Men are born to look at women.

@mermaidivy (15395)
United States
June 29, 2009 9:33am CST
Do you agree? No matter the man is single, in relationship, married, divorced or young, old; they like to look at girls... I think it is very true. I am not saying we women don't look at men or women but it seems like to me men will not give up any opportunities to look at women... Everytime when I go out with my hubby, he won't give up evey chances that a woman walk by; what is that? I know lots of people say it doens't mean anything, we have eyes, we look but... I don't know... I just feel weird about that. Should I just open up about it and look at all the hot guys as well????????????? Please share your opionions!
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39 responses
• United States
29 Jun 09
If I were walking with my boyfriend , I would point out all the pretty women. And I tell him there are three type of men that will make my head turn, red heads, cowboys and bikers. I find all three hot. Just because you look doesn't mean yo are unhappy with the one you are with.it just means you have eyes.
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jun 09
Good point!
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• United States
7 Jul 09
Then he is the wrong man.I Will look and I have told my guy whom really turns my head.He's okay with it. And I he told me. I'm fine with it. In fact, I'll point them out to him.
• United States
2 Jul 09
That is true but you know how some men are, they can do it but it's not ok for you too.
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@Wink24 (167)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
Hello. Hmm.. I think u can't blame guys looking at women. It's natural to them, be afraid if your man is looking to other man too.. Hehehe.. (just trying to make u smile) But, if your man really loves you, though he looks to other girls, his heart is still yours and only to u. I'm not saying that don't look to other guys, but i think if u look in to other guys then u might got tempted to cheat on ur guy which is not good. so to conclude, i think it's okay to look, just look, hehe.. Don't forget that u already had a partner.:) Happy mylotting!
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jun 09
looking is okay because we are together... I have heard of it before... I guess I shouldnt care about it so much then. Thanks for responding! :-)
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
3 Jul 09
Hi Dear! I think it is quite natural for men to glance through women/girls, when they are at public places. You see, one cannot close his eyes and there is nothing wrong in seeing a girl/woman. Everyone (including me) when at a public place wants to get noticed (of course not in a uncivilised manner). So you should not take very seriously, when your hubby is watching others. You can also watch others...........LOL!
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
8 Jul 09
Pl. keep enjoying!!!!
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
8 Jul 09
Yes, I think you are right, I won't care about it as much because he doens't care about if I do the same thing anyway
@UK_Shree (3603)
1 Jul 09
I think it is part of human nature for us to look at people that are attractive. Men definitely do seem to do it a lot more though. I don't get mad about this as I will even look at pretty females despite being a female myself. What I would say though is if men are doing it constantly even when they are with their partner and making it really obvious then that is a little disrespectul and they should tone it down a little in order to be considerate towards their partner.
@UK_Shree (3603)
1 Jul 09
Well if he was doing that I am not surprised you felt upset. But the important thing is to tell him how it made you feel. Explain that it makes you upset when he does things like that. Maybe he isn't as aware that he even does it as much as you are. If he knows it hurts you, he might tone it down.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
2 Jul 09
He will say "What's the matter with you? I just look, it's not a big deal." I ahve mentioned it before, it is what I got... so I jsut didn't say anything... :-(
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
1 Jul 09
That's what I mean... I was there and his eyes were staying on the girls' boob until she was gone... that made me upset...
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
1 Jul 09
I am not sure about what others may think.. But here is my opinion on the whole situation of your man looking at other women; and women looking at other guys.. First of all we all do it, I do not care who you are!! Some just get caught.. I have had this conversation with several different people... Some believe it is ok, and other think that looking is cheating... Cheating?? Give me a break, then a person can not really look at anyone.. Here a different way of looking at your hubby looking at different girls.. He is looking to see if there is something new or what not.. just follow me here... A glimpse or what not and then he looks back at you.. If you see that same woman and feel a little threaten by the way she looks or what not.. Remember your hubby is still walking with you, and did not stop to talk to the other woman.. On the other side...If it is good for the man it is good for the woman as well... I do check out different guys, even if I am with my boyfriend... I have those thoughts going through my mind as to if he is cute or hot or whatever... But I continue walking with my boy friend... Its a matter of trust that you have with your hubby, if you honestly feel that he is going to stay committed to you, or stray..
