Reasons why some people are still single.. agree or not?

@bea_29 (321)
Philippines
March 2, 2010 5:09am CST
A good friend of mine posted the following at fb. it was written in our language so i translated it in english. take a look and decide which of the following might be true. 1. Destiny addict -believes in destiny (keep waiting) 2. Perfectionist - choosy 3. Workaholic - busy with work, no time for love 4. Friendship theory - we are just friends ( eventhough she/he wants him/her to be bf/gf 5. X to the Nth power - cant get over with the past relationship 6. Family feud - strict parents ( even at mature age?) 7. No suitors - since birth? 8. Heart attack - afraid of pains cause by break ups 9. Waiter/Waitress - waiting for somebody who might not come Agree or not??
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17 responses
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
Hi! I agree that those nine statements you have mentioned really causes one person to stay single. I am one of those actually, and I think I would fall to number two. I am a little bit choosy in terms of relationship. I believe that before I get married, I should be sure to myself that my partner is really the one that I wanted to share the rest of my life with. I can just pick someone if I want to but I just want to be sure that she is really the right one. Have a nice day! Happy myLotting!
@Alivia (47)
• India
3 Mar 10
don't be so choosy that one day come no one will choose u and u remain alone.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
Then let me be in number two, I will just wait for my destiny girl. Lol!
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
so be it!! lol.. thanks!!
@cherrc (662)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
1,2,3,4. 1- to my friend who believed that she's destined with someone but didnt work out coz the guy's now a priest. 2- i am not a perfectionist but yes, i am choosy. 3- i totally got busy and it even came to a point that i unintentionally ignored the person who cared for me since college. 4- some of us may still be in denial and sticking to the term "just friends" while in truth and in fact, like him. :)
@cherrc (662)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
oh, in addition to those mentioned, since most of my friends in the crowd are single, the adventure! we love doing things together without being committed yet. good thing for me even now that i have one, it's a long distance and makes no demands so far. :)
@SHAMRACK (8521)
• India
3 Mar 10
Yes, I do agree with most of those single bachelors, may be addition to some other things, enjoying freedom of being single, to achieve certain aims may too come.
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
yap!! freedom is really one of the reasons. thanks!!
@mjcookie (2273)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
I agree with those, but you still missed some. Some choose to be single because they love the freedom of doing what they can do without the vigilant eyes of a partner. Another reason is that a person is just not emotionally ready yet to handle a relationship.
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
yah. i missed some but with the responses of mylotters my list is getting longer. thanks!!
@madteaparty (2759)
• Japan
3 Mar 10
Well, I agree with most of those points, but I laughed when I read "waiter or waitress", as I understood it as a person who works as that . However, even if you are in one of those groups, you can find a boyfriend or girlfriend, life is too unpredictable
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
lol.. its not the waiter/waitress job. i laughed also when i read this at fb. thanks!!!
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
some of the reasons are true and there's nothing wrong with it. for as long as you are happy with your choice. it is hard to get into something and only find regrets at the end and live a miserable life. everybody deserves to be happy and as long as you are with your choice, that still is good.
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
right. happines is important, whatever the status of the person. thanks!!
@jaiho2009 (38989)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
Some were true and does happen with other people. I also has a friend who doesn't want to get married for the reason that,her family is not a good kind of a family. Her father is the most irresponsible person she had ever known,and also hurting her mother physically. and that,she's afraid that,same thing will happen to her.. some kind of emotional trauma. Most of the reason i've known were...they can't get over from the heartaches of their past relationship. One more thing is...there were people who really choose not to get married,becoz,they just don't like the idea.
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
i can add that reason as no 12. my list is becoming longer. thanks for the ideas..
@sikat101 (149)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
I would agree with your list. However, there is nothing wrong with being single. Some are just not lucky in love. It is bad to rub it in their face when in hurts. Or, to rub it in their face when they are actually happy being single.
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
yup,theres nothing wrong being single. my eldest sister is happy being single at age 50plus as well as my cousins. it is by choice.
• United States
2 Mar 10
I think that it is a matter choice really. I know that I waited along time before I found my Mr. Wonderful. I wanted it to be right. I think that there are to many factors to really narrow the list to the top ten. All of these reasons are viable but it is up to the person. There days I miss beong single and others would not trade my life now for anything.
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
yah.. it is really a persons decision, happiness matters, being single or being married. thanks for responding!!
2 Mar 10
Amusing but disagree as a confirmed bachelor I would say the reasons why I choose to be single are that I am comfortable with my own presence and mind, as such do not need a significant other to boost my confidence. I am also sort of selfish, I like to be able to put myself first, do those things I want to do instead of having to be begrudgingly considerate to a significant other. Plus I basically like my own time, more than sharing time with others. The thing is that for some reason people see being single as being wrong when in fact it is not. I truly believe that whilst some people need relationships, maybe to feel wanted, there are many people who don’t need it or even want it.
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
maybe i can put that at no 11. me too i love my independence. deciding on my own.. thanks!!
@voldrox (7200)
• India
2 Mar 10
hi bea, well yeah these are most of the reasons some people choose to remain single, and if you ask me the most common reason i would go for 9 there are many people who are sensitive and due to certain reasons are not able to move on with their past relationships and it's so unfortunate for them.
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
yah, hurtful experiences can cause people not to move on. thanks!!
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@myzire72 (1157)
• Singapore
2 Mar 10
Yes, bea, I agree with you. One or more of the factors you mentioned cause some people to remain single. I strongly believe that fate has got to do with marriages. It doesn't matter whether you are fat or ugly, short or poor. If it's fated that you will get married some day, nothing will stop it from happening. Agree or not?
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
agree!! thanks!!
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
some people prefer to be single for a while due to they are afraid of responsibility and that they just want to have fun first, while some tend to stay single coz of their responsibility to their family. some still waiting for the right one or rather be perfectionist thats why its hard for them to find the right one though it might not be perfectionist but they just looking for someone whom they think that can be good for them thats why if they saw something from him that they dont like then they just let them go.
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
yah your right..thats one reason for me before, waiting for the right person. thanks!!
@mac_fish (723)
• China
2 Mar 10
The reason 8th makes sense in my nation,somebody got hurt before and dosent wanna run into love now to aviod to be hurted twice or even third time,forth time....They are scared and feel pessimism to love. And the most common reason here is lack of money,people have to make a big amount of money before get married,ready for the new house,the consume of the new arrivial
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
i think i will add that as no.10 financial status. thanks for responding..
@phoenix8606 (4977)
2 Mar 10
hi Bea! I am agree, but only with some of the reasons you gave- with 2, 3, 8 and 9. because there are really many people who prefer to go at work and having no relationship, but there are also many people who just shy to be with a girl/boy and never make the first step and waiting for someone to come and do it, but no one comes
@bea_29 (321)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
thanks for responding!!
@cycomz (72)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
all of them are true..in each category, i have met people like the ones being described..some are meant to stay alone..they play one or more colors of this world..
• Brazil
2 Mar 10
maybe a mix of all of those