How do you deal with fake people?

@cheenlly (3477)
Philippines
April 26, 2009 11:51am CST
In our life we have meet a lot of fake people. Some of them are the one we thought real but eventually not and its a very sad thing to know. Personally i have met lots of this kind of people in person. In fact most of them are whom i treated as real friends as i thought but sadly they're not. I have invested emotion, trust and friendship just to know it was a wrong people to be close with. Anyway that was my personal experience and i have learned from that. You will really know who are genuine one when situation ask for it. As of now i have known who are them and already move on and i deal with it like they are no importance with me once i knew they are not genuine. At this moment i was thinking how many of us here have tried similar experience, sort of. How do you deal with those kind of people if you encountered one? Whether that would be a relatives, friends, officemates, neighbor or any other people you knew. Share your experience mylotters.
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@GardenGerty (157918)
• United States
26 Apr 09
I tend to keep myself to myself, maybe because of the abundance of fake people around I just make sure that I keep my distance.
@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
I understand as i did that to after realizing and got hurt many times by a friend but i realized that it is not healthy as well to just keep myself to myself because it came to a point that i already put a lot of distance that i lost contact to the outside world- well sort of. I mean i less mingle with people and meet people because maybe i had somehow lost my trust and afraid to trust again but i was referring to the past experience. Not this present anymore as i'm perfectly alright now. Just only sharing.
@jazzsue58 (2666)
26 Apr 09
In my younger days definitely, but nowadays all I seem to do is lose contact with my genuine friends - I don't mean to, but time is so short when you've a family and career. Sadly my kids seem to attract ne'er-do-wells, although they are learning how to filter out the bad from the good! Family I don't have a problem with. My folks - and my ex's - are just great. Guess I'm lucky, huh?
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@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
I think it happens to everyone, when we step into another level of life like having family some true friends and acquaintances are being out of contact since they have they have their life journey as well to priorities too. However when time permits there will be some time that you get in touch again and that's a good part. That's I guessed you are surrounded by wonderful people and yes you are lucky. I believe so that life is so short and for that we should have learned to move on and forget about those fake people. Instead meet new one and makes sure that the next time we already choose the right one and learned from mistakes. Give our trust to the one that deserve it. have a nice day!
@landi927 (657)
• China
26 Apr 09
I think everyone of us has met such kind of people.There are many fake people around us.They try to pretend they are real friends of us and want to get some benefit from us.I hate such people.Once I find a friend around me is fake,I will keep away from him.I will begin to hide my true nature in front of him/her too.Cause I am afraid that once he/she knows my true nature or a secret of mine,he/she will used this point to hurt me.So if there is a fake people who want to get close to me,I will stay away and act as a fake in front of him/her too!But I find out the true nature of a close friend of mine is fake,I will be very upset.I will tell him/her I don't want to be a friend of him/her any more.Then,cut all of the connection with us!
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@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
26 Apr 09
Yes same feeling here, i would be very upset and feel wasteful of the friendship i have invested for a friend. Well i guess even how painful it is to end a friendship, we need to do it because it will not be as healthy as it was before. Thanks for dropping by your thoughts. have a nice day!
• India
26 Apr 09
The only person to be blamed for such a situation is you and you only. It was you who believed that wrong guy and if you have made a mistake you have to pay for it, in this case, emotionally. I scold myself on such occasions and there have been many instances like that.
@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
26 Apr 09
Well maybe the only thing i blame myself is giving myself openly on a friend and that respect, trust, and treat her good without knowing it for many years that she is just a friend in need to survive or maybe i am just in denial that she is genuine but i think that's life. We have to learned in a hard way and oh i am not talking personally about a boyfriend situation. It's a friend or people in general that i am referring to. Anyway thanks for dropping by your thoughts here.
• China
27 Apr 09
Encounter such a person is very sad indrrd,I am sympathetic to your face! In fact,as long as you hand over your good faith,most people will return for his sincere,if such people are really experiencing,I will slowly away from him and let him feel my apathy! In fact,the best way to own or through a number of things to observe his people,and then determine whether to make friends with him.
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@flowerday (322)
• Singapore
26 Apr 09
hihi... in this world, i feel that no one is 100% real...seriously, who in this world has never tell a lie, has never put on a false front infront of others.. the only difference is just how often we do it.. some people do it everyday, some people do it once awhile... we cannot expect anyone to be perfectly genuine... we cannot expect anyone to be always telling the truth.. we just got to learn to be ignorant..and close one eye..
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@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
26 Apr 09
Well yes i believe so nobody in this world is perfectly genuine. There are times in our life that we lied, well a white lie or maybe not but there is a big difference in being a lie all your life. I mean for instance you have this friend for many years and you genuinely thought that it was a real friend or more like a family already but after all those years you learned that she/he was just a friend for a cause or a friend for survival ( just a social friend in need of companion when times she/he needs it).That's are some of those fake ones. Its very upsetting to knew something like this. Well in friendship there are also short comings like any relationship but it can be fix up later because the true friendship is there but if its just one sided then its not a true friendship or good relationship it is, am i right? Like you said, you can tell it by how often a person do it. If its successive then its not healthy and that certain person is not giving any importance to your relationship. He/she doesn't care at all. That's a fake a friend. Thanks for your sharing.
