Which is more interesting - telephonic conversation or face-to-face conversation

Conversation between two persons. - How one communicates through conversation.
@dpk262006 (58675)
Delhi, India
November 12, 2009 12:22am CST
Hi friends, it is true that in today’s face paced world, it is not possible for us to see many of our near and dear ones and we get in touch with them through telephone. We resort to our cell phones, landline phones and Internet to talk to our near and dear ones, as and when possible. We can only hear one’s voice if it is an audio call (I have excluded video calls from the preview of my discussion). We just cannot see the person in an audio call and cannot decipher his/her emotions when we are talking to him/her. S/he may be upset with us but s/he may camouflage his/her real feeling through modulation in his/her voice. S/he may be conveying us some greetings with a fake smile, but we just cannot guess the same by his/her voice. However, when one is face to face with each other, it is easy to understand other’s real emotions, as one normally cannot hide his/her real feelings, which surface on his/her face. His/her gestures also reveal, how intensely s/he is involved in the conversation. One can also make out, through his/her gestures, whether s/he is actually listening to us or just pretending the same. So friends, what is your opinion about telephonic conversation vis-à-vis versus face-to-face conversation?
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
12 Nov 09
Hi deepak, I can’t agree with you this time. I can’t greet a person with a fake smile and if I don’t like to convey my greetings then I will prefer ‘not to call’. If I am doing something, I really meant it. If am angry on a particular friend I won’t keep contact and if the friend calls me I can’t talk friendly with her. I will reply only on her questions. In other words the caller can easily understand my emotions towards her. But the mobile phone is giving a facility to make the caller a fool. I heard that many people are lying they are in ‘some’ place but the exactly they won’t be there but in some other places. May be people are there from my point of view I can’t agree with you.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Nov 09
I just mentioned a scenario, I did not want to say that everyone gives fake smile (I just wanted to say even if someone is giving you the impression that s/he is happy to hear you, you cannot actually guess about his genuineness because you cannot see him/her). If someone is talking to her/his beloved, s/he would surely talk with all the passions and real emotions, even on telephone. [b][/b]
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 09
Hi Sree! There is not any question in the discussion, where you should agree or disagree with me. My question was clear, which of two you prefer. I did not say that all who talk on telephone fake their smile or anger. I know you are very very honest and you would talk on phone as you do in your real life, when you are face-to-face with someone. However, if you are really angry with someone and s/he is right in front of you, s/he can assess your degree of anger and react accordingly. However, while in a telephonic conversation, this aspect goes missing. About telling the actual position of a person, you are very right, many a times, people give false impression that they are at such and such place and the actually they are not. Many thanks for joining, sharing your bold views and many thanks for posting comments on 'I am perplexed'.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
14 Nov 09
Deepak, I am disagreeing on this line of yours, 'S/he may be conveying us some greetings with a fake smile, but we just cannot guess the same by his/her voice'.
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@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
12 Nov 09
Hi Deepak.. According to me face to face Conversation is more interesting.. as you said we can see the emotions of the person to whom we are speaking.. but in a phone we cant see the true emotions.. some of them might be simply saying good things to us but their expression may be opposite to what they are saying.. but when our near and dear ones are very far from us then we must depend on the phone to keep in touch with them..
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 09
Hi Chaitra! Indeed dear face-to-face conversation carries more life and value than telephonic conversation. It is always fun to see the moments, actions and gestures of other person who is in front of you. S/he can also like-wise see our actions so as to assess whether we are really interested in his/her conversation or not. On the other hand, the fellow on the other side will go on speaking and narrating his side of story, without coming to know whether we are really interested in listening to him or not or its vice versa is also true. Many thanks for joining us, sharing your views and many thanks for posting comments on 'I am perplexed'.
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• Bangalore, India
13 Nov 09
Congrats.. this discussion is listed in MylotDigest Today..
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
13 Nov 09
Thanks! Chaitra! I did not know about it, till I saw your comment.
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• United States
12 Nov 09
I hate phones ! The only reason I use them is for emergencies and even then I hate it. I either write emails or be here on my Lot to talk to friends or I will see them face to face. when I met face to face I can really understand the other person. On th phone I am not sure if I have their true attention or evn if they can undestand me. But with that said I find emails are even better, You can write your true feelings and the other person can read them! Your real meaning is written. There isn't any mis communication problems and you aren't distracted by how the other person looks like. I Really like that it is written and you can read whenever you want.There isn't a time limit . so you can take yor time and read uinstead rush through it because of your lack of time. And being written , yo can keep it. That can come in handy if you are dealing with an liar. I like it too because I can keep All the good things a peson has written too.
