'Better Late than Never'

@zandi458 (27948)
Malaysia
November 4, 2009 12:39am CST
It must have escaped my attention that one particular discussion that I started 5 months ago with many responses but without my comments. I don't mean to wash my hands off from my obligations as the starter of a discussion to leave my posts un-commented. I make sure that those who join in my discussions are well taken care of. I only come to realize it when I was trying to resolve some of my long standing discussions and the need to award BR. Thousand apologies for those who took great pains to respond only to receive no response from me at that material time. Maybe it was the time when I started few discussions at once which have messed up the whole thing. So don't be unduly surprise to get my reply for your response to my discussion that you have long forgotten. This is an isolated case. Do you go back to your old discussions that you have started few months back and comment on the responses? Or you just leave it as a gone case and take chance that the responders do not remember it?
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@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
4 Nov 09
I have founbd that when I go back to some that someone had responded that I NEVER got an email on so I then respond back to them . hard to rerespond when you dont get notifacation!
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
4 Nov 09
I know that you are one of the most consistent responder regardless of the topic discussed. You are a seasoned player in mylot.
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@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
4 Nov 09
thanks
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@Hatley (164229)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Nov 09
oh yes Lakota was here when I was just a newbie.
@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
4 Nov 09
Yes, it's better late than never. I am guilty of this too in many ways. Two days ago one discussion I posted 3 years ago resurfaced and there was a response there that I was not able to comment back. I hesitated to write a comment for the simple reason that the person might not be active anymore like in many cases. 3 years is such a long time. But I commented anyway though not really expect that the person will notice it. But a few seconds after I made a comment, the user replied back and he was surprised too. I imagine his face commenting back with eyes wide open .....after all this time. LOL No, nothing here is too late. cheers!
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
4 Nov 09
One good thing about mylot is all discussions are kept well in our profile and it can reincarnate anytime which allows others to respond to them. Three years is such a long time and maybe we even have forgotten that we have started the topic.
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@Hatley (164229)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Nov 09
hi fellowmylotters can you imagine how many I had to go back and comment on when I got stranded for financial reasons and could not get to my computer for almost 11 months? I had a humongous number of discussions to comment on all of them, but when mylot was off line awhile back I got busy and got mostly caught up. a great feeling.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
4 Nov 09
I try to answer all my responses then i usually go back & check to see if people have added other things which so many times they have. I'm sure i have missed some but i sure don't do it intrntionally. If it makes u feel better i forgive u.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
4 Nov 09
forgiving is divine but forgetting is something else.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
4 Nov 09
I'm really not to good at either one, lol.
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• China
4 Nov 09
Well, zandi, that's okay. Like you said, late is better than never. Sometimes we respond and don't get comments. I don't think it's a problem, though I hope to get some comments. I think people don't comments in time for many reasons. For me, I started a few discussions, but I will comment ASAP. But sometimes I cannot send my comments as some unknown problem. So I will make them wait a few days. Sometimes late comments are surprise for us. Just imagine, you don't expect, but you get it. It's wonderful! Anyway, just to comment sincerely is always work well.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
4 Nov 09
I always get latecomers to my discussions which is good as any new response will bring up the discussion again and get exposed.
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@Hatley (164229)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Nov 09
I love that too as sometimes someone brings up something new 'and that makes it even more fun.
@lingli_78 (12836)
• Australia
4 Nov 09
i agree with you that it is better to be late than never... i also experienced that before... having started a discussion and forgotten to comment on it... but i straight away try to remedy the situation and try my very best to reply to all the responders... i know that sometimes we are too busy or can just simply forgotten... that is human nature, isn't it??? :-) take care and have a nice day...
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 09
At least I am not alone in this case. I would run through all my past discussions and do justice to all the responses that have been left to fate for such a long time.
• India
4 Nov 09
first i like to see who started discussion,if its started by my ' mylot' friend, i like to give them preference. and if i feel that the discussion subject is good and i have minimum idea on it,i try to share my idea and it and put my response. if any discussion are going old, but subject is well known and easy to me,i like to go back to make post on this type discussion, while i feel mood to write. no matter how long back or old of it. honestly say,some time i expect response on my started discussion from friend, but not at all, i believe every one have own choice and are not bound to make response on my discussion. but again with response from friend, i really feel smiley and feel proud for them. try honor them so,try post something, what i can to their response too.
