What is the Right age for Marriage? OPINIONS PLEASE!

I think maturity is a big factor in being the right age to get married. Now my mom was sixteen, and my dad was twenty when they got married. That was 33 years ago though. They were both very mature. My mom had graduated high school early, and had already been working in a bank. My dad worked like a dog in two jobs, and had already been through two years of college. They were hardworking, intelligent people. A lot of people probably thought it wouldn't last because they were so young, but they were wrong. Now by contrast, my sister was 27 when she got married. She already had her Masters degree when she was 21, and a full time job. But despite being intelligent, there was something in her that wasn't quite ready for someone to spend their life with her. So I think God brought the right man along for her at a later age than some people. She is about to celebrate her 3rd wedding anniversary, and she and her husband are so dedicated to each other. I have a hard time thinking anyone should be married at sixteen these days. It's not my business, but the proper age to me, the youngest I would think a woman should be is eighteen. That is still pretty young, but like I said, it isn't my business. But getting maried at an age younger than 18 these days just feels like a dangerous thing to do. People don't seem to be as mature or ready for adulthood as they used to be. In most states, people cannot get married younger than sixtten. There are a couple of states that allow people to get married younger, but they have to have their parents permission. And I don't think many parents would give that permission. But for the most part, sixteen is the legal age for one to be married.

You are right. Marriage differs to different countries depending on their tradition, religious beliefs and culture. Here in the Philippines, there is no such thing as arranged marriages. The only requirement relating to age is that the man or woman can validly or legally marry when they reach majority age which is 18 years old. However, if we speak of marriage, age is not only the factor to consider. As you have mentioned, maturity is necessary. Other than age and maturity, we also need to consider emotional, spiritual, financial and moral preparedness. I say so because marriage is a relationship of responsibility and obligation to both. They vow to have mutual love, respect, loyalty, support and understanding. Therefore, a person may marry for whatever age he or she thinks he/she is ready to handle and manage the obligations and responsibilities that comes their way.

[b]Andre, there is no exact age when one becomes mature. In fact, maturity is a life-long process. At 61, I make decisions with far more insight & knowledge than I did at 21, which was once the legal age of "maturity" in the U.S. I expect when I'm older, that will be true compared to my current decisions as well. I think, given the propensity of youth in present day American culture to remain immature far longer than people did when I was born in 1948 (this habit even has a name; the "Peter Pan" syndrome"), actually being mature enough to marry--a serious step!--should probably be delayed until one is at least 25, for most. Wait much longer, however, & folks would lose the necessary stamina to be attentive parents! Naturally, some people just NEVER grow up, & that sort will never be enlightened enough to marry, though most will anyway. More's the pity, especially if they have children, who will suffer from resultant divorces or marital strife. Equally naturally, some people will mature faster, & they shouldn't be forced to wait, whether by custom or law. So, if someone's learned to delay self-gratification, has kept a steady job for at least a year, one which pays enough to support a family, & has a strong faith, then he or she is likely ready to wed. Chronological age is largely irrelevant. Children, even "grown" ones, should not marry. Period. Maggiepie "WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"[/b]

its not about age my friend its about the right time and it does not involve age but the maturity of ones person. Ones you know and feel that you are ready to get married and you have this one particular person that you can leave without then he proposes to you and you agree to that proposal and both of you are ready to take the next step then that is the right time to get married for me... Marriage comes with great responsibility not only to both of you but to the family that both you and your partner are going to build in the future... Ask yourself a thousand times that is that the person that you want to be with the rest of your life , would he be a good father to you children, would you be happy with him and many more.... this could help you decide if you really are ready for that stage.... I am already 30 and I have to admit I am still not ready for marriage and dont mind if I have to wait 10 years more as long as I married for the right reason and for me that is LOVE

A recent international survey found 79 per cent of the Indian youths, who were questioned, vouching for thirties as the right time to tie the knot, higher than the global figure of 77 per cent. "The new generation is more career-oriented and is reluctant to assume other responsibilities before their career objectives are fulfilled," said Sarang Panchal, Executive Director, South Asia, of AC Nielsen which conducted the survey. People generally attain a degree of stability in terms of career around the age of 30 years and hence there has been an increasing trend where people prefer to get married in their thirties, he said. Marriage is no longer a life goal for a large number of Indian youth who are now more career-oriented. Only 53 per cent of respondents in India consider marriage a life goal, one of the lowest in the Asia Pacific region. However, for 61 per cent people across the globe, marriage is a major goal in life, with Indonesians topping the chart with 87 per cent giving utmost importance to it.

As far as legality is concerned, an 18-year-old can already get married provided she has parental consent. As far as the maturity level that a person should have, it is a case to case basis. While some are still young, they think maturely and can already accept the responsibilities of a married life. But statistics say that most failed marriages was due immaturity that manifests at a young age. For me it is better that they reach late 20s before they can get married. By that time, they are already accomplished and mature enough.

