Would you prefer to scream to let out your pent up anger?

@dpk262006 (56730)
Delhi, India
April 18, 2009 4:32am CST
I read somewhere that if we are feeling down and out, hopeless and helpless and cannot come out with a solution to a problem, screaming out loudly could be a good option to let out our pent up emotions. I have seen some kids screaming when things do not go their way. They find it best to scream loudly to attract others’ attention. Have you every tried this method and if you did try, did you find that it caused a therapeutic effect on you. I feel that screaming out loudly, when no one is around, could be one of the option to vent out, without causing any harm to others. I have tried it sometimes and I have found it effective and I feel relieved thereafter, once I do it. What is your take on this? Many thanks in advance for your response.
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@mayka123 (13391)
• India
24 Apr 09
When I am very angry and upset I tend to go very quiet. I just dont talk to anyone at all. Screaming and shouting only upsets me more. I like to lock myself in my room and be all alone. Sometimes I feel relieved after I cry a lot.........
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@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
29 Jun 09
Hi Mayka! So you prefer shutting up your mouth rather than sceaming your anger out. Everyone has got different method to vent out and make her feel relaxed, it depends which method suits you. Pl. try to scream out when you are in bathroom, or when you are alone in your home and no one is around or going to listen to you and then see its affect on you. Many thanks for sharing your experiences and making the post interesting. dpk PS - Delay in posting comments is regretted, I somehow missed your response.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
18 Apr 09
Once in a while when no one is around. It has helped to let loose all the pent up frustrations. I would not do it too often, for i find relaxation and meditation more helpful in letting go of theses emotions. It feels good though, and i would recommend it to friends once in a while.
@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
18 Apr 09
Alokn!Hi! Yes, I understand that you would do it when no one is around, otherwise people will start asking "what happened, are you OK?".....LOL! It is good that you go for meditation and other relaxation techniques to overcome your anger. Many thanks for joining us and sharing your views.
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
18 Apr 09
Hello deepak! I have been a very quiet person especially if something's bothering me. I am not the type who scream actually..hehehe..My family would know that I am helpless over something when I am quiet. It actually helps me. But then, I agree too that screaming or doing something would help take out the pressure or stress to our body.
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@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
20 Apr 09
Hello! Aisa! OK! Please do not do any such thing, which will make your family wonder what Aisa is up to, you be quiet, when you are upset, to calm yourself. But you may try a low scream (along with a pillow) to see does it give you a kind of relief........LOL! Thanks for joining.
• United States
20 Apr 09
hahaha...seems like a nice idea..let me try it..
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@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
20 Apr 09
Once you have tried it, please let me know the results..........LOL! Dpk P.S.-Did you receive me PM/Mail?
@Darkwing (21588)
18 Apr 09
Under normal circumstances, I can usually console myself with a walk amongst nature, but when my grandson passed away, I went up to the school where I was caretaker, stood in the middle of the big hall, and did exactly that... screamed out my anger, and then proceded to kick waste bins and what have you. Then, I turned my portable radio on very loud and started washing the hall floor. It worked, my friend. It got rid of my anger and a lot of the pain. Brightest Blessings.
@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
21 Apr 09
Hi! Dear! I am very sorry to hear about passing away of your grandson. It must have been a very shattering moment for you. May on that sad occasion, you tried this method of screaming and found it to be effecting. Actually, people are afraid to scream, thinking what other might say to them.......so they do not attempt, but I suppose it is good way to release our frustation. Many thanks for sharing and sharing your experiences with us. Deepak
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@Darkwing (21588)
25 Apr 09
That's why I went to the school to do my screaming, because I was isolated from others. When I arrived, the Head Teacher was there. She asked what I was doing there in Christmas holidays so I told her, and said I had to get out of the house. She kindly hugged me and said, "I'll be off now then, so you can deal with things in whichever way you see fit. I'm so sorry." With that, she left, and I was able to unleash my anger and grief! It did me the world of good, my friend.
@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
27 Apr 09
Great!
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
18 Apr 09
Hi Dipak, Anger or frustration need an outlet or ventilation to make you feel relaxed. I have seen people doing weird things in the name of refreshing themselves as they are angry. This is also true that suppressed anger or emotion could be harmful to your body and psyche. Thus your method sounds valid but there is problem. Where would you scream? If your room is sound proof it would be a privilege but in most cases we do not have that. In one form or the other it is necessary to vent out your mounting negative emotion.
