Which one you would you choose,the one you love or the one who loves you?

China
August 19, 2009 10:38pm CST
I was always asked this question by my friends,if it was me,I would choose the one I love.But the premise is if we were in a relationship but not marriage.If I'm talking about the marriage,then I guess I will choose the other option.After all it's related to whether you can live a happy life or not.That's the most important thing in a woman's life I guess.so what about you ,guys?
14 responses
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
20 Aug 09
I guess I have to choose someone who loves me. It is a lot easier for me to fall for someone who cares for me. When I get to see that that person really cares for me and is consistent in showing his affection, that will for sure be reciprocated.
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
I drink to that.. I would also go for someone who loves me. It would be so easy to learn to love someone who loves you. I love myself and i wouldnt want to ruin my future by trying to win the heart of someone i love but does not love me at all or could not love me back. It wouldnt be unfair to me. And as for someone who loves me, i would appreciate him over and over again for needing me and loving me, and that should be enough for him to win my attention. I may not love him that much but it sure is a good try especially if you are beyond the marrying age like me. hahahah
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
20 Aug 09
I hope that I am getting this question correct. Which one would I choose, the one I love as appose to someone who loves me but I don't love them? Right? Well, if I am in love with someone who is also in love with me,the answer is a no-brainer; I would choose the one that I love. Why would I mess up a good relationship for one that may not workout? Even if the one I loved didn't love me back, I can't see myself choosing the one that I don't love just because he loves me. Being true to myself is the most important thing here. I can find someone that I can really falling in love with and they love me back, as appose to settling for someone I don't love just to be with someone, not ever feeling complete. They say there is someone for just about everyone, so patience and finding love go hand-and-hand. It will happen.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Hello, it is really depend, if you love someone but they never love you back then you will end up with only one side of LOVE. If I can't be with someone that I love then I have to learn how to love someone that I married to. And happiness can happen right after you be with someone who love you and im sure you will learn how to love he/she back.
@bigplay (212)
• United States
20 Aug 09
I would definitely from my past experiences choose the one that loves me, i don't have time to get rejected by someone i love over and over again while there's another one out there who loves me just as much as i love the other person. I've been in this very situation time after time, i've been in love triangles several times, in different decades.
• Indonesia
20 Aug 09
For Me, i Choose Someone that i love and she loves me :D But if the option between those two options, i will choose someone who love me. probably someday i will loves her too. i rather choose those option :D
• Philippines
20 Aug 09
as selfish as it sounds,I will choose someone who loves me.I will develop feelings with someone who shows me how much he loves.it is difficult to pin for someone who doesn't love you back.as much as I want to believe that I'll find someone who'll love me,I don't expect to find it.I will settle for someone who loves me so much rather than pin my hopes on someone who can't even say how much he likes me.
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
20 Aug 09
The best recipe for happiness is to choose someone whom you love and who loves you back. Anything short of that, you must take a long hard look at yourself and the relationship. If someone loves you and you do not love them - Do you respect them? Do you at least like them? Can you commit to them? Can you be faithful in that relaionship? Are you willing to stand by this person when the going gets rough - through unemployment, sickness, in-laws, kids, older parents, the whole nine yards? If you love them and they don't love you, how long can the friendship sustain your relationship? Ho long do you think it will be before they find someone they imagine they are in love with and want to leave you? Can you trust that won't happen? It sometimes falls apart when you start out with both of you believing you love each other. You don' have much of a foundation if there is no mutual love. Maybe when you are older, these one sided relationships work. People are more mature and the hormones have settled down. Companionship is what they are looking for. Younger people need to think long and hard before entering a one-sided relationship. That's my opinion.
• Philippines
20 Aug 09
Making major decisions such as choosing between the person you love or the who loves you is not going to be that easy. If you are still young and just into a casual relationships perhaps it would not matter that much. But if you are already looking for a serious relationship and thinking of a future with a person whom you like to spend your life with then you have got to think hard on this. Say, would you be willing to wake up every morning seeing somebody who could always remind you that you are not with the love of your life? Wouldn't it be the sweetest if you are with the person you love and who also love you back? However, what if the person you are in love with does not feel the way you do? Would you spend the rest of your life waiting for that person to notice you or would you rather not wait and just be with the one who is in love with you even if you do not have feelings for that person? Very difficult decision to make...maybe you would wait for that person you love to love you back or perhaps pray for a miracle...but what if you are already in your forty's??? how long would you be willing to wait? if i would be in that situation...i guess i'll cross the bridge when i get there but for now i am happy to choose the one i love...
• India
20 Aug 09
for long term commitment as marriage i would go for someone i love and who loves me too.Its important for me that he loves me too cos i believe i can love someone undivided if given a chance to
@shimanaja (493)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 09
Hi there mylotter.. I prefer choose in my life, i want to live with the one who loves me, with the bad or good always love me. The one who loves you can make a happy life for now and the future. Be the lucky one who has the one who loves you...happy mylotting..:)
@arnicki (10)
• Jamaica
20 Aug 09
I agree with Starbright...no one deserves a broken heart or a one way love affair...Relationships grow every day, you have to respect yourself first and you have to love and respect that person too else it will never work...so I opt for a two way love affair where love and mutual respect for one another reigns. I can't imagine being in a relationship where I am with a person just because he loves me and i just like him as a friend or just because I want to be in a relationship. Sooner or later I am going to resent him...
@vandana7 (98694)
• India
20 Aug 09
The one who loves me of course. :-) I am more comfortable with the thought that somebody will love me with all my faults, rather than me loving somebody with their faults. :-) But if it can be bothways, it will be divine.
• Philippines
20 Aug 09
yes for me, I'd rather choose the one who loves me. Because if someone shows his/her feelings to you, you are so sure that he will do anything for your relationship. But there are cases that you cannot insist to love that person if you can't because perhaps you're just using him just to say that you're not loveless. It's not fair.
• United States
20 Aug 09
I would pick the one that loves me. I'd much rather be with someone who cares for me than be with someone who I love but doesn't care for me.