Do you honestly think this is a fair scenario?

@James72 (26829)
Australia
February 18, 2009 4:45am CST
I'm talking here about the discussion chosen as the highest rated for each day. I am not wishing to isolate any particular person here, but I have noticed on a number of occasions now that the top rated discussion chosen for the day has often been one in which the poster has not replied to a single response! Do you honestly think that it is fair to choose a one-sided "discussion" as the best of the day? I realize that the process is based on positive ratings and the overall responses received in a certain timeframe, but it just seems a bit odd to me to be choosing a discussion that is purely one-way traffic? What do you think? Am I being unreasonable with my lines of thought here?
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
18 Feb 09
You are a mind reader James and I know exactly what you mean for I have been thinking on the same line today. I think this isn't fair. All the responses are left uncommented and we do not even get to interact and make the discussion interesting. This deviates from the essence of mylotting. I can understand, it's difficult, TIME being the big factor. Even I have a lot to catch up but I bet I hardly miss on the commenting part. If I could be little blatant, which I want to even at the risk of my star, today's poster with the highest rating was in my friend's list and deleted him for the obvious reason of not being responded to attended to. He keeps sending me requests off and on and I keep denying for the same reason! This is certainly an one way traffic which is quite offputting at times.
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
18 Feb 09
I would love to Pixrawr! Thanks for the request. I think you are my kind, consistent and keeping up with the good will of the place and adding value to it! Looking forward to a great time here..
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
Great minds and all that mimpi! As I have said in my main discussion, I am not going to be pointing fingers specifically as this is not productive I don't think. But I do appreciate exactly what you are referring to. I wouldn't worry about your star either as surely people aren't THAT pedantic! You have offered up a very valid opinion for God's sake! Time IS a factor, yes and when we do get the time to be active, we of course want to interact with people, not just type for the sake of a post point or a few cents! I too am making the effort to remove people that make no effort to interact with me and I don't blame anyone else who does this either. I don't expect EVERY response to get an answer each and every time, but a 3 strikes your out rule is what I use and I am aware of other members using a similar approach. Anyways, in due course we quickly learn where our best efforts should be placed. Thanks for the response mimpi.
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
19 Feb 09
I agree with you James. Hope you eye brows grew back and you are thinking correctly. Of course you are, your thoughts telling me so.... Jokes apart, you always think right. I think, i have my method to remove users from my list. Once someone removed me from hers for I negated her opinion. Even though, I thought it was nicely refuted she deleted me! I do not follow this line of action. On the contrary, I think a healthy interaction includes all of those. We are different and entitled to voice our opinions which might or might not differ from us! The only thing should be a decent approach. I try to maintain that all the time. And, James, I find you consistent with all those and even though you have to refute I just love that... So keep refuting..
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
18 Feb 09
You are not being unreasonable James. I have noticed this too. A discussion should be rated in the true sense of proper interaction and not just by the number of responders who mark the discussion with a positive rating. On the other hand i have seen some discussions started by friends like you which have a lot of interaction and discussions like that with good quality responses and interaction certainly deserve to be in that category.
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
18 Feb 09
Yes, I agre with you Alok, James being most consistent follow upper!! I just hope you are not hinting at me . I agree I couldn't really catch up with you guys of late. But trust me, I will soon.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
18 Feb 09
Hinting at you ? Certainly not Mimpi. I know that you comment back on each of your responses and you are most certainly in the category of friends along with James who i think most certainly desrve the highest rated tag whenever i have seen your discussions there. You keep the interactions going and the discussions coming, for it feels great to see good friends having their discussions being rated the highest.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
Yep, it's ALL you mimpi! It's rewarding to hear that not only yourself, but others agree with my own views on this. You are one of the people that has always made the effort to interact with others and this type of attitude is of benefit to all of us! If I start a discussion, I want to have just that..... A DISCUSSION! Not create a repository for text! lol. Thanks for the response bhai.
