Do you think it is right to cheat your love or partner?

@ajithlal (14716)
India
April 17, 2009 2:14am CST
I have a friend who cheats his partner. Do you think it is right to cheat a person's love or partner and to have another affair? Is it okay to have affair when a person is engaged with another person?
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21 responses
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
17 Apr 09
Hello Ajithlal, I should say it's never right to cheat on your love. Never ever. But if you are talking about white lies, i can understand. Because sometimes, telling your love or your partner some white lies will make life easier, if that lie doesn't hurt too much, i think it's acceptable. Never ever cheat on other people or your relationship will come to the end if he/she finally find out someday. So, if you really care about he/she, if you really love he/she, never cheat on them.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
7 Jun 09
I also think it hurts a lot when the person finds he or she is cheated.
@rocketsky (1013)
• China
17 Apr 09
we should never cheat our lovers and partners .it is important to be an honest man in your life ,if you are honest to him ,you will be treated with respect ,if you treat ,what you get in return would be a blow . lovers are just like friends ,i think .even though you are lovers with him ir her ,you still need to treat him or her as friends ,communicate with him or her and talk honestly ,things will be better because of this
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
13 May 09
I also think we should never cheat our lovers or partners in our life.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
17 Apr 09
No...no...no. What would I feel if my partner cheated on me?
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
12 Aug 12
I also think when people start to think what if their partner cheats on them and how they could feel the might not cheat their partners.
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Cheating will never be considered a right thing to do, it is like your defining black into white, and saying that Wrong is Right. Your conscience tells you things which are right to do and what is not, but if you just ignore it and do what you please to do, then certainly, that is sin. Nobody here will tell that he or she was happy when they were cheated. Of course, it is just normal for us humans to get angry if someone cheated us. So about your friend who is cheating, she better made up her mind and decide which is which before it's too late for her. Playing fire is not good, you will only get burn. One will like you, the other one will despise you. Just think of the consequence she may face, if the other person who got cheated figured out.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
19 May 12
I also think it is not good to cheat our love or partners. I also agree that cheating is not a good thing to do in life.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
10 Aug 12
Some people does not feel guilty even after cheating their partners. I wonder how they are able to cheat the people they love and who love them back.
• United States
30 Mar 12
Yeah....I agree with all of you, that one should not cheat with their loved once. But we all realize that no body wants to do that. It sometimes, just happens. Even when you try so hard to avoid that, is still happens. You have no control. I am not saying, that it is right. It is just that, it is not easy to control your emotions and you get carried away. And, I think everyone has a secret that, they would never want to share with their spouse/girl friend/boy friend/partner. Even if you love your partner truly, you still prefer to keep that as a secret, may be because you just don't want to her him/her.
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@freerr (666)
• China
17 Apr 09
Maybe many people say that is not good. But I think almost no one don't cheat lover or partner . Every one has personal spare, something maybe don't need and can't share with lover. I always keep some bad thing of our as secret, since I don't want a more people to worry about it. Sometimes, I tell my wife when I have deal with it well.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
2 Jun 12
I also think that it is not good to cheat the lover or partner and most probably the partner or love will loss the trust when they found their partners had cheated them.
• United States
17 Apr 09
Once you have commited yourself to a person, you should NEVER cheat on them...it's not fair... I mean, on the other hand, if you both agree openly that your relationship is just casual, or that you are just seeing each other and it isnt anything serious, that's one thing...but if that person is your partner, then they should be your one and only...period...
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
12 Aug 12
I also think that people who committed to other people should never chat them.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
17 Apr 09
That is definitely not okay. Your friend should break up the engagement with his partner and then afterwards he should take up with the other lady. (I am assuming your friend is dating a girl and you just put in partner to placate the same gender crowd. Not wise.) Cheating is wrong. Having affairs is wrong. He will wind up being referred to as a player or what used to be called at Lothario and that is not a good reputation to have. If one cannot be trusted in love, it is assumed that that lack of trust applies to other matters.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
17 Apr 09
I don't think it is okay to every have an affair. It is never okay. If you don't want to be with that person and want to be with another person, then end things with them, do not go behind their back and cheat on them. I think that is just wrong.
