Did you feel pain,when you don't get response from your close mylot friend?

@Baluyadav (3643)
India
December 13, 2009 4:58am CST
As a human being expecting response is common,that too from close mylot friends,as we are all psychologically become close,even though we not met,so what is your feelings..or atleast think that they may be busy with some other preoccupied assignment..
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@ybong007 (6656)
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
Sometimes but you'll get over it in due time. I was also like that when i was just starting but I've learned to accept that each of us have our own differences. We have our own interests. Besides, i can't really take it against my friends if they will not respond. Because i too don't feel obligated to respond to some of my friends post. If the discussion is interesting, then why not? but it senseless to post a response just because you're a friend and your post doesn't have anything to do with the discussion. Just keep in mind that if others will not respond, make another discussion and move forward. We are all here in mylot to have a good time. Cheers!
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• China
14 Dec 09
I can't agree with you more. Each of us have our own differences and interests. As for me, I never force myself to respond to my friends' discussions in which I have not the smallest interest. But this discussion makes me wonder whether those hot discussions are hot only because many friends of the starter respond to them.
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@ybong007 (6656)
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
I think it doesn't matter the type of discussion as long as there are a lot of repsonses it automatically shots to the hot discussion. Cheers!
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi,thank you for sharing your views and it is just feel,if you don't have an enquiry from close friend[assume he is free],when you are sick,whats the feeling you get,thats i am telling here.. Have a nice time.
@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
13 Dec 09
hello baluyadav... everytime i starts a discussion, i don't really expect for my friends to respond coz i know that there are some topics that they are not really interested, but i never take it against them, and also i understand that they also have their life offline and maybe they are busy with some other things...i am happy whenever i saw them responding and supporting my discussions but it don't hurt me if they don't respond. as for me, as much as possible i try to respond to my friend's started discussions but sometimes its too many to handle, or sometimes i just don't have any idea about the topic...just a few reason. i am here to have fun and not to bother myself thinking about people who didn't respond on my discussions. if my friends don't respond, its okay. the discussions will always be there and anytime they want, if they have time, they can catch it... have a good day!
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
14 Dec 09
hi,ck,i am not denying the facts..but for me a small pinch,it is not due to respomses,just feel thats all..thank you for sharing your views.
@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
i understand you...but know hat's more hurtful than this? your friend skipping your responses in their discussions when they are actually replying to others...
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi,thats true.Thank you.
@mysdianait (65070)
• Italy
13 Dec 09
When I start a discussion or leave a response on a discussion by my close friends here I don't expect a response from them but I know that, with some of them, if that doesn't happen then there could be something wrong. I wait and if an unusually long time passes then I will send a PM to make sure that everything is ok. One of my friends is missing right now and the more time passes the more I worry about the delay. I have already sent a PM and hope to hear something soon
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
13 Dec 09
hi,mys,h r u,i see you on discussions and read your responses where ever i come across your responses to some other's discussions..because you are my guide since my joining here..in guide me,correct me... so my feeling is not for mere response from friend,but more than that i am in their remembrances or not..just that only.. Thank you for your valuable response. Have a nice time.
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@mysdianait (65070)
• Italy
13 Dec 09
You have come such a long way since we first me on here! I see you have learnt a lot too and help out in informing the new users of their mistakes now too. That is not an easy task and I'm sure you remember how you felt when you were new. It's a busy time right now with the holidays nearing but I hope to be here every day even though it might not be for as long as before. Things will be back to normal again soon though as in less than three weeks it will be a new year!
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
13 Dec 09
hi,expect your frequent visits and let us wait for new year grand celebrations..hope good to all..thank you for remember me since my first foot here..
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
hi baluyadav, Not really feel hurt except their are times my friend do their own discussion and i have mine that both feel busy replying but i do all my best to reply and go to my friend profile to find their discussion. It is then I reply to their discussion a bit delayed but it is better than none. When both of my friends have discussion of their own and have enough time I do multi-tabbing by replying on my discussion and to my friend discussion too. Sometimes they pass my discussion and I have observe many times some bypass my post and they do reply to others. I do not feel hurt or sad maybe they have no interest but continually bypassing a certain friend whom at first reply constantly on my post and suddenly change attitudes. Then, it only mean to me they do no longer interested to become friend with the poster with frequently snubbing their friend discussion. I could sense it whether they admit or not just like in real world even though you never do something wrong with them they always find a hole or reason to avoid you for reasons which you are totally not aware of and constant bypass a friend discussion it is like they do not like you anymore if they do it always..It is really noticeable they reply to other poster and then your so -call friend is online and yet they do not come like in real world to greet you..Although, it is true you cannot please everyone and the same things here they have their own rights to reply as they like without too much pressure.
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi,friend,i too have this type of experience with one of the memnere here when my initial days..any how,thank you for sharing your views and it is just feel,if you don't have an enquiry from close friend[assume he is free],when you are sick,whats the feeling you get,thats i am telling here.. Have a nice time.
