Roll Call...Where Is?
By pyewacket
@pyewacket (43903)
United States
September 10, 2009 6:48pm CST
From time to time I think we've all experienced friends from here that are missing...life intervenes, a lot of crap is going on in their life, or they are just plain busy with work and aren't active here any longer.
But then there are the friends of mine that worry me when I don't hear from them, even by/via their private email addys. Maybe some of you have noticed a certain lovely "Ocean" of a gal who has a Tiara hasn't been here for a whole month. I'm worried as her last discussion she made was rather "dire"--about choosing which path of life to take and decision to make. I did email her privately and got an email back from her and in effect she is in some kind of trouble again--she's had a lot of past "men" problems, men with abusive behavior toward her and wonder if that new and latest "love" in her life that she was discussing about is to blame for her absence. I've emailed her again several times and nada...not a word. Has anyone heard from her?
Do you get worried when you don't hear from your friends, not even by private email?
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25 responses
@AmbiePam (120630)
• United States
11 Sep 09
I've noticed her absence. I have not heard anything from her. I am also worried about a mylot member who had cancer. I have not heard from her in many months, and I fear the reasons for that. I wish we had some way of knowing about these people we care for so much.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Sep 09
I wonder if we're thinking about the same person as I knew a mylotter friend who had cancer as well and had a cat avatar
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Hey pye! Oh no, not again! Now that you mentioned it I do
remember that very cryptic discussion and that was the last
one that I believe she wrote. You say that you emailed her
and got one answer and she said she was in trouble again. Now
that is bad, and unfortunately typical for our friend and now
I am worried too. I hope that you are wrong and it isn't the
guy that is the problem, but it isn't like her to disappear,
well, yeah it is sometimes, but she hasn't been in touch
with anyone? She had given me her phone number awhile ago,
but I don't know where it is and I'm sure it wouldn't work
even if I could find it. Hope this discussion brings some
kind of positive info from someone who has heard from her!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Sep 09
As far as I know, no one has heard from her
Yes she always seems to disappear when she has her "man" problems...gonna email ya
Yes she always seems to disappear when she has her "man" problems...gonna email ya4 people like this
@moondancer (7431)
• United States
11 Sep 09
I have not heard from her at all. I sure hope she is okay or will be soon. Men can ruin your world when they are bad. I think many of us have been there.
I know I am gone sometimes and I can't help it. My health is not good and many times just to get out of bed and eat or go to the bathroom is too much on me.
I also go to my mother and check on her every month.
Yes, I sure am worried when one of my friends is gone for a time from here. I worry a lot about them and wonder how they are.
It's nice to get an email from then that way I know what is going on and usually when they will be coming back, if they can then.
I feel much much better when I get an email or call or just somehow hear from a missing friend.
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@moondancer (7431)
• United States
11 Sep 09
I had a close friend that was like that. She thought she HAD to have a man in her life.
I told her that she should get her life together for herself and her daughter and forget about having a man. A man is most times nothing but a hinder to a women and her goals.
It's much better to live alone and care for your family. Make things work for you without a man. YOU DO NOT NEED A MAN. I told her this and she did not believe me until years later and her BF went to jail. She and Jessica were alone, she got 2 part-time jobs and learned that she did not NEED a man. SHe told me this and I told her I was so glad that she finally figured that out.
I lived without a man for years and years. I just worked and took care of my children. Nothing was important but my children to me.
Women are much stronger than they give themselves credit for.
They don't need a man. All they need to do is to get their life together.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Sep 09
I'm sorry to hear you still have health problems--and yes been wondering about you too but glad to see you here now
Yes she's had a history of men making her life miserable--seems the problem is that she's kind of desperate for a man in her life and gets caught up with these abusive men over and over again.
Yes she's had a history of men making her life miserable--seems the problem is that she's kind of desperate for a man in her life and gets caught up with these abusive men over and over again.5 people like this
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Sep 09
hi moon and pye , well now I am glad in a way that that discussion by the male mylotter boyfriend got deleted as if he was up to no good, I wou ld have hated for him to have gotten my response. I would never want to encourage some bad guy that might hurt her.
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@blackbriar (9075)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Ocean Ocean..hmmmmmmmm.....I recall someone with that as part of their name but we were never friends. I hope nothing bad has happened to her if what you say is true about her bad experiences with men. I worry about my friends if I don't hear from them in say a month but, if after 5 spaced out emails, they don't respond, I finally give up and figure they no longer want me as a friend.
