Are there times that you spend big amount of money without your partner's ....

Nah, we pretty much agree on things together. There have been times when my wife came home from shopping and said, "Now, don't be mad."

Well yes I did, spending some big amount w/o my husband's knowledge but IT WAS MY MONEY, not his. One thing is we don't have a joint account yet. I earned my money when am working and there were times am spending a lot for my needs (because am not asking some from him) and also am sending some for my family. Not really a big deal for me but if we do have a joint account am sure I'll be updating him whatever for everything regarding money spending.

i do have a joint account and i do take money out of it occasionally and i donot tell my hubby unless specifically asked,he has given me the freedom to use the money however i want it.

I don't account for every penny spent out of our mutual account. But, the down side is that when hubby has access to the money and does the same thing (not knowing any specific amount was for bills.) All larger purchases -- single items over $100 -- must be discussed and decided upon together. Neither me or my husband are control freaks about the money. So long as the bills are paid, food is on the table, clothes on the kids and our backs, and fun, we don't worry about every little penny spent. What would be the point of sneaking around and withholding a truth (which in most people's books is the same as lying) about money spent? That kind of behavior does nothing but ruin trust in a relationship. Just like cheating, if you feel you must hide something from your spouse, then you have some guilt over the thing you are doing, whether that thing is boinking someone or overspending the budget.

When he and I were a bit young, I used to asked him to treat me a lot in an expensive restaurant and then buying a new necklace. even if he wasn't around then i would asked him to give me money so that i can shop.but when he and i got married i stopped because I know, it's family phase and i decided to pay him little by little, even though he doesn't want to. .

I do not have a joint account at the moment with anyone but I would like to think that if I did then we could trust each other to use the money sensibly, for whatever reason. I wouldn't want to have to check with my partner every single time I wanted to take some money out but would probably make decisions about particularly big purchases together anyway. I would say that anything costing over 1000 GBP would be significant.

Actually we discuss every big purchase we make. Sometimes I'll spend some small amount on something without telling him but it's usually b/c it's something I forgot about and it's not a big deal. I do all the shopping in the house b/c he's housebound but we still talk out the shopping and what we can and can't get. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]

No, I don't think I should do that. The money i a joint account so in respect to each other if anyone would want to spend big amount then let the other knows it. It is to avoid problem. In our case, we have been married for almost 24 years but never did we have argument about money. Unlike many couples who say money has always become the reason for the dispute our case is not. Money never becomes an issue to us. Not that because we are rich and we don't care about the money but rather because we believe that disputing about money is senseless. Money is not a big issue to us. Whatever we have we spend wisely and if we find we have not that much we know how to live accordingly. Instead of disputing, we would rather work together and help each other to maintain a good financial condition.

I did it once for about a year. My husband was working out of town, I was in charge of the family money and my eldest daughter was in England with my sister for a year. I sent her more money than my husband would have wanted. I knew that in the UK things were more expensive. I decided not to tell him. I never did. But then, i also made some investments with our money so the amount I took away was not important. I still think I did the correct thing Happy postings

I did it once for about a year. My husband was working out of town, I was in charge of the family money and my eldest daughter was in England with my sister for a year. I sent her more money than my husband would have wanted. I knew that in the UK things were more expensive. I decided not to tell him. I never did. But then, i also made some investments with our money so the amount I took away was not important. I still think I did the correct thing Happy postings