Do you have a good relationship with your mother- in-law?

@ivygrey (550)
Philippines
September 16, 2009 3:13am CST
I do! and I'm proud, yes I am. I have many friends that always cries to me about how they hate their mother in law, and how their mother-in-laws made their lives a living hell every single day. Well, first and foremost one thing that I noticed why I love my 2nd mom is that she love my husband so much and she is very supportive of him and me. She knows that if we live together we might have some misunderstanding in the future, so we moved and yes she's right I kind of miss her too. How about you? how's your mommy in law?
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@grace118224 (1040)
• China
16 Sep 09
I'm not as lucky as you are . My mother-in-law doesn't love my husband at all and my husband doesn't love her either. She pay all her great attention to my hubby's eldest brother. Well i feel the same way my hubby feels about her. She is not a good mother and we don't get well along with her. However since we now have no money so we have to live with her together. I wish we can move out as soon as possible.
• United States
16 Sep 09
Oh my! Does she realizes the affects she's had on your marriage or your hubby's life at all? That's very unfortunate and I'm sorry to hear that. Who knows, things could get better eventually.
• China
18 Sep 09
You're so lucky. And I'm lucky too. I have a good relationship with my father-in-law and mother-in-law. My wife and I fell in love five years ago. At the beginning my father-in-law and mother-in-law objected. They thought I was not a nice man. But they accepted me about two year later. The process was a little bit complicated. But the result is good. And we have built a very good relationship after my wife and my wedding.
@gtdonna (1740)
17 Sep 09
I am not married yet to my finace, wedding is december, but his Mom calls me up everyday, even if ti i just to say hi or to get me to come oevr to her house. I hope that our relaitonship continues for years to come. I am not close with my birth Mom, so it works out alright for me knowing that my finace Mom accepts me as a daughter.
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
hello ivygrey, for as long as i can remember, i'm so lucky that mother-in-law was not only good but so supportive to us. when we were visiting their place before, they were see to it that i'm comfortable. they were cooking food that are my favorites so with the kids. when we don't have babysitter to take care of our children she let my father-in-law stay with us for she can't leave their place for she was a public servant. my family and i miss them truly and dearly. they were indeed the best. now, nobody will take care for us when we are going to their place anymore. may they rest in peace.
@GaryJoule (216)
• China
17 Sep 09
I do, and I appreciate her because she grown her daughter up to adult and all of a sudden, her daughter left her and married me. I'd like to bring happiness to my wife, to her family of course mother-in-law covered. I think that's my responsibility as a son-in-law.
@shimanaja (494)
• Indonesia
17 Sep 09
Frankly, my mother-in-law is nice, but i think sometimes she doesnt fair to give attention to each child. I live with her too and i often feel bad, i want to move out from there, but still could not go at this time. I dont want to talk about her much, Just let it be. i just run my life the best. Good luck my friend and have a nice time.
@horsesrule (1959)
• United States
17 Sep 09
When I had a mother in law, we didn't get along. I mean it's weird, at first we got along, before my ex and I got together and then after we got together, she turned on me. It was pretty awful. You are very lucky that you get along with yours, that's the way I think it should be.
@xchyler (258)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
hi ivygrey! Good day!!!! You know I'm proud to say that we're so closed with my mommy in law I should say that she is good and nice she also supportive with us in my family they love us we feel that even though she's far from us but we keep on communicating each other.Since when I got married way back 2005 I never experienced that kind of misunderstanding of mommy in law even my papa in law I love them and we love each other and respect each other. GOD BLESS xchyler
@rosepedal64 (4191)
• United States
16 Sep 09
I do have a good relationship with my mother-in-law. As for the relationship I have with mother-in-law it is good. She will go places with me and we have a very good time when we are out. She is 70 and doesn't act a day older then 50..She is grand..
• Indonesia
16 Sep 09
My mother in law is an amazing woman, even my own mother admit it. She's nice, friendly and very humble. I love my mother in law. I keep on getting warned about how miserable MIL could be, but thank God, she's not that kind of person. About 80 % of my friends say that they don't like ther MIL and just want to stay away from them. Even the newlywed one who got married 2 months ago said the same thing. I think they're too judgemental and ignorant, I mean how can you be close and love someone if you keep yourself away from her? How do you know she's kind if you don't let yourself approachable? There are bad MIL anyways, but I personally would give her a chance. If she's nice, no prob. If she's an abusive person, now you have to stay away to avoid another conflicts.
