Do you have an alternative name for "grandmother?"

@anawar (2404)
United States
November 22, 2009 11:03am CST
I'm a new grandmother with a six month old granddaughter and a ten week old grandson. My mom tells me that I should carry the name "grandmother" with pride. I'm sorry, but I'm way too young to feel like a grandmother. I have been looking for alternative names on the web, and I think I have found all of them. Some new grandmothers wait for the grandchild to choose a name for them, but this method can have catastrophic results. I tried for "Quennie," but was shot down. Names like, Nanna, Nana, Nan, Gran and the like don't appeal to me. I considered "Amma," but changed my mind. Right now, I'm trying out "Nina," and so far, it works. Do you agree with my mom, if so, why? Do you use an alternative name, or intend to in the future? If you have an alternative name, what is it?
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@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Our grandmother was called Bobba..its Russian for grandmother. When she passed, my mom took on Bobbatoo (for Bobba also) with my kids. We love it.
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@anawar (2404)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Hi ersmommy! Bobbatoo is a fantastic name. It's sweet and loving, and sounds "grandmotherly."
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@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 09
Bobba is such a cute name, it is kinda close to our mother tongue ! I am a mother for 2 kids. My kids call my mom Po Po. And Po Po actually is a Chinese calling. In other hand, my kids call my mother in law Ah Ma. Ah Ma is a dialect. Enjoy your grandmotherhood.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
22 Nov 09
No, I don't agree with your mom. Our personal opinions on anything are ours and our feelings deserve to be respected. I first became a grandmother 9 years ago and I also didn't want to be stuck with a title that represented "old lady" in my mind. I have always liked "Nan", which is what all 9 of my grandchildren call me...that or Nanny. My youngest baby girl just learned how to say "Nan". My husband is "Pop" and we get a kick out of how the little ones always put the emphasis on that last "P" when they're fisrt learning that word. They sound like they're going to POP!
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@anawar (2404)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Hi spalladino, You're right, we can't help how we feel and should not be judged for our personal preferences. Nan sounds so nice when I hear it from a fellow grandmother. I can hear your grandkids saying "POP." Thanks for the laugh. Kids are awesome, at any age. travel lightly, anawar
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@coldmoon (1088)
• France
22 Nov 09
I think that with an alternative name for grandmother, you can disguide your age, but anyway you can't get rid of the responsibility of a grandmother. It'd better if you face the reality and be ready learning how to be a good grandma.
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@anawar (2404)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Each to his own, I guess, but I think you misunderstood my intentions. I am a fantastic grandmother and cherish the responsibility. Choosing an alternative name will not change who I am. We can't help how we feel, but I would not judge you for your feelings, even if I disagreed. blessings, Anawar
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
22 Nov 09
WOW!! Congrats to u for being a grandmother to two grandchildren!! hehe ^_^ ONe is a she, while the other is a, he.. U are sure lucky an blessed huh!! hehe Well, those names are only a form of address, and u should not be taking too much into it.. PLus, u are honoured to have grandchildren at your age, which is the envy of many ple!! Thus, it's makes u even more respectable too.. hehe ^_^ After al when your grandchildren grows up in the future, u will definitely feel younger than they start addresing u as grandma.. hehe
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@anawar (2404)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Hi kun! Thanks for the congratulations. You are the first to mention this and you made me smile. blessings, anawar
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@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
22 Nov 09
I became a grandmother when I was 49 years old. I have been called grandma since my one and only granddaughter has been talking which is about almost 2 years. I love when she calls me grandma. I have earned that title and I love it. Nowadays there are alot of young grandmothers so being called grandma doesn't make you feel old because its all about how you really feel mentally and physically. I'm a young grandma that can still run around with my granddaughter, get down on the floor and play games with her. Being called grandma does not make me feel old at all. Your mom should be proud of the name. I don't really like the other names you have listed, how about grannie? No just kidding. Here are some suggestions: Noni, Mums, Mommom, May May, Mama and last name for instance Mama Lee, or Mama and first initial of your mother. I'm called Mama J by a friend of my daughters. Hope this helps you. Let me know what she decides and have a great day!