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• United States
14 Nov 09
Thank you. Have a great weekend.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
20 Nov 09
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Nov 09
Hi dear Sarah! Nice to see your very very interesting response to my discussion. There cannot be any better substitute for face to face conversation. We can always see the other persons' body language, gestures, moments and eye contact. Eye contact tells a lot about person's genuineness, when s/he is in front of us. Writing emails for communications is also one of the best options, one can read the same at one's convenience and can respond accordingly and it is like a written record, which cannot be manipulated. In verbal communication, people sometimes deny their earlier statements very conveniently and one just cannot prove it. Many thanks for your wonderful thoughts.
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• Philippines
3 Dec 09
I see want the face to face conversation. Your ideas are just perfect to explain it. I want to see the face of the person I am talking too, I agree he or she will be faking when she/he says he/she is happy with their lifes, but when i see their faces even when if they did not talk about it I can feel it and I can see their gloomy eyes. You can also detect by their actions if they are lying. If we had a chance lets have communication with them in person, but if they are no chance of meeting them we can see them on internet web cam.
@sweetie1026 (1718)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
Yes, i prefer face to face conversation than audio or phone calls. Talking face to face although you are far apart can make a big difference. Yes, you can see the person's emotions thru her facial expressions. I am a person who have this habit of making eye contact with the one i am talking to. it is a better way of getting to know each other and in that way you can be assured that you are talking to a real person.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 09
Hi sweetie! Infact face-to-face conversation appears more lively than telephonic conversation. It is always enjoyable to watch the real moments, actions/reactions etc.of other person who is right in front of you. You have said rightly that eye contact with the other person clearly tells us whether he is listening us with his heart of head or otherwiser. However, now a days people do not find time to visit each other, therefore, they resort to telephonic conversation. Many thanks for joining us, sharing your views
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
13 Nov 09
So nice of you.
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• Philippines
12 Nov 09
Thank you, my friend. I really enjoy joining in friends' discussions.
@neelimaravi (1793)
• India
19 Nov 09
hi deepak, i think through internet and telephonic coversation is the best, because, i had met most of my friends like this, we share our feeling through this, we all are understand each other without seeing eachother. and we are eager to see face to face also. but, most of my friends are living outside banglore, we just exchange photos. see, we chat regularly we impress our feeling daily, then what will remain to talk directly, just to see their face, we have to meet that's all. but definetly we all meet one day. i love friendship more than family. thanks for your topic, have a nice day. nice to meet you my friend.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
19 Nov 09
Hello Neelima! I agree with you that when we have our friends who are staying far away from our city/country then telephone or internet chatting is the best option to communicate. I hope you are referring to on-line friends. You are right that we can even understand our friends through telephonic conversation and when we go for it regularly, we can imagine about the other person's emotions, expressions and feeling about us. Hope your dream of meeting your on-line friends may get fulfilled one day. Face to face have slight edge in comparison to telephonic conversation, as you can very well see expressions and moments/gestures of other person and can judge yourself how deeply s/he is involved in conversation. Thanks for enriching the post with your lovely response.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
20 Nov 09
Neelima! It is my pleasure too to receive your response in my discussions.
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• India
20 Nov 09
It's my pleasure deepak.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
12 Nov 09
Well, now a days it has become so much more convenient to pick up the phone and call someone, and especially do this over seeing them in person if they live a ways from you. I think sometimes though it is better to see them in person than to talk on the phone as you can see their real expression and know how things are really going for sure. But since it is expensive to drive or travel around I guess calling someone is the next best thing to do.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 09
Hi dear! You are very right that now a days travelling and driving is a kind of great hassel and an expensive exercise, therefore, talking to someone on telephone is cheaper and safer option. Undoubtedly, we miss the real expression of the other fellow, while talking to him on telephone, therefore, we should sometimes see the person face-to-face. Many thanks for joining us and sharing your opinion.
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@riyasam (16556)
• India
30 Nov 09
i would prefer face to face conversations but as you rightly pointed out,it may not be always possible in todays fast pace,thats one of the reasons why i love family gatherings.if a person is not so familiar to me,i would like to have telephonic conversations.
