Have you ever met someone there was just something about?

@JenInTN (27546)
United States
February 26, 2009 6:54am CST
I have met a few people along the way that there was just something about them that I did or didn't like. I'm not talking about a discision based on something they did or did not do. I mean when you initially meet them. It is very rare for me as I am open to all kinda of people but there have been a few that there was just something about them. Have you ever met someone like this? What are your thoughts about it?
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@se7enthbird (8322)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
of course jen, that is the natural. we call that in our own language [b]mainit ang dugo [/b] basically meant the blood is boiling. it means that from the first time you laid your eyes on that person that instant it made your blood boil. you feel that he/she is annoying even you dont know that person well enough. i just had a feeling like that last night and he was a singer who will jam with us for last night only (thank God it was just last night har har har). i didnt like him at all i just dont know why but i didnt like him
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@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
26 Feb 09
Hi se7enthbird! We don't have a name for it in our language as far as I know. What does it mean if it's the oppisite and you like someone immediantly? I bet you are glad that person was just a onenighter. It could cause friction within the band. Thanks for the response.
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• Philippines
26 Feb 09
if it is the other way around then it is called magaan sa pakiramdam that basically meant you are at ease with that person and you felt like you known that person forever. wow, i didnt expect you are interested on what it calls in our language when it was the opposite. i didnt see that coming but thank you for being interested on our language. thats kinda cool
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@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Thank you..I am very interested in languages. I have learned Spanish over the past couple of years and want to learn more. I truely value communication and I think it's cool your language has a name for these things.
@donsky14 (5961)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
Oh yeah, I've met some people who I really disliked from the first time I saw them. I don't know why...guess its bad blood?
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@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
26 Feb 09
I can't explain it either. I have always been told though to follow my first instinct. I have met people that I liked right off the bat too and for no good reason at all. Bad blood is a good way of putting it. Thanks for responding.
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@donsky14 (5961)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
No prob.
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@hanasays (212)
• United States
26 Feb 09
I have met people I instantly disliked. While a few of them were able to change that impression, for the most part my impression usually turns out to be correct. I'm inclined to go with my gut, but everybody deserves a chance to turn a bad first impression around. I think a lot of it may have to do with context cues. The surroundings you meet someone in may have a big influence on your perception of them. For example, you probably won't be enamored of someone you meet at the city dump, or some other unpleasant location. I think that body language is a huge part of it, though. You pick up on a lot of subconscious clues about someone through their body language, like "This person is aggressive" or "This person may be lying". Pheremones may also play a part in it, even though we can't consciously perceive those smells, we might dislike someone who smells "nervous". I've also met people I liked right away. I admit that whether or not someone is attractive influences my perception of them, as well as whether the surroundings are pleasant or not. But some people instantly come across as open and likeable. That's why meeting people on the internet is so weird... you don't have all of those things to base your impression of them off of.
@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Thanks for such an in depth response and very intelligant observation. I like the way you have brought all the aspects into your response such as science,etiquitte,and environment. I think your right about meeting people online.It's hard to be sure about them..it's a toss up. Thanks again and I look forward to your responses in the future.
@cripfemme (7710)
• United States
26 Feb 09
I have known people I've either loved or hated on sight. I don't know why, but I (as you said) liked or disliked. One time, I even disliked the person when I saw their phone number. I always think that when that happens it's the universe talking to me. I try to honor those moments. Bad things happen me when I don't.
@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Hi cripfemme! I think that we all have that second sense about someone or a situation. Sometimes it seems not so important but the moment we don't honor it is the moment we regret it. These feelings have to be there for a reason. Thanks for responding.
26 Feb 09
yes defintly i have and im still traumatized from the experience because its been a yr now and i havent heard from this guy and for some reason i still beleive i will, he was like and angel i hd the most craziest feelings going on inside everytime we would talk.
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@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Sounds like you had a lot of chemistry going on. It can make for the best memories..or the worst. I hope they are the best for you and that you hear from him soon. When there is just something about them..well...if it's meant to be it will be. Thanks for responding and welcome to Mylot!
@lilybug (21145)
• United States
26 Feb 09
I have met a few people that I instantly disliked. I am never really sure why at first, but the longer I know someone the more that feeling that I dislike them is there. In that same regard I have met a few people that I have instantly liked. My son's old babysitter for example. Had we not moved she would have still been watching him. We recently moved back to the area, so she will be watching the kids again.
