Today I got the news............

@celticeagle (124390)
Boise, Idaho
March 20, 2009 1:28am CST
My daughter is with child. This is her fourth child. Neither her or the father have jobs. I asked her if she was happy about it and she said she was. So I am happy for her. She also said she is going to talk to the doctor about getting her tubes tied. I hope so! Would you be over joyed? I am sad. She isn't real motherly. Pretty selfish and one minded. We really don't need more children in the world. We need to take care of what we have. Does it seem odd for grandma not to be more excited about the news?
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@mommyboo (13191)
• United States
25 Mar 09
She isn't motherly? Did they not really want this baby? Did they not really plan nor expect any of the children? Where are they living? I just feel a bit bad for the kids - if their parents really didn't want them. It can't be easy taking care of 3 kids without an income... sigh. Because of the way you described her, I'm not sure I'd be happy either. I think I'd be worried about them. How is her relationship, are she and the father together? Do they support each other and parent the children together? Yep, I'm just a little sad. Earlier today I responded to a thread from a lady who wishes she could just GET PREGNANT. For ONCE. I also read one about limiting kids - mostly based around preventing people who cannot afford (financially/physically/emotionally) kids from having them, and trying to reduce all the unwanted unloved uncared for kids that are in the world already.
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@celticeagle (124390)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Mar 09
Well, it is neither here nor there now because my daughter had a miscarriage day before yesterday. I like it when fate takes a hand and this time I think it is was best. Thanks for your imput.
• India
24 Mar 09
You are absolutely correct grandma,iam proud to know that we have such undersatnding grandmas in the world,we should really take care of what we have instead of having more and taking care of none. just try to explain her ,i hope she will understand after alll she is the daughter ofsuch an intelligent mom. happy my lotting
@lkbooi (16093)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 09
Hi celticeagle, nowadays lots of things are totally different from those in the previous time. People during those older days didn’t have to worry much about their children even a family had more than five as long as they could earn enough to feed them. Most the kids during having fun and spent their leisure time playing in the natural outdoor environment. At this present modern world we have to take good care of the kids as there are lots of temptation around and they will easily attract by those people who have malicious motive to hunt for the preys to earn their daily expenses, especially when kids are staying online alone, or hanging in the mall, or mixing with others. Without proper love and caring of parents, kids will go to bad easily as well. Anyway kids will go wrong easily because of the poor environment. So besides giving them the primary cares, and essential basic needs, like food, education and etc, there are still a lot to worry about. It is not easy to bring up a healthy and happy kid both in mental and physical. No wonder you would feel happy after learning that your daughter is going to get her tubes tied after the birth of the 4th kid. Happy posting and take care.
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
21 Mar 09
Are you sad that she is having another child or sad because she wants to get her tubes tied? As mothers we are concerned for our children and grand children, we want the best for them. With the 2 of them not employed, that will not be easy for them, or their children. I believe you are concerned as you say she is not motherly. I am sure you would love her to be a better mom to the 3 children she has right now. Who knows maybe she will be a better mother to all of them. One can only pray that that happens.
• United States
21 Mar 09
Well, my mom was not exactly happy when she found out I was pregnant with my first, second, third or fourth. She felt like children were burdens and that I did not need any more kids. Maybe I didn't but I was happy about all of my kids, even though their dads were sorry as heck. I was single, still am, but I love my kids and would not trade them for all the money in the world. But you said she is not the motherly type? well if that is the case, then I feel sorry for the kids because they need all the love they can get and more importantly, they need it from their mom. They need a good role model. But dont worry, everything will be ok. God will be looking out for the kids. So, to answer your question, it is not odd because maybe you see that the kids are not in the right environment. It is natural to be concerned. I think as long as you show love to the kids, then they will always know that they have a good role model..You. When you see that beautiful baby, hopefully your sadness will turn to joy..remember, it is not the childrens fault that they were born, they are here and need to be loved and cherished. Kids are God's gifts to us and we should take every opportunity to make their lives better that we can.
@winterose (39893)
• Canada
21 Mar 09
no I don't find that it is odd at all. The woman has more than she can provide for now. It is good that she will get her chords done, that shows responsibility. From what you explained to me, I would feel the same way.
• China
20 Mar 09
A common society phenomenon, no jobs, but have a lot kids. Take it easy, they'll overtake the problem. i suggest u enjoy ur own life, and best wishes to you all!*_^
@Opal26 (17684)
• United States
20 Mar 09
Hi celticeagle~ Under the circumstances, I do not blame you for feeling apprehensive and not too happy about your daughter being pregnant again. I can definitely see your point. You are thinking about it logically and how it will be a great burden financially on the family. I don't feel that what you said is one bit wrong. You are just stating the facts. How will they support another child if neither parent is working and they already have three other children?
@UK_Shree (3604)
20 Mar 09
I don't think it's odd. It seems that you just want the best for your grandkids and ofcourse your daughter.
@animestan (323)
• Canada
20 Mar 09
I hope your daughter is happy, but is she financially capable of handing the children (no idea what age), is she mentally capable of handing the children (refers to age/maturity) but you know be happy
@minnie_98214 (10558)
• United States
20 Mar 09
It sounds like she shouldnt be having anymore so I can understand you not being overjoyed by the news. I hope it all works out okay. I bet you end up babysitting alot?
@Lakota12 (42678)
• United States
20 Mar 09
not really when ya know they need jobs more than another baby. adn not motherly? What is happeneing to the kids she has. ? If she happy I guess ok but does need the tubes tied. I Wouldnt give anything for my grand daughter that lives with me and miom and dad. we are buying the house together. But I really wasnt happy about it when she told me she was pg again she has just lost 2 a few months before. and was high risk. for her age. she was 39 . And the way her and her hubby were I didnt think they could handle a baby . She never been around kids. and HIs dad beat his kids but also never really raised this boy he was on own at age 15. I know I holler some but they get on my nerves when they do it lol.
@GardenGerty (128854)
• United States
20 Mar 09
I understand your feelings about this. I have seen it often. Babies should come into a world of love and attention. They need to be provided for. I do hope she gets her tubes tied.