bragging-hurting or irritating???

@riyasam (16567)
India
May 2, 2009 10:14am CST
i have seen people bragging about themselves,their families,their careers,their richness and how classy they are (then they are not classy at all) if i have to listen to them for shorter period of time i do and can manage a smile but sometimes people go on and on,have you come across,how to handle them both online and real life??
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@ElicBxn (61143)
• United States
3 May 09
well, online its easy - DELETE in person - harder - I try to tell them I have to go, I've never pretended my phone was vibrating or anything
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
4 May 09
thanks for sharing,have a nice day.
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
3 May 09
HI! Dear! Those who brag about themselves have a feeling of 'complex', either you may term it is as superiority or inferiority complex. When they brag, they feel that bragging will help them look superior in other's eyes. I also agree that bragging does not help in any manner, rather if you are a modest person, if pays. It is sure that those who brag about their richness or achievements are actually 'hollow' from inside, they are just trying to cover up their shortcomings. As far as dealing with these kind of persons is concerned, you need not react to their so called achievements, you just need to listen to them till they themselves get tired of telling you. If you do not react on their narration, they will get tired after sometime........LOL! Have a great day!
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
3 May 09
Congratulations in advance for your 10000 posts, which you will complete shortly
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
4 May 09
ya,i listen patiently the first time,after that i avoid any contact with him/her. thank you for your wishes
@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
5 May 09
You do the right thing.
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• India
25 May 09
Hello my friend riyasam Ji, Just listen without even slight reaction. A day will come, when that person will understand Well, as regards to everyone here and in real life, we all know, what are we. May God bless You and have a great time.
@riyasam (16567)
• India
25 May 09
thanks for sharing,have a nice day.
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• India
25 May 09
Hello my friend riyasam Ji, You are most welcome. May god bless You and have a great time.
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@balasri (26546)
• India
4 May 09
I am just jumping with joy as I come across this discussion. I have been waiting for this to vent my anger at that useless lot. Don't we all have the capacity to assess a person by having a simple look at their illustrious face and by listening to the first sentence that comes out from their mouth .Then why these people try in vain wasting time to impress others with their vanity and vain glory? If they have quality it will be shown and definitely never needed the tom toming. I always used to be curt with these kind of people and I can see them smelling that they cant play the fool with me.
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
6 May 09
you are right,i also cant stand their smell.
@balasri (26546)
• India
8 May 09
Nauseating.Yeah!
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@camomom (7535)
• United States
3 May 09
I ignore them or tell them to knock it off.
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
5 May 09
thanks for sharing,have a nice day.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
5 May 09
You're welcome
@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
26 May 09
hahaha I have encountered these type of people. I just divert the topic when they started it specially if they are my friends. If they are not so close friends, i will just play deaf. If they keep on and on??? I will excuse myself, I will make a reason to go to the rest room hahaha... and they they will stop when no body listen to them. This might let them realize that blowing our own horn is so irritating to the ears of others.
@riyasam (16567)
• India
27 May 09
thanks for sharing,have a nice day.
@amirev777 (4124)
• India
25 May 09
hi yeah listening to someone brag certainly is an irritating thing to happen to once ears-and if it continues for long, can certainly be a pain-not in the backside-but to the ears.at times it can be quite hurting as well if it involves some shortcomings on ur side which the other person is bragging about.among my friends-most of them are decent in this respect, unless they are in an inebriated condition-but then in such a state, even i brag a lot.
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
26 May 09
in that state,i could almost forgive anything but i am talking of a person in his sound mind,thanks for sharing,have a nice day.
@silverjam (969)
• United States
11 May 09
I met a lot of those kinds and I just let them have their ways. I guess these people has some insecurity issues. People tend to uplift themselves in an effort to hide their insecurities. I just listen to their braggings.....am telling myself that maybe it's good to at least there's somebody listen to them and hopefully that might help.
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
12 May 09
thanks for sharing,have a great day.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
5 May 09
I'm fine with people around me who brag. About their life,their success, their achievements. As long that what they brag is true then I wont have any comments on that. The good thing I will get from them is that I learn from them.
@riyasam (16567)
• India
6 May 09
thanks for sharing,have a nice day.