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@blackbriar (9075)
• United States
11 Sep 09
-fingers/toes/arms/legs/eyes crossed- Ya know, it's kinda hard to type like this.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Sep 09
I just emailed her again, so here's hoping I hear from her
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Sep 09
pyewacket I too have been wondering what happened to our
ocean who wore a tiara? once when I first came back some male
mylotter started a discussionasking her to come back to him
'and it was deleted.seems she had moved someplace. it sounded
so sad as he said he loved her, I tried to send a response but
got the message discussion no longer here deleted. I am wondering
if this so called lovelorn mylotter was someone she did not'want to see. I know she was very lonely and had wanted to have a real honest
marriage with a man who loved her. I sent her a message but never heard from her. she always answered my messages. yes I am worried
about her.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
12 Sep 09
Giving you the heads up Hatley...I found the "boyfriend" here on mylot...am sending a long email to you
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Sep 09
pye do you suppose that was the same guy? maybe he was not such
a nice guy after all? now I am a little worried.I know she is
'smart but she was also hurting and lonely. why were both of
those things deleted? maybe we are worrying for nothing, but
it seems a bit strange.
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@cbakin20 (149)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Sorry--I don't know the person you are talking about specifically. But I agree, there are people that I worry about when I don't hear from them. I have a really close friend who is incredibly forgetful and spacey and I really worry about him a lot. I hope you hear back from your friend here, though! I hope she isn't in a lot of trouble.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Thanks cbakin20--I hope I hear from my friend soon too and that she's not in trouble either
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@GardenGerty (169448)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Yes, there are other friends we worry about as well. It is alarming that we all have these warning bells going off about OT all at the same time. I know there are others that I miss. While Hatley was gone we worried a lot about her, and we are so glad she came back.
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@GardenGerty (169448)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Specifically this one is a cause for concern. I had also e mailed her and pmed her, because her decision, she said, needed to be made by August 1. I had a package to mail to her. She said the address I had was good, but yesterday it was returned, no forwarding address.It was a box of books, so went book rate. I am not sure how long she has been gone.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Yes I didn't like the fact that she gave that she had to make a decision by August 1st---I wish she had been more specific WHAT decision she had to make
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
11 Sep 09
She did call me a few weeks ago to say she wouldnt be on for awhile while she straightened some things out .
I have tried to call the no she gave me but to no responce adn one I think went to a business phone like it wasnt hers any more?
And have hear dnothing since then hmmmmmmmm
makes ya wonder huh?
Sure hope she is doing ok and my energies are goin gout to her to get her back to us.
!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
12 Sep 09
Look at dizzy's response here...she too called the number and a guy answered...he gave her no forwarding address, no new phone number and said she left for Massachusetts and never to call him again...nice huh? It's like she's completely disappeared.
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@BarBaraPrz (51811)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 Sep 09
You know, I've been wondering where she is myself...
I don't remember that last discussion. Now I'll have to go see if I can find it.
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@BarBaraPrz (51811)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 Sep 09
Found it. She was a bit vague, but stated August 1st as her deadline. This is September already. Wonder what's up?
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Yes she was rather vague in that discussion, just as she was vague in her email to me...she didn't go into any details about what was going on---like great, that makes me worry all the more
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
11 Sep 09
I know Ocean, I've seen her around in mylot before a lot of times with discussions and all and in fact, I think I've answered some of hers too. She has been missing from mylot for a month already? That's puzzling, because I believe she is a regular here. I would be worried too, if I am in good terms with anyone and I suddenly don't hear from her anymore. What about other sites which she's active in..
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Yes she's been missing for a month now and you're right she was a "regular" here. I think she may have had a Facebook account, in fact I'm almost certain she was on my friends list there as well but when I looked, not a sign, so maybe she deleted her account??
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
12 Sep 09
Not only me but a lot of us who know her have a bad feeling...hope we're wrong!
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@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Sep 09
I wonder. But, you will notice I am sure that many of the little nest of usuals are scetchee on their appearance here. How would we be able to do anything? I hope she is just busy and all is well. Does she have children? With school starting maybe she is just extra busy. I do hope that is the case.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
12 Sep 09
No I don't think her lack of activity is due to being busy....I've privately emailed her and no response...look at "dizzy's" response...she actually called the phone number of the missing mylotter--a man answered saying she left--he gave no forwarding address or phone number and told dizzy never call him again
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@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Sep 09
Wow! I had no idea. And what of late in the year flower? Haven't heard from her either and she had said something months back about not having a place to live. But I thought she had gotten it taken care of. Okay, you guys! I want all your phone numbers and next of kin RIGHT NOW!
