In the end do you think a Long Term Relationship Is Worth It?

Canada
February 27, 2010 3:10am CST
For sure long term relationships do have their ups and downs. It seems now adays people let go of their relationships so much easier then they did it the past. Do you think in the end it is worth it to hold on to a long term relationship? Do you ever picture yourself at the end of your life; hoping you are holding the hand of someone you have many years of history with?
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• United States
27 Feb 10
Absolutely! But hey that's me! They are up and down. And it seems the easier people around us give up on their relationships the easier everyone else does too. Does that make sense? Not to totally got off on a off topic tangent but you notice its snowballs? The more divorces, the less respect (perhaps respect is not the word I am searching for?) for marriage,the more divorces. Marriage used to be more sacred and and people stuck it out, worked through it (more so anyways). I think the same can be said for relationships too. With all of the online dating, mail order brides, and power to being single (I am Not against that at all BTW) We can more easily replace relationships, or keep them coming and going. Trouble is, I think there is still a yearning in us all for some consistent companionship, hence why you see this topic pop up. In a world where infidelity is so exposed, and there are so many fish in the sea, I find it hard personally not to self conscious and a bit questioning as a partner, but you have to have faith. And as far as the ups and down, well what would the ups be without the downs? All of these things are what you build memories on. you don't build memories in short term relationships. There is nothing more magical than sitting with your significant other reminiscing of those days you first met so many years ago.. Sure you get to experience a new experience each time with someone new in new relationships, but in a long term you only experience that feeling stronger, get to know that person better, love them more, I guess there is really no description short of I think is totally worth it!
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@GardenGerty (116576)
• United States
27 Feb 10
Welcome to MyLot. I hope you like the relationship here as well. It is a good place to be. You have made a very good post here with a lot of truth in it.
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• United States
28 Feb 10
Thank you very much! Looking forward to being apart of the family!
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• Canada
28 Feb 10
You asked if what you said made sense. Well yes it does make sense. I hope many read your response and see it is worth it to make there relationships work.
@maximax8 (30126)
• United Kingdom
27 Feb 10
These days it is very hard to have Mr Forever. It is difficult to stay in a long term relationship because it is common to split up. My marriage lasted six years and then we got divorced. Then I dated a man with a son two years younger than my oldest son. I thought that he might be my Mr Forever but he was challenging to be with at times. I couldn't stand being in a relationship with him anymore by the end of our days together. I still stay in contact with him and we are friends. I had another relationship and that was the best but it only lasted eight months. I went on the rebound after splitting up from him. I know that splitting up from a long term relationship can be painful. It is such a shame that it is not like every couple are together forever in a blissful relationship.
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• Canada
28 Feb 10
Life is sure hard sometimes. I hope you find your Mister Wonderful.
@redhotpogo (4435)
• United States
27 Feb 10
Any relationship is only worth it if it lasts. If you just want short term relationships then you're wasting your time. Find something else to do. Relationships aren't for you.
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• Canada
28 Feb 10
Good point; I think. I guess there are relationships and then there are relationships. Long term relationships and short term relationships. In the case of a marrage relationship I prefer the long term one.
• Australia
27 Feb 10
Relationships? Well, I have only ever had ONE relationship in my whole life, and so has my husband. We have been VERY happily married for 50 years (in 20 days time) and we would say we are closer now than ever before. Yes: a long term commitment is well worth it. We are still both active but we know the time is most likely coming when we won't be so active, but we will have each other - and we are satisfied.
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• Canada
27 Feb 10
Oh, I love your comment! I can totally picture you both in your later years holding hands and giving each other that knowing smile. Love it!
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@common_man (1799)
• India
27 Feb 10
yes long relationship is important. I am holding hand of my better half since last 21 years, and we r happy with each and and enjoy each other's company. Long term relationship makes the involved people happy and satisfied.
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• Canada
27 Feb 10
I often think about my golden years and how the most satisfying thing to me I can think of is to be holding hands with the one I have loved and shared the majority of my life. Like a flower in full bloom!
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@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
16 Mar 10
I think a long term relationship is worth it, although there are ups and downs to it. But not too long like 12 years and beyond..if that's so, then marriage is the next best thing or step to go. It is worth it to hold on to a long term, if it's 10 years and below, in my opinion. It would be so lovely to hold hands with someone whom we truly love and have a history with. That would be great..