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Thank you for your comment, I'm still trying to figure it out..
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
8 Jul 09
No, he won't look at me and keeps doing what he is doing... so does that mean it is not good?... we just got married last winter...
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• United States
2 Jul 09
Ok to put in a different way, instead of asking yourself if he is committed to you.. Look at all of his actions towards you.. When you come into the room where he is at, does he look up and smile at you? Or just keep on doing what he is doing, no paying any attention.. If you both are away from each other for the whole day; does he miss the you/ do you miss him? Or do you feel inside, yes he is gone now I can have some peace... This may help you determine what your relationship really is.. Good Luck
• Canada
29 Jun 09
Hi mermaidivy, I get that men are looking at women but when you're married to them and they're telling other people you're with how attractive another woman is. It's pretty hurtful don't you think?
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
30 Jun 09
I agree very much...
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
It's hurting indeed. It happened when I was pregnant with my first child that I felt so insecure. But later when I gave birth and got my figure back, I no longer cared. It's just to stupid that it's the reality that men like to look at attractive women even if you are with them. We call that window shopping in the Philippines hehe. What's wrong is it's just so impolite and embarrassing for me to look at other men.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
8 Jul 09
THat's right... it is really impolite and made me upset...
• Italy
1 Jul 09
Yes i 1000% agree. being a male i accept your word but i want to mention here one more thing that God has created male and female and gifted them an attraction towards each other, i think male got more attracted and its in their genes to look for beauty and appreciate it. It does not means that males are faithful due to this cause. They only look on it and admire them only a few got more ahead and cheat their partners. I am always admire beauty but i am faithful to my partner that is also 100% true. I have also looked at your pics also, i must say you are a beautiful lady.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
1 Jul 09
I want to ask if it is true that even your partner is beautiful, men still tend to look at other girls? Thank you very much for your response, I understand what you are saying.
@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
1 Jul 09
well, i have to agree with that statement. in fact, we all born with eyes to see. nature make us in such a way that we appreciate beautiful things. it just so happens that men find women beautiful, at least most of the times. so why would someone give up the chance to look at something that pleases the eyes? to me, i really don't mind my partner looking at other women. i'd even point out to him those that i find pretty or beautiful. however, if what he does makes you really uncomfortable, you should tell him that. there is no right or wrong about it. it's all about how a gesture makes you feel and how important it is to him to continue or stop. cheers
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Thank you for your comment :-)
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
30 Jun 09
Yes, i think no matter if you are male or female you just cant help looking at someone who looks nice. Us females are just a little more sly about it. I can remember once when i was at a crowded music festival that was being held at the downtown area here. My guy friend and i desided to go home. We passed a wet t-shirt contest tent. Once we got past the crowd, i turned around to discover i was by myself. I was so mad because i knew just where to find him. I would have left him there and went home alone if it werent for the fact that my car keys were in his pocket. So i went back to the wet t-shirt contest tent. Sure enough there he was. Streching his neck way out to see everything. I just reached into his pocket grabbed my keys out and walked away without saying a word. This time he followed me out. Then acted like he couldnt understand why i was mad. Im thinking of having a wet shorts contest tent.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
1 Jul 09
They won't understand if you don't tell them, they never know what girls think really...
@kaguvkov (1305)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Jul 09
That is normal to all men, men got attracted to what they see because it is in their nature. Men got stimulus from what he sees. Women on the other hand are not very on to that, although women also looked at those men but they are not feeling anything from it, it just normal looking to women but to men it's something like an energy giving habit especially if we look at those beautiful women. lol
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
15 Jul 09
Wow!
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
30 Jun 09
Not all men, born look for a women. There are men, irate to look for a women. There are also men, look for men also. There are also men, look for animals...hehe Yup! I agree with you my friend. But didn't you believe that not all men, born look for a women?
