who usually takes a move and say sorry if you fight with your love one?

@Masmasika (1921)
Philippines
January 26, 2010 5:38pm CST
I usually do the move in order not to make things worse when I and my love one fight. It is sometimes hard especially if I think that i am not the one at fault but just to resolve things and make our relationship work better I close my eyes and take a move to patch up differences. Do you do he same? I sometimes think that it is unfair but I just want harmony in our relationship. Share your views over this matter so that others may learn from your experiences regarding this matter.
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@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
I'm one person who hates quarrel or arguments especially with my love ones. But I don't ask forgiveness specially if my love ones is the wrong one. He must know that he is wrong or else I will just tolerate his wrong doings. That is not acceptable with me. I will never ask forgiveness for something that is not my fault.
@cloud31 (5810)
1 Feb 10
Hi, depends on the situation, who starts a fight,if i know im wrong and i have started it, there's no doubt i will ask an apology, but if he did i will not take any move why should I?He must realize his faults and admit his wrong.In a relationship give and take is very important, in my relationship i've noticed he always did the first move not to make things worse, and if the man really care about you not a matter with them if you are the one who starts a fight he should know how to make things in order, sometimes women are full of pride they want the man to show how they care so sometimes even its their fault,they pretend innocent just to let the man approached them first.
@tarapot (144)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
I was the one who usually say sorry. But when the reason of our fight is worst and unacceptable. I let him to say sorry. This is because I don't want to make him think that I can forgive him with everything that he'll do. It is really give and take relationship.
@MrKennedy (1993)
27 Jan 10
It's ALWAYS me to be the one who makes the first move. Always. I have this weird feeling that when I fall out with somebody, I become desperate to make up with them and end the dispute as quick as possible (there have been a few exceptions, however), usually in the form of an apology. Even if it's the other person's fault, I will still insist on apologising (this usually coaxs an apology from them too).
@lilyrayne (107)
• United States
27 Jan 10
Ohh, now usually if my guy has a bad day or something is bothering him it comes out toward me, even if it has nothing to do with me lol. He gets it all out blows up and then starts with the i love youing and can we cuddles lol, now if it's me I tend to stay mad awhile after i get over it i will regretfully apologize!
@illfavors (592)
• United States
27 Jan 10
In my marriage, we don' fight a lot, but when we do, we usually walk away from each other a minute or two and we both apologize at the same time. It's silly how it works out that way.
@jambi462 (4595)
• United States
27 Jan 10
I try to make that move every time I know that I've said something dumb or I'm being irrational. I love my girlfriend so much and I try not to upset her or make her sad as hard as I possibly can. Still everyone has there bad days sometimes and sometimes our stress builds up and it's easy to get frustrated. I'm just glad I have her and I don't want to do anything to change that.
@chavezrmc (5914)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
I am very hard on this matter, meaning i don't want to make the first move when i know i am in the right side but when it comes to family and my love ones i always reconsider on anything that i believe in. If i know that it will only be me who can patch up things then i would always swallow my pride after all when i do this i can have peace of mind and that maybe i would touched their lives in my actions. So to all of you who's reading this, let's just always be the instrument of peace, we're not only making our family and loved ones closer to each other but its always us that benefits from this. Inner peace, happiness and harmony to everyone.
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
Hi there, when I know that I made the mistake, I'll take the move to apologize but when it is my boyfriend's mistake... surely, I will not apologize for anything... in short... who made the mistake must be the one to apologize. well, just to learn and know our mistakes.
@jennix22 (14)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
Hi, he usually make the first move and say sorry. He doesnt want any arguments and make the fight last long. Even if its my fault he still say sorry to me first. He always make it a point that we should settle and fix everything before we go to sleep.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
hi masmasika You're not alone dear, I am also like you.. I just can't wait for my partner to apologize first cos it will took weeks for him to talk to me and say his sorry. but I am not saying sorry to him, i will just simply talk to him, like ask anything that i make sure he know the answer, so if he does..it means we're peace again. he he Then he'll make his move to show that he is sorry in his own way..like joking, ask funny thing to me. If the problem is not really big issue then its good for us to say sorry first to maintain harmony and to avoid from arguments. Good luck.
@chaycute (24)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
-When we had fight with my bf we both ask sorry to each other. I settle things first, discussing the cause and if I find out that I am right and he is wrong I will not say sorry but wait him to say sorry. When he says sorry I also say sorry to him especially if its misunderstanding. I do love my bf so much and I want to make things settle at once if we had fight especially bout girls.haha..:)If Its my fault I also admit it and say sorry.
@milkfish (375)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
I do it first if I know that I am the one at fault. I think couple should be humble enough to learn to say sorry when they know that they are at fault. If they will not accept their shortcomings, the simple misunderstanding may grow into a major argument and this should be avoided.
• Malaysia
27 Jan 10
I do apologize if I know that I am at fault. Same as you, I too don't like if our quarrel goes on for a long period of time. We hardly quarrel more than a day. In fact, the moment that we quarrel, we naturally say our dissatisfaction and gradually makes things right. We both don't like the arguing situation so we had to make the quarrel stop as soon as possible no matter what. Sometimes, either me or him that put some humor in the quarrel and we somehow forgot what we fight about.
• China
27 Jan 10
hi,masmasika.if i was wrong,i will tell the other my apologise.but if he cause the fight,i will take a conversation with her.change our minds,tell him my feel inside,make him understand me.and must be talked peaceful,donot shout to her,found what she thinking,sometimes maybe i am the wrong guy,but never realized by myself. anyway,i think conversation is the best way to slove the problems between us.
@brymel25 (286)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
hi there! When i feel that i was the one who caused the fight, i am the one who apologizes first. However, when i think that my boyfriend was the one responsible for causing our quarrel, i do not apologize and wait until he does his move and tells me he's sorry.