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@p1kef1sh (45696)
18 Feb 09
I think that you are being entirely reasonable James. However the "advice" is a little conflicting. myLot make it clear in their Guidelines that commenting back to a responder will not make you money. So I can understand why they (myLot) don't worry overly if we respond or not. However, in an e mail to Myklj some months ago myLot said that they will pay if the response adds to the discussion. Presumably their interpretation of what constitutes "added value" is not the same as your or mine necessarily. My line is that I always endeavour to respond as a courtesy to someone that took the time and effort to comment. I can't say that I lie awake at night worrying about it, but I do sometimes wonder just how some discussions Including my own occasionally) make it onto the leader board and not others. It seems to be the largest number of comments in a given period, I'm not convinced that it's 24 hours though.
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@mysdianait (65052)
• Italy
18 Feb 09
Hi pike! Where is this bit please? myLot make it clear in their Guidelines that commenting back to a responder will not make you money I make a point of responding back and commenting over and over to those who take time to respond to me and I am certain that I am earning for it as on some days it is all I have done. I do not start many discussions but I spend a lot of time commenting. I can assure you it is definatley well worth it whatever those in power have led others to believe.
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
18 Feb 09
Hi p1kef1sh, nice to interact with you after long. I think its after your discussion about DEVONSHIRE Beauty... I think you are right about the earning bit. A few only care for the 'added value' and i think its a conglomeration of responses and comments that takes you up to the top section if not the highest rated discussion. Thanks.
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@p1kef1sh (45696)
18 Feb 09
The precise wording is: "Thank everyone that responds or comments on your discussion. This will not increase your earnings." I guess that my interpretation of the word "Thank.." maybe looser than some others.
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@mysdianait (65052)
• Italy
18 Feb 09
Hi James! I think the whole concept of the Digest has to be rethought. Not only does it contain the type of non-discussion you are referring to but on most days there are also discussion which are complete violations of the rules here. That doesn't make any sense. Any user who starts a discussion and then has not got the decency to comment to those who respond is not going to be seeing me for long on his/her discussions. It's all about respect IMO and is certianly not a discussion. Nuff said becuse it's a touchy point with me too
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
I donlt even received the digest actually, so all I can go on here is what I see on my home page as the top rated discussion each day. I don't doubt for one second though that many discussions in the digest will be in violation from time to time! Yes this site is monitored to a degree by admin, but the larger voice appears to be us as users. Even if a discussion is clearly in violation, unless someone reports it, then it stays! And yes, it IS a touchy subject, which in itself is ridiculously unfortunate if you ask me. Heaven help us if we have an opinion on a topic like this! Thanks for your comments mysdianait.
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@patgalca (16781)
• Orangeville, Ontario
19 Feb 09
This is why I think the top discussion decision is actually computer generated. Perhaps, as I suggested above, by the number of positive ratings given within the entire discussion.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
19 Feb 09
I'm sure it is patgalca. There would be some sort of algorithm running at the back end that would take into account factors such as duration, number of responses and the level of positive ratings. All of these statistics combined would play a strong role in deciding which discussion qualifies for sure! I just wish that interactivity measuring played a role in it as well.
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• United States
18 Feb 09
I think that this is an absolutely reasonable train of thought, myself. Hmmmm, maybe that's why I didn't come up with the discussion in the first place, ya think?*L* I do agree with you though. Why bother starting something if you aren't going to participate any further in them? Not fair at all.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
Glad to hear it Diddly! Top of the morning to you! Your last statement is extremely valid here. Why bother starting a "discussion" if you're not even going to discuss anything with anyone??? And no, you aren't someone who starts a lot of discussions at all, but you definitely give your attention to the ones that you do! This is how it SHOULD be as far as I'm concerned. Thanks for the response.
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• United States
18 Feb 09
Well, ya know, I learned from one of the best here.*S*
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
Is this a compliment? Or are we playing mind games again? lol. We have the MOST fun in the post-reply banter, no question! Why the heck would we want to change this approach and lose this aspect of our time here? I just wish more people got it is all.
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@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
18 Feb 09
Hi james I agree with you. Nowadays I see lots of discussions going one sided. So really dont like to take part in a one sided discussion, by the way it doesn't become discussion if its one sided.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
Exactly right chaitra! Even by loose definition, a discussion is an exchange between more than one entity. Take others out of the equation and it's nothing but a statement I guess! I won't bother for long with people that never reply to me either, but this is not my main focus here. I just don't think it's right to choose a one-sided discussion as the best for the day is all. Thanks for the response.