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• United States
12 Dec 09
I had rather talk to someone in person. When talking on the phone you can't see their facial expressions. A voice on the phone sometimes can be very misleading.
@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
12 Nov 09
For people you are eager to meet, face to face conversation is the best choice. But time and space limit us to enjoy the luxuary, hence the telephone conversation come to our assistance. One special merit is to send apology through telephone, which saves the speak out face to face, while the issue is resolved as well.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 09
Hello Zhuhuifen! I am impressed with your thought about making an apology through telephone. If we are required to ask for an apology, we may find it difficult to say so, when the other fellow is face-to-face with us, however, it may become easier on telephone to do so because other person cannot read our our real facial expressions. Thanks for sharing and joining us.
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@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
Hello, dear! I find telephonic conversation interesting.I am thrilled imagining the person I am talking to especially if he/she sounds good i.e bedroom voice, good diction and pronunciation and grammar and witty. This is true to someone I haven't met yet and only dealing through phones or internet.It interests and amuses at the same time because of curiosity and the mystery of not really knowing the person on the other end of the line. However, maturely speaking, when it comes to our love ones, there is nothing more rewarding and interesting than to talk to them in person. No matter how good conversationalist we are, it is always difficult to convey our feelings without seeing the other person.There are certain things that words can't accurately describe.Because in communication, words are not all that matter. ;-)
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 09
Hi eureka! I am really impressed with your imaginative and witty response. You touched a new dimension in the discussion. I will have to but agree with you that if it is a unknown fellow and there is prolonged conversation, it may be a thrilling experience to imagine about him/her, specially, if we have not seen each other in person. For example, if we both happen to talk one day (quite hypothetical situation), then we would definitely imagine about each other or if we happen to talk to someone from mylot, whom we have not seen in real life, we would surely feel excited to imagine about him/her. In the second part of your response you agreed that if it is close relative or a friend then talking to him/her face-to-face will be more lively and will carry more value. You have said it absulutely remarkably that communication is not done through 'words' only, our actions/reactions and gestures make it complete. Many thanks for enriching the post and sharing your candid thoughts, one of the best responses, so far, I would say.
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@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
21 Nov 09
Hi deepak I like face to face conversation. Because while conversing with the people face to face there is some enjoyment. But if we converse in the phone, only their voice can be heard and it would not feel lively.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
21 Nov 09
Hi dear ! Many of the respondents believe that they enjoy tele conversation more because they cannot meet their near and dear ones frequently. Thanks for sharing your views. :-)
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@vandana7 (98827)
• India
12 Nov 09
Hi Deepak, that is not true! Even in telephonic conversation, u can get the real expression if u r attentive and sensitive enough. Sometimes actions speak louder than words. U can make out artificial modulation from the genuine one. U've got a lot of growing up to do. Eventual goal is to enjoy the silence. :)
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 09
Hi Vandana! There may not be any doubt that one can feel the real expression in a telephonic conversation too, provided one is attentive. You see, it could hold true in case where are talking to someone close to us say our parents, brothers/sisters/friends. We already know about their real nature, so we can assess how they will talk, while they are conversing to us through telephone. However, is you do not know a person, then I think it is difficult to make out what the other fellow is actually feeling/thinking and its vice versa is also true. BTW, who told you or claimed that I have grown up. I always feel that I have lot of growing up to do and I need to learn many chapters of life from friends like you. Many thanks for enriching the post and for appreciating 'I am perplexed'.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 09
Pl. read in the third line - "when we are talking.......... in the sixth lien - "if you do not know........
