Age doesn't matter... for real?

Age doesn't matter to a certain extent. I agree that we can't help who we love but I do think there has to be a boundary when it comes to age. It is hard for me to believe that a 20 year old man can really be in love with a 40 year old women. The age difference is so big it just doesn't seem right. Many times we see a younger person married to an older person not because they love him or her but for the simple fact that the older person can provide the younger person something in life which is often money. On the flip side a lot of older people look for younger people because of the beauty and energy that comes with the youth. I'm not saying it's impossible for a 20 year old women to fall in love with a 40 year old man but I am saying that its rare. Often times then not people are drawn to someone with the same maturity level and there aren't many 20 year olds who have the maturity level of a 40 year old. -John

When it comes to age difference it really depends on how old and what you are talking about, now yes, age would matter if a 20 years old wanted to go out with my 13 years old, but now if you are talking 2 adults, well, I'm 14 years older my husband but to see us together you would not have known, for he looks older then I do and I also depends if they really love one another have a lot in common. Now I did say to look at us you would have not known LOL, I didn't say he didn't ask like it, LOL

Actually it doesnt really matter. As long as you love the other person for who they are and as long as you respect them, it really doesnt make a difference. And why do you really need to worry about the opinion of society? Society doesnt get effected when you have problems. And society doesnt really feel the happiness that you do when you are in love.

Hi kryzeel, you can understand it cause you never been there in that situation. But their just human, how they are destined. I never want to judge a book by it's cover, and not minding this people or anyone in this kind of relationship. As long as they don't hurt anyone, and as long as their happy with their life. If you can't accept it, it's just fine. The world is changing! We do react cause we can't understand what they feel, but their just human just also have feelings, emotions, and have the right to fall in love. Love doesn't have boundaries. Anyway like Vilma Santos and Ralph Recto it's doing well and they keep on moving. There is no relationship that is perfect, it's how they make it together.Have a nice day to you!

For me age doesn't really matter. If men can be older than the women in a relationship and it ok then why the should there be a problem when women a older than their men partner. It is because they are women? I don't like that. If two perosn are in love then nothing matters, nothing.

Idealy, I think a couple should be close in age, peers. But there are no absolutes. It just seems that maybe infatuation may work for awhile between couples with a big age difference but if you're trying to build a life together you've got to have more in common than the bedroom. How can people so far apart in age possibly have the same goal, interests, and desires. They're at two different points in their lives. Try to build something lasting and that generation gap will seem like the Grand Canyon.

I know a lady and when she was 40 years old she was dating a 28 year old man. Their relationship lasted for around 5 years. The age difference didn't seem to matter. At that time they were so in love. I saw a program on television and in it were two gay men. One was age 38 years old and the other was aged 56 years old. Again the age gap didn't seem to bother either of them. One of my male friends is the same age as me and he has a female friend. She asked him if he would like to meet her new boyfriend seven years ago at that time she was 29 years old. He said yes and met her in a bar. He thought that her boyfriend was the bar man. Then she showed her to a man who at that time was 58 years old. He is now over 60 years old and their relationship is still going strong. Personally I would date a man up to 12 years older than me or a man up to 5 years younger than me.

There are some celebrities in India which are such pairs and they are having successful married life....the famous cricketer from India Sachin Tendulkar, has an elder wife than him. I think when its extra marital relationship, where both of the person are together just for relationship, and also continuing thir married life independantly, then boys dont mind having it, but when it comes to marriage and the queston arises to accept the elderly woman in front of the society, they will hesitate. Its my own view.

I think it all depends on the people. I am older and I have dated younger men. I also know older men who have dated younger women. Like any relationship, it depends on how much you have in common etc as to whether the relationship works out. The only barrier I have found as far as the age thing is that beyond physical attraction, minds have to meet. I mean the younger person has to be mature beyond their years in equal measure to the older person being immature....or better put...young at heart. In the examples you gave...i can see it. Demi moore is without a doubt very young for her age not only in looks but attitude.

As much as I like to say that age doesn't matter, it can matter at certain times, for instance if your partner is 20 years older than you, they are likely to pass away first, and you would have to make the choice between living on your own or finding another partner. Also, the agendas of each partner might be different. One might want a couple of children and marriage, while one might not want that yet. But, if both want the same thing from the relationship, then I guess love is love and can't be argued with!

