The Curse Of Being Born At Christmas.....:~{

@Maggiepie (7816)
United States
January 6, 2010 6:44pm CST
Yes, it's Orthodox Christmas Eve as I type this, & it's that "Special Day." PLEASE don't send congrats--it would get this discussion yanked! Anyway, this isn't about that; all that boils down to is I've managed to survive this world (& occasionally even thrive) for 62 years. No big whoop--although it seemed as if it would be when I was a depressed child. No, this is about the unfortunate co-incidence of being born on a holiday. Why is that bad? Well, mostly it's not, because everyone's partying, & you're having fun with them, but...others--even close family members!--often forget it's special to you for unique reasons. They bring you Christmas gifts (better than being born on Halloween, as was a cousin I have; at least you get something), but they're all wrapped in Christmas paper. They sing songs, but not one of them is Happy Birthday. If there's cake, it has no candles on it. If games are played, it's not usually the kind kids with regular birthdays get. No Pin the Tail on the Donkey, no Pop the Balloon tied to other kid's shoes, no Tag...no, no clown...none of that. It's not intentional (though it might seem so as a little child); it's just that everyone is so wrapped up in the huge joys of whatever season in which you arrived. Folks can only hold so much pressure & excitement at one time. Over the years you kind of expect folks to remember it's your day as an afterthought, if at all, but I sometimes wonder what it's like to have that day set aside & well-remembered just because it's yours. I'm not even going to try to imagine how clones (twins, triplets, et al) feel when their special day lands on a holiday! Talk about misery loving company! So, I ask you: how do you deal with it if your B'Day comes on, say, Independence Day? Do you accept hot dogs with candles stuck in them, an annual joke everyone but you finds hilarious? How many times can one drink green liquids on St. Patrick's day, & are you sick of green icing? (At least you get cake, & it looks better than my cousin's inevitably black & orange one!) Or do you know someone whose day you've forgotten, or submerged into the holiday's colors, themes & spirit? How have you dealt with this phenomenon? Maggiepie MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY 2010!!!
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@vandana7 (71414)
• India
7 Jan 10
Hi Maggiepie, it is better than being born on the 7th of July! :( Now, everytime my birthday comes, I keep thinking how many people must be crying! :( My heart goes out to all those people, and I wish I was not born on that day. :( Ok - wish you many many happy returns of the day dear Maggiepie. :) And a very happy, prosperous, healthy, and peaceful new year as well. :)
@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
7 Jan 10
Sorry Vandana, I must beg your forgiveness & plead ignorance; that date must be special in the East, but there's no Western holiday on that day (that I know of, at least). If I had to choose the saddest holiday here it would be Good Friday--the gloomiest of days! Please let me know what your 7th of July means to you? I'm always eager to learn! Maggiepie MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY 2010!!!
@vandana7 (71414)
• India
7 Jan 10
Well, honestly it is nothing to do with East at all. It was the day the terrorists chose to bomb London underground transportation. :( It will take sometime for people to forget the significance of that day!
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
9 Jan 10
Oh, yes! I remember the event--I've merely always been terrible with dates! Yes, I was so worried for my English friends, especially in view of the primitive fire-fighting methods I saw in the tubes. I mean a few buckets of sand wouldn't begin to cover such a fire! I still have a photo I took of some of those buckets; I was astonished there wasn't state of the art equipment available! I got on the phone the moment I heard about it, & was relieved my friends were all okay--not even close to the bombs. Pray for them, Vandana; it's only going to get worse. Maggiepie HAVE A SAFE & HAPPY 2010!
@dawnald (84071)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Jan 10
Ok uncongrats... My daughter's birthday is December 17th and that's bad enough...
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
7 Jan 10
(maggiepie looks left...maggiepie looks right...) ssshhh! remember what i said! mylot isn't dumb! :) yes...my mom was on dec 28th, & that was bad enough, too! i gotcha! maggiepie sneaks out of the room, looking left...looking right... merry christmas & happy 2010! Hee!