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@shona264 (167)
• India
12 Nov 09
Hi, I would prefer face-to-face conversation rather than telephonic conversation,because when you talk face-to-face you get to see the real expression of the person you are having conversation with.In phone sometimes one may sound very friendly,but in actual may not be wanting to talk to you.When you talk face-to face,you can understand what the other person feels about you,as eyes express ones feeling better than voice.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 09
Hi shona! It is very true that our facial expressions and our eyes tell a lot about our intentions, when we are talking to someone. If I am talking to someone and I am not making eye contact, it means that I'm trying to hide something or I may not interested in that person. Real expressions can only be seen when you are face-to-face, this factor goes missing in a telephonic conversation. Thanks for joining us and you are a newcomer, therefore, welcome to mylot family. Hope to see you more in our discussions.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
12 Nov 09
I feel that face to face communication is much more authentic, and should be used in cases where you feel that someone might lie to you otherwise. Now, communication on the phone should be reserved for a quick asking of how one is doing, or calling during a lunch hour. My husband and I do our serious talking whilst face to face with light conversation or maybe a reminder to talk about something more serious later, on the phone. I hope that made sense, the last sentence that is. In any case, of course there is the advantage of being able to physically touch someone whether it be a handshake, a light shoulder grasp, or a full blown makeout, whatever the case may be.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Nov 09
Hi SCG! I appreciate your views and that face-to-face conversation could be more authentic and lively. You can even see gestures and moments and even touch the other fellow to approve any of his/her view or simple nodding sometimes also work. It is good that you love to indulge in face to face conversation with your hubby and you convey short messages through telephone. Many thanks for enriching the post with your thoughts. Deepak
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
18 Nov 09
It is always a great honour and pleasure to go through your wonderful responses/comments.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Nov 09
I am always glad to give my thoughts to you DPK, Thank you for commenting back to me! Have a wonderful day!
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
12 Nov 09
Either can be interesting. Telephones are certainly more convenient unless you have your hands full and cannot hold the phone. Face to face usually requires sitting somewhere and that is not always an easy thing to do if you are busy.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Nov 09
Hi Cant! Thanks for sharing. I can understand your point of view, it is true that when we just cannot meet someone in person, telephone comes handy. Now a direct question, if given an opportunity where you can see me in person or can speak to me through telephone, which one would you choose?
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
18 Nov 09
It means you are comfortable both ways. Thanks for your clarification.
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
15 Nov 09
Right at this very moment if the opportunity were presented today it would depend on some other circumstances. If we were both attending the same event such as an art exhibit and someone introduced us we could talk in person. Never having met in person before I would say if someone were to introduce us via telephone that might be ok as well.
@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
12 Nov 09
Hello Deepak, I can't help but agree with you. It is better to talk face-to-face than through telephone. Face-to-face conversation may review the emotions and feelings from the other party.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
13 Nov 09
Hi James! Have not seen you earlier in any of my discussion, how come you know my real name. Thanks a lot for supporting my view and I also feel that face-to-face conversation brings in more clarity of thoughts and exchanage of ideas.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Nov 09
You appear very smart and intelligent, therefore, you just picked up my name from others' responses. It is good that you wish to buy products in person, rather than buying the same on Internet or through tele-shopping.
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• Malaysia
14 Nov 09
Hi Deepak, To answer your question how I know your real name. It is in the response by myLotters. With the internet, not everything can be done over it. We still need close contacts to close sales. I will rather buy a product from a salesman whom I have spoken to face-to-face than over the phone. I feel close to him. He has become my friend.
• Indonesia
26 Nov 09
Hi dpk262006 I wonder what's the meaning of that numbers.. Ah, "near and dear ones" really a nice phrase! You're very right about camouflage Honestly I often do that, angry but still talk politely and calmly, when in reality I've hit my pillow several times,,hehehe.. I believe both of them (phone and face-to-face) have its own uses. I found, sometimes, in face-to-face conversation, I run out things to be talked about and the conversation end with awkward silence. In telephone conversation, this uncomfortable silence can rarely happen, since we're surrounded with different environment and things to do, we can talk about that to our "near and dear ones" throught telephone. we can grab some snacks and continue that phone conversation or watch DVD while talking to our friends on the phone. He/she can talk to us about everything around her since we don't know the real situation. Telephone really helps when we need quick help and informations, no need to come search the real person. For me, face-to-face conversation becomes interesting because of the frequency of phone-talk is more than face-to-face. So there's some kind of miss feeling, wanna see the real person and talk face-to-face ,see others real and natural gestures, expression, etc. But you know, it is kinda boring if we need to meet the person directly everytime we need to talk.
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• United States
15 Nov 09
Nothing can replace face-to-face conversation with a friend or loved one. The intimacy of it connects people in ways that telephone conversation cannot.
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• United States
16 Nov 09
ya. does this go with written books too? would you devaluate the credibility of the story because the person was different than you expect? actually. i don't really care. i'll just go along with whatever happens.
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