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@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
17 Apr 09
No to both questions. Cheating to me is wrong and I always believe that when you are in a relationship if you have to do this it is best you move on with your life. Now with the next question why would someone wants to go out with a married or engage couple is beyond me. I have tried it once when I had just enter in the working world and I would never do it again because hiding with another person partner does not have that peaceful and loving appeal. Things that you want to do openly you cannot and so you become miserable and unhappy and then you see your personalities started to change. I wouldn't encourage either to anyone.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
30 Mar 12
I also think cheating is wrong even if it is not known by the partner. I think most probably the relationship will not work out well if a person cheats in their love or marriage.
@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Well obviously no, cheating is bad especially in relationships. It's betrayal of trust and should not be tolerated by anyone.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
13 May 09
I also think cheating is the betrayal of trust and we should not do it.
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Never.. It's never right to cheat our partners.. you know, my hubby cheated on me once.. and it happened during our first few months of being together as bf/gf.. he went out with his pathetic, psychotic ex girfriend.. They went island hopping and they were with my hubby's two sisters.. yay, terrible! he asked for forgiveness and it made me took sometime to finally accept his apology.. but hey, the second chance i've given him was worth it, big time! you know, once is enough twice is too much..
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
19 May 12
I think it is not a good idea to cheat he partners. I think forgive someone who regret is something great and it takes great heart to do it. I think it is always great to have someone who loves us and care for us in our lives. I also think once is enough and twice is too much and forgiving once is good if the relationship gets okay.
• Malaysia
17 Apr 09
Of course it is not right when one is already attached and have an affair. This only shows that something is not right with the relationship and should be settled amicably and cheating should not be tolerated by the innocent partner.
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@jcbelle (152)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
It is never good to cheat on someone. I had an experienced on it. It is never easy being hurt or cheated by someone you loved. I f you no longer love your partner, tell him right away. Be honest with your feelings, for sure he will understand it. Never do anything bad to anyone, for you will suffer the consequences.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
7 Jun 09
I also think it really hurts and the person no longer able to love the partner if he or she finds that the other person cheated him or her.
• Malaysia
17 Apr 09
Hi ajith I think its extrmely not good to do so. Its better not to love if they find it interesting to have affair. They can go on having affairs with anyone they wish without hurting a person with the word love Thanusha
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
17 Sep 10
I believe if we really love a person we will try to make the person happy and does not cheat the person.
• India
17 Apr 09
Well, if both the partners are expert at it, its not problem and in fact there are couples who take it up as a challenge or as a part of furthering their individual career. In most marriages however, cheating is inexcusable and I am of the same opinion too. Especially to us Indians, engagement is something very close to being married actually and once marriage, it is taken as a union of the soul first and then the body. So once that trust is broken, you are actually hurting the other person’s soul…this is the worst form of cheating.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
28 Jun 09
No. Period. No justification, no reason, no way. I am not saying that someone's feelings can't change, or that things can happen to make a good or bad relationship to die. I am just saying that if someone feels like that it is time to get out. Once out, the person will be able to evaluate each feeling. Often deciding that the relationship they had was actually better than what it looked form the "inside". This evaluation, can not be done fairly if there is an involvement with someone else. It just is not possible.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
7 Jun 09
For me...it would not be ok at all. Still, I try to not be involved or judge the relationships of others unless I am very close to them and only then if they ask for my advice.
@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
i have been through a lot specially in dealing with cheating partners. i have even cheated my ex bf before but we have our reasons. reasons which are hard to explain and much more harder to elaborate. everything happens for a reason. though i know its now really good to cheat your partner but in other circumstances maybe its good that it happened. different reasons and views, but still we cannot just judge them by what and why they are doing it. jhelai
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
28 Jun 09
No it is not good to hear and its a bad act. Instead he will nourish , nurture, and care he love for each other. Caring and loving is very important so that relations will last forever. Thats an irresponsible way of dealing her partner.
• India
1 Apr 12
Cheating in any form is bad, more over in the matter of relationship, cheating should not be there at all, one should be honest in such cases, take care.. Have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘@Bhuwan@’. . Thanks