Teen Suspended For Going To Prom

United States
May 10, 2009 5:48pm CST
Maybe you have read this story, if not then there is a link below you can click and read it before you respond to this discussion. I read the article earlier and was shocked. I attended a Christian school, but they never would have suspended me for going to a public school prom. My brother attended the same Christian school that I did and he attended a public school prom with his girlfriend. The Christian school I attended didn't interfer with my life outside of school. I believe they tried to instill me with Christian values and trusted that I take them out in the world with me and use them to make the correct decisions in life. Yea, I haven't always made the right choices or did the right things but I do have these Christian values in my life and STILL use them every day. I personally didn't have a prom, so in a way I feel I missed out on something really special. What is your opinion on this article? http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/us_school_dance_flap
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@ketybhagat (4125)
• India
13 May 09
Has anybody tried to find out why the school will not allow the teen to go dancing in a public school ? What is their view point. Actually I cant think of any reason why dancing should be banned. The school is supposed to install education and values into our lives, but this is beyong understanding. Did not the TV channel want an answer from the school too ? Sometimes, some teachers are just too much. Dancing and music are two ways to ease your tension and relax you.
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• United States
12 May 09
I never attended prom myself and I think I would have loved to myself. I read the story and I find it very interesting also this took place only about 30 miles from where I live so I am really suprised. I guess if the school had a policy than they must follow it. Do I think it is fair? Not really, I mean what is the big deal maybe the guy went with a girlfriend that does not go to his school. Nice topic and happy mylotting to you as well.
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• United States
12 May 09
I went to a Wesleyan Christian school, and they also frown on dancing (even tho David danced and sang unto the Lord all through the book of Psalms??), but I never heard of anyone getting kicked out for going to a dance or prom at another school. They never interfered with life outside school when I was attending. However, my much younger cousin and his girlfriend att both were expelled for getting pregnant. Imo, it's good they booted them both. No double standard there. About the article, the parents should immediately transfer him to public school so he doesn't lose credits for this semester. That is utterly ridiculous to infringe on his home time. If he & some girl were dancing in the hallway or cafeteria, fine, that's breaking a rule, but outside school, it's the parents' business not the school's.
• United States
11 May 09
Wow--that is a really conservative school! I went to a religious elementary and middle school that taught us the basic principles of modesty and honesty, and also the basis of Christianity. I cannot believe that this school suspended a student for attending a public school prom! So long as the kids are respectful of each other and not spiking the punch, there is nothing wrong with going to a dance. Dancing is talked about many times in the Bible. I'd be interested in talking with the school board to hear their views on the matter.
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• United States
10 May 09
That is a tuff one. He was told what the consequences would be and decided to go ahead and go. So I suppose the school has every right to follow through. I do not agree with them, but those are the rules at that school. I just hope that he had a great time and felt the prom was worth not being able to graduate with his classmates. It is very sad that the school would react this way. Other parents should know this and maybe they will consider this when they think of sending their children to this school!!
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@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
10 May 09
I thought the rules were no gambling, no having s*x before marriage, and live a God fearing life. Dancing is not considered a bad thing. Unless it is a gross immorality the Christian school should not have suspended the girl. What they did was wrong.
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
11 May 09
Geez!! It sounds like the story in Footloose1!! How backwards is that? Also, what a great way to turn someone against a religion. Just like a relationship, you must trust and set them free, or you will make the person hate being in the relationship and want to leave. Who wants to belong to a religion that does that? NOT ME!
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@Andi21 (85)
• Germany
11 May 09
This is not great because it think teenager have the right to stay at a prom. And teenagers are the kind of people who need to have fun and who can enjoy it at this age.
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@Opal26 (17684)
• United States
11 May 09
Hey singlemommy! I read this story and was absolutely appalled that this school was allowed to interfere in what a student could or couldn't do after hours! I don't feel that it is their right to decide that a student shouldn't be allowed to attend a harmless function like a school prom! This particular school seems to be going beyond the norm when it comes to rules and regulations! I feel the punishment that are rendering is definitely unjust and unnecessary. I feel that their rules are way to strict and they make no sense and I do hope that they rethink their determination!
