Do you care what people think about you?

@JenInTN (27545)
United States
March 25, 2009 5:44pm CST
Do you watch your P's and Q's when you are in public because you worry what someone might think of you? Do you act a different way than you do when your home? Is it a thought in your mind what the perfect stranger may say about you to a friend? There are a lot of people that let this bother them and then there are those that could care less what a stranger thinks. I'm not referring to anything in particular. I'll leave that up to you if you'd like to share. Do you care?
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
26 Mar 09
i really could care less. i prefer for people to like me but if they don't not much i can do about that.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
26 Mar 09
Your right jo! We have limited control over how they feel about us. Might as well not worry over it huh? Thanks for responding.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
26 Mar 09
only sad thing about them not liking us they just don't know what they are missing. lol
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
26 Mar 09
That's true!
@blueunicorn (2408)
• United States
26 Mar 09
I try not to care, but I do. I think everyone does to an extent. The basic fact of life is that our homes are where we can relax and really be ourselves. In public there are certain "rules" that need to be followed. For example, at home I don't always wear a shirt. In public I couldn't get away with that. No one would guess that about me if they know me.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Our homes are our havens. As far as clothing..I'm with you. I dress very differently at home than I do in public. Thanks for responding.
• United States
26 Mar 09
I really don't care what people think mostly because I don't have time to reflect on something so trivial, and besides, I wasn't placed on this planet as a trained monkey to make people happy all the time because I know for a fact that no one can make everyone happy all the time. Don't get me wrong, I'm very polite and friendly to people in public and naturally have a great sense of humor and keep people laughing but I don't try to impress people because I have other things on my mind.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Thanks for the response. Life is very busy for me too. I think that's a good thing where this subject is concerned. It is trivial.
• China
26 Mar 09
"I dont care"I always say so,but its not truth,because I act in a totally different way when home and in public.Also my close friends and strangers always have a different impression on me.Friends says I am a really nice guy who was considerate and thoughtful but a stanger may think I am a little hard to talk with.I do care what people considering of me.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
26 Mar 09
I think we are all guilty of saying..I don't care..but in truth most of us do and adhere to the ways of others for acceptance. It is age old. Thanks for the honesty.
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@missybear (11393)
• United States
26 Mar 09
Unless it's family or friends I really couldn't care less what someone thinks about me. If you don't like the way I am or how I do things then I guess just MOVE ON. I like the question
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
26 Mar 09
Thanks missybear! I have heard the statement so much and at times have felt judged..I wanted too get everyones input from here..see what people had to say about it. I like your attitude about it.
@luvmysons (497)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I could really care less what a stranger thinks of me.. The only people that matter are my friends and family. If they love who I am then why should I care. You are who you are and you shouldnt have to act differently just to please anyone..
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
26 Mar 09
Well said luvmysons. It's true you shouldn't have to act differently to please others but there are a lot of people that feel you should. I'm glad you don't let these things bother you. Thanks for the response.
• United States
25 Mar 09
Truthfully i am the same person all the time. I do not care what people think about me. If they like me, they like me for who i am. I dont change who i am when i am in different places. I am me loud & proud.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
26 Mar 09
LOL..loud and proud huh? Well...I think it's admirable that you are the same person all the time. Thanks for the response.
@se7enthbird (8322)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
i am what i am. take it or leave it. sometimes my wife tells me to keep some of my thoughts to myself or to keep it up to her atleast. well we are married for 6 years already and i can say that now i shut uo when i dont have something nice to say. before i was to tactless for a guy. har har har. i say what i want no matter if it will hurt or not. 3 years ago our band lost a good female vocalist because of my tactless. i told her something that hurt her feelings that for me was just a joke. what can i say... im an ogre. har har har
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
26 Mar 09
Hi se7enthbird! Some people can be very sensitive and put a lot of stock into what people say about them. I also respect honesty though.Sometimes it is better to hold a little to ourselves when it involves others. Thanks for the response.
@pricelis (86)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I don't think I really care about that as much as I used to. People gab so much and think what they want about other people. I've gotten to where I only worry about what I and God think about me. In the end we'll be the only ones that really matter anyway.
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
26 Mar 09
Thanks for the response pricelis!People can be very judgemental. It can be tough to deal with if you let it get to you. I respect your strength.
@Veriteigh (126)
• Canada
25 Mar 09
I'm learning to not give a **** what people think of me. It doesn't really matter. I'm trying to walk the walk.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
26 Mar 09
It's hard if you give a flip to begin with I think. To change that perception of things. Walking the walk is definately a start. Thanks for the response.
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I generally try not to act like an idiot in public as I do not like it when others do it. So, I guess that I do watch my PEES and QUES!!
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
26 Mar 09
LOL..well..I watch my pees and ques in public for the most part too. I hear people all the time saying they don't care what others think then get angry when someone thinks something about them. Thanks for responding.
