Who is responsible to pay the bills in your household?

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United States
September 16, 2009 3:37pm CST
I know that it is new era now days. When I first started off being married I was the one who always paid the bills. I mean that I made sure the bills was taken care of. He didn't have a clue what needed to paid or when it needed to be paid. I am on my second marriage and carry over the ideal that I had to continue with the bill paying. Once again hubby wouldn not know when or where about the bills. The other day a long time friend informed me that her hubby takes of the bills. So that got me to thinking. How many others are out there like that. My question to you is: Who is responible of paying the bills in your household?
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@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
16 Sep 09
I am the bill payer in our house. But my sister's household is entirely different. Her husband pays all the bills and looks after all the finances. She was absolutely no idea what anything costs or how much is owed. I think that would drive me crazy!
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• United States
16 Sep 09
Oh yeah I would want to know what is going on too. I need to know how much we have to sent out for the bills. I would just think it would be nice to have him to handle it for a while. Thanks for sharing jessp.. and you have a nice day and keep smiling...
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@GardenGerty (112636)
• United States
17 Sep 09
We keep each other informed, but hubby is the one who is more faithful about balancing the checkbook.
@shia88 (4581)
• Malaysia
17 Sep 09
Hi Rosepedal, My husband is the one who pays all the household bills. We just need to bear our telephone bill and the electricity bill. Other bills are pay by my father-in-law. I used to settle my own bills when I am single. But since I am married, all are settled by my husband. I just need to make sure he pay the bill before the due date and also the correct amount.
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• United States
17 Sep 09
Hi right back to ya shia...I want to say thanks for sharing with us. You said that your father-in-law pays all the other bills, could he pay mine too...LOL..Just kidding but you have a nice day and better tomorrow..
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@Porcospino (25964)
• Denmark
16 Sep 09
When we lived in our old apartment, I paid the rent and the bills. Now we lived in a house, and my husband has started to pay the rent and most of our bills. I pay a few bills and I pay for groceries and the other things that we need/want to buy every month. If we have a lot of extra bills I transfer some money from my account to my husband's account. There is hardly ever any money left in husband's account, but we save up the money that is left in my account. I am better at saving up money than my husband is, he tends to spend too much
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• United States
16 Sep 09
Yes my hubby is one the one that spends too much too. I don't think he could manage the bills that well without my help. I told him once what would he do if I wasn't here to make sure that the bills are paid. He laughed and said ...Broke..
@jenysie (106)
• United States
16 Sep 09
I used to do the bills, but that was just one more thing for me to do so I let my hubby take over. It took a lot of stress and wasted time out of my life, and he doesn't mind doing it. I figure he's the one that goes to work everyday to make the money, so he should see where it is going. Plus he is better at managing the checkbook and making sure we don't spend too much each month, and he doesn't get as frustrated as fast as I do. He also doesn't have to worry about cleaning the house, and him taking over gives me more time to clean or do something to utilize my time better. Bills are just a hassle, and he was willing, and he's the leader of our home...which I am so thankful for, so he pays the bills.
• United States
16 Sep 09
The friend that I was talking about said almost the same thing. She said that with him taking care of the bills then she alot less stress to handle. He will sit down and fix everything up and she drops off at the post office. He tell her what is left and off she goes. I know it sounded kinda neat ideal..
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@dawnald (84071)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Sep 09
I do it. He didn't even used to look at them...
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• United States
16 Sep 09
hello dawnald...How are you today? I want to thank you for your comment.. I know what you are saying. My poor little hubby knows nothing about our bills. Other than the normal stuff I don't think he has a clue what is going on. You have a nice day...
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@candaceb87 (1362)
• Canada
17 Sep 09
I take care of the bills in my house because the bills are in my name I pay everything through online banking so it takes me about five minutes and they are all paid!
• United States
17 Sep 09
That is great that you can pay all your bills online. I have a few that can be done on line but the major of them have to be paid by mail or in person. That is the bad thing to it all. Not only do I have to remember what to pay but remember to mail them too. Im old and memory is a weak point of mine...LOL..
