Do you have ever shouted on your parents?

India
October 26, 2009 1:02pm CST
Is that happens in your life that you have shouted on your parents very much? I have once done this when I was 25 and now after 10 years later still I feel the shame for that shameful act. I don't know what happens to me then but I had definitely done a wrong thing. I got so irritated for some reason and shouted so loudly that my parents got stunned by that unnatural act from me. Though I had later calm down quickly but at that moment, I understand, that I have done a very bad thing. It takes me 2 days to gaze at their eyes and ask for an apology. Do you have any such experience for which you still feel the shame?
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19 responses
@Jennlk84 (4216)
• United States
26 Oct 09
I may have "yelled or shouted" at them when I was a teenager a few times but that's probably about it. I don't think I ever shouted at them as a younger child and I know that now as a mature adult I would never shout at them. I think it's somewhat normal for teenagers to act out a few times towards their parents. I was never a "bad or difficult" child. But there are times when your parents tell you no and you just don't want to hear it! lol
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27 Oct 09
Teenagers tend to rebel sometimes. This is probably the stage where parents and children argue with each other the most.
• India
28 Oct 09
Yeah. It's absolutely true. I think it is time when someone's supervisory at every level of life is not expected and for that reason sometimes parents become the victim. Those who don't have this ugly experience are fortunate. But I'm not and so unknowingly I have done that bitter mistake once in my life. Through this discussion I am just releaving my heart from this guilt to a little bit but not completely. Have a nice myLotting day.
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
yes i shouted when his not listening lol,i think it just normal.because elderly have poor hearing problem when getting old our senses slow even to configures things.i shout for my mother to hear not a bad offence but to tell her what i wanted to say.
• India
29 Oct 09
Hi, it's normal for you because it depends on someone's physical limitation. But I am saying about a deliberate mistake which I have made when I was 25. I shouted so loud on my parents that the situation becomes quite unbelievable for us. Within hours I understand my mistakes and beg pardon. Though my parents later forgave me but the bad memories till remains after 10 years and it's still very painful.
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
1 Nov 09
yes in situation like that the kids sometimes guilty to what they act like shouting intentionally.so they sorry to their parents and forgiven by his parents.
• United States
26 Oct 09
Never in my whole life that I could remember that I shouted to my parents. Though at times I lost my temper but then, lucky me that i have never done this to my parents. I always try to control myself and always keep in mind that they're my parents and that i should respect them.
• China
27 Oct 09
yeah ,we should respect with each other,and I do love my parents.
• India
29 Oct 09
Hi Mandy, you are very lucky then, that such a disgraceful thing never happens in your life. You have good controls on your feelings too to tackle such an unwanted situation. I have done that mistake once in my whole life and still having the wounds from the thorn of memories of that bitter experience. I really care for them and ashamed for my behaviour 10 years ago,
@offlimits (599)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Well, I don't remember any incident where I shouted at them. I can only remember that there are times when I was so irritated with my mom bothering me so I yelled at her a little bit. Not that loud but I think I have hurt her feelings somehow. I am not an expressive kind of person so I did not say sorry but instead left a letter before she went back to Saudi. I know I have not been a good daughter to my parents but I really try hard to be one.
• India
30 Oct 09
I think you are trying really hard. But I think talking personally will ease the situation more. So if you talked to her directly expressing your guilty feelings I think she will definitely forgive you unless you have to guess whether she pardoned you or not.
@Patxih (114)
• Spain
27 Oct 09
I think it´s impossible not shout them. They are your parents but sometimes they don´t listen you.
• India
30 Oct 09
I don't know why you said that but it is a true fact that they are your parents and at any point of time they need some respect. You think that this shouting has no effect on them but ask them at a calm moment, you will understand how deeply hurt they are. Maybe it is possible that I don't understand your situation but shouting at parents is definitely a shameful act.
@ybong007 (6656)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
I really can't recall but there are things I said that up to this moment still feel ashamed about it. I did that to my mother and she just looked at me with hurt in her eyes, she did not say anything and that had make things the more hurtful because it will make you realize how much mothers love their children and what an ahole you are. Cheers!
• India
30 Oct 09
You haven't said that whether you have begged sorry from your mother or not. But if it is yes then it's ok otherwise that will send a wrong message to your mother. Such type of acts are always shameful and nobody will support it. Even after doing this it left a deep feelings of guilt for a long time, as I have in my case. I think they always need some respect from us.
@junmae (1591)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
No, I never shouted at my parents because i know if i did that they will punish me. I am too scared of my parents, there words are laws for me so I make it a point that i do all that they say and obey them.
• India
30 Oct 09
From the whole discussion & responses I come to the point that your's situation is a strange one. All are expressing their thoughts out of love, shame, respect but you are expressing your thought out of fear. Fear of getting punished by your parents. I think you don't have gave you enough liberty to express your thoughts. Even if you know that your parents are going to make a mistake you remains silent out of fear. We do love our parents and respect them because they have given us enough liberty and everything what we want. Still at a moment's error we shouted on them. So that is a guilty feeling for our mistakes that comes purely out of love and affection not out of fear.
@earth2jacq (1503)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Yes when I was a teenager I often do. Maybe it is due to teenage angst. But whatever it is I am glad that phase is over. I don't realy like the after feeling of shouting to my parents
• India
29 Oct 09
Yeah. It is better then because I know myself that how shameful act that is and still now I am not free from the guilt. I think they deserve respect from us. In fact I feel that in my case and so I am sorry till now.
