COUGARS: What do you think of middle-aged women who prefer dating younger men?

@inkyuboz (1392)
Mandaluyong City, Philippines
March 29, 2009 2:30am CST
I like the term, "cougars". The images of a fierce tigress pouncing on an unsuspecting prey is weirdly fascinating. OK, I don't want to sound creepy, but that's just how I feel. Regarding the topic, what are your opinions about these "hot mommas" and is it really liberating? I mean, I know this woman who said she feel she's in her younger years again and that 40 is indeed the new 20. Is being a cougar "hot" or not? Discuss.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
29 Mar 09
Hey inkyuboz! It all depends on the woman. I don't really think that I particularly like the term "cougars" myself! It is somewhat disrespectful! I don't think much of women who date men who are 20 years yonger they are or more! My boyfriend is 11 years younger than I am and even that is a bit too much so I can't see a bigger age gap then that! It is ok for a woman to feel young, but a 40+ year old women is not cute acting like they are 20!
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
29 Mar 09
I don't like the term couger either.
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@jerzgirl (9208)
• United States
29 Mar 09
First of all, inky, MILF has a worse connotation than "cougar". And, we're NOT all MILFs by anyone's definition. Secondly, not everyone in a May-December relationship planned it that way. It's not just for the hormones. Sometimes, believe it or not, it's for the heart. Any stereotype can be risky, so please don't make too many assumptions about those of us who have younger men.
@inkyuboz (1392)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
29 Mar 09
Regarding "cougars", I think it's a better term compared to the four letter acronym which starts with M and ends with F. You know what I mean.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
29 Mar 09
I think it's ok but it's not so much for me. I will say though that more younger guys have pursued my interest at the age I am now than ever before..lol..Maybe the couger is not so much the hunter but the prey as well..lol I think it really depends on the situation and the age difference. I think I would have a problem dating someone Alot younger but some younger would be ok.
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@inkyuboz (1392)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
29 Mar 09
Yeah it is OK. It's actually our society which looks down on it. Sometimes the people around us can be so harsh.
@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
hi inkyuboz! well, honestly, i am in my mid-30s now, well at least almost, and i i like the idea of still looking good and fit even in my later years. i just gave birth to my first child, about 3 weeks ago, and i am itching to shed the pounds that i gained to get back to my pre=pregnancy self. but as for dating younger men, i am kind of balking at the idea. no offense meant to those who prefer younger men, but seriously for me, i don't think they are my cup of tea. i would feel awkward with them, i mean, gee, especially those that can be young enough to become my son. my husband is younger than me, too, but just by months, not by a dozen years. i like the thought of older men and younger women, but not as old as 30 years older, okay? hehe take care and God bless you! happy mylotting! :d
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@inkyuboz (1392)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
29 Mar 09
Yeah, it does sound different when you see an older man with a younger woman. How come there's a disparity between those two? I really don't understand. I mean it seems unfair, and yet it's the norm and society seems to look down on age differences, especially if it's the woman who's older. I wish somebody can enlighten me on that...
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
29 Mar 09
I say, "go for it" if an older woman dates a younger man. But I also can see that a relationship might not be the future for a couple with a big age difference. Being a female, I can certainly understand why a female would want to be with a younger man even if it's for an evening.
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• United States
29 Mar 09
i think its about time its our chance to do it.. i mean older men have always gone after young women so why not?? some women are better with age because they are mature and know what they want
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@youetme (351)
• China
30 Mar 09
I am a mid-age woman. I am 33years old now. But I don't think that I am like a tigress or a cougars . Some boys who are younger than me are hunting for me . For me I don't mind that I get along with younger boy but I want a lasting relationship .So I must be cautious and open my eyes ,he he he
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@inkyuboz (1392)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
30 Mar 09
Ha ha. I know there are guys out there who would prefer older women because they're not as finicky as those within their age range. "Less drama, more love". ^__^
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
29 Mar 09
I don't think age matters in love or dating. I think all that matters is mind of people and the love. I think time has come to change the age restrictions in dating and love. I think it okay for middle age woman to date younger man as long as they both are feeling it is okay.
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
I have nothing against women dating younger men because women different from each other,but personally, when a little younger will do but very huge gap such 40 and 20,I'm not sure many will be against such relationship but it happens in reality.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
29 Mar 09
Hi inkyuboz, i think it is ones own taste and choice. I guess it is o:k when a 50+ male runs after a 20 something female, so why not the other way around? Finally it all comes down to ones own personal choices and one cant go round judging a person based solely upon their choice of partners. there is definitely more to a person than her choice of partners and their age - my two cents worth
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
30 Mar 09
haha I don't know that I like that term "courgar" so much but if it all works out then kudos for them. Quite frankly the stupid head games that the younger fellas love to play bores me to tears. If I ever had any attraction for them its disappeared along time ago. I find older to be better.
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@soren1 (66)
30 Mar 09
My main wish is that people would stop being judgemental about age-gap relationships, whether it's the woman who's the older one or the man. It really isn't anyone's business but the people concerned! People justify their interference with psychobabble about why relationships like that won't work but really it's always their own insecurities talking at some level. There's a double-standard in any case. If an age-gap relationship fails, people instantly say "oh, it was inevitable, they were too far apart in age". If a non-age-gap relationship fails - as they tend to do just as regularly - would anyone dream of saying "oh it was inevitable, they were just too close in age"?
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• United States
30 Mar 09
I guess it's whatever you like. You have to go with your heart. I think if there are too many years in between the couple, i think it's kinda gross. Who would want to date someone close to the age of their mother.