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@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
I have had the same experiance. I have met those I have disliked instantly and those I have loved on sight.lol..It is strange how there is just something about them. I'm glad your getting your old babysitter back. It's important they are special. Thanks for the response.
• United States
26 Feb 09
jenInTN, I do have some experience like this when i came newly to US. I came here before 2 years. If i see some people i feel i hav seen them long time and i some how like them. but i feel to talk to them outspokenly but i get frustrated what will they ill think about me and just leave it behind. The whole day i would be thinking about them as days passes i'll try to forget them............. Rathi
@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Hi Rathi! I hate you have been disappointed. It is a shame that you have tried to be so open only to face closed doors. Don't let it bother you. People are sometimes cold. I hope you make more friends soon and if you don't..you still have us here.
@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
26 Feb 09
I'm not big on instincts, for myself. I have a hard time trusting others. But once I met a guy. He was literally gorgeous!! I automatically hate those, they usually think so highly of themselves. But this one, I automatically trusted him. Very unusual for me. So, being the suspicious sort I am, I tried to find things wrong with him. I didn't stalk him, just watched him at work. He was unfailingly kind, even to the snarkiest people. Had a sense of humor that he kept bottled up tight. Took ribbing very well, even though we were quite rude. Listened to people complain about him that knew him. The things they said about him made me like him even more. I started to respect him, and that ain't normal for me either! I think he was just so darn nice, it oozed out of him. That's why I reacted by trusting him. (I dislike those automatic feelings)
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@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
I have met those "to good to be true" people too. I am suspicous of them too. Sometimes they are who they seem but more than they are,they are not. I am leary of the times when I automatically like someone too..at least to the point I trust them fully. It is dangerous..I understand. Thanks for responding.
@syankee525 (6293)
• United States
26 Feb 09
yeah from my life style growing up and running the streets i had to learn to read people. but i have met many that i didn't care for, because they seem to be fake, or stuck up, thinking they are better then everyone esle. now i have met some even though whatever thier pass or who they are i found to be real and have respect. but pretty much with me, if you ever met me. i am about as real as can be, what you see is what you get. i like pretty much everyone until they give me a reason not too.
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@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
26 Feb 09
Hi syankee! Maybe that is what it is. A sense of someone that is not real. I'm like you. I am down to earth and myself. I also respect people until they give me a reason but on the rare occasion..I've met that person there was just something about. Thanks for the response.
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@hotsummer (10526)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
yes i have someone who i think is really hard to forget. i just don't know there is something about this person as i get older the more i get to like the person. it is just strange actually. i can't really pinpoint out what is really something in there that i really liked about the person. i tried to deny it or fight over it. but the more i fight the feeling the more it gets stronger. and after years of fighting over the feeling. i just accepted the fact that i can't over this person no matter what i do.
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@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Sounds like your in a tough place with this person you knew. There are those that have something about them that draw us to them. A chemistry you feel you may never share with anyone else. It's tough when you are effected that way. Maybe you should call themThanks for the response.
@hotsummer (10526)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
that person is a very nice person but not that talkative. and so being a quite person myself i didn't try to be friendly with that person. but that person did make an effort to get close to me. but i just tried to ignore it cause i thought he was just trying to be nice and didn't mean to be something special in my life. it was just too late when i realize the things i could had if i did entertain that person. and in a way i drove the person away by not showing interest at all. now i don't know where that person has gone now. i feel sorry or totally sorry for myself until now that i didn't give my self the chance to be some special person to that person's life. it had been such a long time ago but the memory of our last meeting was still as fresh as the day it happened.
@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
That's to bad you don't know where they went. Well..heads up friend..I believe that everything works out for a reason and I think that if that person was meant to be in your life..you'll run a cross them again. It may be a while but when you do..remember I said that..lol
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
24 Mar 09
Oh yeah, I have met a few of them. It is just bad vibes when you meet with them. You cannot put the finger on what is it about these people that you do not like or you do like. But the feeling is just there. Yeah... and I particularly hate it when I meet with some one that has bad vibes with mine. Cos most of the time, it is a feeling that is just on the dot. Worst if they are your superiors in the work place. You just cannot avoid these people!