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@jillhill (37377)
• United States
11 May 09
These people that are the head of the school must not have read their Bibles as there is much joy and jublilation between the pages of this book which included dancing....good clean fun for teens in this day and age should be given credit...they shouldn't be punished for it!
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@savypat (20245)
• United States
11 May 09
i went to Catholic School and they controlled our lives, both in school and outside of school. If any one saw us going into a movie or ice-cream shop with kids who were not from our school we were reported and could be suspended. Thinks may have changed in 50 years but the Catholic have always been very controlling. Especially of their children, they felt this control helped to keep us out of trouble. Really it just made us smarter at avoiding the rules.
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@Amberina (1541)
• United States
11 May 09
I read the article and I think it stinks what gives that school's principle the right to say what the kids do when not on school grounds? It's ridiculous for that principle to think that he has THAT much power and that's probably what it is is just a power trip the jerk is on. If I was the parent of that kid and it was a private school where I had to pay the bill every school year I would tell them where to put it because they have no right telling my kid what he or she does while not on school grounds. The kid was doing something on his own private time.
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@polachicago (19073)
• United States
11 May 09
I think that it is totally insane. Christian religion is not prohibiting dancing. Why shouldn't he go for prom in different school? hard to understand. This is how he gets famous now....at some point turned into his favorite....
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• United States
11 May 09
I say good for him! I think it is ridiculous for a school to with hold a student from learning because he chooses to use the free will that God gave him to have a little fun with his teenage years. He went to a high school dance for cryin out loud! I would never send my child to a school that inhibited his rights or happiness in any way, regardless of my religious beliefs. In my opinion, religion does not belong in the school systems.
@deebomb (15317)
• United States
11 May 09
I find it really strange that people knowing the rules and the consequences and break the rules then think they shouldn't have to pay the consequences. What happened to responsibility? This has nothing to do with why the school forbids dancing or going to proms. It has o do with following the rules. Too many time it has to do with I don't like that rule so I'll just ignore it and then complain when I get caught and say it's not fair.
@dragon54u (31628)
• United States
11 May 09
Fundies are insane. They are so guilt ridden that they need to impose strict rules on themselves and their congregations. I bet the teen will be suspended and that's a shame because it tells him that religion is a philosophy of punishment and deprivation. I hope he can be exposed to a true church that teaches the spirit and principles of God's love and that he won't be turned against God by the hateful teachings of fundie school and church he goes to now.
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• Philippines
11 May 09
Yeah,I read the news,Ive seen it when I opened my browser,my homepage was yahoo. I don't know what came into their minds that they did that,I mean,prom only happened and experience(memorably)during school years and the christian school didn't even gave the guy a consideration. Im not anti Christian School but for what they did they're just making other people (esp.parents)think different about them.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
11 May 09
That is ridiculous to me! That this boy should be penalised for having innocent fun outside school hours; it is none of the school's business, when a child is outside the school he or she is the parents’ responsibility and clearly they did not have a problem with him attending the prom! I would be inclined to change schools; how backwards is that? In my view if the worst my daughter will do during her teens is go to a dance and hold hands I will consider myself quite fortunate!
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11 May 09
Hi singlemoomy, Yet again i heard something like this and its always to do with christains, this school is really going OTT, about thing, dancing is part of young people enjoying life, we all done it unless you live in a monastrey or a nunnery these people should get a life, this is all part of growing and it human life, if this boy is suspended yes his stepfather should sue the scholl, that wil put the kybosh on the school, God never stop people from having fun, and laughter. Tamara
@Thoroughrob (11748)
• United States
11 May 09
I think it is wrong for them to tell him what he can and cannot do on his own time. That is sad.
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@jillhill (37377)
• United States
11 May 09
My understanding of being a Christian is to share the joy as well...and going to a prom for a night of good clean fun shouldn't be judged like it was....he certainly isn't missing anything by getting kicked out. I often wonder how it is that the people that are supposed to be the most Christian....squelch the joys of life....and sometimes even try to scare people into believing.....I went to five proms between my freshman and senior year...if anyone had told me or my parents that it wasn't right we would have just went our own way....
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@plddre79 (161)
• United States
11 May 09
my advice to you is to change schools with less restrictions to abide by
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