judge by the cover

Hi. I used to think that way. I used to believe that people would always have a negative impression on me because of my looks (petite and dark) and life status (poor and have ill-educated parents). I kept on saying that other people always underestimate my potentials/capabilities. As such, I became so anti-social and very maudlin. One day, however, one of my teachers had a sincere discussion with me. She told me that I was acting just like those people whom I complain about. She made me realize that more than anyone else, I was the worst critique of myself. She told me that due to my lack of self-confidence, I entertained (and in the process, believed) many negative thoughts about myself. As such, I also give negative meanings to the actions or inactions of other people around me. She even asked me what do I believe are my greatest qualities. What are the good things other people would enjoy about me. Haha, I wasn't able to answer her directly. She said, "See, you don't even know yourself. Go home, write your good and negative traits. Enhance your good qualities and do something to improve/address your bad characteristics/habits." I cried a river because of that incident. I felt humiliated. But I followed her advise anyway. Haha, I was able to produce a half-page list of my good qualities and three-page list of the negatives. Little by little, I realized that my teacher was correct. In your case, maybe you just need to do more positive self-talks about yourself. And in life, I realized that we don't really need those people who could not appreciate us in one way or another. Don't waist your time thinking about those people who don't like you. What's more important is how well you know and value yourself. Have a blessed day and I wish you more happiness.

define pretty/good looking, i'm only short but solid. there's lots of people who just look and that's it they judge. sometimes i think it's the way their brought up, times have changed but some people haven't. i can beat my work mate, in a struggle. he will resort to hitting my fingers of bending them back it's the only way he can beat me, and he's near the same size.

Just wait.Do not be despondent.It is only the fact that you have not met the right person.When you do, you will find that person shall appreciate you for what you are and not just go by 'the cover' as you say. There is no reason to lose heart.It requires all kinds to make up the world. Very few recognise something good when they see it.

it's human nature to judge others in this way. ordinary-looking people have to work harder so that others may accept them. but fortunately most people in the world are ordinary-looking. so do not take your appearance too seriously. try to show your ability to others.

I don't know why people judge so much by appeareances. Being for example, a petite person doesn't mean that you don't have a huge heart or a brilliant personality. Fortunately not everyone is like that. The human behaviour is so unpredictable.