It is hard to say 'GOODBYE'!
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
September 14, 2009 2:40am CST
'Goodbye' is the hardest word to say to people who have been so attached to us either in the real world or in the virtual world. I wonder how many times have you said 'goodbye' and come out unscathed? It is painful and it would take a long time to nurse a broken heart? But this is something you need to do because there is something you just cannot stand about this person or the ongoing relationship. When you know that not having this person in your life will benefit you more than having him or her in your life, isn't it time to move on. It is unfair if both should hang on because of the guilt of breaking up.
Maybe you cannot be the one to take responsibility for breaking up a relationship because you may feel your issues are not important. Or you feel you should be strong and able to accommodate anything. Perhaps you were raised by someone who hang in there in a relationship that was abusive or in some way mirrors yours. You feel that if you break this off you will somehow be going against the family credo, disappoint your parents, or be a quitter or fear of the guilt that would keep haunting you for a long time. Do you think it is easy or hard to bid adieu to someone which we have but small doses of love left?
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@Ruby722 (796)
• China
15 Sep 09
Yeah,It is.Relationship always complicated as if someday you have to leave someone you been loved and say goodbye to move on.I think it really hard.This problem more than our fmaily friends classmate roommate as well .Sometime we gotta to leave for a long time.and i think it is the hardest part when they watching you leave..more and more far away.Don't say goodbye in my dictionary it's a sad word.
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
9 Nov 09
Hmm... I never really had to say much goodbyes. So I cannot really say whether they are hard or difficult.
I guess if you really like some one who has touched so much of your life, it would be hard to let the person go, whatever the circumstances.
But one has to always remember, at least you get to spent that time with the person you are saying goodbye to.
You can always keep their legacy alive by honoring their memories of how they have touched your life. 
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi zandi I imagine its really hard to say goodbye if you'cared at all for someone.but sometimes it is really necessary to cut the ties and let the other person find the right love for her or himself. I was not in that position. but aS I stood looking down at my dying husband on life support, I heard myself say ,it was not suppose to be this way,we were supposed to grow old together. and I was crying. for all the times I pleaded and begged and cajoled him to stop smoking as the doctors had asked,but he would not do it. end of the story. goodbyes had been said.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
16 Sep 09
I think anytime u have to wish someone u love goodbye it is hard. If it is a final goodbye that is a rough road to go down.
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
15 Oct 09
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji,
It is really very hard to Goddbye as sounded by you. But at times, I felt so bad, when we left a place on transfer of my husband, who always kept on moving during his service career. Then I do understand, it is very difficult to wish goodbye from the heart. Customery , one may have to do, but very difficult to come out from real loss of relation for ever or may be for some time.
May God bless You an dhave a great time.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
13 Dec 09
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji,
I remember, Lata Mangeshkar sung a song from Rampart of Red-Fort (Delhi), during 1962 evasion by Chinese, it was towish Good Buy to all soldiers and remionders to whole Nation, many people includig Singer and Late First Prime Mnister wept, tears rolled out. Herat becomes heavy.Throat is chocked, when it comes out un-customery from bottom of heart. Song was , " Ayemere vatan ke Logo ...... ( Oh ! people of our country...)
May God bless You and have great time.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Sep 09
zandi hi well Ihavent had much experience in saying goodbye'
to someone I loved as I only loved once and it lasted for'43
years.we were old fashioned and stuck to our marriage vows and'we stayed in love for all that time. but when I had to say goodbye'to my husband who was unconscious I broke down , it wasnt supposed to be'this way I sobbed as I watched his soul depart. and it wasnt as
he could have lived at least ten years longer had he quit smoking after the last heart attack. but he didnt quit. those goodbyes are'the ones that break your heart.
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@cannior (29)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
Yes it is. Just like my current situation now. My wife and 2 daughters will be leaving me and they will be going to their province because there's something important they will be doing there. It really hard for me but I cannot stop it. Maybe I will prepare myself of being alone and not being beside them. I will miss them a lot.... T_T
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
14 Sep 09
To tell u the truth ITS personal,, we all feel attached to people,,some of us get the feeling of respect /or love ,, more than expected,,some of us do not,,and sure we find out the details of it as time passes,( I mean as we grow wiser)
@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
Goodbye for me is a saddest word in which you have to let go someone you are going to be remembered for a life time. Sometimes, I prefer that if someone want me out of their life then don't ever show up and say good bye...just disguise that you are supposed to go somewhere that you don't know when to come back. I just cannot stand in front of the person and will just disappear..
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@derek_a (10874)
•
14 Sep 09
Yes, it is hard to say goodbye, but as I look back through my life, I can see it is a series of completions. We all move school and say goodbye to our school friends, then we all eventually lose people in our family as they grow older and die. And then finally one day, we die ourselves and say goodbye to everyone we know.
I don't believe that we are here to live up to anybody's expectations other than our own. And it is when we are trying our best to please others that the problems start. If we don't feel we have their approval, then it is hardest thing in the world to say goodbye to that person because we are not complete with them. It all has to happen within our own minds, because that is where relationships really take place. - Derek
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@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
I agree that saying good bye is hard. more over it's even emotional to let go of the things that you two shared together. for me, there is still some love left, but for now, i don't really intent for looking for some one despite that i have close my doors on that person. have a great day@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 09
It is not for you to decide to open or close your heart. The one above has someone reserved for you and He has set a date when you will meet the one meant for you. That is the time you will not be able to resist the strong tsunamic wave that would sweep you away to the ocean of real love. 
