Falling out with friends as well as family.

@jugsjugs (13038)
November 26, 2009 6:28pm CST
When you fall out with family members,do you think it is like falling out with friends.Most of the time it is like that,but this time it is worse as i have got Christmas to face and there is no way i want to sit with family that i do not get on with.
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@celticeagle (123442)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Nov 09
Well, maybe it is time to buck up and do whatever it takes to make things right so you and your family can have a nice Christmas. Life is short and you only go through once. It may be hard now but think of the alternative. When you figure it that way you may be able to find a way. It is for the kids after all.
@jugsjugs (13038)
17 Dec 09
I know it is for the children,so i am going as i know that there are only a few hours that i have to be there and then i will be home and i am sure the children will keep me busy and if that fails i can always talk to other people that are there as well as if they start to annoy my by saying anything then i can always go to the loo and take my time.
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@celticeagle (123442)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Dec 09
Ya, it is a good time to do some journaling or take in a movie.
@cream97 (29164)
• United States
28 Nov 09
Well your relationship with your family may be different from your relationship with your friends. So, you may can't stand your family but you may adore your friends. It can go the other way around too. We all have our issues with family members the best thing to do is to try to come to some sort of resolution.
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@jugsjugs (13038)
17 Dec 09
I am going to go to my mums for dinner as well as tea as i think the children will have fun and Christmas is for the children.I just have to keep thinking on the terms of that we are not there long as well as the children will keep me busy so i may not even get much chance to even hear anyone else.As long as the children are happy then i will be.
@rosepedal64 (4191)
• United States
27 Nov 09
Hi jugs Oh yes I have to deal with the same as well. They are on my husband side of the family and I try to get along but then when it is all over with then I complain about her. I usually only have to see her like twice a year but dang it is hard to deal with those days. I guess we have to do what we have to do....LOL..
@jugsjugs (13038)
27 Nov 09
Oh i so want a sickness bug that day,lol.I just dread it.
• United States
27 Nov 09
I know me too. I even went to point of staying in the other room talking with someone else and here she comes and plops that butt down right next to me. I did sit for a minute and then got up..Go away lady I don't like you..is what I want to say to her.
• United States
29 Nov 09
You are one of a kind my friend. Thanks for the BR. Keep up the good work my friend. As always keep smiling as well.
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
28 Nov 09
I know what you mean. Especially if you have a falling out around Christmas. It's almost like you either have to go to Christmas and just face being around said family members or you stay home and possibly face the music later. I think it's worse when it comes to family then friends. Though it's sad when falling out makes people stop talking to each other at all!
@jugsjugs (13038)
17 Dec 09
I am going to my mums for Christmas day but i am only doing it for the children and the way i have got to look at it is it is only for a few hours and then i will be home again.I hope there is no trouble while i am there,Christmas is for children i will be telling myself all the time i am there.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
20 Dec 09
Just keep saying that and it will be a lot better. Maybe you'll even reconcile with the one you had a falling out with or at the very least the person will be respectable.
@eddify (412)
• Pakistan
28 Nov 09
well its really differet for us as we live neither with any of our family. Both my parents families live very far off so these olidays give u a sense of loneliness as most of the friends are either out of town or away with their families. I miss everybody.
@jugsjugs (13038)
17 Dec 09
I wish i lived miles away as then when i see my family then they just would not know what to say as well as it would be a good reason not to stop long to start an arguement as then i could say i have to be getting back.
@eddify (412)
• Pakistan
17 Dec 09
Yes the realtionship varies but my aunt used to say that u cant keep a nail from the finger on which it grows. Likewise no matter how u dislike them or have a different feelings about them. There comes a time when u need them desperately.
@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
16 Dec 09
It is worse with family. All you can do is give it some time. Try to stay positive and not take anythng too personally, no matter who says anything.
