never trying to do anything to better things for themselves. It has gotten to the point for me where I am leary of helping anyone anymore without really knowing them, as with things continuing to grow tighter for me, I wonder how many out there would help me when I need it as well.

Yes I sure do. I am more aware of it now but have been in the past. But for me I am a doer and a helper and as a Christian I am supposed to be helpful, courteous, polite and loving. But lately I realized that its within reason. I had some neighbors that would come and ask of me almost everyday and I finally had to start saying no to them. I felt bad but in reality, I was enabling them. I will continue to do good deeds without expecting anything back in return but am more careful as to how much and what I do now.

Hi deepak! Oh goodness, most of the time! At first I felt sad about these kind of things happening to me and it seems I never learned. I always try to look for the good in each person and if they ask for help, I give it whether it was a stranger, a friend or a family member. For quite some time in the past, I stopped being helpful because I felt hurt, foolish and st*pid but after some time, I realized that in helping, i am given a chance to be a good person. And after so many times of being taken advantage of, you develop this "sixth sense" or instinct in recognizing a genuine from a fraud but still it is no guarantee that you can really read people a hundred percent. However, I just ask a lot of questions nowadays before I help them. haha.. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith

I used to be really a sucker for this sort of stuff. Over time, I have learned quite a bit of street smarts. Still every now and again, I get taken in by a good story. I don't let it get to me. I don't lend out anymore than I can afford to lose and that way if the person does not pay back....it is on their karma...not mine. I try to only do for others what I can do without expecting anything in return and that way there will be no disappointments.

It happens with us especially with my hubby and I don’t think he will learn a lesson. He can’t say ‘no’ to others until he is not a position to help. He is so happy to helps others irrespective of the person’s character. I am telling him, if you want to help anybody help the right person. He will agree and next time he won’t help the same person but will help a person who falls in the same category (lol).

Hello deepak! No one took advantage of me yet. I am very choosy in terms of having friends. Honestly, it's hard for me to trust someone and before I trust one, he/she must earn it from me.

Well Dpk..its not easy to take me for a ride,because I am neither simple or innocent...Well i guess when I was younger,I was taken advantage of by most people ,especially by friends and relatives,but now I have become stronger and wiser and have learned to put my foot down and sat No when ever it is required to say so....Infact if anybody comes to me for help I cross check to see if the person does really need my help,before I commit myself....And I am also very firm and assertive with such people and encourage them to stand up and fend for themselves instead of always relying on others for help..........

Not a friggen chance!!! I am the least innocent person you'll ever meet, always on guard and somewhat b!tchy, to make sure that I am not taken for a ride.

I can't remember ever being taken advantage of. The fact that I am quite straight forward in my communications with people makes it difficult for anybody to take advantage of me. Being an iron fist lady is not an easy meat for anybody. So to-date I'm quite lucky to be able to shield myself from these unscrupulous people who are out there taking advantage of other people. Their rotten intentions are far worse than rotten fruits!

I have been taken advantage of quite a few times lately and it has been from friends and family.. I have gotten to the point that I just stay the heck away from them and don't give them the opportunity to do it again..

I'm sure that other people have taken advantage of me at some time, but its their loss because unless I felt genuinly taken by them then I did what I did out of my heart. If they want to cheat me or the next person it will come back to bite them. There are many people who prey on people with good hearts but you know the person with the good heart will always win.

im not.. but i know people that are that way and it would drive me nuts if i was so naive that i was easily taken a lot.. i wouldnt be able to feel good about myself.. i would think i was stupid or something

Hello my dear friend dpk262006 Ji, Seeing after little gap. I think giver should never expect anything in return which is realy out-dated these days.. If one helps other, one should help sellessly, without expecting anything in return. On e will never repent for one's doing. Showing Kindness with expectation will not have any value. On eshould do one's own ways and let one be allowed to follow by their ways. may god bless you and have a great time.