January 22, 2010 11:00am CST
Now a days I feel my wife forgets many things. I say to her you are getting forgetful. She reacts quickly and says,'not I'm you are forgetful'. Then quarrels begins between ourselves. She says, write down what you said and what you did.In reply I say you write down.Quarrel goes on .None surrenders. Can you say who is forgetful. Hi my friends, will you please help me or take side of my wife?
• Mangalore, India
22 Jan 10
Hi bhanu, I feel sorry for your wife. I personally feel that there is something on her mind which is causing her to forget things and when it is pointed out she probably feels bad and tries to defend herself...why dont you have a frank discussion with her and try to find out what is on her mind - all the best
1 Feb 10
Hi kiran, I really dont understand how people can like the ghise pite serials that we have where women are constantly crying! I dont think that causes absent mindedness though. As there are always some commercials that bring people back to reality! So it may be something that banusb needs to look at more seriously may be.
22 Jan 10
Hi I can take neither side. We all forget things and there is absolutely no point in arguing after the fact. If it is really important to you write down what needs to be remembered and if your wife fails to do what she agreed to do bring out the note pad and discuss the matter with her. You also say your wife is addicted to TV serials. Does she have a job outside the home? if not do you have small children that stress her out? if not maybe she is unhappy and bored and needs to find something to do outside the home. Either a job, further her education by taking courses or do some hours of volunteer work. Discuss all these things as a couple. Constant quarreling in a marriage wears it down, grinds the marriage down and eventually the love you have for each other will be used up.
24 Jan 10
Ah, you sound discouraged. Please have a nice calm talk with your wife. Maybe she is depressed. Making food and doing housework does not take all day. If she enjoys making food, encourage her to train as a chef, this way she can support the family if need be. Every woman today has to be prepared to do that.
• Holiday, Florida
24 Jan 10
nope cant get into this one. maybe you both should write down what needs to be remembered by each and mark them off as you go. thats what i do for myself. altho son and i both forget some things but then we dont blame each other just say, oh well. will remember next time
• Anantapur, India
23 Jan 10
hi bhanusb, forgetfull ness is common,do not worry,if she rude convey her and make her joyful with other thing like some gift and take to her to the shopping,what ever you wish to do do tht thing and or tell some thing to cover that forgetfull ness,have a nice day
22 Jan 10
I shall take neither side Bhanusb. I learned long ago that when it comes to matters matrimonial I am nearly always in the wrong. We all forget things and quite often I think "I wasn't asked/told that". However, for the sake of the peace I usually admit defeat. Life is far to short to always be quarreling. Good luck.
1 Feb 10
Hi bhanusb, for starters a wife who is a fool is never desirable. I am responding to what you advised poor Lamb. He must be searching for Indian wisdom in that. I dont think it is addiction to tv. As I mentioned under Kiran's post, it must be something that is eating her brain. Like have you been talking nicely to another lady of late and did she find something incriminating? he he. Kidding, but I am serious. Commercials are enough to bring us back to the world. It is not like sitting in front of system, you know!
• United States
28 Jan 10
Ok I have to ask , is it possible that your wife has a ton of stuff to do ? Are you two newly wed ( or married for less than a year ) ? I asked those questions because if one or the other is true then that could be why she forgets somethings . I say that because , and I'm actually going to use myself as a example here , I am a pretty much still new wife ( me and my hubby will be married for a year in Feb. ) who isn't used to doing a lot of this yet because this is my first marriage and even though I try my best not to sometimes I forget some of the stuff my hubby tells me because I'm usually busy cleaning house , cooking , going to pay the bills , putting in applications for a job , etc. then my hubby comes home and is like did you do this or pick this up from the story for example and I just think oh man I knew I had forgot something and tell him that I'm sorry and that I honestly didn't mean to forget . By me saying this I'm not taking sides with anybody in your relationship , I just thought that if your wife is in a similar situation having somebody tell you something like this might help give you some insight as to why this is happening.