I easily get pity and and emotional
By dorothy09
@dorothy09 (1520)
Philippines
March 4, 2010 6:33am CST
hi there friends, sharing my sentiments and feelings as of the moment again,
Just this evening one of our neighbors,was looking for my mom, she was knocking on our door and asked for my mother, I told her, just wait for a while my mother is coming from the market, She was so shy as I was looking at her she never stare at me. I asked her if whats wrong because as I look at her she was so pale. and she said Im sorry, and I asked why, just in time my mother arrived. My mom and the girl talked and she was really shy while asking can I borrow a peny just for 1 kilo of rice, my kids have not eaten since this morning, Owwwwhhhhh as I heared it, I felt my heart was aching and I became emotional, I pity them so much. I ask her why NOW,why did she not approach us a while ago, she said she is ashamed and shy, and she is afraid what might be our reaction.. my mother immediately gave her rice and canned goods so that they have something to eat for dinner. they have been drinking water all this time since morning.
She said, thank you of course and told my mom Im sorry again.
I pity really the girl, she is too young to have experience like that, she is too young also to have kids, his husband is just a construction worker and the pay was not given yet until today. hmmmmm.. How pitiful life. :(
I thank God for the life I have now, though we have problems financially but not as like that. If only I am wealthy I say to myself I will not run politics because I want to help. There are so many people who are in great need now. and look at what our leaders doing, busy campaigning..so discouraging.hahahay
I pity really the girl, she is too young to have experience like that, she is too young also to have kids, his husband is just a construction worker and the pay was not given yet until today. hmmmmm.. How pitiful life. :(
I thank God for the life I have now, though we have problems financially but not as like that. If only I am wealthy I say to myself I will not run politics because I want to help. There are so many people who are in great need now. and look at what our leaders doing, busy campaigning..so discouraging.hahahay5 people like this
17 responses
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Mar 10
Imagine if each of those politicians shared what they have with the people who need help, what a better world it would be.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
that's wishful thinking, dawnald. that one with politicians, it more intention and a lot of words,that's why they are called politicians. leaders take to action, politicians to promises and metaphors...
@Gany15k (1673)
• India
4 Mar 10
Ha ha....At least if they think like that then the world will be great..They won't even think like that...all full of selfish,ego...I hate the politicians at the present.Always concentrating to make money and not to give money...But there are some of them who are really good..
This world will never have good politicians..If 1000 are good...in that some 10 will be bad.This is what they are...
I too dream a lot like what you said...but there is no hope....Lets see what happens...
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Mar 10
There is a saying that goes: Give a man a fish, feed him for a day:teach a man to fish and feed him for a life time. If you could give her some pointers on how to shop and so forth maybe her money could go further and she would have food longer. I would feel for her too and want to help but if you teach her how to shop she may be more thankful in the long run.
@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Mar 10
That is a good rule to live by. Setting limitations and boundaries is very important in keeping a healthy life style.
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
hi there celticeagle, when I help other people I make sure I am not helping them to becoming lazy person, its good to help but not too much..set limitations..but orphange is excemption for me..
During my birthdays also, I always wanted to celebrate it in orphange centers and will just prepare something just good for the family in the house.
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@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
6 Mar 10
There is a lot of people out there in this problem.
Here in the US, people are loosing their jobs and
they are doing without. Thanks to people opening
food banks and churches helping they would be going
hungry too. I have to say people helping people over
here is getting those in need help.
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
hi there jezzmay, In your country you are just lucky enoughb because you have a great support from the government. here in our country we have fellow filipinos really who need so much help from the government but ohhzzz unfortunately we have a worst system. Im sorry to tell this.. I love my country but I just hate our government system and some politicians..
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
hello dorothy,
yeah, its really sad seeing people who are suffering like this. i have come across to many people who are like your neighbor, and it breaks my heart as well, specially if they are people close to me... i do help them as well and it makes me feel better whenever i know that i have helped them. and when sometimes i hear my brother or mom complaining about how difficult life was...i usually rely to them the story of my neighbors here...and i am telling them that we are lucky enough to be able to eat on time and no need to beg or ask for foods to others...
i know how difficult it is to go to our neighbor to ask for something like this, i have experienced it when i was younger. our family have been through some financial struggles and sometimes my mom bring me along whenever she's going to a relative or friend to borrow some money...its kinda embarrassing, but what we can do?
i am just thankful that we already pass this stage in our life and blessings are now coming in good...
i wish that these candidates will be true to their words when they finally get the post they wanted...there's a lot of people around needing help & assistance from the government...
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
hi there ckyera, thanks for your time again, I have experienced before being embarrased because my mother have to borrow money for my fathers medicine, There are neighbors who reacts positively and there are neighbors who help but back bites you. Life is a roller coaster right, sometimes we are up and sometimes we others help. I am thankful enough now that we can eat as much as we liked to without begging or asking help. In our case whenever other people ask our help, or a stranger will ask for money in our house, I will just give a food instead of money. or a rice and canned goods. I dont want to spoiled others also.. , we have to make a move to cope up...if we help them always I was thinking we also help them became lazy..