• Canada
18 Sep 09
I can't imagine having to mail my bills or pay them in person my bank has it so that I can pay everything online credit cards, power, phone, cable, insurance etc.
• United States
18 Sep 09
My bank offers that online bill pay. I just never had use it before. Do you like it? Well I asked that I assume that you do. How does that work?
17 Sep 09
Well, it depends on your 'agreement' (sorry I don't know the word in informal way) between both of you. As much as I heard, paying the household bills is man's responsibility, in mean of source of the funds. So, it is the woman who takes care of all the bills, but again the source of fund is her husband. I hope 'who pays the bill' is not something big in your household.
• United States
17 Sep 09
Oh no..who pays the bills is just a figure of speech in our household.. I don't work but if I did there would never be his and hers money. We are a couple and it will stay that way even with the income..Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day..
17 Sep 09
Ow, okay, you're welcome. Thank you for sparing your time to read my comment. =)
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
hello rosepedal64, my wife is the one responsible paying the bills in our household. since we got married, she took the responsibility. she is making it sure that she will pay it before the due date to avoid surcharges. there are times that we are not receiving our bills on time and in that case, she is calling the company like the telephone or broadband how much do we need to pay. so with my credit card, she is reminding me to call them and ask how much is our total purchases. she knows our due date in every particular bill.
• United States
17 Sep 09
Hello robert..I want to say first, thanks for sharing with us. I am pretty much the same way too. I know when all the bills are due and how much they are. It comes to the telephone bill I too will have to wait and see what it is. It seems that it is never the same...
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• Philippines
19 Sep 09
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@MsTickle (25051)
• Australia
22 Sep 09
It is something I've always done and I believe I am good at it. I had one partner who called me rigid but for the first time in his life he was out of debt, had a decent vehicle to drive, a great holiday every year and was paying off a home and in advance on his payments. He was incredibly irresponsible about money and would simply omit paying bills if he got the chance. The next guy I was with was equally irresponsible. He was happy for me to pay the bills but he would not pay his share and disagreed with how I wanted to spend the money...my way was rent, bills, first, then food, then whatever else was needed. His idea was booze first, second and third. I was a bit stupid too though. I trusted him to hand over his money and discovered he was not giving me what he should have. I was broke when I left him but also deeply in debt as I had been carrying him for a couple of years. Instead of talking things through and working things out he decided letting me pay the bills while he was ripping me off was better.
• United States
22 Sep 09
I can make the dollar stretch as well. I know when everything is due before it gets here and pretty much know how much everything is. I guess if he did try to take over the bill paying then I would go nutty not knowing if he got everything done right..LOL..Thanks for your comment and have a nice day...
@EliteUser (3966)
• Australia
19 Sep 09
Hello, At the moment my parnents are responsible for paying all the bills inside of the house. I can't really pay the bills because I don't work and I have no money to actually pay the bills. Make sure you have a good day, Happy Lotting!!
• United States
19 Sep 09
Hi EliteUser...Thanks for the comment. Keep up the good work and have a great day. Happy Lotting back to you..Smile...
• China
18 Sep 09
to save money,my monthly salary is saved for long-term or big charge,like for decorating my new house in next year,my hubyy's salary is used for daily life, and he is in charge of paying all the bills in our household,he is a careful man.
• United States
18 Sep 09
That is great..Im glad to hear that you all share the expenses and that your husband takes on the the headache of the bill paying. Thanks for sharing your thought and have a nice day...Smile..
@thea09 (18319)
• Greece
17 Sep 09
Hi rosepedal, married or not married I would never allow someone else to be responsible where money is concerned as I believe this is a huge mistake to let something so important out of your own hands. If a couple have joint responsibilty towards bills they should each maintain their own bank accounts with a joint one for bills managed by one person.
• United States
18 Sep 09
We only have the one account that takes cares of everything. I just hate when it is that time to pay the bills. To sit down and make out and budget all them at once. I was able before he got laid off to pay them as they came in. Doing it that way was much simpler than all at once..Thanks for sharing..
