Have you always been successful in driving your point very clear in your

By Bala
@balasri (26546)
India
April 17, 2009 8:24am CST
discussions? Has any of your discussions ever misunderstood and resulted in getting responses in an entirely new context? How would you react in such a situation? I curse myself for not making a very clear discussion that can be easily understood.
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@wolfie34 (26789)
• United Kingdom
17 Apr 09
I count myself fortunate in this respect in that all of my discussions I have hammered home the point I was trying to get across and I have never been disappointed with the responses I have received. Sometimes it's easy for things to get misconstrued and to be honest I find it easier to get my point across in words rather than in speech, I guess I am good with words and what I say is always understood, makes a difference it also makes you feel good and confident that others are on your wavelength and have understood what you are saying with no room for error.
@mysdianait (65058)
• Italy
17 Apr 09
Hey there wolfie! Good to see you! This time tomorrow I shall be in your land! Off-topic I know but I want my friends here to know that I will not be absent due to 'bad' circumstances
@balasri (26546)
• India
17 Apr 09
I know that you are always good at it Wolfie.How are you?
@wolfie34 (26789)
• United Kingdom
17 Apr 09
Damn if I had known I would have rolled the red carpet out, it's dreary, miserable and wet here, but you know what our British weather is like, not called April showers for nothing ;0) Enjoy my friend And yes I am fine thanx ;0)
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 09
I am sure I am quite clear in my points when I write out my discussions. Not getting the right response from the responder is something else. They either misread or misunderstood what they read. If 90% of the responses satisfy me and 10% of them give me weird responses, then that shows they have not fully grasp the contents of my discussion. But am an open book and will response according to the rhythm of their words. They have taken their time to response and telling them off is not right. Based on my experience here not everyone can read well into our writings. So need a little adjustment to accommodate people who are not versed in this language.
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@balasri (26546)
• India
17 Apr 09
That is the point Zandi.Got to be happy with the majority.I like your response.
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@mysdianait (65058)
• Italy
17 Apr 09
Perfect response there zandi!
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 09
Thanks to you both for your inspiring words. Your appreciative comments flatters me!
• Canada
21 Sep 09
I don't think I've ever had a discussion misunderstood on MyLot, and I've had very few discussions misunderstood on-line or off-line. I do my best to be as clear as possible, I back up my points with reasons, logic and facts, and I leave everything open to questions. People only ask questions in order to learn answers.
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@balasri (26546)
• India
22 Sep 09
I know you through experience Dan.You are one of the few here who can drive their points home very clearly.
@Darkwing (21586)
27 Apr 09
Ha ha ha... I quite often am misunderstood my friend. I've had some fairly heated comments because of it but no worries. I like balance and harmony in my life, so I proceed to calm stormy waters. It usually ends up ok. Brightest Blessings.
@balasri (26546)
• India
28 Apr 09
Great attitude and I adore it.
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@Darkwing (21586)
28 Apr 09
Thank you so much my friend. I treasure your words.
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@balasri (26546)
• India
2 May 09
@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
18 Apr 09
Yes, many a times I find that responses which I receive are not connected with the core issue of my discussions. Some of the members, I feel just post their responses for the sake of, without going through the meaning of entire discussion. I on my part try to be as clear as possible, while starting a new discussion, most of my dear friends here understand my view point and most of them post quality responses. Irrelevant and incomprehensible responses come from unkown members.......LOL!
@balasri (26546)
• India
18 Apr 09
You have explained it very neatly.Thanks Deepak.
@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
20 Apr 09
Thanks Bala for the sweet words.
@zeloguy (4913)
• United States
17 Apr 09
I believe that most all of my discussions have been pretty clear; which is to say that sometimes it is going to make people mad and others happy. I have a clear opinion on just about everything. There have been times where a certain discussion has taken a turn to talk about something that was not originally stated. For example: an ice cream discussion may turn into one of health or healthy ice cream. When it gets too much then I ask that a new discussion be started or I start it myself. Great Question Thanks Zelo
@balasri (26546)
• India
17 Apr 09
Right friend.At least one of our discussions get misunderstood here in my experience.
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@zeloguy (4913)
• United States
18 Apr 09
I agree with you... just need to set them in the right direction or start a new question that is better worded. Thanks Zelo
@ajit25 (1010)
• India
17 Apr 09
Hey recently started a discussion to which few response was related to my discussions but few are not, i just wonder how people make comments without reading properly the discussion because i had posted clearly my concern there.I do not curse myself if some of my discussion being misunderstood and resulted in getting response in new context but i will try to make myself more distinctive next time.
@balasri (26546)
• India
17 Apr 09
That's the spirit Ajit, my friend.
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@ajit25 (1010)
• India
17 Apr 09
Hehee
@GreenMoo (11837)
2 May 09
I think I've been fortunate that my discussions, in the majority, have been understood as they were intended. Of course, I have the advantage of English being my first language. It must be far more difficult for those for whom it isn't. I applaud everyone who participates on myLot in a language which isn't their first as I know that I would struggle terribly to make the most simple point in another language. Of course, if your discussions draw responses which you were not expecting, it adds a new dimension which may be interesting in itself!