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Hey Pye,
This is the exact reason that I wish we all would just take a moment in either a post or in a response to someone elses discussion to say don't worry..... So many of us have illnesses that can be life threatening or just not feeling well enough to be on the computer. I try to be at least semi active by responding to a couple of discussions daily but some days I just have to let it go. By responding every day or so lets someone know i'm ok.
I wish I could say I've seen her but hopefully someone has a phone number they can try. I have been trying to get some emails so that I can personally mail friends when they go MIA. I pray that she's ok. Hugsss
leenie
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Sep 09
One member here DOES have her phone number and gave a call...its an upstate NY phone number, but when the other member called, she said a man answered and said this missing mylotter went to Massachusetts...no forwarding address or new phone number was given
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
12 Sep 09
Thanks leenie for your prayers and hope we do soon hear from here again...
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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11 Sep 09
Hi pye,
Yes, I have been thinking of her as well and no I haven't heard frome her too, not even on Facebook, now this is pretty worrying, yes she has had a lot of broblems before and thought now she was more setttled but now I am really worried. I hope we will hear from her soon.
Bright Blessings.
Tamara
xxx
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
12 Sep 09
There seems to be no "record" of her now at Facebook--like she deleted her account--I emailed her again last night...no word yet
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
12 Sep 09
Yes I worry too if I don't see members that are active and then "disappear" without a clue what happened
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
We cannot avoid to worry my friend. Because those people here in mylot. Most of them are our friends, online. But we need to know also that there are adding friends here that never give comments and just add only for the purpose but not real.
My purpose to add friend, is to make them my friend and have a communication with them, sharing ideas and opinion but only some will be called friend...have a nice day!
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
16 Sep 09
I saw her a short while ago responding to a discussion and thought she wasn't around as much as usual. I didn't see that discussion you mentioned and I believe I am getting all my notifications (obviously not though). I sent an email to her hair addy and got no reply but that was months ago during her last hiatus. Hope she is ok.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Sep 09
She's been MIA for a month now and no one has heard from her...I did send her an email again about a week ago and still no word...it was a different email addy she gave me the very last time I heard from her which was August 3rd.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
16 Sep 09
I do know who you're talking about Pye and I hope you do find out what happened to her. That's really scary and down right sad to not know where or how she is. Please keep us posted on any updates on her..... In the meantime, I'll say a prayer on her behalf.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Sep 09
Thanks CatsandDogs for your prayers and lets hope she's safe and hasn't come to harm
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Well this is a different case though. NOT just a case of a friend who has left for school or anything like that. Many of us here at MyLot that are friends of hers are concerned that our friend has come to harm as she has had abusive relationships with men and seems to fall for the same type all over again and seems to always be on the run from them who are stalkers--a LOT more serious issue, no?
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
12 Sep 09
I know there are alot of reasons people aren't on Mylot on a regular bases. I know life,family and other things get in the way! I understand that but when a person hasn't been around for months, I delete them! I don't have time to worry about everyone that is on my Mylot friend list! So if you are active for a few months,I don't care what the problems are,you are gone! It sounds rude and selfish. Unfortunely that is how I feel!
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
12 Sep 09
Wow--if I can be honest here, that sound very harsh. Many of us here at MyLot form very tight friendships here, and are in constant contact off of MyLot..some of us even call each other up at times. The point I'm making, with this one particular mutual friend of many of us here, we all knew she had been involved with very abusive relationships with men and we're now fearing the worse. Sorry if your friendships here aren't close, but for many of us, they ARE
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
Yup! My friend, I get worried in such a case. It's natural if our friend never heard about. That is our friend and we should be concern about her statute in life. Only friend will give her a strength, if those friend not worried about her. What more she suffered about?
We hope that your friend, is still in good condition my friend. Take care
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@olepmis (840)
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
Sorry, I do not know who she is. Please tell me her user name here. Yes, I am worried if someone in my friends has missed asking or visiting me around on a regular basis, that will be odd. Maybe something went wrong to your friend. Just say a little prayer for her safety. May she login anytime today to free you from worry. GOD BLESS.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
13 Sep 09
I looked at your profile page and your friends listing and she's not there in fact she went "missing" a month ago, the same time you became a member. But yes prayers will help and be appreciated for her safety
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