@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 09
Discussions here are 'evergreen'. The length of time they have been here is immaterial as mylot has the capacity to hold on to discussions that is considered to be history. If you can't find anything interesting in the latest discussions, by all means go digging the old ones from friends profiles. They do still have the 'sting' in them. GO....
@thea09 (18316)
• Greece
4 Nov 09
Hi Zandi, always better late than never. I have a system which is not 100% reliable but works most of the time. I regularly at random move a couple of discussions at a time from the unresolved list when I consider them closed, making sure at the time that there are no loose ends. After that new responses move the discussion high in the started list so are easy to spot. The ones which always catch me unawares though are responses back to comments already given as if they go on later it is hard to keep track and I regularly find ones which are a few weeks old. I don't always respond anyway to a second response but some I would have wanted to and then I do it very late.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
4 Nov 09
Yes, this method works making the discussion always active on the list. I do often go back to my old discussions to check on counter comments but that would mean after weeks passed. I would reply if the need arises.
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@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 09
Hi Zandi, thanks for starting this topic and had make me realised that i too, have forgotten to give some comments to those who had replied to my former discussions. When i checked my "unresolved" section, to my surprised, some of my discussions had even a few months ago go passed without any comment or being declared any BR as well. Hope i didn't disappoint any of my respondent much. I think i will try to comment a few responses, in a day, to clear-off my "unresolved" discussions... Thanks for reminding me about it....
@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 09
Smilessss...we should sometimes remind each other that our past posts are as important as the newer ones. No discussions should remain without comments. This should be part of what discussions should be like. It should be resolved by awarding the BR to the deserving responder.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 09
Yup, you have a good point about this matter. And i appreciated that you had started this discussion as a good reminder to me and others. Yes, deserving responder must be giving their share of the BR. Happy mylotting, my friend....
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
9 Nov 09
Most of the time, I try to go back to my old discussions. This is to ensure that I am not posting a repeated discussion. And when I do a review, I sometimes come across some responses that I forget to reply to, or overlooked. And sometimes, I find that re-reading some of my old post, is like walking down memory lane. It brings back memories of the thoughts I had and the feelings I felt when I started the discussion.
@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
30 Dec 09
I do feel exactly like you. with my 240 unresolved discussions, I took half the time reading and enjoying all the responses and recall the past memories that goes to the writing of my discussions.
@KrauseHome (36747)
• United States
9 Nov 09
I know I have a lot of older discussions I never took the time to respond back too, and just go in and give the Best responses just to get these all resolved, but often wonder if it would be better to respond back to them as well? It just seems like many times there is never enough time to respond back too and do everything I would like to do for sure.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
30 Dec 09
Like this response of yours, I only realize that your response was left for so long before I give out my comments thought I have read it earlier.
@GardenGerty (116446)
• United States
8 Nov 09
At some point I tend to go back and work on it to get caught up. You are not the only one who ever does this. it is okay.
@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
30 Dec 09
Your words pacified me.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
5 Nov 09
I would not worry too much zandi; it’s hard to keep up sometimes. I have only one discussion where I did not comment on the responses because it was about movies that people enjoyed and, because I had not seen most of the films MyLotters came back with I had absolutely nothing to say to each response. These days I make sure I pick topics that I know I will be able to comment to.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 09
That happens to me sometimes. I may be able to start a discussion but I find difficulty in giving out my comments simply because I am not too familiar with the subject.
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@dawnald (84069)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Nov 09
You know, I take the responses in order. So if I get one that has a lot of responses and I get a new response to it, I go to the back page. Sometimes I miss responses on the middle pages because of that. I try to catch them all, but sometimes I don't have time to look at all the pages over and over again. But when I go and do the BR, I read all the responses and then sometimes I catch things that I have missed. And then if I have something to say to those comments, I do respond.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 09
You are indeed a smart player. We have to find our own rhythm in mylot that fits our style of presentation well.