@Fulltank (2894)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
Its a shame but its also a lesson in life. I had done it once when I was ready for college. My parents want me to be enrolled and get the course they wanted for me. As I wanted to have a different course, an angry discussion broke-out. It never occurred to me that my voice are getting louder and louder every time I tried to explain my side. In the end my parents agree with me and I had to prove to them that my shouting and standing on my own feet is the right thing to do. And I think they're contended and proud of what I had accomplished so far.
• India
29 Oct 09
Hi Fulltank, your's is a different story. Sometimes it so happens that shouting on elders not only brings shame on the person who is shouting but also others on whom he /she is shouting. I don't think it is the right way to vent out our emotions. It hurts everybody, even the screamer. In view shouting on elders never earns grace except disgrace socially, morally & emotionally.
@saizo6 (2208)
• United States
26 Oct 09
I've never shouted at my parents ever but I have used the annoyed tone with them a few times. I know better than to do that. My siblings and I were taught at a young age to always be respectful to our elders. Plus, I'd never get away with shouting at them in the first place. But I do recall using the annoyed tone and being grumpy towards them during my teenage years. Now that I think about it though, I feel really stupid for doing that. My parents were only thinking about what's best for me and there I was thinking I knew everything so I took it out on them. Looking back, I feel a lot of regret as well as shame for my stupid behavior.
• India
29 Oct 09
Hi saizo6, same feelings here. Still now I am questioning myself how could I do that when my parents care so much for me? It's a shameful act from my side when I was young. Maybe that is the fault of that age that helps me to make that mistake. I am still sorry for that act and when I go through the whole incident I feel so ashamed as there was no place for me to hide.
@vandana7 (72390)
• India
26 Oct 09
Hi think_twice, u r lucky u realized ur parents' worth at 25, I took much longer. As long as I was in regular employment, I always took my only parent for granted. There were many things I never understood about him. I dont want to use it as an excuse but I was almost always in hostels, and as uch no relationship existed except that which was biological, and on paper. The real bonding came only after left my whole time employment. I didnt hate him, I just frustrated why he couldnt understand me, and irritated at his inability. Over the last few years what has developed is really too good. Now, a different fear lurks in my mind. Should anything happen to him, will I be able to take it? I dread the prospect. For all those who are reading this, please realize there is no gift better than a parent.
• India
28 Oct 09
Hi vandana7, It's a wonderful thing that you understand a very basic thing. Most of us always remain close eyed to this common fact. But I feel they are like the lighthouses in the middle of the ocean like life and always shows the way when we are in trouble. It's very painful that after so many lost years you really find the basic thing in your parent. It's very touching.
@IMEzekieL (500)
27 Oct 09
I do with my mom. I just got irritated with the situation that I'm always the one she's blaming. I shouted at her. I believe I broke her feelings though.
@iceydon (342)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
I haven't shouted on my parents and have no plans to do such. I can't imagine what my parents would do to me if I had done it. Whenever I am against their suggestions or we have some disagreements I just keep quite and listen to them. I such way i can avoid my uncontrolled temper.I reason out if its really needed but not to a point that will further escalate the arguments.
@gnase99 (172)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
we are only humans we commit mistakes..if ever that happened i hope it will not gonna happen again and i hope we learn something about it.
@rebaozi (100)
• United States
27 Oct 09
I'v done,when I was ahout 15 years old.At that time,my mum wanted me cut my hair shortly,so I went to a salon to do it.But when I saw my hair,I thout it was too shout and made looks ugly.I was very angry,I thought it's all because my mum wanted me to cut the hair.I was crying,ran home,and shouted on my mum.It made my mum very sad.I was so sorry ahout that,untill now.
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
I'm so guilty of this and I regret those times. But I think it also gained me some respect from them. It tightened our bond. I respect them more than ever. It did close the gap we had before. But still it's a bad thing I did and I'm always reminding myself to never do that again. shadow41
@dpk262006 (56734)
• Delhi, India
27 Oct 09
Hi dear! I pay due regards and respect to my parents and even they sometimes say unpleasant things, I take on my stride and do not lose my temper. It is our parents who have brought us on this earth and they are the most regarded in this world. I have never shouted on my parents and there is no question of ever shouting. I may not like all their commands and directions, yet I listen to them intently and try my best to obey their wishes and desires.
@mindytsc (12)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 09
Sadly to say, I did :( That happened when I was very mad at them for accusing me and loves my brother more than me..When I shouted at them, it was like a sudden reaction because I don't mean to do so..Each time after I did that, I will feel guilty and try to apologize to them. I'm really sorry..I hope I can be a better daughter in the future..I'm sorry mum and dad..
@ronnyb (6117)
• Jamaica
26 Oct 09
Well I think I have but I think if I did something like that I would have apologise for it smae time and try to put that sordid affair out of my mind as that is not something anyone should feel proud about .In my defence and yours though,we are humans and we make mistakes and just as some other person could haev made us mad so can our parents and also in teh same breath we would have gotten angry at another person we can also get angry at our parents.Like I said its not soemthing to be proud about and the fact that you are still remorsefull shows that you are a good person who made a bad decison on the spur of the moment.So I say you are allowed to make mistakes and also allowed to forgive yourself