What questions to asking a cheating husband?

Thank Janet. I was actually asking about what to ask when you already know that your spouse is cheating. But the list of signs of cheating is very extensive and well written out. Thank you for the information.

AHA!!! Well, then do what I did. "Will it end now or are we divorcing? If we are not divorcing, then will you go for counseling? If we don't, then we are divorcing."

Hi Janet, If only it was that simple. I'm more complicated and the situation is not so easily resolved when matters of the heart is concerned. I just wish that whatever decisions made is guided by the Divine Hand as He knows best.

Sorry I could not respond any earlier. What you would do is something I never did, but now that I read it again, it's funny. I did not slap him. But the words I said was as good as a tight slap. I told him that he has betrayed my trust and that even if we have family problems of our own, I do not go look for other men to find comfort in. I think it set him thinking about his actions. Well, I did ask a lot of questions and some of the answers are painful to hear, but I needed to accept the reality quickly, so I absorbed everything in order to understand the situation better. For my case, I think our situation can be resolved once he makes a decision, which hopefully is soon. I definitely will not throw things at him, that was what his mother did to his dad. Like father, like son. Not really sure though. I did not pack my stuff since he has promised that he would not let me and our daughter go. So it is now time for him to break off his relationship with the girl, which he finds very difficult to do.

Hi royal52gens, I'm sorry that yours did not turn out well and that it's ending in a divorce. I hope mine will not tread that path. I'm trying to work things out and help my husband see the steps towards making a decision about this problem. It's not easy. He's trying to work things out in his head and I do hope that he makes a rational decision that reflects clear thinking. He has been open to me about everything, and yes, the answers to my questions hurt a lot. I'm documenting everything that has been said so that I remember every single bit, at least most of it. I believe it is a good way to reflect upon them later. I still do trust him, despite what he has done to me, so I guess we can still work it out. I'm meeting the girl face-to-face soon, not to confront (since I already know the story), but to talk and let her face the reality literally. Thank you for your prayers, I really appreciate it.