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@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
21 Apr 09
Hi! Krajibg! It is good that you approve the idea of 'screaming' and it is supposedly an effective outlet in bringing out our pent up emotions. Actually, people are afraid to scream, thinking what other might say to them.......so they do not attempt, but I suppose it is good way to release our frustation. You can scream in a low tone with pillow around you..............LOL! Many thanks for sharing and making the post interesting.
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
21 Apr 09
Hi Yes you are right....
@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
27 Apr 09
@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
18 Apr 09
i know it not a good thing to keep things inside. i don't know if i would go to the drastic measure of screaming. if i get really upset and people are really bugging me i might let out an uhhh. not a scream more of a leave me alone kind of a thing. im not too much of a yelling or a screamer to begin with but i guess if it helps you. i would suggest not doing that in a public place cause it could attract alot of unwanted attention. kids have a tendency of screaming when they don't get their way and i know my mom never liked it if one of us did that. i hope my little niece won't act that way when she gets older. the one nice thing about getting older we have more of an idea how to behave then we did when we were kids.
@sharra1 (6341)
• Australia
20 Apr 09
No you do not need to scream you can just grumble. Screaming sounds very extreme and tends to remind me of young children throwing tantrums to get something that mum said they cannot have. I find that as I get older my control is slipping a bit. For years I have managed my anger without any outward sign but now I find myself grumbling loudly about things that go wrong that I have no control over or cannot fix, as it does release the frustration to some extent.
@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
27 Apr 09
It appears you are apprehensive about 'screaming'. I suppose it could be effective in letting out your pent up emotions. Actually, people are afraid to scream, thinking what other might say to them.......so they do not attempt, but I suppose it is good way to release our frustation. Many thanks for sharing and making the post interesting.
@patzel88 (3311)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
I dont really scream to let go my anger i just take a deep breath to lessen the emotion inside of me, but i have encountered that kind of person, i ask her why she scream every time she's angry, she told me that it really lessen the feelings inside of her and after she have done screaming she never feels the pain from her heart because of the anger. There was also a time that she went to the mountains and shout out loud and then let go the hatred which she was having inside of her and it really relieve her feelings.
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@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
18 Apr 09
Patzel!Hi! You may be adopting your own method to control your anger. However, as you said that your friend adopts the method of screaming and she has found the same effective. May be it has something to do with a particular person and one can scream in the corner or bathroom, when others are not around. Many thanks for being the first one to answer my post.
@forance (151)
• China
20 Apr 09
Oh,hello,Patzel.Nice to know you!I feel that you're an intelligent person. take a deep breath.Firstly,I agree with the method of screaming out,I feel too depressed from the soiciety and I need it seriously.I also want to do it on mountain.because of the place where without others around how hard to find nowadays in the city,even though there is,after your screaming in your own room,what would be seen in others' eyes when your outside the door? and at fact ,the crying out can comfort the pain ,but finally not a solution to the problem,take a deep breath,may be found one within.next time I'll try both.thanks for your good idea very much
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
28 Jun 09
I am not much of a screamer,it hurts my throat, but sometimes I really need to let some anger out. punching or kicking something helps sometimes. I think that what works with someone is what they should do. It is not good to keep anger - or any sort of emotional issue - inside or when we explode it is 3 times worse, not counting on how that affects our health. So each person should learn what works best for them and let that anger out. If it's yelling and screaming then yelling and screaming it is. If it's to break the new chine , then let it be LOL
@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
29 Jun 09
Hi Arkaf! So you prefer punching or hitting something rather than sceaming your anger out. Everyone has got different method to vent out and make her feel relaxed, it depends which method suits you. Many thanks for sharing your experiences and making the post interesting. dpk PS - Delay in posting comments is regretted, I somehow missed your response.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
22 Apr 09
I have tried this a few times when I was alone, but I didn't find it very affected. I really don't remember how it made me feel I just know I didn't feel any better afterwards. Usually if there is somehting bothering me I have to let it out to who ever is involved with it or if no one is involved and I just need to let it out I will cry. I find crying more affective than screaming, but then again I am a more quiet person and I don't like it loud around me so if I am by myself and its quiet you can bet I am not going to scream and be loud.