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@bamakelly (5193)
• United States
18 Feb 09
Once again I have to reiterate a statement that I made above. This is a forum where people are here for various reasons. To make friends and earn a little extra money. It might not be a lot of money but participation is key. I am not really upset when a conversation seems one sided. If something is a top rated discussion for the day then that is just how it is.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
Fair enough bama. I'm certainly not going to criticize you for your own opinion on this subject. But isn't it great that we can exchange comments like this about it? Is this not what being a member here should be about? There's participation and there's playing numbers games. In my opinion, numbers game attempts are NOT in the spirit of this site, so shouldn't be counted as runners for top rated response. And people who never reply to me will keep get my attention for long, end of story!
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@giay0422 (60)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
James I think you are reasonable enough. Yes, I hope posters will take time to make reponses for topics they initiated regardless if it equates for a fee or not. Anyway, there are discussions which can move on and on and need not be turned back :)
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
I wish to make it clear that I DO understand that people are not always able to reply back to everybody, but at least SOME replies would be nice! I am struggling to find the time lately myself, but to date I've always replied back to each and every response. It's in my best interests to do so on a number of levels. It's also courteous. I couldn't care less if I'm paid for this attention or not! Thanks for the response giay and I hope for the same things you do!
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@Scagie (49)
• United States
21 Feb 09
No i don't think it is
@sconibear (8012)
• United States
18 Feb 09
AHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! the over powering weight of guilt is crushing me!!! i have a few discussions that i didn't respond back to anyone, but this is simply because i find something interesting, or i'm stating a fact that i just want to share, and i really have nothing else to add, or don't know what to say back. of course i'm here neither for financial gain or to be accepted into the pages of the coveted "myLot Digest" i'm here to interact with, and hopefully annoy my fellow Earthlings.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
Sconi you are by no means a serial ignorer! You've also been sick too! I am not suggesting that a person has to reply to each and every response by the way, because I know that's not always feasible. But someone practically NEVER replying and then being awarded the top rated dicsussion just doesn't make sense to me at all. Thanks for the comments mate and lose the guilt!
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@sconibear (8012)
• United States
18 Feb 09
yeah, there are a few people on here that try to gather 20 gazzilion friends, then they ask questions like "what did you have for breakfast?" and get like 300 responses. of course they could never respond to all those people. but they don't reply to anyone because they're too busy starting like 50 of these discussions everyday. these people are the "Greedy myLot Barons," and some day they're gonna run this place.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
Pray tell sconi..... Where may one find these Barons? Thouest wisheth to smite them all! I hope to God you're not right on that front. Serial friend adders are right up there with the worst of them too, no argument there. A numbers game is a numbers game I guess. Oh well, as long as I'm not one of the numbers, then I'm fine to just ignore 'em.
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@Daffodil20 (1754)
• India
19 Feb 09
Though I don't remember much about the Mylot guidelines, I must admit whatever I do, it is mainly due to the related and very logical posts which often come to the rescue of members like me who manage to spend less time on mylot and benefit from such posts. They are like refresher course. lol. I also don't know how to find out the top rated discussion the answer must be simple but my dumb attitude has prevented me from knowing it so far. Even the least active members too must have noticed it and I too sometimes feel disappointed when there is no reply back, ever. Busy or otherwise, one can understand if you do not reply sometimes. But with a few its repeated almost 90% of times. As mimpi too stated, the fun is terribly missed when it can take an exciting and interesting turn like in many of the responses and replies of many witty posters and responders. Members like me just love to read and enjoy these answers and replies and love the chuckles it evokes. I must admit whatever little time I get here, much is spent on enjoying your's and other people's interesting and witty interactions. The answer to the question here is most obvious in my opinion. I honestly do not think that a discussion which is one sided gets to be crowned as the top or the best one. But more than that I really really wish that such members must take out a little from their precious time and atleast reply to 40 - 50% of the responders, even if its just a "thankyou". James, thanks to you too for starting this post which I'm sure most members had in their mind but never mentioned.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
19 Feb 09
You are definitely not alone in how you think things should be here Daffodil. Yes, of course it's a warm feeling to be acknowledged for taking the time to respond to someone's discussion! And never being replied to can leave us feeling hollow at times too. Sure, I don't expect every member to reply to me each and every time, but at least SOME of the time! If they never do, then why should I bother? I'm here to interact with people, not view my own words on a screen! lol. And as you have shared, even replying to 50% of responses is a positive thing to do, yet many reply to no-one at all! And then they receive the title of top rated response??? Kind of a flat victory if you ask me. If people want to play numbers games, then go and be an accountant! lol. I will always give most of my attention and efforts towards friends that make a return effort. It's as simple as that really! Thanks for your comments Daffodil.
