Girls: does the ring have to have diamonds?

@UK_Shree (3604)
June 25, 2009 4:39pm CST
Or would you be as happy with an alternative precious stone on your engagement ring? I personally love the sparkle of a diamond as I am sure a lot of women do, but I do understand and appreciate that other precious stones can be beautiful and special in their own unique way. What do you think?
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@celticeagle (123098)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jun 09
It would depend on the ring! There are so many fine cuts and types of diamonds it would be hard to say no to that. But there are alot of other precious gems too. Saphires and Rubies and opals, oh my. So many beautiful antiques and family heirlooms that it is hard to say what would whisp me up and take me away.
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@UK_Shree (3604)
25 Jun 09
The choice is too much! x
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@celticeagle (123098)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jun 09
Yes, it would really depend on the mood and what looked good at the time.
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@UK_Shree (3604)
25 Jun 09
Lol, I would love to be so well-destined!
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@rainmark (4302)
25 Jun 09
I don't mind if it's diamond or not, the important is it's the thought that counts. Actually i don't have an engagement ring, instead my hubby bought me a house. And i got a diamond ring last xmas from him. I love it, it's so cute and it sparkle,something to brag with friends lolz.
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@UK_Shree (3604)
25 Jun 09
What you say is so true and your hubby is really lucky to have someone as appreciative as you are. A house instead of a ring is really quite awesome by the way!
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@jt1981 (126)
• United States
25 Jun 09
i would be happy with an alternative. diamonds are nice, but sometimes in order to get the one you can afford you have to get a smaller one. if you get an alternative stone, you can get one any size you want. also, there is a lot of controversy over how diamonds are mined and the human rights of the people mining diamonds. so if you get an alternative stone you might not have to feel as guilty about how your diamond was obtained. also, lately i have noticed a lot of engagement rings look really similar. either one big diamond with a bunch of little ones around the main stone, or a bigger diamond in the center with channel set diamonds on the band on either side of the main diamond. i would prefer to get a ring that doesn't look like everyone else's. i would just be mindful of the durability of the ring. you want it to last a lifetime, and some stones would not be good for a ring that you'll be wearing everyday.
@UK_Shree (3604)
25 Jun 09
Thanks for a really well thought out contribution to this discussion! I know what you mean about everyones rings looking pretty much the same these days. Being unique is more precious than having a big expensive diamond on you finger.
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@jt1981 (126)
• United States
26 Jun 09
haha, sorry for the length but it is a topic that is near and dear to my heart! i guess you can tell i've thought out all angles of this. i'd prefer to have a unique ring. with a diamond it's easy to constantly be comparing yourself to others and thinking in terms of "whose is bigger?" i just want to be myself and not be surrounded by all of that diamond anxiety!
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@UK_Shree (3604)
28 Jun 09
yes I agree, the ring needs to be meaningful above all else.
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@swtpareek (651)
• United States
25 Jun 09
I would really appreciate if my ring had a diamond but I would really go by the feelings so I would like anything that he get for me... Just as far as we are together nothing matters....
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@UK_Shree (3604)
25 Jun 09
That is a very sweet response and a really lovely attitude to have.
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• United States
26 Jun 09
thank you for the lovely words...
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@Galena (9123)
25 Jun 09
I love opals. they're my favourite stones. but as they are my favourite stones, I have a lot of jewellery with opals. so when we chose my engagement ring together, I was keen to have a diamond, as I didn't have any diamond rings, so it would seem more to me like an engagement ring than like the other rings I have. also, white gold and sparkly diamonds go with everything you have. and as it's something you don't take off, that's important. but its up to a couple to choose the engagement ring. choosing one that they both like, that is comfortable and convenient to wear, and that everyone will enjoy for the rest of their lives.
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@UK_Shree (3604)
25 Jun 09
I completely agree with you. Its the symbology of the ring that is really quite important - that it stands out from other jewellery and that both partners see it as a symbol of their commitment to one another.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36471)
• United States
26 Jun 09
I prefer diamonds myself not that i'm expecting to get any new rings.I BELIEVE THOSE DAYS ARE OVER.
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@UK_Shree (3604)
28 Jun 09
You never know! Never give up hope I say. xxx
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@ANTIQUELADY (36471)
• United States
28 Jun 09
That is not on my hope list. I'm satisfied w/my life as it is. Don't want some ol' man to have to wait on & cater to.
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@UK_Shree (3604)
28 Jun 09
Yes I suppose that is the downside! x
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• Philippines
26 Jun 09
Every inlove woman would like to receive a diamond ring from the person she loves...though, personally, any ring will do...as long as it came from the person i want to marry with.
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@UK_Shree (3604)
28 Jun 09
I agree. The ring is a symbol of that person, not how much money anyone has.
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
for me, it doesn't have to have diamonds. i would be as happy with any kind of ring or any stone in the ring. i wouldn't mind not having a ring even. sure i would love a ring, a diamond even... but that's not my reason for being with the guy or to get engaged with him... so that's one thing i could do without. i have simple joys in life, so material value is not a major concern.