@jugsjugs (13038)
17 Dec 09
Just to keep the peace i am going to my mums and i am going to grin and bare who ever is there as life is too short,plus i am not going to lower myself the the other familys level.Christmas is for the family and as long as my children have a good time i do not care this year who turns up at my mums as it is only for the one day.Who ever says what ever i am going to just play with my children as that way there will be no hostility that way.
• Canada
7 Dec 09
I had a falling out with one of my parents just before christmas. My parents are divorced, and Christmas is in two places. The parent I had the falling out with was the one parent I thought I'd see at Christmas, but it doesn't look like that's going to happen. As for the other parent, this parent has made some changes doe to this parents new inlaw's religious beliefs that I find to be rather unfair, because things that were perfectly acceptable in that particular residence will no longer be accepted because of the religious beliefs of a couple of people. Anyway, my husband and I are of two very different religions and promised eachother that we would not allow our churches, or our familes, or our own beliefs, to affect the other person's behaviour, and if I were to take him to this parents house, I'd be breaking that promise, and I am not going to break a promise to my husband, He would understand, he would not mind, and he would forgive me, but I still would not break a promise. Bottom line, we're going on vacation for Christmas, just the two of us. Is it like friends? It's worse, because these are people we love, even if we don't particularly like them at the moment.
@jugsjugs (13038)
17 Dec 09
I think that Christmas day is only one day and even though i am dreading the thought of going to my mothers for the day i know the children will have a great day so i will be going for them.
@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Nov 09
jugsjugs I almost wish I had your problem for me christmas is not going to be a picnic either as my son is my only close relative and we have no home anymore. he is in gov.housing for men and is out of work and I am here at Gold Crest as there w as no place else for me. we were evicted and homeless. so hurrah for Christmas huh?
@vandana7 (72390)
• India
28 Nov 09
Hatley, you have me. :( Love you. Take care. :)
@kaylachan (4775)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
27 Nov 09
No, I've had fall-outs with both Friends and Family. While you can't chose your family you can chose your friends. Friends will come and go as people change. People's interests change as well. So a person's taste in friends may change with that, it may not. It depends on a person. However, Family is a completely different story. If you fall out with your family then those relationships will haunt you because you've established a stronger inner bond with them. Family members don't come and go, they are part of your enveronmental make up and sometimes if its possible mend those relationships, but if not... don't let it make you a bitter person. I've lost contact with my family. We had some differances that just couldn't be mended. I miss them sure (well some of them) but not enough to risk my life over. Some of them need help seeing as their mind is just to far gone.... I don't mean as in disoranted like old timers.... but nuts... set in their ways to closed off. Its a complicated story, but I have regrets that won't heal... not as easily as friends that come and go with the flow of life.
@jugsjugs (13038)
17 Dec 09
I am going to go to my mothers for the day on christmas day as i know that the children want to go and i think that Christmas is for children,all i have to do is keep myself busy so that way noone gets the chance to start up any trouble,i will be counting the hours down.
@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
17 Jan 10
Falling out as in you just stopped communicating or falling out as in something terrible happened between you and your friends/family that you are just not in good terms? With family members, there are just those relatives that one has really not been close with. There are also those family members that one does not know to be a family member. With friends, sometimes due to busy schedules and shifts in social circles we're not able to communicate with them. Then again there are those times when friends just drop you with reason unknown to you. Your last statement makes me think that something happened between you and your family members that you are just not in good terms or are just not comfortable being around them. Well, from your other recent discussions, Im just relieved that Christmas and New Year went by with no incidents or anything.
@savypat (20245)
• United States
27 Nov 09
At this time our family is suffering with this, those of us not involved are finding it very hard to work around the feuding members. I think I'll just go to bed with a good book and hide until the holidays are over.
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
27 Nov 09
Buck up and make peace before Christmas then you will enjoy!
@drannhh (15235)
• United States
27 Nov 09
If there is anyone that I would not want to sit with I do not go any place where they are going to be. I don't care whether they were friends or family or neighbors or what. Life is too short to waste on uncharitable people.