@anawar (2404)
• United States
22 Nov 09
That makes perfect sense! I think I like uncommon things in general. When I lived in Maine, I named my daughter Jennifer. At the time, the name was unique. Now, when someone calls out Jennifer, thousands of people turn around. Grandmother is an honorable name, but it's just not me.
@anawar (2404)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Hi lelin! I'm only a few years older than you and after reading everyone's responses, I can't explain why "Grandma" does not fit me. Maybe it's not because I feel too young. Maybe because "Grandma" is my mom to my three kids, and it's her name. Does that make sense? I like May May too. Thanks for the suggestion. My real name rhymes with grannie, and the combination is hysterical. I needed a smile today and I appreciate your humor. travel lightly, anawar
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@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
22 Nov 09
I guess I can understand that but I never thought of it that way. I just put it has my mother is a grandma to my grown daughters and now its my turn to a grandma and loving it.
• United States
22 Nov 09
My boyfriends mother is called MIMI. I like that name.
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@anawar (2404)
• United States
22 Nov 09
My cousin's kid's called their grandma Mimi and at the time, I did not understand why someone would not want to be called grandma. How perspective changes with age and wisdom. travel lightly, anawar
@JoyfulOne (6232)
• United States
22 Nov 09
My mother in law felt she was too young too, and she insisted on being called GG (Gigi)to her daughter's kids, and ours. My grandkids just call me gramma, grammy, or gram, and I take absolutely no offense to it. I know lots of folks who think they're 'too young', but I think it's a label that defines us and labels us as having pride in our grandchildren. We are not the grandmotherly type that our grandmothers were lol! Just me remembering here...when my mil requested NOT to be called grandma, we were stunned. Like you, she felt too young for that title. Speaking as the kids parent, I have to admit at the time I felt she felt ashamed or something, and were denying my kids the priviledge of calling her grandma. Anyways, that's just how I felt at the time (I was 27 when I had my first one.) By the time our babies could talk she finally let them call her grandma, but I think it was only because her friends and others kept asking her why she didn't want to be known as the kids grandma.
@anawar (2404)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Hi JoyfulOne! Gigi is the cutest name. I appreciate the input, it helps me understand why choosing another name can be upsetting to others. Luckily, all three kids are okay with this, they know I like to be different. It took time to find a name they all agreed upon, but they know how much I cherish their children. I feel so sad about how you felt when your mom didn't want to use Grandma. I guess, like everything else in life, it all worked out, because your mom ended up being grandma, anyway. And, I may share the same fate and be happy.
@GardenGerty (158080)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Nope, I like Gramma Heather, that is me. I think you can wait a year or so to see what fits if you do not see yourself in the name. Other languages have different names, like, I believe in some Scandinavian countries, Oma is the name. Nina would be cute, though.
@GardenGerty (158080)
• United States
23 Nov 09
They will call you what they hear their parents call you, so I hope you get the parents stuck on something that is pleasant to your ears.
@anawar (2404)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Hi GradenGerty! I love Gramma Heather, what a lovely name. Thanks for the on Nina. I took care of my grandson while his parents went out for their first "big date," since the baby arrived. It felt natural using the name Nina, but you never know which way life will turn you, so I'm staying open to other possibilities. After all, neither of my grandchildren are close to talking. Still, I think they need a reference point.
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@ram_cv (16513)
• India
22 Nov 09
We call our grandmoms as Patti or Tatti. Similarly, we call our grand fathers Patta or Tatta. This is in Tamil language. In Hindi you call grandmoms as Dadi or Nani and grandfathers as Dada or Nana. So you can select any of these if you are comfortable with them. Cheers! Ram
@anawar (2404)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Thank you ram! I love the names you mentioned, and your response is exceptionally beautiful because it represents an aspect of your culture. Sadly, Bubba is grandmother in Polish, and although I embrace my heritage Bubba sounds awful to me. I never saw the names you mentioned on any internet search. If you are interested you can add your suggestions to any of the websites. I'm sure many readers will appreciate your input. Blessings, Anawar
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
My kids call my mom and my mother in-law "Mama L" and "Mama E" while they call me "Mommy". It helps differentiate us but doesn't make both older women feel as old :) Here in the Philippines though, most grandmas are called Lola. When I have grandkids, I think I'd also prefer being called Mama rather than Lola.