@maybebaby (1231)
• Canada
16 Sep 09
I do have a good relationship with my mother in law. We get along really well and haven't had any problems. I know some people have issues with their in laws, especially after a baby is born and their mother in law tries to tell them how best to raise the baby, but we haven't had that problem at all. My in laws are great and have gone out of their way many times to help us out.
• United States
16 Sep 09
My BF mom is a total prissy Bi**h she thinks eveything revolves around money and looks or class status. She worries constantly about what others think and she has no respect for anyone elses point of view. You are lucky to have a good mother in law I'm sure it makes life much easier. My BF also does not like his mother so it makes it a little easier I could not imagine if he wanted to visit her all the time or have her come visit us (we live in California and she is in Texas)we just try to make excusses and avoid her whenever possible but eventually she will break us down and make us feel bad and we will visit for a few days. Thank goodness she lives so far away.
• United States
16 Sep 09
Hi ivygrey, Just like you I get along very well with my mommy-in-law, she is the best, I tell my BF sometimes that she loves me more (just joking around with him). She is the best. If I can't seem to talk to my own mother about something I always have her around... Especially that she lives so close to me! The only thing that comes between us is that I speak Spanish but not as well, and she knows a little bit of English. But we manage and we still laugh, cry and joke with another. We talk on a daily basis now! Which I think is beautiful! So you miss your mom-in-law? I am so sorry honey! Call her!
• United States
16 Sep 09
well things were a little difficult for me and my mother in law at first. we instantly connected with one another when we met but once me and her son started dating we didn't talk very much and she started saying bad things about me. i got preggo and then a few months later we got married and things grew dramatically. what really makes my mommy-in- law stand out to me is not only does she love her son but she loves me and her grandchild soooo much! me and her have been through so much and are very similar so that helps. we both lost our moms at an early age and both went through a rebellion period because of that. it's just so many things i love about her. i've been sick and she's come over to take care of me, I've cried on her shoulder when things got hard and i couldn't even talk to my husband and she has done the same with me. not to mention that me and my husband married young. he is twenty years old and is the oldest of ten children(that she birthed and all for the same man)she is just amazing and i wouldn't trade her for anything! in fact, i think i might call her.
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
Ahhhh.. you are so lucky to have a mother in law like that. How I wished i can say that also. I dont know but I feel, when my husband and I have misunderstanding, instead of her acting as a mediator, she would give advice that would make the situation worst. I dont want to discuss it more but we are really not close but we are very civil.
@Tantrums (949)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
I do have a good relationship with my mother in law, but not with father in law. Both are totally opposite, mom-in-law is kind, sweet and great in cooking, while dad in law is just basically... a grouchy old man.
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
Well, I can say that were just fine, but I'm not that close neither not that far. Far maybe geographically, because we live far away from them and we do visit them if my hubby does have a off day or vacation leave. I can say that my MIL is helpful in a way that she takes care of me when I do visit their place. I don't do chores of course, but I am happy to help them if they wanted a helping hand. I don't do much cooking for them because they aren't open to Western kind of food. But anyway most of us have a story to tell with regards to our MIL, be it good or bad. I may not say the negative things here. But on the other part, I am just glad at least we started a good relationship and at the same time I am separated from them, meaning not living on the same roof. It is still much comfy for me and I can roam and be free on my own part of the world, my privacy at least is here with me. No nosy MIL,lolz
• United States
16 Sep 09
Mine mother in law and I where very close at one point. I do not have a good relationship with my own Mother and she has always been there to help me and my husband. Unfortunately we have issues with his father who makes things difficult between my mother in law and us. He controls her as any abusive (though in his case verbal and emotional) husband does and we do not see them very much due to it. Though It has been getting better the last few months as she has support from a once never there brother who is making her see that she can see us even if doesn't want her too. Thanks Uncle G.
@Polly1 (12647)
• United States
16 Sep 09
I loved my mother in law, I miss her so much. Sadly she passed away many years ago, it broke my heart. Enjoy your mother in law, she sounds like a special lady.
• Malaysia
16 Sep 09
My mother-in-law has passed on. Yes, like you I got along well with my mother-in-law. She was one fine woman with a mind that is both enlightened and worldly wise. She was supportive of what I do and contributed to my plans to make successes of them. I missed her!