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@littleowl (7157)
5 Nov 09
Hi Zandi, Now snd then I go back to my old discussions and give them BR's but sometimes I like to wait and see if any of them get answered before doing that, infact I like to get answers from my old discussions especially when I first started as not being very well known and not having friends whom answered them I didn't get many responses, but it is fine with me if you respond to your old discussions so you needn't apologise really...LoLo
@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 09
The longer we stay in mylot the higher our popularity graphs shoot up. We need to maintain that and by so doing we should see that everyone who responded to our discussions are acknowledged.
@Hatley (164229)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Nov 09
hi zandi458 don't feel bad you are human, and we all have done this,I have also, and I just apologize and comment and tell everyone I am sorry and I goofed. most everyone was so sweet and some told me that had happened to them too. we get busy, and life sometimes intrudes in our mylotting and we miss something. we forgive each other and comment and move on,no harm at all. I am sure none of our mylotters are going to be upset with you.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 09
Thank you. I do feel guilty at times especially when someone post about not receiving comments from their responses. This gives me the feeling that I was the person mentioned in the topic. Well, so far my record has not been too bad when it comes to acknowledging my responses. But certainly we bound to meet negligence as we race with time in mylotting.
• India
4 Nov 09
I am actually feeling so bad now…I have so many unresolved discussions and now I feel so utterly selfish for leaving them just like that. I start very few discussions mainly coz they rob me of time to respond to other’s more interesting topics…so whenever I have started discussions, its only coz I was in dire straits and needed solid neutral advise. Friends here have been absolutely wonderful in providing my not only practical advise but support and kind words too! They have been my source of sustenance when I was really down and I have replied back to every one of them, as long as the content of the discussion mattered to me. Gradually however, the discussions lost their importance and faded from my memory…I never awarded a BR only and only coz I did not want to choose between so many equally wonderful answers. And now when I see somebody has responded to a discussion I started about a year back, I really don’t go back and respond…maybe I should but I feel that I would be doing better if I responded to a discussion started by the same person instead of responding to her in my year old discussion!
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
4 Nov 09
Maybe that is your way of dealing with discussions that have turned 'history'. It is good that you reciprocate in ways that you think benefit the responder. I have yet to resolve many discussions that has gone stale and hope to finally resolve them when I award the BR. It is good to pick the most deserving respondents as giving BR motivates others to respond though it might not be the main driving force for me to respond to any one discussion. I respond because I want to and not because the carrot is dangling there.
@Sreekala (32780)
• India
4 Nov 09
Hi zandi, I have done the comments to some of my topics after 3 months. I left the same just because I become lazy with the topic. I was aware about the same and I left it intentionally or I wanted some gap for replying. I completed all those works later. Today I got a reply to one of my old topic (started 10 months ago) and I checked the same and find out that there were two more replies without my comment. I didn’t get any notification on their responses and I felt bad on seeing the same today. Mistakes are happen without our knowledge and as a prompt respondent everybody should know about your attitude so no need to worry.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
4 Nov 09
Laziness is part of the reason for discussions left without comments. After 2 pages of my replies I tend to get bored with the subject as replies become repetitive. sometimes I only come back after 3 days in a fresh form and replies flow freely. But I have one that has 3 pages of responses without comments and I really feel guilty as it has been there for 5 months now.
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@surekharathi (14133)
• India
31 Oct 12
Yes I always prefer to go back check uncommoneted response and comment on it. I like old discussions because it was very funny and lots of responses are there. But due to shortage of time I cant go everyday.
@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
12 Nov 12
It is good to read old discussions that might have slipped our attention.
• India
3 Jun 11
Some times i too forget to comment back on the responses, it is only when i check, my 'unresolved' discussions, i discover my forgetfullness, i feel sad, because it is never negligence or intentional, i next comment back on each and every response.. Thanks for sharing God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@sweet_pea (3323)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
I was just thinking too of doing just that, commenting back to those responses I have not given in the past specially those that I have started when I was a newbie. I had a false notion before that I earn from those responding to me. And it is nice for veterans here at Mylot to guide me, so I learned that you only get paid for what you do here. I want to comment back on them not because I want to revive it but more of owing it to them for participating in my discussions.