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@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
22 Apr 09
Hi! messageme! So you prefer crying than sceaming your anger out. Everyone has got different method to vent out and make her feel relaxed, it depends which method suits you. Many thanks for sharing your experiences and making the post interesting.
@Sreekala (32783)
• India
20 Apr 09
Hi Deepak, I have not done the same yet and I think I am scared to examine the same (lol). If you find that it is good you can do the same in future too but be careful and make sure that nobody is around. Thanks for sharing your secret to be a cool person.
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@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
21 Apr 09
Sree! I did not say that I try this method everytime...............LOL! Actually people are afraid to scream thinking what others may think about them, so they do not attempt, but I suppose it is good way to release our frustation. As far as ideas are concerned, if you get an isolated room it is good to scream there, else you can do it under the shower, or with a pillow around you and you keep the tone of scream a bit low. If you could do it in a open space say like a mountain, nothing like it. Many thanks for sharing and giving your suggestions to me.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
20 Apr 09
Sometimes, I do feel like screaming to release my stress. But I can never get myself to really do it. Even when I am alone at home and want to do it, I wonder if anyone else will hear it. I don't mean the kind that kids do when they are throwing a tanturm (I've seen that a lot with my little one and it IS irritating). I mean just a short scream to let out all those pent up emotions. I need some tips from you then:) When and where do you do it? I think out in the open is the best.....because it then feels like the emotions have flown out in the wind:)
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@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
21 Apr 09
Hi! SV! It is good that you appreciate the idea that 'screaming' could be effective in letting out our pent up emotions.Actually people are afraid to scream thinking what others may think about them, so they do not attempt, but I suppose it is good way to release our frustation. As far as ideas are concerned, if you get an isolated room it is good to scream there, else you can do it under the shower, or with a pillow around you and you keep the tone of scream a bit low. If you could do it in a open space say like a mountain, nothing like it. Many thanks for sharing your experiences and making the post interesting.
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
19 Apr 09
Deepak, you make me willing to try at least one time. I am not sure if I am not going to scare my animals with my screaming, but for stress release, why not... I am not sure if I was screaming as a child...so I can try now... HUGS
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@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
20 Apr 09
Hi! Pola Please try a low scream (along with a pillow) to see does it give you a kind of relief........LOL! Thanks for joining.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
19 Apr 09
Hi Deepak! Thats really sounds good to scream out when angry with out harming others. I have not tried it till now. Next time I will try it.
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@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
20 Apr 09
HI! Chaitra! OK! You have not tried it as yet. You may try a low scream or yelling (along with a pillow) to see does it give you a kind of relief........LOL (specially when you are upset)! Thanks for joining.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
19 Apr 09
I do! I don't always like myself for doing but there are times when I just can't help it. Just this morning, for example, I had a lot of household chores to do, I am tired and I was feeling resentful in regards to the amount of work ahead of me and the fact that being a working wife and mum there is never enough time for me! As I was working I could feel the anger building up inside and I kept breathing in order to keep calm until I reached boiling point and I yelled, not at anyone in particular but I just had to scream! In hate it and my family hates it but I do feel a lot better afterwards!
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@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
21 Apr 09
Hi! Paula! It is good that you know how 'screaming' could be effective in letting out your pent up emotions and you tried it recently. Actually, people are afraid to scream, thinking what other might say to them.......so they do not attempt, but I suppose it is good way to release our frustation. Many thanks for sharing and making the post interesting.
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
18 Apr 09
No Deepak ! I have never done this; Normally,at home , such a situation never arises because I know my limits and would not even ask for something if it would not be liked---so in the home front thankfully I have never had this frustration.But , there have been occasions where I am just filled with indescribeable rage and on such occasions I just splutter in rage and I also get tears of rage.[when it concerns a third party It is not weeping but I just get tears in my eyes on account of helpless, frustrated rage.I won't scream but I wuld just let off steam by recounting it to my husband.I myself would also come out with a solution , many times , but I would just speak about it at home.THat is all. There are also occasions when I would pacify myself that there is no point getting upset and I would think of some future course of decisive action. THere is another thing that I do when I am very angry--I walk very fast .THis has happened earlier.
