How (and Why?) does a person have over 1800 friends?!

Who knows? I would and then when they spam me, bye bye bye. Did I sell you a bridge yet? Or was it a swamp? Can't remember...

No I never accept anyone as a friend if they have (IMO) too many friends. That is first thing I check in their profile and if the ratio between the length of time they have been a myLot member and the number of friends they have is high then that is an automatic denial. I do not need to bother checking their profile any further.

i would have them as a friend regardless of how many friends they have, but not if they had a lot of spam. i would not want all that spam to start coming to me.

nope, he or she is no friend of mine!

I guess that they go around reading others discussions, and end up liking them, so they want to hook up with that person to start a friendship. That is my guess.

I know just who you are talking about. I accepted the offer, mostly because I was curious as to what he/she is doing. No discussions have been started or responded to for about 3 years, but in the last couple of weeks more than 200 friendship requests have been accepted. Who knows how many have been declined or are still pending? I was thinking that perhaps it was an old Boomertowne buddy, since at that site you were 'paid' to add friends and accept offers.

that does not make sense at all, other than the person only makes discussions and expects all those people to respond to him or her.

I am very picky now who I accept on my friends list for a few reasons. I don't understand having the 1800 friends as well??? I like to be treated fairly and because I know I have serious health issues I can't be here 24/7 and I want to answer as many posts my friends start because as you can check out my friends here treat me pretty good. Thank You my dear friend.

Dear friend, I do hope making friends that are much liked by those who like friendship. Moreover to get a good friend is another good part. But those friends which we feel uncomfortable is better to avoid so that it may not lead to further problems in future. Also it may become tolerating that friend rather liking his company.

Hi rocketj1! haha..I just accepted the friendship. LOL! I didn't checked the profile first before approving. I thought she was a newcomer here and I am willing to support her discussions as I have been supported here when I was a newbie. Then when I got curious (after I already approved the friend request),I opened her profile and I was surprise to see that she has many, many friends and that she has been a member here longer than me. I was kinda wondering how can she have a thousand friends and only have 35 posts behind her name. Just wondering now. take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith

I don't have an answer for your question. A profile full of spam comments sure wouldn't win my friendship.

no, i wouldn't. hope u are doing o.k. not much going on around here. jo

i can see how it could creep up there, but i don't know how to keep them straight. Most of mine are not very active so even though I have quite a few not many post.

I tend to question friend request from people in the low posts (up to 100ish). Mostly, if I don't remember them from a discussion I go through their posting history and see where they might have found me to add me. If we have never posted on the same topic, they get ignored. But someone with over 100 posts... I don't even want to bother skimming through their history so I just accept them. The more friends you have the more friends will respond to your discussions and the more friends you have to follow around posting on discussions they started or they commented on

When I get friend request like that I deney them. It sounds like that person just wants to get a big friends list. I used to automatically accept all friends request, now I look to see their post count and how many friends they have. In fact the other day I went thru some of my friends list and deleted some. I don't need a big list of friends, I would rather have a smaller list and get to know the people. That to me is a friend.

i wouldn't accept a friend full of spam comments..they probably have that many friends to spam them..honestly tho...i accept whoever requests me i never check out their profile.

Phew...rocketj1....I guess that this really is a "no brainer", as the specs certainly must indicate that there is something out of order here! There is something really weird, going on here, and lots of it lately, I have had (as I wrote about) one truly strange friend request, have not denied that person, but the profile has been deleted...now, I have 2 more friend requests, and I am sure it is the same person, just with 2 new profiles! Can't prove it! There is absolutely nothing there, is there that indicates this could be right? I am so leary now, I am afraid to add new friends, with minimal posts, as I can't gleen much out of a few posts! Maybe I am being to careful, but now I want to read a lot of their posts....as they can truly "ruin our reputation" here by their comments on your discussions!

Hi ya 'H' Hmm very interesting and yet quite suspicious don't you think? I am terrible I accept everyone's invite to be their friend without checking there profile, maybe this is why I got myself into the spamming situation I did the other day LOL. To be honest the spammer wasn't on my friend's list and his highly unlikely to ever make it on there either LOL Like in the 'real' world, I am willing to be friends with everyone until they prove themselves unworthy of my friendship!

I don't think I would add them, more because of the spam than the huge, arbitrary friends list. I pick friends who have similar interests or who give good responses. I want to be able to go through my 'friends started' list of discussions and have what I consider the best discussions on Mylot, I don't want to go through a list that has a thousand different discussions on making extra money on the internet.

Sounds really strange to me, although i am new here and i did not notice anyone having such a number of friends and yet the posting is way far from the friends list. Is there any reason that he is just here for catching friends more than participating in discussions.? Or just what you have said, a spammer, or a troll or something else. I am confuse too of what will happen to our account if there are such existing ghostly members