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
yup, even though we never seen each other or other member it really worry as you never know what happen to them if they are sick, under an accident or die unless one have their own exchanges of personal email..
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
13 Dec 09
Hi Baluyadav! I sometimes think that discussions here are like real conversations with friends face-to-face. Sometimes there is a good dialog going on, other times the conversation drifts into areas that are either of no interest, or that it's a topic that one or more friends don't have knowledge of. For example, my best friend and I have many terrific conversations as we have a lot in common. However, she's a huge fan of football while I am not. She may talk for a while about the sport, and I will politely listen, but I really don't have anything to say...so I don't. The conversation eventually goes on to other topics. It's like that here. I try to respond to as many of my friends diescussions as possible, but I can't respond to them all. Sometimes I just can't think of anything to add. There will be other discussions started by them that I will rattle on in my usual fashion.... Take care and thanks for the BR's! They were a nice surprise this morning.
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
14 Dec 09
hi,thamk you,cat,for your response with good interpretetion with example..i can understand your point,but still for me a small feel thats all,not more than that.Thanx for sharing your views.Have a nice time.
@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
22 Nov 10
hi,thank you for your response and congrats for getting best response tag.All the best and have a nice time.
@Lucky09 (1771)
• Philippines
13 Dec 09
hi Balu^^;; once again, don't get disappointed at such situation as i myself don't respond to all my friends (close friends) discussions if i don't know the subject and/or has nothing to share. i would probably just comment on someone's box. there are questions like "how-to-do something" which i really don't have any idea so i won't bother to respond as it is not helping the poster himself. it may sound a bit off but i think i am not obliged to respond to them if i know nothing...so same as my friends to me
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
14 Dec 09
hi,thats the real conversation of real fans..fan is expressing--"how-to-do something"which i really don't have any idea.. and boss is expressing--really too difficult to go into a room if it is too dark inside.. There is a question and answer in those 2 lines????? Fun sake..bon't get serious on me both of you,my friends.. Have a nice time.
@Lucky09 (1771)
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
don't worry friend Balu, i don't get serious much...and i don't want to be serious.. in the Phils, we say we would go to the hospital if we say we are "serious" so i don't like that either LoL and yeah, friend wit, sometimes it's difficult for me to join discussions that i don't have even a bit of information or i don't know what's going on so i felt awkward to enter but oh come on, you want dark rooms. I know it! with lots and lots of girls LoL
• United States
14 Dec 09
I figure because I think of them as friends, they deserve the benefit of the doubt. I do not see them or know what their real lives are like and they may have an awful lot to do besides answer my posts. Mylot and the Internet are great fun, but there really is life outside both. Sometimes I don't see or speak to my real life best friend for months and yet when we do speak or see each other, it's like we were never apart. We even finish each other's sentences.
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi,friend,i am not denying the facts..but for me a small pinch,it is not due to respomses,just feel thats all..thank you for sharing your views. Have a nice time.
@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
i do not feel hurt as they are busy too and sometimes i am like that too i fail to response to them. i hope they understand i have offline real world to attend too. have a nice day, balu..your work are getting pay of..
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi, flower,thank you for sharing your views and it is just feel,if you don't have an enquiry from close friend[assume he is free],when you are sick,whats the feeling you get,thats i am telling here.. Have a nice time.
@vandana7 (72956)
• India
14 Dec 09
Hi Baluyadav, I have different types of friends out here. Some are young, and only interested in sports and such stuff, yet others are interested in making money, and a few are underoing emotional problems. I tend to gravitate towards people who have problems first, and therefore, I am unable to give due attention to all the discussions posted in any day. However, I do check whenever I have time. If I find the topic interesting enough I respond. If I dont have any interest in the topic, then I dont touch the discussion, even if it that of a friend. I guess the same is true from the other end as well. Therefore, not getting any response from one of my friends out here does not really affect me.
@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi,vandana,you are very much right for not gettibg the response from friend..even or me also happened..some of my riends post discussions related to their local customs..sports..food..which i could not understood to post response.This is all o.k.Assume,they have free time to respond..the discussion is universally accepted/know..then--- it's a just feel,if you don't have an enquiry from close friend[assume he is free],when you are sick,whats the feeling you get,thats i am telling here.. Have a nice time.
@liquorice (3901)
14 Dec 09
I post discussions here usually because I want advice about or opinions on something. So I'm happy to get responses from anybody at all! I don't automatically expect responses from close friends, nobody's obligated to do anything, and they shouldn't feel that they have to reply to my topic even if it doesn't interest them. Of course it's always good to hear from a friend, but often people don't get much time to spend online, and time is precious, so they are free to spend it however they want to.
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi,friend,i am not denying the facts..but for me a small pinch,it is not due to responses,just feel thats all..thank you for sharing your views.Have a nice time.