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@patgalca (16781)
• Orangeville, Ontario
19 Feb 09
I see what you are saying about what the definition of "top discussion" should mean. I have seen discussions with only a couple of comments and be listed as today's top. How can that be? I'm not sure the discussion starter responding to all comments qualifies it as to whether it is or isn't a top discussion. I think it's the number of comments it generates. Still, I think it's computer generated because a lot of the time they just don't make sense.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
19 Feb 09
The situation you are alluding to is actually a dynamic listof discussions that never stays static for long. The discussions listed will change pretty much every time you refresh the page! But the top rated discussion for the day remains as this for 24 hours and is then replaced with another the following day.
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• Canada
19 Feb 09
I guess Mylot has certain criteria for a discussion being listed as a "top discussion". One of them, I am sure, is the number of responses. It must have gone over that number, therefore qualified. Now, as to MY OPINION. I think that a one-sided conversation is NOT a discussion and it is reprehensible for the OP to just post something and WALK AWAY, without ever responding to any of their responders. If someone does that I am unlikely to respond to them again. I make it a point to respond to everyone that made the effort to read my discussion and respond. It is only fair. Good topic, James.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
19 Feb 09
I agree with you that the number of overall responses in a given period of time, is a major contributing factor. Actual ratings throughout the thread would be a factr as well, I'm sure. You'll get no argument from me in regards to a one-sided statement with responses and no replies NOT being a discussion as well! Give and take is what it should be all about; and in my opinion, any post that is completely one way traffic, shouldn't be in the running for the top rated discussion of the day. Thanks for your comments Annie.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
19 Feb 09
Well consider this, not everyone can come up with responses outside of saying something like "thanks for your response," "thanks," or something else along those lines. Mylot rules and guidelines as I'm sure you're aware of doesn't want responses along those lines where, because it's not adding any more value to the original discussion. What that be any better, I don't think it would, because it only takes up server space, and it still basically turns out to be a one-sided talk, and not a true discussion. You can say the same thing about the terminology of "friends" on here as well. Mostly everyone on here is not really friends, not by the real definition of the word. There are really more like acquaintances, but "friend" sounds better and is easier to spell as pronouce. It's all a business decision, it's how mylot stays profitable enough to pay it's active members.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
18 Feb 09
I see what you mean. I'm rather put out with admin right now as I've asked twice to have the digest sent to me so I can see my name in print, but so far they've ignored me.*sigh* Maybe I should go on strike?..................LOL
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
18 Feb 09
Well hells bells, it posted in the wrong place! Damn this site is messed up! Next thing you know they'll be featuring as top discussions, ones without responses! What kind of discussion is that for crying out loud!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
Double the fun then is it sparky? No need to go on strike! Jeez, it took me a while to dig up the treasure that is YOU as it is! And who knows what's around the corner..... Yep, discussions with no replies getting chosen as the top rated each day could be a definite possibility though! Ooooh, maybe multiple accounts owned by single troublemakers could come next too??? The horror, THE HORROR!
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
18 Feb 09
Horror is simply the other side of LOL don't you know! My dad and I used to watch the old black and white horror films together. We'd laugh and my mother would scream and we'd laugh some more and she'd go to bed with a headache! LOL Not much scares me anymore. But I sure would like to have a troll or two to play with..........