• United States
7 Jan 10
I know just what ya mean mine is 2 days before and ya re sure right about every thing ya said
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
7 Jan 10
Well good on you for listening, Cajun! I take it you're tired of birthday presents wrapped in red & green? I see in your avatar you have a Sprout. Is he (or she) a holiday baby? If so, just keep all that in mind! Maggiepie MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY 2010!!!
@ybong007 (6657)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
I got your point. I thought being born during Christmas eve is cool since the world celebrates with you. My kids were invited to attend a birthday celebration last Christmas and the gift we prepared was wrapped with merry Christmas in it instead of happy birthday. Good thing the celebrant is just two years old. It must be aweful when he grows up and start to realize he is not the most especial person when he celebrates his most especial day.
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
7 Jan 10
Yes, I think it's a wise thing to do once they get old enough to figure out their relative situation in things. It might not matter if everything else around them is ideal, but unless it is, then I would definitely take care to clearly separate the birthday from the nearest holiday(s). But you can always tell your tot that even though the world may be celebrating because of the holiday--& he is, too!--it's still his Special Day because he is special, more than anything else in the whole world, to you, his parents, because you love him. If I were he, I'd feel terrific, & all warm inside, hearing that! P.S. What's that big-eyed, cute little critter in your avatar pic? A potto? Maggiepie MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY 2010!!!
@ElicBxn (61041)
• United States
7 Jan 10
How about Thanksgiving? Actually, my folks were pretty good about not getting the 2 confused even when it LANDED on Turkey day! Like you, my niece's birthday is in early January (actually it just passed) and she got the joys of having the 2 mixed up as well. This year I wrapped her gift in a piece of fabric to make it different than the Christmas paper. I knew a couple of girls who's birthdays were around Christmas - one on the 24th the other on the 28th. Their parents had "half-birthdays" for them in June and never bothered to tell the friends it really wasn't the day - so they got their own birthday parties, just 6 months later - or earlier as the case may be... Then, on the actual date they got to pick what they were going to have for dinner and a cake. I remember that the one on the 24th asked to have her dinner and cake on the 14th one year so they had a "break" between the 2 cakes! That was the older of the girls.
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
7 Jan 10
You're correct; I hadn't thought about Thanksgiving being a problem. I never forget your birthday, though, because I know how much you value it. Like your cross-stitch item you'd started making that you showed me yesterday, saying it was the first gift you were working on for next Christmas, I have a similar take on your Special Day. After your birthday, my eyes open wide to search for something for you for your next birthday, just as soon as you open your gift from me! I always am on the lookout for yours! Maggiepie MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY 2010!!!
@LadyMarissa (12160)
• United States
7 Jan 10
Mine is just before Valentine Day. That wasn't a problem with my family as we celebrated my BD & didn't give family Valentine gifts to each other. However, various boyfriends & my first husband ignored my BD & then pretended that they had done something special on my BD & skimped on Valentines day. My grandmother's was 3 days before Christmas. We gave her a chintzy gift for her BD & a nice one for Christmas. We did wrap the BD gift in BD paper instead of Christmas paper & we sang the appropriate song!!! She ALWAYS pretended she loved her BD gift as much as the Christmas gift, but I always felt that we cheated her!!!
@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
7 Jan 10
My step-dad was born on Valentine's Day, & his sister on Christmas Day. Their mom used to joke & say that she'd had them then because holidays were the only days she could get off work! My mom was born December 28th, so she had the same problem your grandmother had. You may have been feeling guilty because you went through what she did, but never recognized the problem 'til it became yours. Sometimes that's just the way it is. We have to experience things ourselves to realize what we've been doing..or not doing. Children don't question things much, taking things as they find them, only later as adults looking back & thinking, "You know, I always got the best cut of meat, & I just assumed Mom & Dad really liked the bonier bits--but they must have sacrificed for me!" Parents know that children are innocently thoughtless, & overlook it. They also hope you never notice. So if I were you, I'd not feel too guilty. I mean, I went through childhood never hearing a single complaint from my doting Grandfather--who hand-made toys for me!--thinking he was perfectly pleased to get socks all the time. I only developed an imagination after I hit teenhood... Maggiepie MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY 2010!!!