@nemrac12 (388)
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
not much my friend... maybe it is normal to some people that feel pain ...
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi,thank you for sharing your views and it is just feel,if you don't have an enquiry from close friend[assume he is free],when you are sick,whats the feeling you get,thats i am telling here.. Have a nice time.
@Sreekala (32780)
• India
14 Dec 09
Hi Balu, Not at all. If the person is close to me then definitely I will ask directly, the reason for not responding. I have some regular responders and they are participating in my discussions till date. If the topic is not familiar then I may skip topics by friends. So I can't blame anybody for not responding to my discussions. I am fortunate enough to get kind attention from my friends and I am thankful to them for the same.
@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi,Sreehala,thank you for sharing your views and it is just feel,if you don't have an enquiry from close friend[assume he is free],when you are sick,whats the feeling you get,thats i am telling here.. Have a nice time.Bye.
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@allknowing (85953)
• India
14 Dec 09
The less one expects the better it is. Also it is not fair that one puts a load on 'friends' here wanting them to answer questions. There could be many reasons why the questions are not answered and for our own peace it is better we give them benefit of doubt and move on.
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi,friend,i am not denying the facts..but for me a small pinch,it is not due to respomses,just feel thats all..thank you for sharing your views. Have a nice time.
• China
14 Dec 09
I have many friends here but I don't expect them to respond to all my discussions. I belive one standard of our responding to discussions is whether a certain discussion holds our interest. We can't expect our mylot friends to be interested in all our discussions. At least this is what I think. Perhaps you should lighten up and think no more about this matter. Anyway, we're here to enjoy ourselves, not to feel depressed only because our friends don't respond to our discussions. Have a nice day!
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi,friend,i am not denying the facts..but for me a small pinch,it is not due to respomses,just feel thats all..thank you for sharing your views. Have a nice day.
@magic9 (981)
• China
14 Dec 09
If this happened to me, I don't feel a thing because for one thing I don't have any close friends at mylot. for another, I don't expect any active response from them. Whether they respond or not depends whether the topic you start is interesting or not.
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi,thank you for sharing your views and it is just feel,if you don't have an enquiry from close friend[assume he is free],when you are sick,whats the feeling you get,thats i am telling here.. Have a nice time.
@neelimaravi (1794)
• India
14 Dec 09
hi baluyadav, no, never, i never feel if my friends won't respond to me, their wish to respond to others.. i won't feel to anything, even i don't want to force them to give response. thankyou, have a nice day.
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi,thats true,neeli,but a small feel that if i could get a response,it would be nice like that. Have a nice time.
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
14 Dec 09
I don't keep track of things like that. I don't even notice or think about it. Maybe they didn't see the discussion or maybe it was not something they were interested in...I don't know. I don't expect all my friends to answer all my discussions. I'm sure that I don't answer all of theirs either. Some I rarely respond to their discussions nor them mine. We bump into each other on other peoples discussions. It's all good.
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
15 Dec 09
hi,thank you for sharing your views and it is just feel,if you don't have an enquiry from close friend[assume he is free],when you are sick,whats the feeling you get,thats i am telling here.. Have a nice time.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
14 Dec 09
It really does not bother me one way or the other. I feel like they will respond if they have the time to. I just put my time in Mylot each day but I know alot of my friends do not have the time for it daily.
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
14 Dec 09
hi,its true,my friend,its great you have alredy climbed the mountain and crossed the all hurdles of almost 22000.......so let members also come behind you and wish thus all..have a nice time.
@thea09 (18316)
• Greece
13 Dec 09
Hi baluyadav, of course not, one can't expect all of ones friends to be interested in the same things and they'll come along and respond if I post a discussion which interests them. There's no point in just responding for the sake of responding if one has nothing to say on a certain subject. There are certain friends of mine who hardly create any discussions of their own, but respond to mine, and some who respond to practically non of mine whilst I respond to theirs.
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@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
14 Dec 09
hi,the,ny point is not about interesting discussion..lack of time to friends..lack of knowledge on discussion..i can understand you,but still a small feeling thats all.Thank you or sharing your views..
@joro1best (222)
• Bulgaria
13 Dec 09
Hello baluyadav! I don`t feel pain when a friend don`t makes a respond on my discussion..There is no reason to feel it..Its just a relationship site,for earning money..Just i don`t think there is someone that will feel pain..I don`t know but its stupid..Just you don`t get 4-5 responses from good friends - big deal..Just when a friends don`t makes a respond to my discussion i see that he is lazy..Im lazy too..I make more than 40 responds in a day,or comments most of times and then go to make something else..Just don`t understand why to feel something if a good friend doesn`t make a respond..Strange feeling..But anyway hope i was descriptive.. Happy day - joro1best
@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
14 Dec 09
hi,joro,you may say any reason or there may be any practical problems to friends,still just a feel,thats all,not more than that.Thank you for sharing your views.