Just Need Some little Encouragement

@macel19 (202)
Philippines
June 8, 2009 7:36am CST
I am in my 37th week of my pregnancy and I went to my Obgyne today,I was so worried about what she said about the baby's position, she said that the baby is in breech position or sideways. She said that the baby's presentation would lead to cesarian section which I am very afraid to undergo. She also said everytime the baby contract it should be "cirle like" but mine is not. It seems that there is an excess part. I am so afraid what will happened during my delivery. I am also worried what my baby looks like, I am afraid if there are complications amd I am also afraid what if there something wrong with my baby physically. Is it normal to think this kind of worries before giving birth? I am really worried.
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17 responses
• United States
9 Jun 09
Is this your first baby? It sounds like it is. It is common for every mother to be afraid. When my daughter had her first baby they had the cesarian on stnad by just in case. Sometimes the babies turn the wrong way. So they have to deliver cesarian way. But it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with your baby. I will keep my prayers over you and your baby.
@macel19 (202)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
I really appreciate it a lot. Yes it is my first baby and this is a baby girl. I am relieved that I am not the only one experiencing this kind of situation. It's really hard to be a first time mom, but by grace I know everything will be going well.
• United States
10 Jun 09
My prayers will be sent out to you for you and your baby. You will have a healthy baby girl. My daughter had her baby boy.
@geniustiger (1696)
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
Oh Im so sorry to hear it. Pray to God that you will be okay for the delivery soon. Will try to consult a para hilot where the baby will be place to normal thru soft massage for mastered person like midwife. The baby inside still moving until to come for delivery. Need advises from old ones that have this experiences so that you will be helped about this.This is normal to feel worried about it.
@macel19 (202)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
Honestly, I've been thinking about consulting a chiropractor but my husband is hesistant about it and beside it is really hard to find experts in line with manuevering the baby. The doctor is trying to help me and give some exercises but i guess it didnt for now. I tried to talk to the baby but I guess it's not working as well.My faith is to delivery the baby normal way, I've been praying so hard and I guess you're right that worrying is not helping at all. I know deep in my heart that everything will be just fine.
@kryzell (921)
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
I've had this same thoughts a few months back, prior to my delivery. And yes, it is normal to have this fears. As a mother, the last thing we want for our baby is what we consider as less. I suggest that you share this fears with your healthcare provider. That way, you can discuss for possible options. As much as possible, try insisting on having a normal delivery. However, if this is not possible... then be open about discussing on Caesarean Section. Sharing your fears, will help alleviate it. Learn more about the procedure...because sometimes, we fear what we don't know. Lastly, I am not sure if I am helping you by saying this, but I'll say it anyway, in the hope that it'll help you feel better...I am the only one in our family who gave birth normally. My mother, siblings, and 2 cousins gave birth through Caesarean Section... and to tell you honestly, it wasn't that bad... Let's keep praying though, that everything turns out normally, okay? Don't worry too much, this might affect your baby.
@macel19 (202)
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
I really appreciate your response. Sometimes I can't even have a good sleep at night because of this situation. It is hard to understand why babies are in breech position. You are right I really need someone to talk too just to release my fears.You're right, I know that prayer is another way of releasing this fears.
@maximax8 (30514)
• United Kingdom
13 Jun 09
On Wednesday I went to see my midwife and she thought my baby was breech. I was really upset because I was planning a home birth. I went to the hospital to have a presentation scan. My baby girl was gead down so my midwife was wrong. Her head wasn't engaged though so I still feel a bit nervous. My next midwife appointment is the day before my baby's due date. I am 38 weeks and 2 days pregnant. I hope that you get the birth you feel comfortable with. I am sure your baby will look fine. Good luck.
@jimbelle (485)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
It is quite normal to get worried about your pregnancy. At present it wll be easy to know if there is an obvious abnormality because we have a 3D ultrasound . Trust your Obstetrician. If this is your first baby and it is breech in position most likely your will undergo cesarian section. But you don't have to worry ... just pray everything will turn out fine.
• United States
11 Jun 09
We all have fears about childbirth, it is normal. my son was born sunnyside up and had the cord around his neck. today he is almost 4 and writing on my walls!! Relax, the baby can sense when you are stressed. At least with a C section, your babies head will be perfectly round!!! : )
@bellis716 (4804)
• United States
11 Jun 09
I've not had a C-section, but my daughter-in-law has had 2. She had no problems related to the surgery. Please don't be frightened. Just be thankful that the doctor is aware that there may be a problem. I say "may" because there is always the chance that the baby may turn.
@JeninND (65)
• United States
9 Jun 09
If you can, find a chiropractor who is certified in the Webster technique. This adjustment is proven to turn breech babies! Your doctor CAN do what's called an external version. The doctor manipulates your belly and tries to get the baby to turn. This is painful and risky, however. The chiropractic treatment is painless, easier on you and baby, and has a higher success rate. You can find a Webster-certified chiropractor by calling chiropractors and asking, or visiting this website: http://www.icpa4kids.org Good luck!