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@dawnald (84213)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Feb 09
Nope, I totally agree with you and I also wonder why people continue to give so many responses to people who do that.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
I don't understand it either to be honest. There have even been some members here that have thousands and thousands of friends in their lists that are viewed on outside forums as some kind of mylot Gods???? It's not really sending a very productive mssage to people now, is it? Thanks for the response Dawn.
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@dawnald (84213)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Feb 09
wow - there are myLot gods? how does one become one, I wonder? by ignoring your worshipers apparently... and there is my sarcastic remark for the day!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
Praise be to the sarcasm! * James lights a candle and bows his head accordingly * Only God himself knows how someone else becomes a mylot version! lol. But yes, playing numbers games and interacting with the smallest amount of people as possible seems to be at least two of the criteria.....
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@cyberfluf (5004)
• Netherlands
18 Feb 09
Yes, I do think it's a bit odd to not take the number of counter-responses as a standard to become in the highest rated list. Counter-responding makes a discussion a discussion, otherwise it's just question and answering. That's not the goal of mylotting, and therefore I feel there should be counter-responses as well to be in this list. It's indeed a bit odd.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
Exactly right, cyberfluf! A discussion is a conversation too and no conversation can exist if only one person is speaking alone! It really should be a 2 way street as much as possible of you're ever going to get the most out of it! For many offenders, it's once again this belief that quantity is more important than quality. And the thing is, if they did one tenth as many discussions and actually interacted with people in each, they'd earn MORE! And "discussions" that have no interactions should never be considered for the top rated award in my opinion. Thanks for your comments.
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@cyberfluf (5004)
• Netherlands
19 Feb 09
I agree, James. At least you do your part by posting this discussion, and me and the others responding here by supporting your statement. It's isn't likely that it will change indeed, but it does give out the wrong message you are right about that. And that's a pity because there can be so much fun, laughter, learning and sharing when a good discussion kicks off. Oh well, like you said.. nothing more than discussing is what we can do.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
19 Feb 09
The wonderful thing cyberfluf, is that this very discussion has been chosen as the top rated discussion for today! I couldn't have asked for a better way to be able to get my point across! Lead by example, yes? I'm very happy!
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@savak03 (6692)
• United States
20 Feb 09
When someone figures out how to make a discussion popular enough to garner a lot of comments would they please let me know? In fact I have just about decided that it is probably better for me if I just comment on other's discussions. I get more interaction from that than I do from starting my own. Oh well, sorry I have been so glum today. I'll get over it I'm sure.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
20 Feb 09
I wish I knew the secret formula for ensuring constant success with discussions savak, but I honestly have no idea! We all get glum every now and then, so yes, I'm sure you will feel better about everything soon. Tomorrow's another day right? Don't you go getting all defeatist on us now! Thanks for the comments and hang in there. You are much loved and you know that!
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@savak03 (6692)
• United States
20 Feb 09
Thanks James. I needed that shot in the arm. Sometimes life just gets us down I guess. I've got to go represent my daughter in court again today against the person who sold her this house. Oh well, at least I know how to behave in a court room.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
20 Feb 09
Ooooooh, you get to play Matlock! You are most welcome as always savak and I wish you success in the courtroom. Keep positive too! We all get down every now and then, but you have many of us here that are more than happy to lift you back up! You just gotta LET us!