• India
27 Apr 09
I just ignore them, that’s the best way to maintain my sanity. This happened to me just last week. At office, we three ladies sit nearby, almost forming a row. As is usual, there is a lot of banter between us about everything under the sun and me the fool thought that we were quite close! On the day mentioned, my boss called me and handed over a job which was Herculean. I was to scan 6 volumes of pix sent by our client, folder it for later use and return the volumes to the boss by next day…to say it was an unenviable job is to put it lightly. Well, I thought my ‘friends’ would help me out somewhat and back in my seat, I approached them for some support. Well, one walked away on pretext of some job and the other said she did not know how to scan! Worse was, at tea time in the canteen, both of them were overheard discussing me and how everybody should do their own work without expecting outside help and so on…plain and simple they were bit*ching about me!
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
I just deal with them naturally, I mean I know and I'm already aware that they are fake so maybe I just enjoy talking to them, I know I can't change them that's there style of living I will just be careful not to be there victim someday, and to be so close to them just being aware of the person your dealing with you will be safe.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
27 Apr 09
It seems to me that everyone I have come across in my lifetime has been fake. I have tried and tried to be friends with people, always just been myself with them and invested myself into the friendship and yet had nothing back in return. As a result I stopped having anything to do with people for four years. Recently though I started feeling lonely, having no friends was no fun and so I started to tentatively mix again, unfortunately though the same thing has happened and the girls I have been mixing with and thought were nice have turned out to be the most selfish, 2 faced bunch I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. I am now trying to withdraw from those friendships without causing a scene!!!
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@mapuang (612)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
well yes i meet like fake people. some of them is my friend and some of them is cousin. well if i encountered people like this i just also fake with them. and if i feel that they are fake i just ignore them.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 09
I know it is hard when you expect that they are true also to you. But for me, i think the best thing to do about that is to treat them like you treat other people too. In this you can still be a good example and of course you don't seem to do what others seems to do the opposite. When we think others are wrong, giving them a wrong attitude is just leveling yourself to them and it is already wrong. So to make one be corrected, we need to still be treating others the way we treat ourselves, not showing anything bias. If you can't then just stay away, but be nice as much as possible so that there will be no issue of negative thinking. Besides it wasn't your fault anyway, so just still be nice.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 09
I don't want to deal with them. But unfortunately my childhood bestfriend was one. He's not just a fake but rude to other people too. At first I can't believe that I put my trust on the wrong person. He backfights all of his friends always finding something to make them inferior. I tried to talk to him so many times, yes he stopped doing it to me (I have my reliable source back then) but not to other people. I just wish I can help him since he's my bestfriend and I cannot just leave him but it's too much and things has changed between us. Then we lost contact.
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@cainam (493)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
i just ignore them. that's much easy to do than to push your self to mingle with them.
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@orang13 (723)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
well, we are all fake but some never got the chance to notice it. In faking oneself, it could have give us to consequences, the first is that, it plainly gives joy and never hurt. but the second one, can hurt other peoples feeling. well, based on experienced, you cannot easily tell if that person is faking on you or not. well, if he hit your spot, be fake to him as well. Don't him on your most sacred secrets, but you can say that you trust him, by giving him your minor thoughts. Maybe it could help him realize that you're not worth of being faked, and he'll be open to you.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
27 Apr 09
i just ignore them... i don't like hypocrite people especially betrayal... they might lie or pretend to me once... but after that, that's it... i don't give many chances to people who don't want to repent and change themselves... people do make mistakes... nobody is perfect... i can accept that... but not willing to change and keep on holding on to your old self even though you know that it is wrong is unacceptable... take care and have a nice day...
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@lizeri (533)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
Fakers? Just dare! They don't have a place in my life. I would rather be alone than have friends who stabs you at the back. I can easily feel if I'm just been befriended to be taken advantage by. If that's the case, I just give mediocre help. I just reserve my best hand to deserving genuine people.
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• United States
27 Apr 09
I don't, because when they see that I am real they don't have a mirror to tell them how wonderful they are, they will ask for a compliment but I won't give them one. If they fish for anything else I'll tell them the truth and they don't want to hear that so eventually they will find somebody else to worship them.
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• United States
27 Apr 09
I do not allow fake people to be involved win my life in any way shape or form. If I do not like someone and they attempt to talk to be I just flat out tell them I do not like you please do not speak to me. I will not be fake and stand and chat with someone I do not like.
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• United States
26 Apr 09
Well, I usually touch them just to make sure they're real, if my hand goes through them, then they are not. J/K :P lol hahhaahah sorry I had to say that. But seriously, someone like that deserves the boot. Can't stand those type of people.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
27 Apr 09
Man this is a cruel world and people can do anything for money and power. I am assured that my friends(!) also did that for money with me. They tried everything possible to kick me out of the company and they did get success in that. And now I am jobless thanks to my friendly enemies. I hate those peopole and I am a little sesitive too, so it is difficult for me to understand if the person standing in front of me is a good one or a bad one!
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