, we have to make a move to cope up...if we help them always I was thinking we also help them became lazy..@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
hello dorothy,
you really have a good heart & generous!
its really never easy to borrow money from our neighbors or even relatives, coz like what you have said, some helps sincerely but some don't! they may lend us but we will become subject of their gossips as well!
that's why, sometimes instead of borrowing to person, my mom just go to pawnshops!
and another thing that makes it more difficult for us to borrow money to others is that they don't believe us when we said that we are borrowing money...coz they always think that we have lots of it! arrgh!
yeah yeah...don't give them fish, teach them to fish! as they said...
its not wrong to help others but for me there should always be some limitations coz if not, it may fall for them to be abusing our kindness...
its really never easy to borrow money from our neighbors or even relatives, coz like what you have said, some helps sincerely but some don't! they may lend us but we will become subject of their gossips as well!
that's why, sometimes instead of borrowing to person, my mom just go to pawnshops!
and another thing that makes it more difficult for us to borrow money to others is that they don't believe us when we said that we are borrowing money...coz they always think that we have lots of it! arrgh!
yeah yeah...don't give them fish, teach them to fish! as they said...
its not wrong to help others but for me there should always be some limitations coz if not, it may fall for them to be abusing our kindness...
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
6 Mar 10
I am one of those very softhearted people that would like to have the ability to help everyone that is in need. When I was younger I was always the person that would give everything that I had right to the shirt off of my back. However, I also learned that while it makes me feel good to be able to help someone out while they are in need, it is difficult to give too much to where you can't provide for your own personal needs.
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
hi there dorannwin, well we just did the best thing we can do for them. We gave them in kind and my mother give them small penny. She told my mom she will pay it but my mom said when you have enought money you can pay it. A lot of people really visit our house to ask help medicine, food etc.. even advice, my mother is like center in the barangay, our neighbors may see ua as approchable. but there are times really we cant help because we are not able also. Good for those who are in time to ask if we are able.
thanks for the response and happy mylotting
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
it is human to feel the pain of other people, especially those we know. they call that commiseration. i've felt that way also many, many times in the past. in some, i try to help. in others, i simply don't have enough to help and it made me feel worse. but in time, i got over it. it it's any consolation, we also have moments of need, not necessarily food and money, and we need company. the feeling is almost similar, only the help needed is just someone to talk to...
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
hi there bystander, well said Commiseration, and agree its the human nature to feel pain. My heart breaks really for those who are helpless. But somehow I was thinking for those who got early pregnancy, Once is enough, but why is there a need for them to produce another 2-12 more kids lol.knowing they can give a comfort life and they are not able..
Not of us all are educated with that matter..
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
if only these couples who have hordes of children would have been properly enlightened on the economics of raising and keeping a child healthy and intelligent, they certainly would not want a battalion of streetchildren tugging, while they scour the streets for food and kindhearted people like you. thanks, dorothy.
@GardenGerty (169449)
• United States
5 Mar 10
You have a great heart of compassion for your neighbors. I wish we could help everyone. The economy is rough everywhere, I think. You are very kind and so is your mother.
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
hi there gardengerty, I also have a heart to help other people but unfortunately I am not able, What I did now I sometimes participate in outreach program and in simple and can afford ways I help other people. I am thankful to God for all the blessings I receive, I am giving it back to others by way of helping them..
During my birthdays, I held my birthday celebration in an Orphnage than celebrating it with my able friends, well my friends treat me in return..
@laglen (19759)
• United States
4 Mar 10
Bless such good neighbors. We all fall on hard times, it is important that we all take care of eachother, not by gunpoint (taxes) I believe that people are by nature good and will if left alone, will take care of each other. I am sure there will come a time that your neighbor will be able to help you!
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
hi laglen, I have really a heart to help people its just that I am not able always, I wish to tell personally which is impossible lol , to tell all the politicians you can help without power. You can help even if you have no position. Why starving for a political life inorder to help. I just dont believe in such promises from political aspirants. duh
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
5 Mar 10
It's a sad but true story, which is happening everywhere.. The rich will only get richer because they are influencial and get all those opportunities to strike it big!!
As for your neighbour, it's something that she must get by, where she has a kid at a tender age.. It's the consequences to her actions.. IT's a life lesson for her, and to teach her kids, about responsibility in the future ^_^
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
hi thre kun2349, yes I agree with you its the consequence of her action,became pregnant early and lived a life miserably Im sorry for the word..
But for me its never to late, she can teach her kids to prioritize studies.
