Is it just your friends that matter on mylot??

@mizcash (686)
Canada
October 29, 2009 10:52pm CST
I am convinced that most people on Mylot only respond to their friends postings. I had decided to stop posting on mylot because a did a little experiment and saw that it is true. Well, I came back yesterday because I read an article in Prevention Magazine, I thought it was important to post. However, no one saw it fit to respond well two people did, one told me it was strange and he hadn't heard about it and another lady she had heard about it but wanted to know a bit more. I can prove what I am saying, i have been on this site for three years and have started many riveting discussions but maybe I will get 3-4 responses. I have taken one my discussions to another forum and started there and have gotten 128 responses and it lasted over 4 days. I know Mylotters are capable of holding quality discussions because I never start frivolous ones. My suggestion is, we response to discussion not because they are your friends but because that's what we are here to do. Just making a noticeable point. Thank you.
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@ample03 (403)
• India
30 Oct 09
Personally I never look first for what my friends discussed about. I always look for the best discussions where I can share my views. However I like to go through my friends' discussions and it is interesting to me what are they thinking about my questions or views as well. I really do not know why it happens where you have a good discussion and not getting responses sometimes. However, wishing you All the very best.
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@mizcash (686)
• Canada
30 Oct 09
I don';t think it should be about but about the topic.
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• Australia
30 Oct 09
The FIRST thing I do when I come to myLot is check the "friends started" and respond to those in which I feel I can make a contribution. I do not reply JUST because they are friends. A few friends post many discussions to which I do not reply, but I reply to almost every discussion of some other friends. After checking the "friends started" discussions I check the "responded" to see if the poster has replied and if further comments might be required. Then I check the "started" and reply to any comments received. I have to limit my time here, but if there is time left, I will check "my interests" and respond to any discussions which catch my attention. I seldom check the "today's top" or the "hot" because ones that interest me will usually appear in one of the other headings. If I still have time left I will check "no responses" A word of advice? Checking your profile, I see you have 59 friends. I wonder how many of these are current? The old saying "to have a friend, you must BE a friend" could be applied to myLot. The more you participate, the more responses you will receive. I joined myLot three years ago, but I have been absent for two years, which means I have been active for only 1 year. I make the point that in 3 years you have gained only 547 points.
@mizcash (686)
• Canada
30 Oct 09
Yes, I do have only 59 friends and i don't just respond to their posts only, I answer a discussion because I have something to say about it and if a discussion has over 20 responses I move on to those that have one or two. I think we should help everyone out with answering there questions. I probably do need to up date my friend list, it's pretty old if you ask me.
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@ybong007 (6656)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
I think it's the other way around for me, there were discussions that I thought was interesting and there were about three to four responses only, most are not in my friends list. Which can be a bit frustrating, but I think it's really the type of discussion that was started that gets your interest to respond. I also admit that I don't post a response to a friends discussion if it does not appeal to me or i don't have much to say or relate to it. Cheers!
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@mizcash (686)
• Canada
30 Oct 09
Thanks for your honesty.
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@raynejasper (2324)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
..hi mizcash.. for me I never responded to a discussion just because it was posted by my friends.. I always go to the no responses section and try to respond to anything that i could react with.. so for me, your little experimentation is not a fact.. maybe it is a fact to others, but not for me..
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@mizcash (686)
• Canada
30 Oct 09
THAT IS GOOD. KEEP IT UP. I wish more people would do that.
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@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
I go over to my friends stared discussions and responded to topics I can relate but when I can no longer find topics that interest me, I'll go over the general discussions same if I don't find anymore topics that I can react to, I'll go over the new response section and respond to interesting discussions. So it's not only friends that matter to mylot but maybe true for others, especially those who have limited time in mylotting.
@maximax8 (30066)
• United Kingdom
30 Oct 09
On My Lot I respond to discussions that are interesting an appeal to me. It doesn't matter if a friend has began the discussion or not. I tend to look discussions which have been placed under my top interests. General topics like life, enjoy life, questions and answers and people can be fascinating. My favorite topics are travel. traveling, travel the world, dogs, have kids and family.
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@doryvien (2293)
• United States
30 Oct 09
Hi mizcash, I won't deny that whenever I come here I first check the discussions started by my friends, but I don't respond to all of them as I only pick those that interest me. And then I check on the other discussion tabs, including the "no responses", and if something appeals to me I drop a post. I think most members will respond to topics that they can relate to, or are interested in, otherwise, they'll move to the next one. I experienced this too, posting a discussion and getting no responses. But it has never discouraged me from coming back here. Maybe my topic wasn't just interesting enough to get that much attention - that's how I view it. Peace!
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@free_man (7335)
• United States
30 Oct 09
Myself I respond to discussions that interest me and I know a little bit at least about. I am new here but I like seeing discussions that will at least make me think. You say you have been on here for 3 years wow a long time. I have a few friends on here but I only reply to discussions that have something that I like.
@mizcash (686)
• Canada
30 Oct 09
Yes i know it's a long time lol. If the discussion has substance i definitely respond. I don 't really respond to silly discussion.
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@free_man (7335)
• United States
31 Oct 09
I won't respond to silly discussions either. It is a waste of my time. And I don't like wasting anything.
• United States
31 Oct 09
We're not friends and I'm responding to you....ok so that arguement isn't very good. But ya, anyways, I try to comment on the discussions I think I have something to say to. While, yes, I admit my friends do have priority, I mostly look for people who don't have responces yet.
@Porcospino (27543)
• Denmark
30 Oct 09
I always have a look at the discussions started by my friends, and if I can relate to the topics and I respond to some of the discussions. But I also respond to many discussions started by other members, and I don't want to miss out on interesting discussions just because they weren't started by one of my friends When I decide whether to respond to a discussion or not, the topic is the most important thing, it is less important to me who started the discussion.
@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
30 Oct 09
My friends discussions come under my immediate attention as I get to see their notifications first. I am a freelancer, I will respond to any discussions available here if they can relate to me well.
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Oct 09
I have a hierarchy. I reply to responses on my discussions. Then I reply to my friends' discussions if I'm interested. Then I go look for other discussions. I missed yours yesterday and I probably missed a lot, but I do look.
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
I do respond to my friends' discussion, but usually for the most part of my responded discussions, most of them are discussions from people who are not my friends. I only respond to those discussions that interest me a lot. In my point of view, perhaps there were only a few people saw your discussion since there are thousands of discussions available here. Have a great day and God bless!