• Canada
20 Mar 10
Holding hands. How often do we see an older couple holding hands? Not often enough in my opinion;but when I see it I say to myself that is what I want and wish for everyone to desire such a gift of life.
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@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
26 Mar 10
It is definitely a wondrous feeling for sure.. I don't see it often too, but I hope more elderly couples can do that..
@ladym33 (10990)
• United States
28 Feb 10
After 24 years with my husband I can not imagine my life without him. Don't want to imagine my life without him. I do imagine growing old with him, and hope that is what we get to do grow old together. See our children married together, see our grandchildren born together. Live out our old age together, that is my hope, and do I think it is worth it. Oh yes, very worth it.
• Canada
28 Feb 10
Ha, ya, me to, my husband and I find comfort in knowing our thoughts and hearts have the same focus. We desire to grow old together and be apart of our kids lifes. Sharing in the joys of all that life as to offer. As you mentioned; our children finding a life mate and grandbabies are the joys of life.
@sgbdjr (8)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
When I have read all your comments guys, I came to realize I am not the only one who had been into long relationship.. Its kinda feeling content all the time.. My fiancee and I had been into 9 years of relationship, full of love, fight and everything that you can add to spice it up.. For sure we already know each other very well. Perfections and imperfections... There is no such thing as a relationship that is perfect. What I admire with my relationship is both of us realize that for us to survive it or had survived it for all those long years we accepted who we are and our differences made our relationship stronger.. I always think that I cant live without her in my life.. AS if she is the only girl in this world. The long years we had been together made us stick together despite all the things we had along the way... Indulging into long term relationship has so many benefits.. its like when you go into business for it to survive you had to invest a lot.. Same as true with relationship.. You care more when you know you had invested a lot of emotional, physical and hope on it.. I CERTAINLY BELIEVE AND FEEL THIS IS THE KIND OF RELATIONSHIP BEST FOR ME AND MY FIANCEE..
• Canada
28 Feb 10
I think you have the right idea on relationships. I like how you speak of the fact that we need to make an investment in order to get something out of the relationship. Do you guys have a wedding date pick? Nine years is a long time for just engagemment.
@clocks123 (1227)
• United States
28 Feb 10
i do think a long term relationship is important. it is a commitment between two people who love each other and work on the relationship together all throughout their lives. i think we should be very serious about this subject and not take it lightly.
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• Canada
28 Feb 10
Sadly I think it is true that many people take marriage lightly and choose to get married for the wrong reasons. Some just don't think it through and others actually really do marry for wrong reasons. So no wonder there are so many marragaes that fail.
• Canada
28 Feb 10
My husband and I are in a long term relationship (obviously!!) Mind you, he's been married a few times, and had some issues in his past, but we found eachother, and we do well together. If the two people involved are compatible, then a long term relationship is definitely worth the challenges. If two people who are uncompatible get together just because they're afraid of dying alone, there's really no point.
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• Canada
28 Feb 10
Very good point. It is hard to stay together if a true connection isn't there. Maybe the problem is we should all try to hold out for true love in the first place. If we have true love then maybe the trials of life wouldn't wipe out the relationship. How does one know if they have true love your not? Seems like after a divorce we have a much better idea of what we are looking for in a partner then we did first time round. Do you know of any steps that can help someone young to know if they have found their one true love?
@phyrre (2321)
• United States
2 May 10
I think it's worth it, personally. I'm always sad to see all these divorces and such because people are so quick to jump to that as a solution. I see people married for a year or less who are already getting a divorce because they already can't stand each other. It amazes me. How long were they with the other person where it would take only six months or a year to decide you can't be together? And some people rush into marriage young thinking that they can make it work only to get divorced in less than a year because they weren't ready for it. For me, getting married was one of the best things I've ever done. My husband and I have always been good friends and we've always understood each other and had a lot in common. He's my best friend and he understand me like most people don't. Is it always easy? No. Is it always rainbows and butterflies? Certainly not. But we work with what we have. We argue about the little things and discuss the big things and try to keep a civil head. We don't go to bed mad and always make up before too long after we've had a chance to cool off a little bit. I can't imagine being without him at all and I do hope to grow old with him.