• United States
9 Jun 09
I think all expectant moms go through the fears and worries the closer it gets to delivery date. When you have quiet time just sit there and picture your baby's birth going just the way you wish it to and the joy you will feel when you see it for the first time...and all the joys it will bring. I know it is hard but try not to worry on how baby is positioned. When its time the professionals will know how to handle it as they do so on a daily basis. And with today's technology it is amazing how they can keep track of both yours and the baby's health minute by minute. All will be well, just relax and enjoy all the gifts that motherhood brings. You will do great.
@flzmlady (418)
• China
9 Jun 09
i think it is normal, just a suggestion i think you should ask your doc to get more details,make sure that whether this position is safe or not ask your husband and friends to be around with you more so that you will not be too nervous
@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
Stop worrying! This may also have a negative effect on the baby and how he sees things. Be strong for him, I know its quite hard to calm down but worrying will only make things worse and it will not help both of you. I believe that he will be just fine just have faith and leave everything else to the LORD, it will be fine. Since my heart surgery last May 2004, I already know that once I have a baby I will undergo another one for the CS, just imagine how many stitches do I really need, lol. Its natural for a mother-to-be to be anxious and it can't be helped but you also have to consider that you're the baby's strength and life. If you start feeling down it won't help him at all what's left is really to acquire more information from your doctors and pray. I know how much you love your baby its too early for you to worry about the unnecessary things, one at a time, think about what should be done first to avoid CS or are there any necessary precautions to be taken for the baby to be safe. Are you taking medications? If not, i'm sure the baby will be just fine and normal. I'll help pray for you too and may the LORD sustain you.
• United States
9 Jun 09
you are supposed to worry you are a mom. I am taking a class about learning languages and I have recently read that in some cases if encourages by a familiar voice a baby will change positions. Let me explain. If you have a significant other that spends alot of time around you talking, or talking to the baby then you can lie down on the couch and get comfortable and have that person hold your feet in their lap. Then you can talk. And that person can talk to the baby. Research has shown that the higher pitched voices are what a baby can hear best in the womb so if this person is a man, have him sing to the baby. (I say person because my mom did this with my little sister when she was pregnant. Riely wanted to be out in the world early and when my mom would rub my sisters feet and talk to her the baby tried to get closer to her Nana.) Try it, it might work. At the very least you get to spend some time relaxing.
• United States
8 Jun 09
Hi marcel19 I know that this kind of thought are normal becasue I when true them with both of my kids. Since your are afraid of giving birth many bad thoughts come to mind but don't worry everything is going to be just fine. Try to think positive all the time just imagine your baby like the perfect angel your going to have. And about giving birth sometimes the baby those not move to the right possition until the last minute. But if he or she those not and if you need cesari its not that scary. Just try to relax because the more you are relaxed the easier and the faster it would all be. I wish you the best on your delivery day for you and your baby that I'm sure ones you see her or him everything will seem perfect. And also if there was a change that something coud be wrong with the baby the DR. would of told you already. Because they do many test to see if things are going good true the pregnancy with you and the baby. Take care and do not worry.
@hi2rashid (153)
• India
8 Jun 09
Wake yup in the morning and do your works. pray god. beleive yourself. think about charle chaplin, thomas alwa edison. don't be afraid all times
@jessi0887 (2792)
• United States
8 Jun 09
Its normal to be afraid. Every mother has so many concerns and fears. Have you asked the doctor about turning the baby? I am surprised they didn't suggest it. Usually the doctor will attempt to turn the baby around that week if the baby has not already. If the baby turns back then they order a csection. But i think when they turn the baby it usually works. I hope everything goes well.
@di1159 (1580)
• United States
8 Jun 09
Take a deep breath, close your eyes and relax! All of your worries are normal, especially as your delivery date approaches. I am sure your doctor will monitor you closely, and many times the baby gets into position right before birth. If not, then I'm sure you will be scheduled for a C-section which is not bad. I've had both types of delivery and my c-section was an emergency. Everything turned out fine. Try to relax, as the stress you are experiencing is also passed to your baby. Relax and voice your concerns with your doctor. I am sure your birth experience will be wonderful and all babies are beautiful. Both you and baby will do just fine!
@irishidid (8712)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I've been through a c-section for that exact reason. I had an epidural and remained awake. It isn't so bad. The recovery is probably harder, at least it was for me. You are much better going with the c-section than either having the baby breech or in the transverse lie (sideways) position and having it turned while still inside. Not something I'd wish on my worst enemy. Trust me. Your fears are normal. We can think up the worst thing to worry about, then when it is all said and done everything is fine.