@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
20 Apr 09
HI! Kala! I suppose that a bit of screaming would surely help us release our pent up emotions. You can try it once, if you are upset and may scream in low tone with a pillow around you........LOL! Crying is also an effective methiod, when one feels frusted and he/she has no other way to let out his/her emotions. Undobtedly, brisk walking is one of the best method to set the mood right. Many thanks for sharing about your inner emotions/thoughts and enriching the post.
@JenInTN (27547)
• United States
18 Apr 09
Hi deepak! I think everyone needs a good anger yell at one time or another..lol..I have tried it too. I wouldn't dare do it around anyone though for fear they would haul me off for treatment..LOL..I think it's a good way to get out your frustrations sometimes but I'm more of the crying type. I don't cry all the time or anything but there have been times when I have let things get to me and held back my feelings. When I cried it made me feel better afterwards. A release I guess. Take care my friend.
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@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
20 Apr 09
HI! Jen! Yelling or screaming would surely help us release our pent up emotions. Crying is also an effective methiod, it depends what we are able to accomplish and what are the circumstances. LOL! It is quite right that we won't scream, when someone is around, he/she may think about us that we are gone made. Many thanks for enriching the post.
@riyasam (16570)
• India
18 Apr 09
i have seen this in a movie buti have not yet tried it myself.(i dont remebber the name of the movie but the actress was konkona sen sharma).screaming is a harmless way to blow off steam.one can "go screaming" in the mountains or the desert or a meadow, go out on the open road with the car windows rolled up.(Pull over first!) The point is to discharge some of the negativity we're holding in those big, heavy thoughts, and that makes room for something lighter to take it's place
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@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
20 Apr 09
Hi! Riya! Yes, I agree with you that screaming will let out our negative feelings/ emotions, wherever possibly we could do it. Give it a try and try to scream at a bit low voice with a pillow, see does it help. Many thanks for enriching the post.
@maeras (115)
• United Arab Emirates
18 Apr 09
Anger can be controlled in many ways...some would prefer crying, others just keep silent and other scream as you've said. I however would generally write whatever it is that's bugging me. I'll write until I've calmed down. Sometimes it helps to just talk. This is maimly bacause I don't really want to attract attention and when I'm pissed off, I want to get over it asap...so I guess I don't have time to drive off to the mountains :P...happy mylotting!
@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
20 Apr 09
Hi! Maeras! What a great idea, you have described. Writing your feelings either on a piece of paper is very idea to let out your pent up emotions. I fully agree with you when you write something, it gives you a kind of satisfaction and you feel relaxed. I'll keep your point in mind, next time when I feel upset. Many thanks for enriching the post
@bubbletush (1333)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
I have a more subdued take on letting out my negative emotions -- be it anger, frustrations or anxieties. I write. I have a note pad where I write my thoughts. If its anger, I write why I am angry, what's causing my anger. I pour out everything on paper. After writing, I feel relieved. Just recently, my husband's scheduled flight home was rescheduled. He was extended for two more weeks. I feel frustrated. I wrote all my frustrations just like writing a letter to my husband pouring out all of my feelings. I re-read the letter, then threw it away. By doing this, my frustrations faded without hurting the feelings of my husband. My mind was no longer clouded by negative emotions and I understand the situation that it's not my husband's fault he could not come home on schedule.
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@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
20 Apr 09
Hi! Bubble! What a great idea, you have written. Writing your feelings either on a piece of paper or computer is very idea to let out your pent up emotions. I fully agree with you when you write something, it gives you a kind of satisfaction and you feel relaxed. I'll keep your point in mind, next time when I feel upset. Many thanks for enriching the post. Deepak
• United States
25 Jun 09
No, I don't just scream. I yell at the t.v. when a umpire or ref blow a call in a game. I will root on my teams by yelling " Come On!" But to just scream, never.i perfer to plot. when I am angry I feel I think the most clearly . As soon as I find the proper revenge, I feel so much better.
@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
29 Jun 09
Hi Sarah! So you donot scream and prefers to yell out at others. BTW, what methods do you adopt to take your revenge? Thanks for sharing.
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• United States
29 Jun 09
I shout at the t.v. The Refs and Umps can't hear me.The proper revenge takes many different forms.these days most of the time I simply ignore what the person wants me to do.in other words, they yell at me to do it , and I refuse to because they yelled at me.
@dpk262006 (56730)
• Delhi, India
26 Jul 09
Sarah! You are very 'smart'!!!
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