Honestly, some of my cousins in my fathers side, got pregnant after highschool, they live in the province, It really breaks my heart to see them the way they lived. 1 person likes this
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
4 Mar 10
Hi dorothy,
I am so sorry to hear this girl's sad story, I am always hearing about poor people can't afford to feed their children, whistle this is so, I cannot understand why they keep having kids, my pity and sadness just turns to anger about this, I can't help it if I sound heartless as there are too many people with so many kids which they can't afford, surely they have some brains in their heads and not down below.
Tamara
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
hi there tamrafireheart, I strongly agree with you, Why they keep on producing kids knowing they are still not able to take care. I am on my 26 now and is on enough age to get married, I have a partner who is willing marry me BUT, we opted to wait for the right time, and that right time includes that we are able and ready to live life with kids. We want to give our future children a comfortable life. I really pity those people who have a lot of kids,If I am in their side I cant stand seeing my kids cant eat 3 times a day.
thanks for the response tamrafireheart and happy mylotting
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
Hi Dorothy, I felt so sad on the girl's situation. I can relate to her because we used to have such kind of life before. That we almost beg our neighbors to ask some foods. I was too young that time but I already feel the pain especially when I saw my mom crying because she doesnt know where to go to look for money because my father is jobless. Since then I promised to myself that I would do everything just not to experienced such pitiful situation ever. Now, though we still have some shortness in money, we still capable to eat 3 times a day. I am thankful because we get over the situation. I cant help those kind of people financially but I am praying that god will not let them suffer especially the kids. Because prayer is all I can give to them.
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
hi there junamae, like you we have experience that before, especially when my father was sick with diabetis, we need atleast 1000 at that time to buy his maintenance. That was one of the challenging part of my life, But God really looks on our need, my mother did not give up and everyday we are able to raise money for my fathers medicine.. My parents are also lucky enought to have great friends , throught thick and thin are always on our side to assist us during tought times.
have a great day and happy mylotting..
see you around mylot
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
hi there saphrina, infairness have treated them so well inspite, I am just wondering, she can stand seeing her kids without breakfast and lunch, if it happened to me, I'll make sure really to find for food as early noontime.
We have been into tough times also but we worked hard to stand and get up from crisis. Sometimes you really need determination and guts inorder to prosper in life
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
hi there gany15k, my mom is a kind person, other people easily get his sympathy.
Sometimes I think other people abused it. But I always tell my mom about that,in a way we are helping them to becoming lazy, but my mom always said, she cant stand seeing them helpless, and by way of thanking for all the blessing we receive she gave it back to others by way of help.
Thanks for the response and happy mylotting.
@mybabe (33)
•
5 Mar 10
you know what i want to congratulate you for being so kindhearted individual. we are all can feel that way as you felt when someone really knows need so much our help. is it up to us if we will respond or not. GOD bless those people who will coz in some way they really give back what blessings they'd received to others in need.
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
hi there mybabe, welcome to mylot..I see from your post you still have few.keep going.. anyhow, thank you so much.my mom is more kind hearted and sometimes I can see other poeple are getting abusive. I always tell my mom as much as possible will just give in kind than money.. because if we give them money they might use it in other ways.. and they have to earn really they should know..
@pandaeyes (2065)
•
4 Mar 10
I often sympathise with people but I have learned to be hard hearted as there are some tricksters out there in the big wide world.
Of course your lovely kind mum knows this lady anyway so that is different.
Some people struggle with making ends meet and if they have a lot of pride, they will not come for help until they are desperate.
In our country, it is far less likely that a person would be so badly in need although we do have beggars and very,very poor people still.
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
hi there pandayes, yes agree with you, I easily sympatize to people, even on streets I can stand seeing them beg and nothing to eat. Everytime I see people in the streets and those beggars with no shelter, sometimes I blame it to our politicians who are hungry of power. I blame it with corruption. Yes I believe in Courage and Hardwork but I see some people who are full of misery and misfortunes.
hmmm
@arakawaii (270)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
Are you from Philippines?... I know very well how it feels and be thankful to god for the blessings.
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
hi there arakawaii, yes I am from the Philippines, Filipino Blood and Filipino Spirit lol, if you are from the philippines I know you can understand me because things like this is just usual to us.. Hopefully there will be a change whoever
takes over the position of Our PResident, POlitics here very discouraging...
thanks for the response and have a nice day
@busybee10 (3186)
• India
4 Mar 10
Evey individual in this world is gifted with a different nature and it can only be rectified and improved if that concerned person is interested in that.
Some are shy and some are afraid - of course all these qualities just vanishes away on growing but some are imbibed in them even if they reach the elderly stage this will not go away that means he was not interested to improve himself.
We should put self effort in improving these qualities that means we have to move with the society freely and daringly.
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
hi busybee, I quite agree with you but in our country when you see a lot of beggars and squatters you really can say that you are very lucky to have a life as you have now, How will you justify a person who is born from squatter area, born with parents who are un educated, born with nothing, no oppurtunities and no chances in life, Yes there are people who are like that, and I cant judge all people who are now very pitiful. But each of us has individualities only God knows..
thanks for the response again.. have a great day