@anawar (2404)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Hi writermom! Interesting, I thought the name Lola was beautiful and almost chose it. "Mama L" and "Mama E" are perfect names. They are easy for a child to remember and pronounce. How interesting, in your culture, Lola, is the norm, but the name sounds wildly exotic and lovely to me. I love hearing from members who do not live in America. Hope to see you in other discussions. blessings, Anawar
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Nov 09
hi anawar how about Grammy you know like the award meaning you 'are a prized new grandmother and they want to award you for'it other than that why not stick with Nina if all like it,it sounds great to me but I agree with your mom that grandmother sounds just great. look be proud you are a young grandmother. I cannot ever be a grandmother as my only child my adult son is determined to never marry. so alas. any way nina or Grammy or whatever congratulations on being young grandmother.
@anawar (2404)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Hi Hatley! Thanks for the warm thoughts of congratulations. I'm sorry being a grandmother is not part of your life's journey. You can always harbor a hope that your son will change his mind. travel lightly, anawar
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Hi, anwar. I am not a grandmother yet.. I won't be until many years from now. But I have called my grandmother, grandma all of my life. I have never called her granny or nanny. I can understand that you don't want to carry grandmother as your new name. I have an cousin that is a young aunt.. Some people feel too young to be called a grandmother when they are not that old. I do hope that you can find a name that makes you not feel old.. Good Luck and congrats to being a new grand!
@anawar (2404)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Hi cream. When it's your turn to be a grandmother, I wonder what name you will choose? Thanks for understanding, not judging me, or admonishing me for my feelings. So far, so good in the grandmother role. Thanks for the congrats and the encouragement. travel lightly, anawar
• United States
1 Jan 10
I have a few friends that call their grandmother "mamaw". I have one that calls her "nama". Maybe just part of your name? I'd just go with whatever the kids decide to call you. They might come up with something cute. My boyfriend couldn't say "grandpa" when he was little, so he ended up calling him "dee-daa" and EVERY KID in the family SINCE then has called him that. It's really adorable.
@Hazelrose (2179)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
Hi anawar,Yes,my grandson call me Lola,sometimes he calls nona instead of calling me grandma.I am so proud having 2 grandchildren.Now adays some grandmas doesnt like that their grand children calls grand ma,so they use and alternative.Thanks,Good luck!
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
23 Nov 09
Hi Hazelrose, nona is the Greek word for godmother.
@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
23 Nov 09
I was shooting for Grams with my grandbabies , but Coop started calling me Memom so it stuck. They call my mom Nana. So Memom works out really good for me . Cooper calls my hubby Poppop and the baby not yet a year old calls him Ee-da . Have fun with those babies ! ~Jodi
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
It took years for my mother to get used to being called grandma by my niece and nephew and she's not young when my brother had his kids. She was very happy when my niece called her mama instead of grandma when she was a baby. Kids will always find a pet name for you, something that they will find easy to remember.
@celticeagle (160612)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Nov 09
I think your mom is right. A name used for so many generations by so many can't be off by much. I tend to like 'nina' and think it a very good one for young ones to be able to say and be comfortable using. I think it only fare to a child to use something basic and also something used throughout the family so it isn't confusing.Usually kids find what is easy and comfortable for them and our choice may be shot down all together anyway. In my family I go by the name given in the tv show Betwithched for the grandmother which was granmama. It is basic and easy for little ones to say since it only has three syllables. Again I stress the use of a name that is used throughout so it is not confusing to a child. I might also add that I wasn't real big on the title at first either but rose to the occasion and it did grow on me after a time.
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
23 Nov 09
Hi anawar, maybe you'd like to try out the Greek term for grandma which is yia yia but could sound older than Grandma as some people do use it to refer to much older women, affectionately of course. I'm years off getting such a title as my son is only ten.
@eubilisa (211)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
Here in our country we called our grandmother as "lola", "mama", or nanay any of the three will do but of course it's up to you what do you want.
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
Believe it or not.. We used to call our Grandma as "Mommy Fat".. She has no objections to it though because she is infact plus size.. But here in the Philippines, they usually call grannies as LOLA.. and grandpas as LOLO. My Grandmother passed away just last August and it still saddens me..