@UK_Shree (3604)
28 Jun 09
That is very nice and your partner is very lucky to have you/
@SomeCowgirl (32256)
• United States
26 Jun 09
I'm not a diamond girl. I like the fact that my fiance and my birthstone is on my engagement ring. It feels that much more special to me. I don't really understand jewelry lingo anyway so the simpler the better for me, especially as I am not a jewelry type of girl either way. Lol.
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@UK_Shree (3604)
28 Jun 09
That's really nice that you have your birthstones on there. I am sure it is very special.
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@larish (2193)
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
For me it doesnt matter as long as it came from my significant other. I won't appreciate a diamond ring if it comes from someone who is not special to me. But come to think of it, it will really be nicer if I get a diamong ring from my special someone. lol
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@UK_Shree (3604)
28 Jun 09
Thats very true. It's who it comes from that is the most important thing.
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@GardenGerty (113535)
• United States
25 Jun 09
My wedding ring has no stone. It is sterling silver in a Celtic knot design.I love all kinds of gemstones, I love color, so it would be cool to have anything. I knew someone who had an opal birthstone, and so asked to have that in her engagement ring.
@UK_Shree (3604)
28 Jun 09
Yes I have heard about many opting to have their birthstone in their engagement ring too.
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@cyrus123 (6364)
• United States
25 Jun 09
I always thought that an engagement ring had to be a diamond. I guess not, though, because I've heard of some girls who preferred to have a different stone. I have known one or two women who said they didn't care for diamonds. I think they're pretty, myself. To me, it doesn't matter what color the stone is. Kathy.
@UK_Shree (3604)
28 Jun 09
Traditionally, most do wear a diamod engagement ring. But like you said, it doesn't have to be diamonds. Depends on personal preference I suppose.
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• United States
26 Jun 09
If you are referring to an engagement ring, then yes, if you are going to put stones in an engagement ring, it should be diamond. Otherwise, go with the plain band. Diamond means : forever.
@UK_Shree (3604)
28 Jun 09
Yes but some other stones are precious and durable too though. How aboutt rubies for example?
• United States
28 Jun 09
Rubies and othter gems will suffice, if that is what you prefer, of course. Rubies have a different meaning attached to them.
@sid556 (30997)
• United States
15 Aug 09
When I got engaged...I would have been and was happy with whatever my fiancee chose to give me. It was from his heart and that is all that mattered to me. I was so in love...I'd have been fine with no ring....I really would have. On my second marriage...I did not get an engagement ring. It did not matter to me one bit. I know that seems weird but our commitment to each other meant so much more to me than anything at all.
@UK_Shree (3604)
17 Aug 09
That's a great answer. All that really matters in the end is how you feel about each other, not what things you buy each other.
@Daae92 (75)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I could care less, the ring means nothing, the commitment behind it does but that commitment should be evident in the way you act and treat your partner. A ring is just a hunk of metal and rock when compared to the love, devotion and commitment of your partner.
@UK_Shree (3604)
10 Jul 09
Well said! Without all the other lovely things to go with it, a ring is worthless.
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
When my friend got engaged I really imagined myself having a diamond ring. But since we do not have enough money at that time we could only afford a silver pair. We are both happy with our rings but he promised to upgrade our rings. When my friend and her fiance broke up I told my boyfriend that it doesn't matter whether he would give me a ring or not as long as we are happy and inlove with each other. Now we are planning for our wedding, we already have our rings and true to his promise he upgraded our silver rings. Now we have a gold band with 9 diamonds in it which is more than I dreamed of.
@UK_Shree (3604)
2 Jul 09
That is truly lovely to hear about. I am very happy for you and your fiance. And you are completely right. Being in love with each other is the most important thing, getting a nice ring to go with it is only a bonus!
• Malaysia
1 Jul 09
I don't fancy diamond. I think its up to the girl taste though. Well all the publicity about diamond is forever had an impact on that idea. I like simple design ring. Even a plain gold ring is fine for me.
@UK_Shree (3604)
1 Jul 09
Yes I agree - diamonds definitely do have that romantic idea attached to them and I suppose that increases their popularity for engagement rings.
• United States
30 Jun 09
I not big on diamonds. I love pink sapphires
@UK_Shree (3604)
1 Jul 09
Well pink sapphires do sound fab too!
@AmbiePam (51194)
• United States
27 Jun 09
No, I don't need a diamond at all. I'm not really big on jewelry. If the guy wanted to get me a plain band, I'm okay with that. In fact, I'd probably just prefer to have the wedding band during the ceremony, and no engagement ring. I would feel badly about him spending money on me.
@UK_Shree (3604)
28 Jun 09
I know. But it would be a one-off purchase and one that i am sure he'd be priveliged to make!
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• United States
26 Jun 09
Not for me...I actually don't like diamonds. I would much rather have a precious stone, or a upgraded birthstone ring....simple with no diamonds attached to it. Don't like all that glitter.
@UK_Shree (3604)
28 Jun 09
You are probably one of few women! I do like coloured stones too but diamonds are gorgeous!