@satan88 (586)
• United States Minor Outlying Islands
17 Sep 09
my parents do that but i plan on contributing after i graduate. I'm a full time student right now .I contribute once in while when we really need it but i don't have any money in the first place.
• United States
17 Sep 09
Im glad to hear that you want to help out with the bills after school. I think that is something all should do when they complete their college.. Thanks for sharing and you have a nice day..Keep up the good work..
• United States
17 Sep 09
Thank you for this discussion because I started to believe I was the only women who made sure the bills where taking care of. Coming from a family where males where the dominate factor it feels funny in my marriage that I am the one who is the primary source when it comes to taking care of the bills. My hubby makes the money, and so do I but I have a more financial sense and a reliable budget plan... Im better at making money decisions...I kind of wish he would take over because me knowing money factors lessens the element of surprise...
• United States
17 Sep 09
Hi AcousticSoul..yeah I wish my hubby would take over too. Although I will have to say that for him to take over the bills then I wouldn't know where the money is going. Im not sure that I could handle that. I like surprises too but I also need to know where the money is..Thanks for sharing and you have a nice day...
@mermaidivy (15404)
• United States
17 Sep 09
My spouse is responsible to pay the bills each month, he is the only one working in this household, I don't have a job so he is respondible to pay for the bills every month. He always tell me not to worry about the bills and I never do because I know he can take care of it all the time.
• United States
17 Sep 09
When I mention to my husband about him taking care of the bills, he always says that I do such a good job at it...Then smiles real big..I don't think that he wants any part of that job. I guess it is onward with the bill paying...Thanks for sharing and have a nice day..
@eshaan (6193)
• India
17 Sep 09
in my house its me..i have to see all financial..though the provider is he...i just see how to manage money and...for this, he never takes tension...not only bills..groceries, household stuffs, paying for the children's school auto..and even smallest other thing ..i have to decide what to purchase, when and in how much budget...so i am the finance minister in my house...
• United States
17 Sep 09
That is how it is here too. Although I am calling it the bill monster..My husband gets tickled at me when I am filling out the bills. He says that I turn into the bill monster.. I do fuss alot at the cost and all but I know it is just me releasing my angry...better on me then on the bill collectors...
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
I used to be the one responsible for paying the bills, but ever since my mom got sick of cancer and I had to take care of her full time, my brother is now shouldering all of the expenses. This had to be done because I could not leave my mother and all of my brothers live abroad.
• United States
17 Sep 09
It is great that you have brothers to fall back on when you need it..Im sorry to hear that your mom is ill. Im sure that it is hard mental to take care of her. I know that when my father was sick with cancer it was hard to see him in such pain and know that there was nothing that I could do. I had to be real strong for the family. Anne you take care and I wish you only the best. Have a nice day..
• India
17 Sep 09
hi this is santosh. In my house my father will pay all the bills. And never asked me to pay the bills as i am busy in my studies. But some or other time i have to pay the bills. My father is superb as he cares me a lot and never ask me anytime to pay the bill. He thinks if he say any work for me to do my studies would disturbed....
• United States
17 Sep 09
It sounds like you have a wonderful dad. Yes he is only thinking about your future. Continue with that and get that degree. Have a wonderful day..
@misisbau (317)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
I make sure that the bills are paid. In terms of expenses (bills included), we pool our money together.
• United States
17 Sep 09
When I was working we always shared the income. I think that is the proper way to do things in a marriage. He has his allowance and I had mine..Now that I don't work and time are rough we just pay the bills.
• India
17 Sep 09
ya.. its based on responsible of one who earn more in home. according in my home, my father take care of all bills. so dont blame hubby for bills. if suppose you really suffer more from this means. so you can tell frankly to her for understanding your work. be happy in life.
• United States
17 Sep 09
Oh no, I don't blame hubby for the bills. We have aquired them bills together. I was mainly talking about sitting down and preparing the bills and the budget. Have a nice day..