@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
25 Mar 09
That's true..within the workplace it can be really tough. These feelings are often felt between both parties and if they are your superiors it's worse. Thanks for responding.
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
25 Mar 09
You are most welcomed my friend!
• China
27 Feb 09
yeah! i got the same feeling about some kind of person.and you know what?one of them is my roomates,i have to meet him every day.he is the person that dislike so much that i even don't speak a word to him .but he actually doesn'tdo anything bad to me,the reason why i don't like him maybe because his personality.almost two years past,i still feel nothing better about him,i think this condition will last until my college is over!
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@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Wow...your roommate? That's rough. How much longer do you have friend? I would hate to share a room with someone I felt negativly about. Especially if they hadn't turned it around in a two year period. Thanks for the response and hang in there.
27 Feb 09
There are many different factors that can make you feel that there are some bad vibes or negativity around someone. However, most of us have experienced someone who just didn't seem right some how. Example: A person who you just met reminds you of bully you went to grade school years ago. Although the person may or may not be a bad person the past experience was negative and therefore, we've unknowingly or knowingly associated that person we just met with that negative experience.
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@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
I can relate to that and it certainly makes a lot of sense. Thanks for the response and welcome to MyLot!
@chenaiyh (228)
• China
27 Feb 09
yeah,sometime,i met people at first time,i will feel like or dislike. but when i think this carefully,i find many of them make me remember another one i know,and then,i will have the same feel for them just like for the guys they like. but i really don't know why they can make me remember the guys i known.
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@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
That's an intreesting observation. Maybe these people we meet remind us whether we realize it or not. Thanks for the input.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
27 Feb 09
I know what you mean. As an example there is one of the mothers at my daughter's school who gives me a real negative feeling and I just don't feel comfortable around her. She looks and speaks really nicely and is always very polite; she has never done anything bad to me and I feel really awful for not liking her because I can't explain it. Fortunately I don't meet too many people who have that effect on me. I have encountered others who have the opposite effect too of course. I am quite a friendly person who makes friends relatively easy but I cannot explain certain encounters. I put it down to chemistry between people I guess.
@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
There is definately a certain chemistry that can be very strong. Like you I feel bad when I have these initial feelings about someonne and don't understand their origin. I have also really liked someone right away. Thanks for the response.
• India
27 Feb 09
i often take an instant liking for some people and at times i just dislike some people for no reason in particular. It is instant bonding or revulsion. some of course i remain neutral to. First impression is often a lasting impression and is difficult to change.
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@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
I agree mercuryman. It is rare that I get feelings about people I barely know but when I do,it is hard to change them or even put the effort in to do it. Thanks for the response.
• China
27 Feb 09
Hi JenInTN, truely to say, i have the similar experience, but only for the people who i dislike, but the situation like this seems rare. I chose to judge a people after i have some understanding about he or she in order to not be cheat only by the first impresstion. Maybe someone looks like so callous in surface but he is very kind in fact.
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@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
I agree. I hate to think I would misjudge someone based on a first impression. Thanks for the response.
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
Hi Jen.I've come across some people like that too.Most of the time,it's got something to do with their eyes or body language.I would normally tell myself that I may be wrong but for some reason,I just know that I wouldn't get along well with that person. Thanks...Happy mylottin!
@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
It very well may be in the eyes. Alot of people have suggested eyes and body language as possible reasons for these feelings. I'm not sure what it is but it sure can be very strong either way. Thanks for the input.
@mommyboo (13197)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Yes. I have met people before and they make the hair on the back of my neck stand up. I know this might sound silly but it's like they creep me out. It doesn't happen often and it doesn't even mean they are nasty people, but if they make me feel 'icky', I don't want to be near them.
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@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
I know what you mean mommyboo! It does make us not want to be around them when we get those weird feelings. But on the other hand I have met people that I loved to be around instantly. Thanks for responding.
• United States
27 Feb 09
I've met a couple of people in my life time that were just "off". I tend to keep my ears and eyes open, and if it is proven to be true, then I generally back away from them.
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@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Hi Anora! I don't have these feelings often either but there have been a few that made me feel like I didn't really want them as a part of my life. Like you there is usually a good reason arise that makes me feel like my initial feelings were justified. Thanks for the response.