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Thank you for your comment :-)
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
Don't mean about it, my friend. It's my pleasure to give such opinion, for the purpose this discussion.
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
May because men always admire to the women that has beautiful and face. They can't help but to stare even there's a wife/girlfriend with them.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
8 Jul 09
I can see that...
• Philippines
8 Jul 09
Don't be too surprised of that.
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
30 Jun 09
i don't remember having come across a reason for that when i was taking up my pyschology degree but i think the reason why girls attract attention is we present ourselves in different ways. some have long hair, some have short hair. not to mention that some girls are creative with their hair, makeup, they know what colors work for them, what cut of clothes flatter their bodies...i don't know many men who has the liberty to be able to be sooo presentable as us .
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Thank you for your comment! :-)
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@Hucheng (163)
• China
1 Jul 09
This afternoon our department had a training meeting and the trainer was a young girl of our department.I listened carefully and made some note on my book at first ten minutes,but then my thought went out.Then I looked around my workmates around the table,and most of them were looking the girl's thigh which are naked in the air because of her little skirt.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
2 Jul 09
ALl guys are the same animal.
@derek_a (10874)
30 Jun 09
I think it is a natural tendency in the males of all species to look at the females. As a man, I found that just because I am happily married and love my wife, I can still appreciate beautiful women. I won't say that it doesn't mean anything, because like everything else in life that is beautiful, it appeals to my subconscious instinctive drives. My wife and three sisters, all say that they too can appreciate a handsome man. If someone looks at my wife, I do not judge because he is only seeing what I can see and if nobody at all appreciated her, I would feel somewhat insulted or that there was something wrong with my tastes. We cannot stop what we naturally feel. As a therapist, I am aware that we can suppress it, but we are losing a part of our personality. It is not what we feel that makes a difference, but what we do.. - Derek
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
30 Jun 09
thanks for your comment!
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
30 Jun 09
Hello, Since I got married, I dont really pay attention to any men around me, not even look or make a weird feeling at all. But I am dont know why my hubby, sometimes he just look at woman without an excuse at all. I usually ask him why? he said why not cuz it is free to look and there is nothing happen either. I know, i have the same feeling like you, just weird. But I think that is the men are... born to look at woman lolz...
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
1 Jul 09
I think it is right too...
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
30 Jun 09
I believe that this is pretty true because women are the beautiful creations when it comes to the making of human beings but not all men are attracted to women. I don't really think there is a problem with observing beauty but when men start to get to aggressive towards an attractive woman that's when things start to get out of hand. I think you should open up and not be afraid to admire people or things that you find attractive. That's most likely what they're there for.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
30 Jun 09
thanks for your comment!
@hanah87 (1835)
• Malaysia
30 Jun 09
Men is not born to look women and God make them to lead a women.But in certain case,there are a lot of indecent mans.They not like good man who will loyal to their woman and always have something wrong with their eyes and feeling.They just like to have fun and that's why many man like to look at woman.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
30 Jun 09
thanks for your comment!
@Ruby722 (796)
• China
30 Jun 09
Lol Totally agree with you.men always look at women anytime anywhere.It's wried i don't like guy always staring at women.I think is rude.I think just eyes contact and smile it's enough .i think it's appearance gentleman.But pls don't too much.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
30 Jun 09
thanks for your comment!
• United States
30 Jun 09
I hate when my husband those that in front of me I personally think that it they should not be that obious. He will look but specialy at some body parts first then the rest of the body without taking his eyes from her. I have looked at guy but most of the time is just because they are infront of me and I wont stare like he those. I also try to look to other places because I know my husband and he would troug a fit and make me cry because we would tell me "do you know him" do you like him" "you should go talk to him and I would get a good locking girl so I coud talk to her". I know he wont stop there he would be talking about that guy for days and I hate that because don't look at guys that way and I'm so scared to look that I rather to to another side or down. I know I'm grown by doing that because I'm scared but I guess I have to work on it. I do think that we should all respect our loved one and give her or him the place that they deserve. And never I mean never be like me because I know it is not healthy.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
30 Jun 09
thanks for your comment!