@sid556 (30997)
• United States
7 Jan 10
Hi, I have a a friend that was born on Dec. 23 and like you her birthday was kind of lost in all the celebration and festivities. As she got older and voiced her complaints, her parents understood and took pity on her. She deserved to have the same sort of special day as her siblings got. They designated June 23 as the day that they would celebrate her birthday. What a perfect idea! The weather at that time of year was such that she could have outdoor pool parties or barbecues. I thought that if I ever had a child that was born on a major holiday and especially one as big as Christmas that I would do the same exact thing. Who really cares what day you celebrate it on as long as you get to celebrate it? It is rumoured that Dec. 25th is not even Christ's real date of birth.
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
7 Jan 10
Good for her parents! To be fair, I never complained, or my family might have done the same, but I was a quiet kid, & had what, to me, seemed much larger problems. I never even got a real birthday party--except for one wimpy one where no-one came, & I was miserable. The one photo someone took was me all dressed up sitting across a table from a doll, & looking as though I was about to cry. But when I turned 40, I got a party that made up for all the missing parties! Elic & some other great pals arranged it, & it was a total surprise! I was blown away! God bless my friends! As for the 25th, no, that's not when Christ was born, but the Church deliberately picked that date to lure pagans in, since it was a major celebration for them. Last time I looked, it worked! Maggiepie MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY 2010!!!
@gabs8513 (48712)
• United Kingdom
9 Jan 10
I would not like it I have to be honest I used to hate it when Fathers Day used to fall on my Birthday lol as my Ex Husband used to use it as an Excuse to get the attention and go out drinking to I am quite lucky lol I was born in June so well away from all the Holidays lol specially Christmas
• United States
7 Jan 10
My birthday falls on Mothers day every 6years. So I can relate some what. That always seems to be the year I get cheated so to speak. I really don't because I don't want gifts and such I have everything I want. I think its just the fact of sharing that special day the big Ole birthday with some other occasion.The family will do something nice but it always seems to surround mothers day and not the birthday. My mom I felt sorry for. She was born on Christmas day. growing up she never had a cake and such because of all the holiday goodies around anyways. I can still remember her face lighting up brighter than the Christmas tree on her 34th birthday when we bought her, her very first birthday cake. Us kids kept the tradition going up until she passed a few years ago.
@berrys (864)
• Singapore
7 Jan 10
hey i feel your pain! i AM a twin and me and my twin sister are both born on December 23rd ( the eve of Christmas eve) no one ever remembers when my birthday is and i don't even get presents for my birthday most of them forget and right before its time for Christmas they'll write on the presents merry Christmas and happy birthday and i always know its a rush job or it has just been written as the ink is smeared and all smudgy and some times reprints itself on my hand. on my 16th birthday my parents did allow me to have a party on a bus though and all my friends thought it was wicked was one of the best nights ever well im only 19 still got loads of time to live and have better parties but i never once complained to my parents as i was never really excited to celebrate my birthday to me its just another day really but my sister, man would she throw a fit! things seem to adapt after she got used to people forgetting her birthday though i still have some uncles and aunts who cant even spell my name. oh well small price to pay. haha anyways loved your discussion. :)
@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
hello maggiepie! well, i can perfectly relates to this topic! because i am one of those whose birthday was usually overlooked due to holiday! huh! actually i was not born on the exact date of the holiday but its so near! i was born second day of january..right after the new year! and i also share the same birth date with one of the highest official in our church...and so usually, during my birthday we have an event in the church and we are all busy with it...and people? even some close to me except my parents, forgets about me! and sometimes, we just celebrated my birthday during the new year's eve! very rare do i celebrate this day as my birthday! only when i turn 18!