Person who caused his own problems and then called me to whine about it.

@writersedge (22563)
United States
February 7, 2009 7:54am CST
I had told a friend of mine to get the wild cat that hangs out near his house fixed. "Too expenstive." Now there are 9. He's feeding them all. Every month he shells out as much $ in cat food as he would have to have the one cat fixed. Calls up to whine and complain about the price of cat food. I had to go, but I really felt like having an "I told you so," moment. Same friend. He knew he was going to end up in a wheel chair. The Veterans put a ramp on the North of his home from his porch to outdoors. He builds a garage to the east, there are no exits in the east. Southeast, he put a hot tub. There are steps to the south, but the hot tub is too far away from that. He called me up the other day to complain about that. Also was busy and had to leave. He designed the garage, he told people where to pour the cement. I would really have liked to have said, "Well, you designed everything so you couldn't get to it, why are you complaining to me?" He did a lot of alcohol and drugs. He's the type of person that you can't tell anything to, so I don't even bother to try anymore. But wouldn't you get one cat fixed so you don't end up feeding 9? One time expense versus monthly. Wouldn't you build your garage or at least a car port next to the ramp the Vets built for you? Wouldn't you enlarge your bathtub or put the hot tub on the porch you already have? I think he did a lot of drugs and alcohol in the 60s, what do you think? I think my "Give a D@mn's busted!" As the country/western song goes. I tell him when I have problems and he wants to give me advice, thankfully, I don't take any of it and am sooo much better off.
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@riyasam (16556)
• India
7 Feb 09
yup,sometimes i donot understand these peoples mentality,they seem to have lost their power to reason!!a very pregnant lady came to me and startied to complain,how difficult and expensive it is,to raise kids nowadays??who on earth,told her to produce so many babies?????
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Right, if it's that hard and expensive, why is she having more? After one or two, she could get fixed. What ever happened to an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure? We need to go back to teaching these sayings. Thanks and take care.
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@ElicBxn (64177)
• United States
7 Feb 09
the roomie and I are "fixers" Like a lot of guys, if you complain, we will come up with fixes. the OTHER roomie is a "complainer" She actually recently admitted to the roomie that she just wanted to complain, she didn't want it fixes. It becomes impossible after a while to care if the complainer doesn't want to fix whatever is wrong. so, my advice (read fix) is to tell him that you don't want to hear about it unless he wants to fix the problem
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
7 Feb 09
True, esp. for the cat thing. The other, he's out of $, he can't build any more if he wants to. His bank froze everything and his credit card put a lean on his place. That's one of the reasons why I don't want to listen to him. Yeah, sometimes I just want to complain, like when my Mom was dying of cancer ( couldn't fix that) and other times I want help with fixing. But when I call him, it's too complain or learn what NOT to do. Thanks and take care.
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@ElicBxn (64177)
• United States
7 Feb 09
believe it or not, it is always good to have one person you KNOW not to listen to, then, when you ask their advice you know the wrong thing to do! Then, by listening to other people you know if the advice is good or bad. sometimes, even the smartest person gives bad advice I would take money advice from my brother, but not dating tips I would take crafting and sewing tips from the roomie's mom, but not child rearing I would take home repair tips from her dad, but NOTHING ELSE! (this is the man that told her that if she looked she might beable to find someone like him to marry - she replied "That's what I'm afraid of!") I might be able to help you with you cats, but don't ask me about men....
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
11 Feb 09
Very true, we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Like I can tell people how to get a job, by keeping one isn't a strength of mine. Thanks and take care.
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
8 Feb 09
My goodness, my dear...I think you need to keep this guy around just to remind you of what a kind, tolerant and wonderful person you are! Just to keep you up on your coping skills! LOL!
• Canada
9 Feb 09
Well, give yourself a pat on the back! You are helping one of God's creatures, not that you can be much help..as he doesn't listen to you...and there to take the blame when things go wrong! Accolades to you!
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
8 Feb 09
I try to help him until I want to clobber him and then I go home and keep my distance for awhile. That's the best I can do. Thanks and take care.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
11 Feb 09
I called him yesterday because there was no substitute teaching calls. Conversation started out reasonable and then got stupid again. Think I'll wait before I talk to him again. Thanks and take care.
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