Career woman or Fulltime Housewife?

Hello, dear. :-) That is very true. Any woman who went to study in a university for 5 years and work hard to be self dependent wouldn't quit a job that easily. Even if she does, it'll be very frustrating on her part. Would often wish to come back to working again. Having a career doesn't mean you having to neglect her responsibilities as a wife and a mother.There's nothing more liberating for a woman than being able to support herself financially, have a life of her own aside from being a wife and a mother. Having that chance to grow more emotionally and mentally... Thank you so much, Deepak.:-)

Very well said! I feel most of the women feel like it, those who are working and looking after their families.

With all the prices soaring high, Deepak, it is practical for both husband and wife to be working. :-)

There's no argument with that, Invisiblelady.:-) As long as your happy with it, then, go for it. :-) Goodluck, then. For sure, you'll be a good homemaker someday.:-)

You'll be fine. You will learn how to deal with every responsibilities when you get there.:-)

Whoah! I really hope I will. I'm not so good in money-budgeting. Gee! But I wish I will learn. :)

That means a lot. Thank you very much!!! :) Have a great day.

What a mother has to do, she has to do. It is often that no matter how liberated we are with the things and changes around us, when it comes to our kids, we can't just say no. We will always fell back to that naive and conservative women thinking nothing but our family. I admire you, Gina for choosing your child over career. Youu are a great MUM. Kudos! :-)

Hello, My_name_is_coco.:-) Thank you for responding and my apology to acknowledge to your comment this late.:-( You must still be single, if my guess is right, that's why it is so easy for you to say that. Well, there's nothing wrong with that. For the meantime, all your aspirations and goals in life like having a great job and earning your own keep seems satisfying and liberating.For most single women, a career is something that they can't give up because it is the only thing that exist for the meantime. But, when you have a family of your own and needs your full attention, (child is sickly,or any domestic problems) you sometimes has to choose which is more important to you. And, I believe that you are the kind of a person who wouldn't neglect family for the sake of self gratification.:-) However, these are just my opinions, I may be talking nonsense for you.:-) Thank you for sharing your thoughts.:-)

Hi, Priscy.Thank you so much for sharing your views. :-) I can fairly understand where you were coming. It is not easy to study four or five years in college only to be confined in doing the household chores and babysitting. I, myself would have resented if I will only think of that way. I tried to manage my time juggling work and family but it didn't work out for me because my daughter was just so sickly and whenever I left her she'd end up ill for a couple or days and be hospitalized. I realized that working and earning my own keep isn't worth it at all... So I made a choice to give up a career and be a full time MUm. It isn't easy, yes, but it saved my baby's health... I had no regrets:-)

That is so true, Carla.:-) Even if we expect our husbands to take care of us but we still need to preserve our self esteem and be able to be self dependent even if dear husband can provide for our needs. I believe, husband will be more happy thinking that his wife is self sufficient.:-)

What you said is quite a sad reality to many women who are still trying to play the role of a devoted and martyr wife.... And I can tell that such women will not and never will feel respected at all. Wife, Mother but not housekeeper or maids or nanny of our own husbands and kids... Bulls eye there, Highflyingxangel.;-)

I'm happy for you, Ladym:-) As long as you are happy with the life you chose,and nobody forced you to do it, for sure, there is no room for regrets in your life.:-)

The best wife is the one who is happy with herself and what she does other than being a wife and a mother. If you can't live without a career then, you must have one or else you will hate yourself for not getting one but rather stuck in being just a homemaker. Thanks for your honest opinion, Fishy.:-)

Thank you, Josga.:-) What a very sensible way to put this situation into a not so complicated thing.:-)The only thing is how willing the husband is to take his big role? If he's not willing to play his part, then, it is not going to work...:-)

There's an old adage that says " We can't have both worlds", which I say is true. You have to give way to the other to be able to do what is necessary and ask of you in the present with efficiency. And trying to having both worlds is almost next to impossible. Unless, you are a superhuman.:-)

I agree with you, Carenxinxin.:-) A career woman could still be an effective wife and mum even if being successful in her own field. As a matter of fact, when a RESPONSIBLE woman find satisfaction and self worth by having to keep a career, she is happier and thus,being more effective both as wife and mum.:-) Thank you.:-)

Hello, Yourlankanfriend. That is a very sensible advise.Thank you.:-) Though it may sound unfair to women to give their careers a halt because of the kids but it is the wisest thing to do. Mothers can look after their kids better than fathers do.:-) Maybe for that EQ and IQ sakes of the kids, the mothers have to do that one worthy sacrifice first. And, yes, go back to work once the kids are all able to "look after themselves" already.:-) Very well said.:-)

Hi, Madteaparty. Thank you for your honest thoughts.:-) Yup, there are people who prefer not to have bigger responsibilities like having kids and family. If you think and truly believe you can't cope up with the challenges of having a family of your own, then, why try risking having one? It is a choice, you said.;-)

Good for you, Cream.:-) Sometimes choosing to be a full time Mum isn't that tough. But that depends how supportive your husband is. I believe you are lucky to have a husband truly supportive of what you want.:-)

Thank you, MJay.:-) It is true that couples should decide,but, it is only possible when both couples are being reasonable not just because the husband doesn't want to help the wife raise his kids properly, thus, leaving all the responsibilities (kids and houseworks) to his wife. And, it is hard for the woman to say no when he sees the her daughter is the one who is suffering... What do you? :)