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@patgalca (16781)
• Orangeville, Ontario
19 Feb 09
I'm not sure exactly what pertains to "top discussion". I have gone to the "today's top" tag and seen discussions that only have a couple of responses. How can that be considered top discussion? I honestly think these things are computer generated. As for everyone's comments about responding to all comments made to a discussion "you" started, I cannot respond to a comment if I have nothing to say. But the discussion is not just about me. If I start a discussion it is EVERYONE's discussion. The discussion can continue among all the members of myLot. That is still considered a discussion whether the discussion starter responds to all comments or not. Of course I will comment if I have something to add but I will not respond just to say thank you. Sorry, but it is time consuming and people reading the discussions get bored at seeing that response over and over again throughout one discussion. That's my take on it anyway. I don't think it's fair to delete a friend just because they don't respond to your discussions. What difference does it make if they are on your friends list or not? I will only delete if a person pesters me with messages to join their money making program. There are tons of people on my friends list who probably haven't even BEEN on myLot for months, or even years. I know I haven't seen them around and their numbers are pretty low. I don't find it necessary to delete them. They could turn up again sometime. Like someone else said, why are we paying so much attention to the numbers of it all? Just enjoy the ride.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
19 Feb 09
There are 2 different areas to note here patgalca. There is the "Top Discussions" list, which changes constantly throughtout the day; and then there's the "Top rated discussion" which remains listed as the overall top discussion for the day until it is replaced by another discussion 24 hours later. And I too am pretty sure that a majority of the calculations done to select these discussion are indeed computer generated, if not all of them! For the record, I will NOT delete a "friend" that never responds to my discussions. But I WILL delete someone who never acknowledges my own responses to their discussions with a reply. I basically have a 3 strikes your out rule on that front. It may seem harsh to some, but I am here to interact with people, not add text to someone's thread! And as for the repetitiveness that occurs sometimes with replying to one response after another, yes, it may be the 10 th time YOU have said something similar, but it's the FIRST time the responder has received your comments specifically for them. But I do understand it's not always possible to reply to everyone. But at least SOME replies are better than none at all! And for further clarification I've been "enjoying the ride" on mylot for close to 3 years now! Based on my own experiences, there are ways to participate in a positive manner; and ways to participate that are NOT in the spirit of this site. If my discussion here changes the mindset of even 1 member and makes them more interactive rather than numbers game focused, then I feel I've achieved something! Thanks for the response patgalca and I appreciate your other comments throughout the discussion too.
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@patgalca (16781)
• Orangeville, Ontario
19 Feb 09
I too have been here for over 3 years. I guess the reason it doesn't bug me so much is because I don't START a whole lot of discussions. I do respond to a lot where I feel I can answer/respond/contribute but I never get offended when the discussion starter doesn't respond to my comment. I look at it the other way around. I appreciate it when someone DOES respond. I guess I prefer to weigh the good with the bad, the positive with the negative. Happy for a response, shrug off if I don't. I certainly don't want to be guilted into making a response because of discussions like these (and believe me, yours has not been the first on this topic!) Everyone is here for different reasons on their own timelines. Some have hours to dedicate to the site, others pop in now and then a couple of times a day or a couple of times a week. I have seen discussions started where people were supposedly saying "good-bye" to myLot for some reason or another. Many people respond to those discussions trying to get them to stay, telling them to ignore the ignorants. In most cases the discussion starter responds to some of the responses but in one case recently I saw absolutely no response from the discussion starter. Guess they made a hasty exit and didn't bother to see what people had to say about their dicussion. That is the kind of discussion I would want to see if someone had something to say to me to keep me here or whatever. There can be incidences where someone starts a discussion and then disappears due to life, health or other reasons. I know you are then going to say, "Yeah, but I see them commenting on other discussions". Those aren't the people I'm referring to, obviously. Your discussion made it into the myLot Digest and is the only reason I even saw it. And I must say, on average, there would be three discussions a week in the Digest where I find a discussion I am interested in responding to. Congratulations! You got my attention.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
20 Feb 09
I'm happy I managed to grab your attention patgalca! I am not someone who starts a lot of discussions either, maybe one every few days or so on average? But I WILL reply to every response and will continue to do so as long as I am able. If the time comes that I cannot give my discussion this attention, then I'll become a responder instead and won't post any discussions anymore! My reasoning is not just based on exercising a common courtesy towards those that make the effort to respond. it's also all about exposure. The more activity I can generate within my discussion, the higher it will rank in the lists and I have the chance of getting even MORE responses! So in a sense, I guess I too am playing the numbers game somewhat, but I do believe I'm doing it in a far more positive way. And don't get me wrong, I'm certainly not a negative person! I too am very grateful for every response I get and I definitely don't focus mainly on the ones I DON'T get replies to. I just won't bother interacting with people anymore that repeatedly ignore my efforts to interact with them. Why should I bother with people like that? How long would you put up with meeting a friend in a cafe if every time you met, they never spoke to you? Wouldn't you go off and find someone that did? I see it the same way here, so will always act accordingly..... And by the way, I agree that many, many discussions have been done regarding people replying to responses. This discussion is not about that! It just so happened that many of the ongoing conversations within this discussion ended up focusing on this aspect. My angle is in relation to top rated discussion choices by mylot and how I feel that discussions with NO interaction by the poster, should NOT be considered. Even after all the viewpoits shared to date, I still maintain the same opinions on it. Thanks again for your inputs, they are much appreciated!