• India
4 May 09
Don’t remind me Riya…there is this lady sitting near me whom I call ‘Ms. Costly’…OMG she has to brag about the cost of everything she uses. Her son’s pens are not less than Rs. 65/75, water bottles no less than Rs 100, whenever she gifts anything its no less than Rs. 200 (though for my b’day she gave me a cheap leather wallet with the price tag of 75/- attached to it!), her salwar suits are nothing less than 800/900 (though I am yet to see her in anything other than ordinary synthetic yarns that you buy by the metre), her handbags are pure leather costing above 1000/- (though the one she used regularly is cheap stuff available at foothpath shops with ends frayed), she uses all premium cosmetics (though I once spotted her using a local brand face wash, big bottle), she cant eat without five or six courses per meal (incl. two fish items minimum) thought for lunch at office I have never seen her bring anything good or special…and so on. AND she will compare her things with everything you have/buy…last Durga Puja I had bought an expensive but comfortable shoe from Bata and wore it to office and generally showing to the girls and there comes Ms. Costly, claiming she has the exact pair and doesn’t wear anything but that, (though again I am yet to see her in it) So how did my rant sound….hurt/irritated…big dose of both, I can tell you! PS Congrats on reaching the 10000 mark
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
6 May 09
sudipta,i really dont know what to name the person who leaves price tags on a gift!!(your post has really made me laugh,thanks for the wishes)
@anniefannie (1737)
• United States
4 May 09
Just do what you being doing and avoid them when ever possible.I have been around people like that and I try to stay away from them
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
6 May 09
thanks for sharing,have a nice day.
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@winterose (39893)
• Canada
4 May 09
well I do not know what you mean by bragging, I see nothing wrong with people how have a good job and they tell all the family and friends about how much they love it. Family and friends are supposed to be happy for them.
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
6 May 09
when one is not interested to hear about his/her and familys achievement,what then???(i am not talking about a close friend)
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@jillhill (37377)
• United States
3 May 09
actually my brother and oldest sister are both this way.....very self absorbed and it does get quite sickening.....my brother talking about how wonderful he is and my sister talking about how she is so broke because of everyone else? right! anyway....they are two good examples of what you are saying.....right now actually today my younger sister and I discussed this....I am taking a break and not making any big gestures toward them for a while...I need a Time Out!
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
5 May 09
ya,i do know of some people who are braggers and whose children are my friends and i avoid going to their house because of their bragging parents.
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@salonga (27821)
• Philippines
3 May 09
I don't like braggers so whenever they talk I refrain from listening more and will just walk away from them. I can't stand them. So instead of allowing them irritate me all the more, I'd rather just refrain from hearing them.
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
5 May 09
thats a good stand!!i also try to avoid them as far as possible!!!
@sarcasms (120)
• India
3 May 09
i hate those kind of people they havent really achieved anything in life or they have got what they did not deserve....... those people who bragg abt ther success are the ones who have not worked hard in life and have got everything spoon feed to them.........now how to handle these ppl u can apply my strategy either u can go hand in hand and agree with them praise them along the way and this makes me feel happy coz its kind of sarcasm wen im doin this its like im makin fun of them .....lol...or u can just finish the conversation by playing the sympathy angle sayin ki ure so jealous of the person and his acheivements and say if u culd become ever as great as them...........
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
5 May 09
usually ,they donot have anything to tell about themselves so they talk about the achievements of their fathers and grandfathers.
• Finland
3 May 09
I hate those kind of people, frankly they are being quite inconsiderate there, in those kind of situations i just pretend i listen but that's because i'm too shy to express my feelings or asking them to stop, which is why my usual type of behaviour is to make up a excuse and leave. You could try and make him change topic though, if you are a outgoing type of person you could even tell him straightforward that you do not wish to listen to their bragging.
@riyasam (16567)
• India
4 May 09
thanks for sharing,have a nice day.
@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
3 May 09
Hi there! I pity those people with that kind of attitude. But I pity them in a funny way. I think they are those that lacks attention and don't have self-confidence and they find bragging as the only way for them to get noticed. They feel they are good when people notice them. What they don't know is that they give bad impressions about them. Whenever I have conversations with people like that I just walk away and can't help but make a devilish grin hehe. Ciao!
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
4 May 09
i also pity such people ,i think they need treatment for attention deficit disorder.
@Polly1 (12646)
• United States
2 May 09
I'm rich----yeh right...NOT!! I'm so pretty, just look at my pic, hehe...once upon a time, back in the day, long long ago. It sure can get irritating, its probably mostly exagerating anyway. People with real class don't go around bragging like that. Now there is nothing wrong with being proud of yourself and talking about it, but there is a difference. I just noticed your post number, wow....thats impressive. Just 4 more and you hit the big number, congrats.
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
4 May 09
hi polly, i cant say i am not waiting for the big number but then now that i have reached it,i feel like all over starting from one. but thanks to my friends who sure has motivated me to reach this number!!!
• United States
2 May 09
Just like everyone else I agree with them it is very irritating and annoying. I for one just seem to ignore them, or honestly become just as rude as they are and walk away. I seem to find half of them "brag" to make themselves feel better cause it may seem all good but its really not.
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
4 May 09
thanks for sharing,have a nice day!!
@CJay77 (4438)
• Australia
2 May 09
For me it will be irritating, I can be a good listener, but sometimes it'll become predictable and irritating specially if you know the person for quite some time and wont stop crapping on about themselves and so on. I admire those people that are very down to earth even though they almost got everything.
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
4 May 09
yes,there seems to be some aura around them,it becomes fun to explore them.