Why does marriage fade?

@Masmasika (1921)
Philippines
January 13, 2010 3:56pm CST
Time is running so fast and with the quickness came so many changes in life. One of the most affected in this new age is marriage. Marriage today has come to the point where it is so easy to say goodbye. Marriage is fast fading away because of so many factors affecting the relationship of couples. Work is one, lifestyle, the complexities that life of the modern age could offer and so many things. Many marriages have faded away because couples seem so busy with work and other things that marriage is sometimes set aside for other things. Sometimes couples do not know what they really want in life so the result is a failed marriage. Because of the confusing world of today, many marriages has faded. If couples stick to their commitment and responsibilities to the marriage then perhaps marriage doesn't fade.
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@milkfish (375)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
Like any other relationship, marriage fade because the couple failed to nurture it. It is a commitment that needs to evolve and grow. The problem is that when two people got married, they are focused on domestic concerns (bills to pay, kids) and they lost that magical feeling towards their partner. This is the reason why couple should have time for each other and re-connect with their emotions.
@donsky14 (5961)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
And maybe because of change as well, like one of them would outgrow the other, that sometimes they can't relate with each other anymore. Understanding is definitely a big factor in keeping a marriage strong.
@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
You are right, donsky. Understanding is a big factor in keeping a marriage strong.
• United States
14 Jan 10
Now the bigger question..... How do you get to understand your partner fully????????????
@ElsaElsa (327)
• United States
13 Jan 10
You are right in someway. I have been noticing lots of divorces happening among family and friends. Each has a different reason and all seem legit. After all it is hard to talk someone into remaining in an unhappy relationship. I see that they let other things take over and somethings weren't as important as they used be. It's hard to pinpoint the one thing that all couples can do to make sure their marriage doesn't break up. However, whatever the reasons be, I'm also noticing an uprise in divided homes.
@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
Yes, couples do have their own reasons for separating but i wish it were not that way.
• United States
13 Jan 10
It doesn't fade. For every person there comes calmer times in their lives. Just because a marriage no longer is wild and crazy is only a reflection that the folks in said marriage are no longer wild and crazy. The problem is so many say "oh well not as fun as it used to be" and get divorces without even trying to make it through the boring or harder times. That is why you see so many couples who re-marry each other after a year or so apart. They never stopped loving each other they just wussed out and took an easier path. Nothing good comes of not working for something or someone you love.
@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
You are right in some way but a lot of marriages nowadays have faded and resulted to separations and divorces. I wish all couples remarry but more do not find their way back to their former partner.
@jasmeena (850)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 10
Life is more complex now, that is why marriage is more fragile in this era..the most important thing to build a successful marriage is COMMITMENT!!Love is, of course, important, but if your wives is not as slim as she used to be, can men easily say"I don`t love you?". That is why, couple must stick to commitment, why they got marriage, if something happens, remember the commitment and responsibility..Try to listen and understand each other.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
Marriage is not a one way traffic. There are so many factors that must need to be work out. A couple for one is two separate individuals with different values, beliefs and ambitions. In any relationship ,there is always a need to compromise. It is not just the fast phasing world that affects marriage but also the need to cope up with the many responsibilities like children's future, food in the table, etc. Plus, marriage is viewd nowadays as something that is not sacred. In most developing countries you can easily get married and if you feel like you want to get out of the union you can easily get a divorce or have your marriage annulled. So, you can remarry as many and as often as as you want. I think the values of the society plus the weak foundation of why the marriage was enunciated in the first place is the key factor there....
• India
14 Jan 10
This is natural. When you see same object over and again, you eat same food over and again, visit same place over and again, then there is a chance you get a little bored about it. But this there may be hundreds of thousands of other reasons behind dwindling a marriage charm.
@balasri (26549)
• India
14 Jan 10
Immature minds and the familiarity.Marriage will fade for the people who is looking for quick fun like gambling and racing.Marriage is always bliss for the people who understand the value of the diving bondage of two souls and who are looking for real happiness.
@chookie1971 (2275)
• Australia
14 Jan 10
There are many different reasons why a marriage would fail. For each failed marriage will be a different reason. I have been married for 14 years now. In the beginning, it was so wonderful. I felt that we were one. We would listen and talk to each other. Today, he talks I listen but when it comes to me talking and him listening, it basically does not exsist. I can speak to him and stop mid sentence and he wouldn't even know I have stopped talking. Co-operation is lack too, these days. again in the beginning, we would pick up after ourselves. Today, I pick up after 4 people including myself. I speak up about it. Ask my family to pick up after themselves, but they don't listen. It makse it hard for me. He is also reluctant to attend functions that I have been invited to by friends but when it comes to being invited to his friends functions, I am always there for him even when I don't want to go. To me, I feel that we are no longer connecting. If it keeps up, our marriage will fail. I don't like even being around him any more. We both have changed, but I want to find the couple we were once before. I can't do it on my own. I need help. I need his help. If he is not willing to help then there is no point. You could say that marriage is like a child's swing. To swing on swings, you need to go back to go forward. And you need to go forward to be able to go back. Or as people say it take to 2 to tango.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
14 Jan 10
I think the other reason can explain that why marriage fade away so fast these days. It's that people are get marry so easily nowadays, they don't think before they lead, they think marriage is so easy, and they don't take it serious as before. And most of the people claim that they want their freedom, they want to enjoy their life, if there is something that marriage keep them away from that, they will fight for it, that's why people end up finish the marriage and be single again. I think to keep a good relationship needs two sides effort, two person have to have the same goal, that is living together forever,take care, love each other forever, and keep this commitment. That way, we will able to keep a good marriage!
• Singapore
13 Jan 10
Communication, trust, respect, honesty, caring and love, these are important elements to a marriage. If any of these is lost then the marriage will fade. Over time people change due to their working environment or people they meet. As a result their thinking change too and this will result in loosing any of those factors I mentioned above. Eventually, the marriage failed.
@Fulltank (2894)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
I think one of the most common reason why marriage fails is the lack of communication between the husband and wife. Maybe the husband is so engaged at work just to meet the family ends but forgets the family needs. The need to spend more time together and the need to set-up priorities between work and family.