@Opal26 (17684)
• United States
19 Feb 09
Hey james! I totally agree with you! There are way too many people here that start discussions that never bother to get back to them at all and I don't think that is fair! I think that there should be a rule that all discussions need to have responders go back and comment to their discussions in order for them to be considered discussions. A discussion is not a discussion if it is a one way statement or question. I don't understand why mylot would pick them to be a highest rated for the day knowing that.
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• United States
19 Feb 09
I do believe that the poster has to make at least one or maybe it is two comments before that posting is credited to their earnings.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
19 Feb 09
Really? Now this I didn't know! I have noticed that we don't get a post point for a discussion until we reply, but I never knew about the earnings part. But why would people keep spamming out discussions without replying if this were the case?
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@kareng (31532)
• United States
18 Feb 09
That's a great observation, James72! I think that mylot should reconsider the values here because those kind of posts are not really showing participation from the poster. Not only is it one-sided but not fair to members who put in a lot of time and effort here keeping up with the discussions that they have started sending replies to EVERYONE that has answered their discussion. Sounds like a very good example of a rule that mylot.com needs to work on and reconsider. So, no--you are not being unreasonable at all.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
There have been a number of instances of this lately and I really did wish to bring it up. I agree that they do need to consider their selection criteria and also decide what's really important here. Is it positive and engaging interaction between members, or is it just activity for activity's sake? If it's activity in whatever form as the only thing that matters, then I guess I'm making a moot point! Anyways, I doubt they'll ever change anything, I'm just happy to have said my piece. Thanks for the response kareng.
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@kareng (31532)
• United States
18 Feb 09
Kudos, I'm glad you expressed your view :)
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
That was a quick reply kareng! Thanks for the encouragement.
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@Rosekitty (19387)
• San Marcos, Texas
18 Feb 09
In My year here JimmyJames..I've only been given this honor once and i feel i'm being discriminated against, so i plan on protesting after i reach adulthood.. Baking in the Kitchen with brownies..want some?
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
I am not sure how many times I've received this honour myself in the three years I've been here, but it's certainly not in double figures! But at least both you and I INTERACT with people who take the time to respond! Thanks for the comments Rose and yes, I'd love a brownie thanks. It's been days since I've had one and that's just not acceptable I'm afraid...... You'd better give me three actually!
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@Rosekitty (19387)
• San Marcos, Texas
18 Feb 09
Since no one else asked, you can have them all to get caught up to me....seems last night most were forgeting to sit down and haven't heard from them till this morning..
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
Whoo hoo! * James takes the entire plate and then defensively guards it's contents * Last weekend was incredibly quiet, Rose. I finally had some time free to go hard on here and very few people were around! Oh well, I have brownies now, so all's good!
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@Lore2009 (7386)
• United States
20 Feb 09
I often don't know how these people are chosen. There are times when I post different discussions and some topics are more popular than others and I don't know why.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
20 Feb 09
There is certainly no winning formula for ensuring our discussions are always popular. I've been a member for close to 3 years now and I have no idea how to be consistent on this front! lol. Sometimes we just get lucky. It could be timing. it could be any number of factors really. Anyways, as long as I get at least 1 response, then I'm generally happy these days! The discussions chosen as top rated by the way are decided by a number of background factors such as ratings, number of responses, time frame for those responses etc. I am not sure of the exact way, but it would be something along these lines. Thanks for the response Lore.
@Lore2009 (7386)
• United States
20 Feb 09
If you've been here for 3 years now and don't know.. I shouldn't know better than you! Haha. It's like playing Russian Roulette. Good luck.