This is a great topic to discuss. Okay here are my thoughts on it. To me age means nothing really expect when there is like a 12 year old girl and a 30 year old man. Now this is somthing to think about if a older woman dates a younger man no one says anything, but if a young girl dates an older guy it is a big deal. See that is to me what is unfair. I care not much about age because my boyfriend and I are about 6 years apart and I think we get along pretty well. Take care and happy mylotting to you as well.

Though for others age doesnt matter but I guess it still matters. There are still differences when an older woman have a relationship with a young man. The woman had to do more adjustments just to cope up. Same to an older man having a relationship with a yonger woman though little adjustments maybe as quite normal for the man to be older. Age doesn't matter can be realize only when both parties became well adjusted to each other and having an on going smooth relationship that resulted to happy endings.

I really don't believe that it should matter. It is really up to the situation though. I feel that both parties should be adults because it is far too easy for a 25-30 year old to manipulate a teenager and push them into something. When it comes to adults though I have experienced both sides of the system, older woman with younger man and vice versa. My mother is actually married to a man that is almost 20 years younger than her and they are overwhelmingly happy. I've never seen her so full of life and it's great. I myself am with a younger woman and it's never an issue. Bilby and I both connect on an intellectual level that is unmatched by all of my friends and past relationships. The age gap seems to have no effect on our tastes in music or movies or literature. We also learn a great deal from each other about the others peer groups. I think it is great when two or more people can transcend societal stigmas and follow their hearts no matter the views of others. And common try to be happy for Demi, Ashton is dumb as dirt but he's a total hottie!

hey guys, come to think of it. We should not go on the fairy tale side of life. Yes, indeed there are relationship wherein age doesn't matter for both but in actuality not all of those have the same thinking. There are people who are in that kind of relationship and situations were not happy because their partner is not 100% loyal to them and oftentimes those younger partner always in need of someone at their age. I'm not against with may-december love affair but I think the people involved specially the older women should be aware of that not all of relationship can last long specially if their partners were younger than them.

First of all, you are stereotyping and in that you are not alone…I am very much in it with you i.e I cant really comprehend how people with vast age difference between them can fall in love and also I am kind of used to seeing husbands elder than wives, rather than vice versa. However, I feel when such matches do take place, there are many reasons for that…calf love, love of money, love of being a famous person’s arm candy, rising the social ladder thru marriage etc etc…all these are mainly for the younger spouse. Why the elder spouse falls in love with someone much much younger (men with women the age of their grandchild …and same for women) is because I think, a young partner makes them feel younger. Its that eternal quest for youth, to be with the young, to enjoy life and to prove to others that all’s well with them and their body.

Age doesn't matter when it comes to falling in love, maybe. Because we can never choose who we love, right? But, it does matter when it comes to more serious matters such as marriage. When men are immature because of, well, mostly age, the relationship might not end up healthy. Men should always be the leader in everything and am not talking conservatively but Biblically. If the leader is immature, irresponsible and whatever else, the relationship will end up being dominated by the woman. Eventually, the man will feel useless and his ego hurt making him inferior...and this will cause him to find a younger and inexperienced girl who he can dominate.

I dont have a problem with age..I am 46 and my ex boyfriend was 35...and once when I was 29 I was dating a guy that was 50 at the time...it is not the age it is what's inside that counts..and if the person makes you happy then dont worry about what people might say.

I think for some it works out. There are old souls, and young souls and they are better suited being with someone of a different age group. But I don't think the odds are with it. There is just to much of a difference in experience and maturity, and probably energy as well. But I think it can work, but I bet it doesn't work more than it works.

I don't usually dis anyone about anything but I think age does matter. I think the most difference should be about 8yrs. I understand that older guys like younfer girls and everything but I don't get it at all. If your an older man you might be attractive but all the women want from you is your status and your money. I mean why would a 25yr old want a 50yr old? They aren't going to have anything in common and that 25yr old is just going to cheat on him and then divorce him and collect money.

i always think that in live, its not a big deal what your age is.. as long as you are happy together then keep it up.. and also..how do you know about vicky belo and hayden kho? are you a filipino?? i was thinking that hayden kho just loved vicky bacause of the money in the first place..but then he realized that he really love vicky.. thats just an opinion..