We give back what we get, CONDITIONALLY.....

My responses totally depend on my mood and the amount of work pending on my desk. Sometimes I am very busy but still cannot resist the temptation to post a response. At times I am on mylot posting responses but my mind is elsewhere and I post short and sweet and sometimes not to sweet responses!!!At times the comment is so brief that I cannot think of what to reply.

Sometimes I believe it is due to the fact we have nothing to say. Or we loose the words and can't spell them. We know what we want to say then poof it is gone when we start to type. I'm alway's getting side track on what I'm trying to say. But I hope this helps and you have a wonderful day.

It's quite puzzling actually. For the responses which are long, i would have a few things to say and would also consider it a way of appreciating the person's initiative to say so much. That would not imply that short responses always do convey a lot. Sometimes short responses say a lot in few words. We then feel like responding back in the same way. That makes it seem that we give back what we get. Why ? It's still puzzling.

sometimes if i know the one who is responding,i tend to give longer comments but ifi dont knowanything ,i tend to give sshorter comments.by nature humans are selfish ,i think only motherscan give unconditional love and of course pets do give unconditional love.

Hi Mimpi dear,I wanted to write a long response to this but I have a small feeling thta you may not like what I am going to write.Tell me if you don't mind hearing my opinion without hard feelings and I shall write out my response after some time[have work to do right now].Otherwise I would rather keep quiet THis is a very good topic and I could not resist peeping in though there is my pending duty to respond to discussions that I started .

Hi Mimipi, It does definitely seem that way at times not just on the Lot but in life in general really. If someone just types a one line where you can just answer yes or no all you can do is fabricate yes and no to be a bit longer as they aren't classified as a response but if you put depth into the majority of the time yes the person responding will also. It is like conversations at a bus queue, it is obvious from the start whether it will be a hello and no more or a long chat until the bus arrives. Don't know the reason why though LOL. Huggles. Ellie :D

You must be remembering me giving me only the one liners to all the discussions regardless of their length once.I have started to give some elaborate ones on the insistence of my friends only.Or else always I like to be crisp and brief only. Like a cute little full stop mark to a discussion of any length.

Actually, my responses and comments to responses depend a lot on the thoughts triggered by the person who posts a discussion or makes a response.Sometimes even a one-liner carries a lot of meaning and today I noticed that I felt like writing much more than what the response carried. Normally it does not happen, though I don’t consciously measure my comments to the responses given. .Personally I feel that even if we give a short response based on the person's, it really does not matter. Secondly, it is also important to note how much of meaning the short response has. If too much of thought has not gone into it and it is a meaningless one-liner then we won't have much to write about Moreover, the person himself may not be really interested in reading a long response. I feel , if we do follow our hearts and give the response that appeals to us it is not a mistake or shows that w e are paying back in the same coin. This phrase may be too strong in this context. . I saw a bit of passionate idealism in your thought process and it is my opinion that this sort of 'unconditional' love/giving is possible only with very great people. I do not fall under that category. I also believed a lot in this 'unconditional' giving and believe me I have been terribly hurt in this process.Too much of intensity in thoughts and feelings finally only hurt us badly Mimpi. People do not recognize 'unconditional' love and it is better to follow our head at times instead of the heart at all times. Unfortunately, we do get a bit disappointed when people do not reciprocate our feelings. This gets worse when they say’ I did not ask for this’, or ‘you like to do it and so you are doing it, we can as well do without it’.That is why I have adopted a strategy--namely if I go out of the way to do something I am prepared beforehand for a total indifference from the other party .Normally, with close friends these problems do not rise. Once there is closeness of mind, there is better understanding because here there are no expectations.

I think it can be human psychology. we may think that what we are getting, must be returned. i have seen to the answer of a long discussion even much longer than the discussion itself. May be it is always not the case that people tend to write more.May be they want to write more to all the points the discussion have asked.

Do I do that? I didn't think so. I give a long response under two or three conditions. The most important one is how much time I have, then how interested I am in the topic, and finally how interested I am in the people in the dialog, but that is the last consideration really, so if some friends (oops!) get a short response from me sometimes that doesn't really mean I am not interested in them. Probably interest does factor in, however.

I don't look at it like that at all. I respond according to how I feel about the topic. My response has nothing at all to do with the length of the comment that I'm responding to.

Hi mimpi, No dear, I don’t think I am doing like. Mostly it depends on the topic. Usually I don’t like to give a one line answer as a response and if I am not familiar with the subject I may drop that discussion. While commenting back, I have noticed that sometimes I got one line response but my comment may be in one paragraph (definitely they asked something in one line). I am trying my best to be honest and sincere to my opinion and not bothering about the length.

Mim, I don't think it is an intentional thing. If someone gives a short response, they don't really give enough information for the poster to converse on. Here on Mylot, one of the rules is to give a post or response of at least 3 or 4 lines. Many many people don't follow those guidelines. By not following the guidelines of course they don't earn much if any. If they don't care about the earnings then why are they here? I'm here to make friends like you and many others. If I only responded in a line or two, how would anyone get to know me and consider me worthy of their friendship? I've certainly read enough of your posts and responses to know that you are a very sweet and thoughful person. I know that I am proud to be your friend. Hugsss to you my friend. leenie

Uhmmm...I can't say that I have really noticed that mimpi; maybe I haven't paid enough attention. The length of my comments varies depending on the topic, my mood and my time schedule. For me I usually have to stop myself from rambling on because once I start writing I can't seem to be able to stop and that could get a bit boring for everyone. I wonder if it is an intentional thing that people do. If the response is short and sweet it doesn't leave much to comment on and the longer the response the more information is provided to remark on, I guess???