I think that marriage is dependant on the people involved. It can fail to lack of maturity but it can also fail when you are married 25 years due to lack of communication.

I don't think so much early marriages fail due to lack of maturity. I think it is more to do with being blinded by lust and attractiveness and not realising the lack of compatibility. I met my husband when I was 18 and he was 24, we married 6 years later and although I though I was ready for marriage the minute I met him, I realise we did it at the perfect time. We had built our relationship, earned eachothers love and trust etc whereas if we had done it young it wouldn't have been based on anything other than lust and the IDEA of love

Marriage is the union of two people who are in love and solidify their relationship as God and other families to be your witness. About the age, if you are matured enough, ready to stand on your own two feet, not relying on your parents who is going to feed you like a baby and you are strong in your decision, then you are ready for marriage. But if you are still studying, depending on your father and mother, does not have any means of source for you to support your self and your better half, then by all means you have no right to get married or be married yet. It takes time, financial stability and emotionally strong if you wanted to consider yourself a candidate for marital bliss. Think not only of yourself, but also of your better half. If you are ready for responsibility and challenge, well this is important to consider also.

I think the right age for marriage differs for everyone. I don't plan on getting married any time soon. I am happy and enjoying myself. I noticed some people here said that being around 25 would be a good age to get married, but it is not something I see myself doing at that age. Why complicate your life too early if you don't want to. Maybe that feeling goes away when you meet the right person, but until then you should just try your best to enjoy life. There used to be an age in the past where you would have been considered to have been left on the shelf if you hadn't got married by a certain time, but things are different now and people of all ages are always looking for love. Early marriages don't always end up in failure. Some people just appreciate the idea of marriage at an earlier age. You just have to listen to what you feel is right for you at that moment in your life.

27 for the girl and i guess 25 for the guys heehhee

I agree with Ambie, maturity plays a big role. I think, even if financially struggling, a married couple can look past through it. It's about them embracing the responsibilities and the idea of teamwork to raise a family.

for men right age for marriage is 28 and for women it around 25. anyway everything depends on the situations.

I do think age plays i big factor in marriage. I am on my 3rd marriage and the first failed because we were only 18 and 19 yrs old....not near old or mature enough. I got it right this time....lol....(I certainly hope)

i don't think there is a specific age for a man and woman to get married... some people get married earlier... some people get married at a later age... it really depends on whether you have found your soulmate yet or not... and you can't force love... it is a natural thing and it will come to you when the time is right... and it is usually at the most unexpected time... so we will never know... take care and have a nice day...

I think they should do away with arranged marriages becuase after all this is not the stone age, neither men or women need there parents to find a spouce for them, as for the correct age to get married it defers or everybody but it should be an age where you have experienced everything in life as a singe person and you are ready to be married to start a fmily and be with the same person for life.

I was married before my 18th birthday, my husband was 19.. It was a different experience going through my early 20s married.. But it kept me from going to all of those wild parties and what not.. We grew up together, but then when he quit trying he started to pull me down too, going away from my goals and dreams.. I feel it really depends on the couple.. Age is just a number, a person's mentality is more of the issue.. Granted if you get married at a young age you will be looking at a longer life time together.. Some may say that it would be too long and others will look at the fact that it a full life with a lot of memories.. A marriage is a lot different then a boyfriend, girlfriend relationship.. Normally they still have there own place that they stay.. So they have a life together but the also have a life that is separate.. In a marriage its one life, everything should be shared.. It has its benefits and its downsides just like everything else in life.. A marriage can get boring, if you both do not work on it each and every day.. Also the two people can end up growing apart, unless you share your opinions and feeling with each other every day.. Then there is the case of children.. They can and will put some stress on any type of relationship.. Each person has their own opinion on how a child should be rasied.. This should be a subject that should be talked about before having children.. And a open dialog between the two while rasing the child or children.. Life is always full of changes, it does not matter the age.. The right time for marriage depends on the individual, and how each person feels about the relationship, this can happen at 18 or even 50..

I don't think you can ever be too old to be married. At least I hope not! But I definitely think you can be too young. Ideally I think you should wait until your mid-20's, maybe 22 or 23 at the earliest. I know it doesn't always work out this way, and some marriages work out fine if you are married earlier. I just think you need to reach a certain maturity level first, and typically mid-20's is a good age. But love is love and it's different for everyone.

Well the best marriage is around 25 to 35 because if you wait you can rack up an good amount of money to give your marriage support. If you were to marry at 20 you probably would need to get donations for the weddings and the pressure of the money crisis would actually literally force you guys apart in my expirence.