@balasri (26546)
• India
2 May 09
That is a great and positive way of looking at it Green Moo.
@stephcjh (32303)
• United States
19 Apr 09
Nope. I have not made all of my discussions very clear. some of them confused people because I left some good things out.
@balasri (26546)
• India
20 Apr 09
Thanks.Your response is very clear too.
@tipay26 (867)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
On my part,luckily I haven't encountered a time here at mylot that my discussion wasn't that productive or understood clearly.I always make it a point that when ever I posted something, I should be the most informed person regarding that post so as not to confuse my readers and commenters.In these online thing of a discussion, misunderstandings are inevitable because this is a wide site and is open for anybody.In order to have a harmonious thread and post, you will have to accept a fact that they may comment in favour of you or they may be comments that contradicts you and there's nothing you can do but accept it.
@balasri (26546)
• India
18 Apr 09
I got your point.
• United States
18 Apr 09
Yes I've always been very clear however people tend to either argue or misunderstand my point. And sometimes we end up having a complete argument where no one agrees to disagree. It can get frustrating atimes. But it doesn't happen often.
@balasri (26546)
• India
18 Apr 09
We all have faced this situation one time or other here.Aren't we Soulster? Well it is all in the game I think.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
18 Apr 09
It has happened to me before and I like to think I am quite clear with what it is that I am trying to say. The problem, I have found, is that people responding have not bothered to read the whole discussion properly. I appreciate those brave souls who have not yet mastered English and I admire them for making the effort to learn, but for some of the culprits, English is their first language! Some are in a hurry to move onto the next thing, I guess. I gently correct people who have misunderstood my point if they are heading way off topic.
@balasri (26546)
• India
18 Apr 09
You got a point there Paula.People are always in a haste here in responding .A second more taken by them to grasp the content will improve the things very much.
@VotreAmie (3037)
• United States
18 Apr 09
I am not good at making my discussions very clear. Sometimes I get answers like I don't know what you mean lol I am like that in real life too not just on mylot. When people don't understand what I am talking about and I am misunderstood, well what can I do about it other than try to make my point clearer? Take care.
@balasri (26546)
• India
18 Apr 09
I think that you have made your point very clear now as I can very well understand your plight.Anyway nice having your response and have a great day friend.
@littleowl (7157)
17 Apr 09
Hi bala, when doing a discussion I say what I mean as I know it to be right, if it gets misunderstood then I try to clarify what I mean in a discussion, but at the moment I don't seem to have that problem although there could always be one time I may make a booboo of one of them! LoLo
@balasri (26546)
• India
18 Apr 09
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
So far i haven't encountered anything like that here in mylot. But i experience it when im discussing something to my friends, associate or family. Sometimes they misunderstood what im trying to say. Maybe because of how i said it, example, it was supposed to be a statement but i delivered it as a questions. Or sometimes the tone of my voice. That's why we really have to be aware how we delivered our sentences or talks.
@balasri (26546)
• India
18 Apr 09
You are right about that tone.It can misinterpret many things we intend to say.
• United States
17 Apr 09
No I am not always successful in making my point clear in discussions I know what I want to say but it doesnt always come out quite right when it happens I usually get upset more so with myself than others
@balasri (26546)
• India
18 Apr 09
You are just impossible Zu.
@riyasam (16567)
• India
17 Apr 09
yup and i think its kind of funny,i once started a discussions on sayings of kids and people went on to innumerate how kids are so sweet and cute.it was notin one respose but almost all had responded in a similar fashion.
@balasri (26546)
• India
17 Apr 09
The same thing happened to one of my discussion about the children and made me start this discussion.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
17 Apr 09
Your discussions are very clear and easy to understand Bala. I can confuse both the reader and myself in my discussions.. Then it's head banging on the table time.
@balasri (26546)
• India
17 Apr 09
It is so nice and friendly of you appreciating me. It is so modest of you saying that you confuse. I know that you confuse to make your discussions spicy Alok.
@kalav56 (11496)
• India
17 Apr 09
I have for the most part been quite clear in stating my point, Bala , but on one occasion I just felt it was a revelation--foreg--some words used by us can mean something with less intensity for us and the same may be interpreted as a serious one to the reader[he would read it with himself in context-you see] I think I should be more explicit here--recently I had started a discussion about the ideal age gap between couples and I used the word'fight' in a light vein , say some small squabbles , strong voicing of opinions etc..not 'being at each other's throats' really all the time. But to some people it may mean something drastic , bitter--with dire consequences.I realised it in the course of commenting, when I saw the varied responses.Anyhow, the majority responded with the central point in focus.So, it did not matter.Otherwise, I think a lot before posting the topic [whether this can have potential for misinterpretation etc etc;--in fact one discussion crossed my mind and I have been contemplating as to how it can be briefly and clearly put forth. Good topic!
@balasri (26546)
• India
17 Apr 09
You are one of my friends who always comes out with the wonderful responses with ease and understanding.Thanks Kala.
@lynnchua (3415)
• Singapore
19 Apr 09
I have not experience that but I hope I won't have that chance. I will be just like you curing myself for not making a clear discussion. That's why I seldom start new discussion.