@nery00 (121)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I am pretty much the same where ever I am. It depend on my mood that day if I feel silly and Im making a fool of myself to make someone laugh I really dont care who is there. mainly because if it is a stranger I might never see them again so it wont affect me in any way. not that I hold back with people I do know :)
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
26 Mar 09
Hi nery! Thanks for responding. It's nice to be yourself.
@benny128 (3621)
25 Mar 09
Nah I am me lol, I never try and hide who I am and I dont really care what people think of me to be honest. Even here on mylot I answer the discussion straight from the heart not the head. The way I see it if someone doesnt like me then it aint really my problem lol, happy mylotting and be true to yourself.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
26 Mar 09
Hi benny! Thanks for the response. It sounds as though you are very comfortable with yourself and that's a great trait.
@bombshell (11265)
• Germany
26 Mar 09
i dont care Jen because we are living in a free world thats why even i am old i pose and pose til menopause.i dont care what people say as long as i am happy so my family happy too
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@krajibg (11932)
• Guwahati, India
26 Mar 09
I go all eye to rye with you B'shell. after all this is our lives. Let people speak what they like and this is for sure that they are not your well wishers. So what ro care and why to care?
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Heyya bombshell! Thanks for the response! I like the way you think. Keep posing my friend.
@bombshell (11265)
• Germany
27 Mar 09
ohh yes Jen i will keep posing
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
26 Mar 09
Oh yes, I do mind my P's and Q's now a days. Used to not be bothered and it got me into hot soup over and over again. After an expensive lesson in life, I am now mindful of it. And it is important to be minding your P's and Q's!
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Thanks for sharing. I can see why you would mind them if you've been in hot water.
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
31 Mar 09
Yeah... tell me about it. And the worst part of it is, you did not know you are in hot water till it is too late! So minding your Ps and your Qs are very important!
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Mar 09
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@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
26 Mar 09
Hi! Jen! I think I almost behave in the same manner privately and publicly. I cannot be a different person at a Public place, my conduct remains the same. It is, therefore, I do not bother much, what others are thinking about me. I know I behave decently and even then if someone has any complaint towards me, I cannot help it. What about you? Do you care?
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Hi deepak! I think it depends on the situation for me. I also act in the same ways at home that I do in public and have been reared with very good manners. I don't bother myself for the most part but if it is a job related misunderstanding I might be more inclined to worry. Thanks for the response.
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@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
30 Mar 09
Great to know that you behave in the same manner, while at public place as you do at your home and you donot bother much. I do believe that you know what to do and where to do it.
• United States
28 Mar 09
I mind my P's & Q's at work or at my kids school. But otherwise no, I dont' care what a stranger thinks as one spends their tweens-early twenties worrying what everyone thinks of them from fashion to grades ect. I'm an adult and I really don't care if they think I"m this or that... I'm married with kids & a stay-at-home mom I have no one to impress so why put all the effort to do so?
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
28 Mar 09
It's true I think we worry more about these things when we are young. Once we realize who we are and are comfortable with it..we tend to worry ourselves alot less. Thanks for responding.
@karbuks (270)
• Philippines
28 Mar 09
"we cannot please everybody" i know that somewhere out there, there are people who really dont like me no matter how kind i am to them. i usually act as what i am and i know that there is a big chance that some people will not like me at all, well, there is also a big chance that i dont really care. After all, i am here on earth to live my life as i want it to be. as they say the golden rule is pleasing God and not those people who are the " second rate opinion takers " hehehe..
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
28 Mar 09
Thank you for the input karbuks! You sound like a very independent person. That's a wonderful trait to have. Take care.
@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
28 Mar 09
Yes and no. I don't act too much different than I do at home, although I try to hold down the swearing. I don't do it that often at home, except when I'm hurt. I just can't help myself when I slam the hammer on my finger! In public, I'll just mumble under my breath instead of saying it!
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
28 Mar 09
Hi snowcat! I think it's yes and no for me too. It depends on the situation and how I feel at the time. Thanks for the response.
@celticeagle (124393)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Mar 09
WAY TOO MUCH! I don't worry about how I act, allitle about how I am perseved. Mostly it was how my kids acted. Hyperaction from an early ages my daughter was a hand full. She wouldn't stand or sit still, she was always bothering people and I was overly correcting. I think I act about the same as when I am at home. More polite in public. I hear the word 'sweet' alot when people describe me which embarrases me alittle. I can be a tough and nasty ole bird too but rarely show that side of myself. I don't really care what people think of me but I want my kids thought well of and I always try to put my best foot forward for the most part.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
28 Mar 09
I think that I care way to much on occasion too. I'm glad you brought up that it's not the way we act sometimes that we worry about..it's an in general kinda thing. I don't worry about that at all. I think I worry about my children's image more than my own too. Thanks for the response!